As you rightly said: "Only simps will will give a positive nod to her selfish request." But I have seen "sharp" & "smart" guys (my geez) who gave thumbs-ups to their selfish requests since that'd grant them the opportunity to seal the one-sided contract. After they sampled and re-sampled them, and over-sampled their melons until it faded & replacements were at the corner, they opted out and repealed the contract.

lograr:
Can you take care of me?

No . I cannot, I should not, I will not, I must not.. .

let us complete it , i shall not ,i might not, i would not, i could not

plessis:
Taking care might mean anything. As a purist, I'd like to think of taking care of a woman as an act of love. If you meet a strong, ambitious, hardworking woman who makes her own money, Her talking about care might mean emotional security.

i think you misunderstand CARING for someone and TAKING CARE of someone... which are two different things. just because a man takes care of someone, DOES NOT mean he loves her. caring for someone emotionally has absolutely nothing to do with money. taking care of someone has all to do with money.

If you claim to love a woman, you should have no problem with taking care of her because love is an act of selflessness.

i fully disagree... LOVE doesnt mean that man should suddenly act like a mumu... this babe was taking care of herself before you met her (and will do so after you leave her life) therefore why should you take care of her (like a baby) because you guys are dating?! is she handicapped? will she stop working now that she is dating you? will you now pay her rent/school fees/ clothes/brazilian hair etc?!

love is a two way street, and although you may offer gifts to your woman (when you believe/decide she deserves one), love certainly doesnt mean that someone's life is now your responsibility.

lekki1444:
and then after fucking her and her spirit traps your future destiny you will be here on nairaland disturbing us by shouting GOD PICK MY CALL upanda in every post

So I don’t have a spirit too? Or did I rape her ?
Get the fvck off bro

O wrong nao

jawalis:

So I don’t have a spirit too? Or did I rape her ?
Get the fvck off bro

your spirit no strong i can feel it from here. mermaid spirit woman will take your destiny easily. you go be 60 year old man dey shout GOD pick my call on nairaland after mermaid spirit woman trap your destiny

Minemrys:

first, n0t every0ne understands an0ther's native language aside the lingua franca. Sec0nd, why ask that when even a weakling would answer Yes? H0nestly, m0st times, ladies are the reas0n for abuse in a relati0nship/ marriage. A 1st date is just a fun time. Having small gists to see if both have chemistry. It's the chemistry that'll sustain the relati0nship. Unless the gal isn't interestd in a relati0nship but a parasitic adventure or a one sided affair. You guys aren't yet a thing, and bringing up em0ti0nal baggage on that day is a big no. It's like submitting your cv and inside, u ask the employer, "can you afford me?". As in, if u d0n't think highly of that pers0n, why go on a date with him? Am n0t saying the questi0n is wr0ng, but it's wr0ng to ask that on a 1st date. To be h0nest, if u ask me that on a 1st date, i'd turn the questi0n on the gal and have her spill things abt herself she might n0t be ready to tell me in that m0ment.

A guy that has done his studies on the lady he's intending to ask out would act on his finding's
I don't think there's more to this
If he decides to act on his finding's fine,if he decides to be sentimental and jump into conclusion, I'm sorry then he is quite stupid,if you think every good lady should be programmed in one particular way,that's unwise

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jawalis:
I’ll say Yes. Fvck the b!tch after a while and dispose her. Mission accomplished

Until you meet a karashika and begin to patronize mountain of fire.

Crownstar01:
Hahaha. That's a psychological question but unfortunately you failed to realize that.

Every woman wants to be reassured that a man in their life is a man, not just a weak one. Hope you got my drift?

chief, what's a 1st date? A first date is like going to a f0otball viewing centre, meeting s0me like minded guys and building a rapport with them. A first date is meant to be casual, friendly, informal, abt chemistry. Playing mind games already would kill the vibe that instant. As in, it's being already critical of the pers0n without actually kn0wing them. Una wey dy watch telemundos, una d0n see where them work that line inside script?

Lucrativress:

The guy that went to meet a Slay Mama would surely know who he is going for before asking that question
A guy that went to meet a serious minded successful Lady or at least progressive Lady would also know before he goes to ask
So tell me,already knowing these two qualities and the same question comes from these two Ladies, se he'll just jump all at once and say ah no o,fine the question doesn't denote care or thoughtfulness of the man's feelings but it can still be asked.

Serious minded lady won't ask this question. This question is one of the FAQ of olosho or undercover prostitute, or a girl that see relationship as poverty alleviation program or job opportunities. Na them de collect monthly allowance from there boyfriend. Any girl that ask that question, the next day na billing go follow, like 5000 registration dating fee. The question is 100% undertone with money because 99.9% of girls that ask thus kind of question always see relationship as poverty alleviation program. There's no two ways to that question, "Can you take care of me?" It's all about money.

No well-to-do girl will ever ask that question.

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THUNDAR:
Seriously guys! things are not Really what they seems on the first date, just because she asked "can you take care of me" on the first date does not mean Jack, there are smart and intelligent ladies Who would purposely say annoying things on first date to see How you react, and may turn up to be independent women. just the way you keep checklists and tick Which she fails and passes so some of them do too. But some of them (a lot actually) na Akamu they say it as they feel!

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You are taking nonsense

Just like I guy saying I ask ladies If they like tonbe raped on the first date because I am smart and I want to see how they react.

Now you see how stupid what you typed is ?

