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Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 9:14am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: ""Our goal is to raise kind, focused and disciplined human beings."" And u think I lack focus, discipline and kindness because my mum flogged me |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Mummymahdi(f): 9:16am On Jan 03, 2021 |
I must flog ooo, after all now no b beating them dey chop, na we wey even neighbours go correct u, teacher will correct u ur mama no go go fight teacher, my dad doesnt beat at all only sit u down and talk well. We are no lunch box Gang then. No b now wey kids carry trolley bag and lunch box bag to schl , teacher dye fear may him no touch pikin wahala go follow |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by kalu61(m): 11:03am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Bunsenbun:The only thing that makes it looks as if not beating a child in Western word is yielding result than ours boils down to the economy. African environment is frustrating alone. What's your take on your child calling police on you. Are you advocating for that too? |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Druss(m): 11:35am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Depends on the situation. I don't spank everytime but employ words and punishment as well. The truth is children have to know there is a limit and caning is one of the ways to set a limit. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by BeigJawnson(m): 11:42am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Mindlog: when a system of government isnt working in a country, leads to all what you mentioned not child's beating |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by BeigJawnson(m): 11:52am On Jan 03, 2021 |
descarado: with these you have said, indirectly you mean parents just beat their wardsnfor no reason... only a stupid parent will do such. when a child errs, scold him or her. and if it is beating, insert it. and when it is play, play and be more friendly with them. it is an adult you will beat that will have grudge against you... but not children... if you beat a child to correct him or her ... few minutes later he or she has forgotten when you buy them their favorites like ice creams or biscuits. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Osashalom: 11:57am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme:Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Proverbs 29:15 15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Whatever you think is new now, has happened before, in child up bringing, there is a place for flogging |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by BeigJawnson(m): 11:58am On Jan 03, 2021 |
CalliDora1: thank you ooo, that is what i have been saying... they are making it looks like parents just wake up one morning, call their wards and start to beat them for no reason... even cows, that are animals, no herdsman will just flog any cows for no reason that is meant to be bad ... except tha cow goes off tha direction then tha herdsman wont spare tha rod on such cow. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
BeigJawnson: Exactly. I pray we don't spoil these children to the point where the adults will no longer have a say whenever the children are around because of what they would have turned into. I know of a boy who the parents never flogs and never allows anyone to touch him. Now he's has grown wild and beat the mother up one day that she ran to higher hefty guys to come and help her handle the boy. Till today, she's afraid of the son. To even speak to him is a problem and the boy now moves with notorious people in the area. School, e nor go. Work e nor gree learn. The mother bows her head in shame whenever the boy is passing. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Bunsenbun(m): 12:48pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
kalu61:I have seen situations that yes a parent deserved to be arrested,for crying out loud do you people know the emotional and physical abuse many parents put their children through in Nigeria?.You don't?. Do you think that girl who excelled brilliantly was brought up in the same condition as our hustling boys?. The economy is a reflection of the type of people existing in that society. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
You're a perfect example of how not to raise a child. Instead of countering my points you would rather abuse me. This kind of aggression is pretty common in Nigeria: now you know why. Too much beating by mum ad dad made you wanna attack anyone with contrary opinion. It is a form of trying to beat dissenting opinion into submission. I hope you heal though. Logan23: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by thinkmoney(m): 1:26pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
stanliwise:You see any solution? If you had an idea of how the problem can be solved, how do you envision it panning out if people were to follow your idea? |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Okwyjesus(m): 1:56pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: Prov 23:13-14, Prov 22:15, Prov 29:15 Read and thank me later. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Farukshy: 2:05pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
J111333:U have said it all Me I still beat my kids when they do wrong |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by ojesymsym: 2:44pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
So far, all those saying I talk to my kids and they listen all say their kids are under 5 years old. I want to hear the opinion of those who use either methods and what the outcome was when the kids approach 16 years old and entered adulthood. It is those outcomes I want to hear, because at less than 5 years old, most kids are still very dependent on their parents, the true test of any approach is when the child has grown and still follows the values you inculcated in them. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by stanliwise(m): 3:09pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
