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Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:08am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Can you share with us the context within which you believe the Oyinbos have the most terrible morality? Because with respect to violence, sexual indiscipline, breach of trust, corruption, malice, racism, religious intolerance, crime etc... Nigerians are much worse than any of the developed Oyinbo countries on planet earth. I am really curious to read the parameters that you considered that made you think Nigerians are more morally upright than anyone. Logan23: 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:12am On Jan 03, 2021 |
God did not say those things; they were said by some human beings who didn't know 1/100th of the things we know in our days, and who lived under completely different (even unbelievable) social situations. Osashalom: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:20am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Daddy, please don't beat your wife o! :-D I think she needs education on how to correct children. Discipline is not synonymous with beating. I am very strict as a father but you won't find me use beating to correct. There are many more ways to do that. I know what each of my children like more than any other thing, and I use that when necessary as positive and negative reinforcement together with talking to them like you would to a friend. She should understand some things about developmental psychology of children, that some things are perfectly normal for certain age groups. If i tell my 2 year old daughter to sit down, or to stop soiling the tiles, or some other things, I never really expect her to listen...instead she carries on laughing playfully.... That is perfectly normal for her age, no child should have to be beaten for doing something normal for their age. Instead, I will will have to get up and remove her from what she is doing that I don't like, even hugging her in the process while she continues laughing... But my son who is older understands what instruction means, even then no beating. My wife playfully spanks them but the kind of spank that mother and child laugh over. gabazin080: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:21am On Jan 03, 2021 |
My personal experience. psyco: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:27am On Jan 03, 2021 |
God didn't say that, it was a man sharing his personal opinion. That something is found in the Bible doesn't mean God said it. Western society has produced better more responsible and more beneficial human beings than the Nigerian society has managed to produce. We have produced weaklings and corrupt human beings (corruption everywhere, sex-for-grade, grade-for-sex, yahoo-yahoo, fake MoGs, the list is endless) that are incapable of demanding decent living in their own country. Okwyjesus: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:28am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:30am On Jan 03, 2021 |
I stopped reading at "Nonsense" . kazyhm: 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:33am On Jan 03, 2021 |
I like your balanced perspective. The way you wrote it also shows that you have insight into psychological development of children. In my case I believe I can perfectly implement both positive and negative reinforcement without having to beat my children. I am not averse to discipline, I simply don't believe I can't achieve more without the use of cane. Thanks a lot. efficiencie: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by whirlout: 2:33am On Jan 03, 2021 |
You don't beat, you spank, there's a difference. When u beat, u have the potential to injure or cause harm. When u spank, it is subtle and not malicious or intent to harm. It makes them cognizant of what they 've done wrong and reminds there are consequences for repeat actions. And you don't spank all the time either cos it may become a norm and less effective after a while. 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:35am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Lol. Your daughter doesn't behave like a cow. On the contrary the way she behaves is perfectly normal for her age, and it should worry any parent if a 3 year old listens and obeys everything you instruct them. What she demonstrates is not madness. In a year or so she will understand better action and consequence, and that is perfectly possible to achieve using non-cane method. ravensckar: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 2:36am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Nigerians are exceedingly more immoral than any Oyinbo society. thinkmoney: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Bosch10(m): 3:11am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme:sir,I think you are wrong on this.yorubas will say"ti a ba fi owo otun ba omo wi,aa fi tosi faa mora". Meaning,after scolding a child by flogging or verbally,we should bring them closer to us by showing them love. I think where many parents got it wrong on that .they flog only without making the child see where he/she was wrong and why they flogged them whilst assuring the kids that you love them and would never flog them again if they did the" right thing". That would make the child to realize that his or her parent did not flog him or her out of anger,but out of parental love. Having said that,I would like to correct ur second statement.i am a maths teacher in the school I teach,and students failed my subject woefully.why because most times when I will be in their class explaining,they would be busy doing one thing or the other.i would leave them alone and continue teaching after warning them severally due to the fact that there is a no flogging policy where I teach. So with these few points of mine,I think I have been able to convince you that flogging a child is better than verbal treatment.thank you.:-� |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Goldencheese(m): 3:23am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Thanks very much. My Dad's fear or the fear I had for my dad was the reason I didn't or don't smoke till today. E go kill me now. In fact, growing up in a rough neighbourhood but turning out fine stems partly but hugely from his tough-love upbringing. I love him die. Don't mind all this ajebo nonsense, spare the rod and spoil the child still works like magic, in fact since 1900. Ulunne777: |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by chuksbogus2001: 3:58am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Yes I support beating as a disciplinary measures. Beating should not be done with anger and the motive should be for correction. Ensure that ample warnings are teaching is done before that. That I am who I am today is because my mum beat stealing commot from my head. If not I for be aninih by now. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 4:48am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme:Spare the rod and spoil the child.... Rod is not only flogging it includes punishments like driving an imaginary car, picking pin, staying like a lizard on a wall. I believe that after every punishment or Rodding of the child show him some love. Appreciate the child when he does something good 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by witworth(m): 5:34am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Nigerians with misplaced human rights scale of preference |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Frankcallys(m): 6:12am On Jan 03, 2021 |
