Our value have changed since

Today's definition of relationship is glorified prostitution. Only a few venture with a purpose. People have reduced relationship to 2 things - sex and money. Until you see relationship beyond these 2 things, you are not ready for life. And when you hop in without dealing with these two, with time it will collapse.

Blame IG, Twitter and Facebook.

Because, we are more open to divorce.

Nothing like suffering in marriage. OR For better, For worse.

Cos the women endured more sh!t unlike now!!!

lexy2014:


Did ur mother take severe beating in silence?

Pretty sure your mom did

Because our wives let their friends give them advice N0T kn0wing such advice is exactly what they cant do their own husband.

Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

Thank your start say you no marry a man like me.

Na beating I go take format your brain.

How can it last, when everything sacred to marriage have all beeen done even b4 marriage holds? Its now almost needless for many to get married because its only gonna restrict them from sleeping with multiple other sex partners

Righteousness2:
Whether our Fore Fathers or Great Grand parents or Grand Parents or our parents or ourselves! Any Marriage that is void of the standard set by Institutor of Marriage ( GOD ALMIGHTY), will Collaspe.

What is the Standard?

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.

Humans can change
Times and Seasons can Change
The World can change
The Word of GOD cannot Change. What it is written is written.
It's our choice to follow or not! Our choices have their corresponding results

Only reasonable thing I have liked by our Nairaland prophet

Too much expectations

Everybody feels they are expose and wise.
Everybody get options
Everybody get sense
Everybody don't want to be controlled
And lastly everybody gets tired.

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

woman and men now have more options

Because of urgent 2k

I hate it when someone creates a topic and then starts quoting everyone that comments in a bid to make the topic make front page.

SchoolPedia:
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Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

because both of them are claiming OGA for house......and they say ,there cannot be two captain in a ship....

Because marriages today is all about Who is ready and not who you love, because of their love on material things. Especially among women.

tradepunter:

Only reasonable thing I have liked by our Nairaland prophet

That's Because you just chose to become reasonable today

SchoolPedia:

Now nko?
What changed?

Their eyes Don open! No time to tolerate nonsense!!

SchoolPedia:
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Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

why won't it last when the foolish black eddiot called Naija women all see marriage as poverty eradication programme

when they were young you will see them opening that black fish hole to any diicck that comes it way not putting the consequences in consideration, but once getting old (evening newspaper stage) you will see them looking for who to dump there miserable expired body on but it's too late

anybody who is marrying those piece of black shiit this days is just putting curse on himself!

that institution called marriage is a scam

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

You never even complete first sentence, you don start dey find devil blame.

Chai. The brain of a black man.

Women have jobs now and don't need to depend on men for their daily survival so when they get frustrated they leave.

Women's hypergamous nature prevents them from being happy with a man who earns less than or the same as her so she gets unhappy and frustrated.

Men can get sex easily and they don't need marriage as a motivator to do that or even stay in a marriage.

There is no cultural pressure to stay married, before women were told to endure even when the man was using her face to practice martial arts and men were told to stay even when she was going to use his manhood to cook soup.

Our mothers and grandmothers tolerated shit. Todays women are not tolerating shit. Women are now empowered today too they see no reason to tolerate or endure crap

SchoolPedia:
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Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

It's some of the packages that came with civilisation.

All man eye don tear. Everybody don Wise up. Basically I believe marriages seem to fail more cos partners now have better options and may choose to walk away from toxic relationships and be criticized less for it unlike back in the 18th to 20th centuries when women couldn't leave abusive and irresponsible men without getting stigmatized. Many Women from those times led very unhappy lives too but just not documented.

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

You are intelligent

The concept of marriage has changed that is why.

People are busy marrying for lust.

Our parents married to build a home and create a family.

Our generation are marrying because of one (hiden) selfish interest or the other

SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day

Though, not excusing it....but men having extramarital affairs can’t be one of the reasons in comparison to our parents’ marriage.

Men have been having extramarital affairs from days of old, it is nothing new. Solomon had 700 wives and cheated on them with 300 side chicks. So, far in today's society, I have not seen any man who has marched Solomon's records, which could suggest that men have even moderated this loose behave in today's society compared to days of old.

I agree with your other points....and in addition; I think the high expectations placed on marriages today could be one of the reasons. If your mom or dad sits you down today and narrates to you, the sh!t they had to take and are still taking from dad or mom; you will say God forbid and wouldn’t take it from anyone.

Our parents are not saints, they have faults but they also have low expectations and high tolerance level for each other, the reverse is the case today.

Plus the new women's movement, feminists, etc....who all say, they have ‘awoken’ and believe that they have to claim ‘something’ that men and society have been depriving them of, for centuries now, of course, marriages will not last as before, because the equilibrium has shifted.

Many of the current average lifespans of marriage in our society is the new equilibrium and new normal, giving the changing dynamics between men and women.

We are surrounded with so many sexual items, in music, movies , social media etc, before Internet, you struggle to get pornographic contents but in today's world porn is free and having sex with various partners is a norm in our society.

debbydams:
in addition, social media.

you're very correct here,the social media affects marriages negatively.

sisisioge:
Marriages are no longer lasting because times have changed and the incidents are not entirely willing to change as well.

Back in the days, everyone knew their place:

1. Men were absolute financial provider while women were absolutely responsible for house keeping

(Not true. Never. My grandmother was a trader. The few women who were housekeepers were wives of very few civil servants.)

2. Men expected and received total submission, afterall he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

(True. Very domineering men. Length of marriage didn't mean healthy marriage)

3. Men worked, women were either housewives or helped with their husbands businesses.

(Not true. Women controlled trade, crafts and agriculture. I'm disappointed you're repeating these things. Africa didn't have full-time housewives).

4. Men were transparent with their affairs, instead of cheating, they rather take another wife which was totally acceptable by the wives.

(Not true. The men owed no one explanation or loyalty. They ran their lives while the women ran theirs. They only shared children)

5. Men provided the support system required for molding/grooming children.

(Uninvolved fathers. The women handled child upbringing singlehandedly).

6. Because she knew her place, she dared not denied oga seeex. Refer to number 1 above.

(Not true. A wealthy wife said no and nothing happened. The man had other wives to turn to.)

Nowadays, the world has changed. Everyone brings finances to the table. Remember, he who pays the piper reserves the right to dictate the tune. She cant be hustling in the field like you and still be expected to contribute domestic efforts like a full time housewife. Even seex will suffer as shes just as tired as you. It is well sha...Communication and fairness will make things better.

I think what changed is expectations: love came into the equation and faithfulness is expected. The men want their mothers in this century and the women want movie characters.