humilitypays:
Take it from me, op is an Igbo guy. Only Igbo guys reason soundly like this and that is why generational poverty is gradually reducing in Igbo land. It still exist but the current generation of Igbo guys are wiser and working hard to end that transfer of poverty from generation to generation, that is why typical Igbo guy marries late.



Born 1 child, they won't listen.


Nigerians really need a tough government to reset their brains.


You are jobless no business no handwork, no income and you went and impregnated a girl and some still go ahead and marry under such hungry situation.



If you want to enjoy this world, if you want to prosper here on earth and live a good life and still make heaven as a Christian, don't just embrace the person of Jesus, also embrace the life of Jesus.


The person of Jesus teaches you to live a Holy and righteous life, and the life principle of Jesus teaches you hardwork, how to create wealth from nothing and how to grow financially and also obey the authorities.



But many Christians only embrace the person of Jesus, they live holy, they pray, fast but they are poor, why They didn't embrace the principle of Jesus, which bothers around work, work, work.


Living holy and being righteous alone will never make you successful in life. Lazarus was a righteous man but he was poor. You can be righteous and poor, why If you fail to apply the principles of money and wealth creation.

Prayer without work is dead, no result.

Work and pray. Pray for God to bless the works of your hands, what does that mean You must have a work for God to bless you. You must sow a seed to reap a harvest. You dont have work, no business no hand work, but you spend your whole time praying and shouting i receive and hoping to jam riches, you are deceiving yourself. Pray for God to give you wisdom to identify the right business idea to invest in and the right financial decision to take.


As you pray also give.....thank God for the little He has done and then help others and watch your doors swing wide open.



Don't marry until you have stabilised your finances.


God created Adam first, before He created Eve, He created all the living creatures and garden where Adam would worlk. And yet He didn't create Eve the same day with Adam. He made sure Adam has mastered how to feed himself comfortably and noticed that Adam's major problem then was loneliness and someone to help him meet some household needs, He then created Eve for him.


But today, many guys can't afford to feed, but they want to marry. Their Pastor tell them it is God's will, how

My brother. I’m a Yoruba boy but I don’t think tribe is necessary here. We all one bro

rottable:
Well, I live in a populated house here in Lagos, there are families with 4 children living in a single room. Single guys around there are in trouble

Hmmm. Na we be our own problem for this country

Stop having children you cannot cater for. They won't hear. Mtcheww irresponsible people

Yamiriflathead:
Men should stop getting married. Marriage affords you nothing
I just read through a thread where a married man complained bitterly about being blatantly refused sex even when he tried to make his spouse comfortable. Marriage is is SCAM
When you're ready to have children,
Get her pregnant, get her pregnant again and again and cater for the needs of your children period.
#Babymamamode

Can you please give me link to that topic? I need to read every post that will discourage me from getting married

showafrica:


Bro marriage is not Scam unless you allow the slay queen to scam you in the name of marriage. @ baby mama mode, u go spend money tire... That one na the real scam

In which country and under which law?
You're grousely incorrect
Ask every woman out there in Nigeria, they'll prefer to have their spouses around because they know husband's spend more when they're around.
I can put my child on say 20 or 15 thousand allowance monthly and heaven will not fall.
If she wants to make trouble I'll threaten her that I want my child and in Nigeria dad's can have their kids once they're above six, trust me she'll adjust.
You see those stories you read online about baby mamas?
It's because the men involved don't have their time

DemonInvoker:

Marriage is far more than just a FVCK&PLAY HOUSE.Legally, It's suppose to be for the best interest and protection of the man,the woman and children. It brings two actual strangers together as family. What am I saying ?!Marriage shouldnt just be one big occasion or an agreement on a piece of paper. Its a binding that should mean you both make a conscious decision to Stay together as family,to settle and set your differences aside as husband and wife and to be legally responsible for the children you create and to each other... Its a lot bigger than going on Feels and Wokeness as you may Think it....Otherwise it should be called A FVCKING PLAYING HOUSE..Many are not just Matured and Responsible enough for Marriage.

