MrOjay1:
This is sad.
I suggest you begin to flog your father with cane since he's stubborn.

Cane is the only language a drunkard understands.
It's no use advising him against it because he will surely do otherwise.

If you can't cane him,you can trail him to the bar where he drinks and embarass him and his friends.

drunkdad:
For over 20 years, my dad has being a chronic drunkard. drinking alcohol despite all my mom's effort to try and stop him. 2 years ago, he stopped drinking and he was beginning to look better, speak more coherently and not socially awkward, but now, he has gone back to his past behavior just earlier this year when he started making friends with another guy who drinks alcohol.

All these behavior leads to him not able to work and a lot of behaviors he exhibits that is totally nasty, behaving like a kid.

My mom and I have called him and talked to him on several occasions about it but he still always goes back to drink after he leaves home.

I'm totally fed up, even my mum is very sad about the situation.

How can I deal with this situation..

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

drunkdad:



hmm, his family is nothing to write home about. my dad is the most stubborn person I ever know and will take everyone's word with a pinch of salt whenever he's still drinking. He only comes to his senses whenever he stops drinking for like a week.

drunkdad:
I'm just scared of losing him because, he has a lot of responsibilities unattended to. and again, he's my only father

drunkdad:


at the end of it all, his deteriorating health condition will be on my mom and me. All of his family members are nothing to write home about. set of very irresponsible and unserious people

Excuses:


I'm a young man like you, in ur case ur the first born..bro u've got a lot to do. shouldering of responsibilities and ur life to take care of..

Some body gave u a good advice, isolate ue dad for a minimum period of 1yr..if he is working that's were the challenge comes in..if he is nt, take him 2 a strange environment..the essence is to break the cycle and starve the alcohol thirst cells replacing the gap with u people know he cherish & loves most.

Lastly pray for him..though am nt d type of guy who believes in pray for this & that because life is choice.!

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

daddytime:


Very sorry about this situation you are faced with.

However, my earnest prayer for you is that whatever it is, even if it's a generational curse, the chains, and the cycle shall be halted and broken at your juncture.

It won't be passed on to you, your siblings, and lineage going forward.

MrOjay1:
This is sad.
I suggest you begin to flog your father with cane since he's stubborn.

Cane is the only language a drunkard understands.
It's no use advising him against it because he will surely do otherwise.

If you can't cane him,you can trail him to the bar where he drinks and embarass him and his friends.

drunkdad:


true. But what about my mom. she's always sad seeing him like that

Tadeus:


This is d real problem. How dare you say dis about your biological dad? I wish my dad was still alive. I shed tears reading dis from you. No matter wah, respect your parents and always show dem love. Treat him nice and show love now dah he is still alive. Also pray for him, he will change. He needs ur support

drunkdad:
he's the eldest of all his siblings and yet, the same alcohol trend run In the family. all his male siblings are chronic drunkards.

I'm his eldest son and I'm totally confused on what to do. right now, we're not on talking terms because his presence alone annoys me. I don't know what to do to make him just focus on his life and get on with his family. take care of himself. and stop being a nuisance to everyone.

I have a bro that was in similar situation. He is 10yrs older. Then he drinks and smoke weeds. His thought alone affected me psychological in school then that any time I left my book once I remember him tears will start rolling. Coz apart from the fact that he is constituting nuance, he was just wasting his time and he might eventually be implicated for crime he didn't commit. His presence can be equated with sadness and mourning. So what I did was to first of all prayerful hand it over to God. Anytime I remember it I will start praying irrespective of where and who is beside me -sometimes u have to fight anyhow anywhere. With time I stopped crying whenever I remember it. So I started showing him love and care. Calling him, going to visit him. At that point everyone he has helped when he was abroad deserted him even my family. I kept praying. My brother stubbornness get legions. Anytime I mention weeds and acohol. Either he stop picking my calls or he start ignoring me. So by the grace of God he relocated. I kept visiting and praying for him. I was convinced am the only one that can help and that I have the abilities to do that. So I started brioler business for him. He will get the money and use half for weed/Igbo and alcohol. For 2 years, I started the business 4times. He will rear the chicken and eat the money. Funny enough, when he doesn't have money, he will be loyal and once he sells the chicken, vum, bar parlour and all that. I kept believing in Gid, his ability in me and my power to change him. Bro to cut the story short, he just finished selling the last farm produce I started for him, give me three chicken, he called me and was telling me how I have been showing me love, that my love has change him. I can visible see it that he is a change man. I give glory to God.

Your dad knows (deep down) thathe has a problem. Unfortunately he is helpless. You need God more in this case. Go close to him. Help him. Clean him up. Don't advise him too much. You to pray and fast on his behalf. If you can break the addiction, generation unborn may not taste it. But then I need to know your maker and the power you possess. If have not know God and his power, you are helpless and ur case may be worse than his later.

With the experience of my bro, I now know that its when you have problems and when you are weak that you will truly know those who love you.
Love ur dad and do anything possible to recover him from alcohol. If you succeed, the succes will increase ur confidence in ur strength and the supernatural and many will learn from you.
I hope this helps even though ur approach might be dif from mine. May God rescue ur dad and give your family peace in Jesus name. Amen

drunkdad:


I just wish there's a proactive step I can take to just bring everything to a stop because if it's prayer. my mom has been doing that for over 20 years

descarado:

She has to accept the fact that her husband is a drunk.
The ship has long sailed. Probably something made him start drinking and instead of fishing that out and solving it, she was admonishing and guilt tripping him( words addicts hate most) and of course comparing him with his successful mates. I'm pretty sure u do that too.
U guys are making him go deeper into the habit actually.

And it's high time u all start listening to his complaint instead of complaining.

the alcohol he takes has made to look very old.. [s][/s]he's always coughing now and has this nasty alcohol smell always trailing him wherever he is. to enter into the toilet immediately he's done is 100% impossible because of the strong alcohol smell