thinkmoney:One obvious way out is society consciousness toward public interest. If me and you starts to speak up against the state of our present community and majority of people in the society put hands together and call the responsible people to order. Then and only then we can have a good and healthy Society. All this white wash talk and gloating with hope of better future we did not create ain’t taking us anywhere. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Gamesmart: 3:22pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: Mr, I am still waiting for your answer to my question here: https://www.nairaland.com/6335614/child-discipline-believe-beating-child/4#97664255 |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by themaestro08(m): 3:31pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Ishilove: Its a shame you are a child abuser So if your spouse offend you, will you also flog the hell out of him/her? Abuse that child all you like, the very moment he becomes an adult and you are pathetically old and senile he dumps your nasty self . We have seen this scenario repeat itself time and time again. You better have a rethink to avoid a living a miserable old age. Discipline your child with love,kindness and firmness and he will grow to love and respect. Be violent and abusive and he abandon you when you are old. Please be wise 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Ifebazz(m): 4:44pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Is the non-beating helping the issue now? Mindlog: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 4:52pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Well, there are so many of them a few Google clicks away, some of these are outcomes of research studies. Gamesmart: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 5:02pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
"By 2000, research on physical punishment had expanded beyond its effect on child aggression. Studies were showing associations between physical punishment and mental health, physical injury, parent–child relationships and family violence in adulthood. One of the first such studies linked slapping and spanking in childhood with psychiatric disorders in adulthood in a large Canadian sample, and its findings have since been supported by an ever-growing number of studies. Physical punishment is associated with a range of mental health problems in children, youth and adults, including depression, unhappiness, anxiety, feelings of hopelessness, use of drugs and alcohol, and general psychological maladjustment. These relationships may be mediated by disruptions in parent–child attachment resulting from pain inflicted by a caregiver, by increased levels of cortisol or by chemical disruption of the brain’s mechanism for regulating stress. Researchers are also finding that physical punishment is linked to slower cognitive development and adversely affects academic achievement. These findings come from large longitudinal studies that control for a wide range of potential confounders. Intriguing results are now emerging from neuroimaging studies, which suggest that [b]physical punishment may reduce the volume of the brain’s grey matter in areas associated with performance [/b]on the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale, third edition (WAIS-III). In addition, physical punishment can cause alterations in the dopaminergic regions associated with vulnerability to the abuse of drugs and alcohol." Excerpt from: Joan Durrant & and Ron Ensom. Physical punishment of children: lessons from 20 years of research. CMAJ. 2012 Sep 4; 184(12): 1373–1377. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Gamesmart: 5:05pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: No, you proposed the topic and took a side. You tell me the ones you use or will use please. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Thazard(m): 5:20pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Yes I do |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 5:32pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
This perhaps explains why we have so many angry and aggressive human beings in Nigeria. Whenever I am in Nigeria and I drive on the roads, it is like you have offended everyone and they can't wait to pour their wrath on you with so much insults and curses. The same when you visit any office, or even go to market to buy stuff and people are just by default discourteous. Everyone is angry probably because the parents have done a great job raising so may of us with pent-up anger, a form of psychiatric problem by the way. I repeat we are doing a terrible job raising kids in Nigeria. We raise selfish, unkind, social misfits that end up becoming yahoo-yahoo, entitled human beings, serial cheats in relationships with unbelievable levels of paternity fraud, thieving clerics, sex-fo-grade and grade-for-sex, runz girls, corrupt policemen, boko haram, and worse still corrupt public officers who don't bat an eyelid diverting money meant for the public healthcare, education, survival, even pension into their own pockets. Most often than not these individuals were all raised with heavy beating by parents , teachers, society (so much that we have accepted physical abuse by the police and soldiers as okay)... One would be surprised then that we have so many damaged individuals in Nigeria, if indeed we were doing everything right. By the way, family upbringing is responsible for society and not the other way around, in case some will again bring up the excuse that it's the Nigerian society that makes us turn out these horrible ways. bizme: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 5:38pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Do you have your own biological kids, and you are raising them directly with your spouse? Gamesmart: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Gamesmart: 5:56pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: Mr, that is not an answer to my question. Please can you highlight the alternative disciplinary measures you would use/you use instead of spanking? |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 6:05pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Visit Google and do a search yourself. If you cannot do that, then I am not interested in engaging you. Take care. Gamesmart: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Lamanii22(f): 6:24pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
Ulunne777: 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by BeigJawnson(m): 6:42pm On Jan 03, 2021 |
CalliDora1: imagine something... no wonder the white man do say, spare the rod and spoil the child. bible even confirms it that train up a child in a he should go that he will give you rest ... now that woman cant find rest cos she never train her son... now she is digging her heads into shame. 1 Like |
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