My parents were old school and so am I. I'm not gonna spare the rod and spoil my kids. I'm gonna punish them where necessary and do it with so much love and compassion. If you guys like, leave your kids unattended to, don't punish them, let them do as they please. I wonder the kind of person I would have turned into if my parents were not old school on my crazy ass. I thank them each and every day for putting me straight to be a fine man. And for my unborn kids, y'all better listen up. I will go old school on your sorry ass everyday and twice on the day you misbehave pass
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Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by illicit(m): 6:20am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Logan23: I will discuss with him.... |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Bunmhi(f): 6:36am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Beating a child is not in my agenda not even in school. It's only in Nigeria you will see a teacher venting his/her frustrated life on beating his/her student. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by kazyhm(m): 6:42am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: I almost stopped at bullying to submission but there could be sense in nonsense so I hold my peace to the end just so I could tell you what you misrepresented. Parenting method is like chosen a wife......you can't verify the outcome of your choice approach in training your kids until years later...... |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by skentelelady(f): 7:02am On Jan 03, 2021 |
MISSCONGENIALITY:I can still remember 2 verses in the word of God about came. I follow the the standard/principle of the bible. We all have our ways of lives Thank you 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by IamAngelica(f): 7:18am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme:I seriously do not understand the concept of beating children in the name of 'correction'. My parents believed in dialogue and communication and that has really helped me to come out to them whenever I do something wrong. I do not support beating/ flogging whether it's coming from parents or teachers and if anybody ever lays a finger on any of my children, that person will never go scott free 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by IamAngelica(f): 7:21am On Jan 03, 2021 |
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Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by IamAngelica(f): 7:28am On Jan 03, 2021 |
descarado:God bless you..African parents, more often than not, fail to communicate with and build relationships with their children. The saying "spare the rod and spoil the child" means that you should correct a child when he does something wrong. The "rod" here is figurative and means a corrective measure should be implored not necessarily beating that child or using an actual rod. With time that child will become immune to beating and will still do what he wants to do. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by stanliwise(m): 7:33am On Jan 03, 2021 |
thinkmoney:How long do we continue to blame the whites? They made a terrible mistake long ago by putting us together. If we are not greedy why do we still remain together? Going to over 60years now 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Hoodyrich(m): 7:36am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Any physical form of discipline on a kid only encourages compromised confidence and selfworth. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by thinkmoney(m): 7:40am On Jan 03, 2021 |
stanliwise:You know greed is not the reason why we are together? We should be fine with time. We should now learn to leave together, after all we are humans. It will be hard, but I believe when we do, it will be worth the while |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by thinkmoney(m): 7:42am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme:If your immoral mean questionable sexual conducts, then you are very wrong. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by stanliwise(m): 7:45am On Jan 03, 2021 |
thinkmoney:It wouldn’t, we never learn to live together, there is nothing really as such. My parent hoped everything would be fine, now I am here hoping same. This problem ain’t just a Nigeria problem, most African Countries suffers this problem of greed and corruption especially to a National level. Maybe we should start accepting some reality for once in our existence. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by azetopworld(m): 8:34am On Jan 03, 2021 |
I don't really like beating my kids, my wife does the beating while I do the verbal correction. I slapped my 2 years old boy one particular day and till today I still regrets doing so. what was his offence? While playing he inserted a stone into his ear and willingly he came to me shouting my Daddy and touching his ear. I looked into his ear and saw the stone. with the help of God I was able to remove the stone successfully and thereafter slapped and shouted on him. He cried!!! After slapping him I then realised when next he did such a thing he might be afraid of telling anybody to avoid beating. I hope he will forget that particular incident. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 9:12am On Jan 03, 2021 |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 9:13am On Jan 03, 2021 |
bizme: **Because with respect to violence, sexual indiscipline, breach of trust, corruption, malice, racism, religious intolerance, crime etc... Nigerians are much worse than any of the developed Oyinbo countries on planet earth** U are blatantly blind, backward, unexposed, uniformed etc. |
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