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An average Nairalander would have told you to kill the guy!!
But in this case, it is obvious there is nothing you can tell him to change his mind.
The only advice we can give you is to tell mom to let the elder ones in both family talk to him, this may not really change him anyways, cos you are talking about your dad here and not your elder brother!

All the very best to your dad.

Btw,
ALCOHOL KILLS!!
PRINT that out in Bold, RED LETTERS and paste it at your front door!

Again, All the very best.


Baba has spoken!

We Rise!

desgiezd:
@ OP
You are talking about your dad being alcoholic, take a look at your monicker first. There must be a reason why you adopted that name!

descarado:
His life, his choice. There is nothing u can do about that at this stage in his life. If you, your mum are enabling him through finance, you have to stop and concentrate on other things. It's better to start acting like somebody whose dad is dead and start taking responsibility for somethings.

UDUJ:


Your dad needs help in fighting this addiction. Right now he needs your love and support. Now is not the time to be hateful. If you are in Lagos try and convince him to visit any of the rehabilitation centres in the list below:

https://www.finelib.com/cities/lagos/health/mental-health/addiction-recovery

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

globalmart:


Hmm...this one nah prayer case ooh..to be frank..cos it's like it runs in their blood..so I won't say it's a psychological problem..
Keep interceding in his behalf..and be praying for yourself too so u won't follow the evil pattern..
Pray seriously for him so that he could break out of the trend because if it's not broken now u that hates alchol might end up that way unknownly..
One of our family friend the husband it's like that..after much research we found out it's in their linage ...It took a lot of prayer, encouragement and curse breaking to bring him out of it..

So don't detest him...show him so much love, keep talking to him and be praying for him..

Normally it takes time to come out from an addiction..

perpeling22:


That means it is a generational curse. Someone must have placed a curse on that line on them. It means they are being manipulated, pushed to do it without unknowingly. Problem detected, is a problem half solved. Look for a genuine spiritual man of God to dig deep into the source of the problem.

Wisejohnson47:
We are waiting for a better advice please, but I believe if you get too engaged in better activities, you will forget alcohol

drunkdad:


thanks sir. I really appreciate.

elisho:
the Holly book say give a dieying man a drink so he will sleep of and for get his sorrow

drunkdad:


I'm not really religiously inclined plus I don't even know how to get a real spiritual person.

MemoriesAndMe:
For most drunkards, there is always something that triggers it. Its difficult to heal someone with that habit if the source isn't identified. For some, it may be loss of a loved one, unhappiness in a marriage or even financial situation, each of these leading to depression. There definitely has to be a root to it, unless he considers it fun.

If you can sit him down on one of the moments when he's sober and talk to him as calmly as you can, you probably will be able to identify the root of his problems and offer solutions.

You can motivate him by getting him involved in AA meetings. Sometimes hearing of stories of how alcohol has ruined many lives wakes people up and have a re-think. Fortunately, there are online zoom meetings for Alcoholics Anonymous that you can guide him and encourage him to be active in.

It takes a step at a time to overcome alcoholism and he needs your help now. It may be too late if his organs start getting ruined from the habit, so pls be there for him now that he needs your help quitting. All the best bro.

perpeling22:

Where do you live?

frozen70:


My concern is the effect of alcohol to the liver in his body

Is your dad still working to earn a living or his friends gives him free drink

drunkdad:


sango ota in Ogun State

drunkdad:


at the end of it all, his deteriorating health condition will be on my mom and me. All of his family members are nothing to write home about. set of very irresponsible and unserious people

J111333:
...too much of it.

First is to help him cut down his budget on drinking by telling your mum to seize every money she sees on him and second is to stop praying and start taking action about it.

Target him on the day he chooses not be drunk and get drunk yourself. Force yourself to get drunk just for that day and puke around the house.
Do this and thank me later.

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

Chukslar:


First we must all know that Alcohol is addictive and as Christians, we also believe that there is an eveil spirit behind alcoholism.

He is addicted and in every addiction, the victim finds it very very difficult (almost impossible) to stop the addiction on his own.

What he needs help is both a Spiritual and Psychological jolt which will require some sacrifce from both you and your family.

Helping someone out of an addiction is very difficult and requires lots of sacrifices from loved ones.

What you need to do
First get a good spiritual director (a Priest or Pastor) for your family he will come and handle the spiritual aspect then you have to jolt him Psychologically
Secondly, follow him one day to his drinking place and just sit and watch him, make sure you make eye contact and make sure everyone there knows he is your dad. Dont say a word just sit and watch him, allow him drink don't try to stop him after he is done help/follow him home on your way talk to him tell him how much you and the entire family loves him dont ask him to stop drinking just talk about love and care.

Follow him the next day, do that for like 4 days if he continues going there you will notice a small crack/change in his behaviour
If not then go there with your mother also dont try to stop him, if your mum wants to cry let her but she should hold her mouth not to insult or degrade him.

You will surely notice a change from there show him love and support then at this point lead him into discussing his inner struggles and ways to stop it an the same time your family should be praying together.

It will take some time but I am sure you are strong enough to carry this cross.
Congratulations in Advance.

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

dking123:

OP, let me advice you. You must be careful not to fall into the temptation of disrespecting your dad. Women can be curning and deceitful.the alcohol that your dad takes didn't stop him from training you.if your mom shoulders some responsibility heaven will not fall. If the man really needs help you may get the services of professionals.

MajorGain:
My man! I totally understand your fear. The man owns his life and can decide to lavish it but where it affects you are the big responsibilities he would be leaving for you as his first child if he eventually dies. So, your aim is to keep him alive for long and have him retrace his steps.

Fact is that battling addiction is not easy. The person in it knows he gains nothing from it but pulling out and breaking away is not easy. It even becomes more difficult when you're surrounded by birds of same feather. Breaking away from an addiction takes a lot of strong will on the part of the person involved and most times, the person has to be hit hard or be taken to a certain point to realise the mess he has gotten himself in and retrace his steps.

So, if I were in your shoes, this is what I'd do: I'll call them one early morning (himself and mumsy) sit them down and tell them that I went to price coffin. I'll list different prices of coffin (momsy self go shock but I go bone). Tell them that since the man has decided to waste his life and kill himself, you have made up your mind that his only end is death and you have started preparing so it would be easy for you but that you're not stupid enough to waste money to buy very good coffin and plan a funeral with money you'll use to take care of the responsibilities he'd leave behind so, you went to a carpenter who said he can gather dead wood and put up a manageable coffin and also tell him that he knows he does not have any friend that is bouyant enough to support you during and after the burial as all of them are destined for the same path. Tell him he'd start contributing money on daily basis for the burial and make it a point of duty to ask him for the contribution everyday.

In summary, hit the nail on the head and make him realise that he has decided to kill himself and you have also accepted his decision. Then, have him sitted and plan his funeral but present a very pitiable funeral scenario. He should start thinking about his life