Marriage is not the bench mark for responsible and matured.
You can feed your opinion to the dogs

its annoying to see a man and a woman in one room give birth to 6 children, all of them in one room. Why give birth to too many kids that will suffer?

The highest number I can have is 4.

lefulefu:
lol i said it ..womanizing .Its the womanizing he is doing that is making him broke..not any other thing.If he is prudent he will be able to manage his money.When u earning little or average and u spend on women u will never grow financially .anyway u trying dat u giving to him

"HE is often always a slave he who cannot live on little"

Seerade029:
I have nothing to say than.

all fingers ain't equal.
if everyone is rich, there will be hyper inflation.


modified
I didn't even read your post before, but after reading it.
Tell them man to learn a skill. (Plumber, furniture, tailoring, mechanic, welder, barber etc).
The truth is there is job in Nigeria but, we humans ain't satisfied we want to go higher (it's good though, but start from somewhere)

and if you can help him with #50,000 - #100,000 cash to start business, do so.
if you can't, ignore.

He should give him 100k so that he can go and born the fourth child right, you better read his question again

Just this Sunday in my Church during the House Fellowship which I normally anchor because most consider it a waste of time so they don't normally attend. When I don't see any elderly person around I call in kids playing football around me and they will normally oblige me. The topic on that day was interactive session so I spend the time to interact with them and surprisingly discovered that none of them(I mean absolutely none) was going to school. Even the ones that were so bright among them they are not in any school. I cried. Their parents come to Church in the morning as if nothing is wrong. Why give birth to a child you cannot nuture? Things are terribly bad out there. I struct a bargain with them that every Sunday during the House Fellowship we would be praying for their parents. And they were very happy about it.They cleaned and arranged the Church for me in a manner to let me know they need my help. Some of them have been out of school for years.

Ginaz:


Cos of money you will fuk someone's wife. Do yourself a favor and have stense cos obviously you don't .

I am not interested in fucking his wife, just a condition so he doesn't come begging for money again. You need to draw the boundaries attimes.
Imagine single guy who should be saving for his own marriage is spending the money helping someone who got married when he knows he is not capable of taking care of himself talk less of wife and child.
. tomorrow,they will see single guys as irresponsible and immature while we are the one helping them take care of their family

JONSYN7154:
If God place some people on your path to help pls do not hesitate to help them. Bountiful blessings await you.

Some pple didn't deserve to be help i be someone like that every time he comes around for help and money but the moment you advise him to try and get job or learn handwork he go run from you.

Deathissweet:


I think this is the most reasonable comment so far. I am not shaming him because I have suffered and I know what it feels not to have. But my problem is why bring up another child when you can’t even take care of yourself


The problem now is with everything he his going through. He is still womanizing

Dont let anyone guilt trip you into doing things you dont want to do. Clearly this guy is taking advantage of you. Worry about yourself first. You owe him and his kids nothing

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yanabasee:
People will not be like you and sometimes, it's not always their decision to make.....




If you could help him, please do....If you can't, no wahala.....

This post made you yanabase to be like the man the op is talking about.
Deathissweet, I v experienced what you saw too. People giving birth to kids as they can't cater for.
Brainless religion blinded fellows. Always praying more n working less or not working smart. Yet they ll be ficking their wife or wives anyhow, get concubines join n litter Nigeria with kids they can't cater for.

Nigerian needs to understand that life is not all about creating lots of kids when you have low income or no income atall...

In my case its going to be just 2 kids when I'm ready... I have the reasoures to carter for 12kids till PhD level but I will only be stick with two for common sense...

U are doing what we call "sadaka"

Am sure it was the kids that made u compassionate towards thier father. This is understandable

You better avoid that kind of a man. He's a criminal in disguise. The day you deny him something, watch out for midnight visitors. Abi na you send am make he born full house?

CalliDora1:
My brother, I wonder at the way people still go about procreating even with the hardship in the country. If youve observed this act is common among the average and lower class who struggle to make ends meet. It's so annoying.