SweetCunt97:
See look it solely depends on the man. If he has a good head on his shoulder, yes I'll give him such financial support he needs knowing things will b fine. But if na dem money miss road type, omo definitely will keep my personal money personal before he throws both of us into penury.

And what will you doing in that relationship if you think that low of him, if not for the money?

Lucrativress:

The guy that went to meet a Slay Mama would surely know who he is going for before asking that question
A guy that went to meet a serious minded successful Lady or at least progressive Lady would also know before he goes to ask
So tell me,already knowing these two qualities and the same question comes from these two Ladies, se he'll just jump all at once and say ah no o,fine the question doesn't denote care or thoughtfulness of the man's feelings but it can still be asked.

U haven't in anyway answered my questions:

What do u mean by "morales of the lady in question"? What is there to be deciphered in "can you take care of me"?

LordReed:


Over generalization. When I was going out with my then girlfriend, she asked me this question and I gave an honest answer. Today that girlfriend is my very hardworking beautiful wife.

this man you are not married stop lying. i know you wellwell. you live alone with 8 cats as companion

Korllami007:


Serious minded lady won't ask this question. This question is one of the FAQ of olosho or undercover prostitute, or a girl that see relationship as poverty alleviation program or job opportunities. Na them de collect monthly allowance from there boyfriend. Any girl that ask that question, the next day na billing go follow, like 5000 registration dating fee. The question is 100% undertone with money because 99.9% of girls that ask thus kind of question always see relationship as poverty alleviation program. There's no two ways to that question, "Can you take care of me?" It's all about money.

No well-to-do girl will ever ask that question.

So when a "well-to-do girl" decides to ask that same question, what should now happen?

jawalis:

Says a b!tch who depends on boyfriend for 500 data subscription. It’s obvious generation of independent and virtuous women has gone either decades ago

Independent? Women of old were never independent. This generation b churning out independent ladies. Please check ur facts and stop being sentimental. Doesn't suit u.

Realtalk20:
[s][/s]You are taking nonsense

Just like I guy saying I ask ladies If they like to be raped on the first date because I am smart and I want to see how they react.

Now you see how stupid what you typed is ?

thats their tricks... they ask this question and if you say yes, then they've won the MUMU jackpot, and if you say no then they say "i just wanted to see how you would react"

richie240:

Too many immature menfolks nowadays.
I really pity genuine ladies.

Speakung as a man myself, the question in itself is contextual.
It depends on d angle d lady is looking at it from.

What a #mature man shd do is to dig in and ask her 4 clarifications, not come to assumptions!

Thank you Sir.

lexy2014:


Pls explain d relationship between "Lean on me" by Bill withers and "take care of me" by a Nigerian lady like u

Means relationships should b a two way affair.

Lucrativress:
Does this mean some guys,(I can't even call them men sef) don't study the ladies they're interested in before asking her out
This question wouldn't be a generalization thing if you actually did.
O ga

Pls define "guys" and define "men".

trutht828:


How do responsible men behave? They allow you to turn them to poverty alleviation agents?

My comments got nothing to do with money or lack of it. There are psychological needs, emotional needs... Too bad most of u got only finance to offer... Pretty shallow if u ask me.

Only few of them in Nigeria are reasonable. Can you take care of me? Like say I be her father.

MrBrownJay1:


thats their tricks... they ask this question and if you say yes, then they've won the MUMU jackpot, and if you say no then they say "i just wanted to see how you would react"

The fact is it's a stupid question.. no reasonable man would waste further time with such a lady

Why doesn't she pick a more reasonable question like " what's your view on global warming " or "how do you feel about the Nigerian government's lack of will to institute the death penalty for rapists and hold molesters"

But nooo it's this stupid question they go for

SweetCunt97:
Means relationships should b a two way affair.

I didn't ask u what anything means. I asked:

Pls explain d relationship between "Lean on me" by Bill withers and "take care of me" by a Nigerian lady like u

SweetCunt97:
Means relationships should b a two way affair.

may i ask.. what "can you take care of me" means, if not taking care of the babe's financial needs?!

TalkTalkTwins:


Don't be stupid

Don't be a crybaby. Abi una wan carry Placard?

MrBrownJay1:


did you expect her to also share whatever she had with you, or was that just a one sided issue in your opinion?!

Goes without saying. She likewise made the same promise.

SweetCunt97:
Independent? Women of old were never independent. This generation b churning out independent ladies. Please check ur facts and stop being sentimental. Doesn't suit u.

I honestly do not have the strength for this blind argument. It’s clear to the blind that the set of women out now are nothing but leaches. They are parasites and with a very level of entitlement mentality.

lexy2014:


U haven't in anyway answered my questions:

What do u mean by "morales of the lady in question"? What is there to be deciphered in "can you take care of me"?

Her qualities and attributes na
Each man with his own kind of attributes he wishes for in a woman
If the qualities he wished for were intellectual and economical and she fit into that aspect and she goes ahead to ask that question, so what?
That's left for him to decide and react based on what he was already satisfied with before coming to meet her

anslem04:




If we ever get to that point, where marriage means nothing i.e no jack, have you taken timeout to consider who bears d consequence more. ask a woman d happiest day in her life if its not her wedding day then she is probably not married

Bringing a baby into this world is a woman's happiest moments... Don't b deceived

brightdestiny96:


Until you meet a karashika and begin to patronize mountain of fire.

And you think am not karishika in my own ways