I have even taught a topic on this issue on the number of children people should have to avoid bringing innocent children into the world to suffer. I've

Someone once told me, "there's always that "mistake baby" and I was like " I don't want to hear it! What silly mistake is that? If you plan well, there won't be any mistakes. Once you've had the agreed number, just remove the womb to avoid any mistakes ( that's my own take though).
People just create problems that could be avoided for themselves.

I as a person have decided to have just one, even if I become the richest woman on earth and that is final. I can't stress.

I sincerely wish the govt can come in and do something about this because it is not only affecting the individual families but the economy at large.

Quite extreme when there is vasectomy for the man which is cheaper, less painful and faster.

Sharia ppl wont agree

Deathissweet:


I think this is the most reasonable comment so far. I am not shaming him because I have suffered and I know what it feels not to have. But my problem is why bring up another child when you can’t even take care of yourself


The problem now is with everything he his going through. He is still womanizing

Op that man is not a serious person .Stop giving him money, you are contributing to the problem .He now sees you as a bank .You don't have money yet you are still womanizing.However, I won't support you OP for saying government should regulate the number of children in the country. Are you talking about the same government that is the major contributor to the hardship in the country? .

adanonso:
This is my Priest Sermon on sunday and i Regret that i have four already. Now that Reccesion hits my husband Biz and Chest Pain is giving my tailor Biz Setback, i Regret getting married in the first place. And to think i was a good girl hopeIng for a happy married life make me wish i can turn back the time.

Quite a pity but I would advise you adopt the most stringent of family planning from your side to prevent having a fifth (you won't be able to cope financially, economically and psychologically). It is for your good. Prevent the fifth by all means necessary.

His case is pathetic
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I think this is the most reasonable comment so far. I am not shaming him because I have suffered and I know what it feels not to have. But my problem is why bring up another child when you can’t even take care of yourself


The problem now is with everything he his going through. He is still womanizing [/quote]

LastProphet:
Africans are taught at home, in church and mosque that they were born in order to give birth to more people. So don't be surprised even a dying African must still marry and born because that is our destiny. We can't solve any major problem of the world like finding cure for corona, inventing any technology etc, because we are focused on just giving birth to beautiful kids. If you graduate from university as a chemical engr here, even your parents will not ask you how many chemicals you have engineered after graduation, the only thing they will ask you is when you will marry. The same crap preached in churches, same crap in nollywood movies, so my brother don't be surprised to find failures around everywhere who have only 1 single contribution to humanity which is child bearing

Some countries are taking in immigrants for a reason, having children is fundamental to human existence, planning for their care and upbringing is what should be the focus of discussion.

They are not serious ni.

Anyways, they should come to this outreach being organized by Medcourt Support Services and DKT( Makers of different family planning products) this Saturday in Agege environ.

If you are my homeboy , I'm rendering help. We have a code of watching out for each other. May not apply to the lots of you.

Your old Man tried oo. Some in the north don't even care. They breed anyhow as if they are animals and they don't take care of their children

omoharry:
My Dad gave birth to 14 children (two wives though ) I some times wondered what he was thinking, producing so many children. But the good thing is that, he trained every one by himself and ensured we all had our university degree & with some going further to have thier masters..He tried sha oo! But if this had happened in this our era, eee nor for easy for am at all oo!!.. it would have been difficult, due to the way things are now . Thank God he enjoyed his children before his demise.

If you are rich and can afford to give your children quality life and education, then no problem but if you know your income can only cater for one, then stick to one and offer the child the best of you . There is no need bringing children to this world to suffer .Everybody must be responsible for thier actions .
The northern region is even worse .Infact those ones only know how to have sex ,breed and beg .

Gamesmart:


Una head correct well well!

6th child?

Baaaastard!

The guy na super Bastard

They should or poverty and crime will keep increasing, Northerners are the worst for this, with their almajiri begging industry, big shame, and their religion encourage spreading their kids everywhere to become the dominant force.

JesusDWay:


Some countries are taking in immigrants for a reason, having children is fundamental to human existence, planning for their care and upbringing is what should be the focus of discussion.

Those countries have the capacity to absorb those human beings, but we do not.

That’s called Africa mentality, the endemic mentality that causes generational poverty in Africa.