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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by elijahkayode(m): 6:25pm On Jan 12, 2021
bigjackass:
Everyone is trying to outplay each other in the game of eat your cake and have it. People marry for children and status. Married women are slaying and enjoying attention from other men. Husbands are also community dikk

bro u looking at it from d wrong direction, spiritually when a man & woman have sex they are bound forever
Genesis 2:24 KJVAAE
(Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh)
this is a sacred convenant before God, so just imagine if 20 guys have sex with a single lady over a 7yrs period shes bound to 20 different guys how do you cope with that

as a woman ur virginity is God Divine mercy on you (as a uoung a gal of 15yrs entering ur teenage years its proper for the demon called lust to come but u need to fight it)
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by goatmeat1(f): 6:25pm On Jan 12, 2021
BRATISLAVA:


Delicious name. wink

lol
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by iyababs: 6:27pm On Jan 12, 2021
The marriages of these days doesn't last because it is being taken for granted by the couple. During the wedding ceremony of those days,you will see the bride crying profusely because she is setting out to the world of the unknown but these days,you will see the bride dancing as if it is a competition all because she thinks she now knows everything since she has been visiting the man's house ,this is what i call "too know causes no respect" syndrome.
In summay,the marriages of this days does not last mainly due to "too know causes no respect" syndrome �
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Hassanmaye(m): 6:28pm On Jan 12, 2021
lilmax:
Men didn't change

Women changed.....most of the ones unmarried at the moment are rotten


They are not intelligent, innovative

They just want to party, hookup, hoe till the find a SIMP that is moved by tears, then hold him down for marriage because he has low self-esteem

According to studies, the simp eyes tends to open in the 7th year of marriage, we can say dna can cause his eyes to open, or he's no longer moved by her body






According to which studies

Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Samuelkirk(m): 6:28pm On Jan 12, 2021
Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.
you're not smart at all na people like you dem dey talk about

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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Hassanmaye(m): 6:31pm On Jan 12, 2021
crackhaus:
Everybody don wise my brother, that's the summary of the whole matter... cheesy
Ha

Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by edoairways: 6:31pm On Jan 12, 2021
Uyi168:
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The moment you bring the concepts of devil or any of those religious constructs into a discussion, you simply kill every form of logic neeeded to dissect the issues raised in the discussion..
It is the truth.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Cutehector(m): 6:32pm On Jan 12, 2021
rawfact:


I guess you are not married. Please don't ever fall for that claim.

Rather, marry a God-fearing lady that you are well older than, financially better than (i.e. she should be working - busy), of the same tribe with you, same faith (not just same religion) with you, and most-importantly, is HAPPY SUBMITTING to you. Make such a lady happy and you would experience bliss non-stop in your marriage.
the truth in this carry title for igbo land. Bravo bro.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by edoairways: 6:33pm On Jan 12, 2021
iyababs:
The marriages of these days doesn't last because it is being taken for granted by the couple. During the wedding ceremony of those days,you will see the bride crying profusely because she is setting out to the world of the unknown but these days,you will see the bride dancing as if it is a competition all because she thinks she now knows everything since she has been visiting the man's house ,this is what i call "too know causes no respect" syndrome.
In summay,the marriages of this days does not last mainly due to "too know causes no respect" syndrome �
That is not true, some bride still cry profusely in their weddings.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Shizzyguy: 6:33pm On Jan 12, 2021
staga:
Primary reason is a failure to adapt to the changing roles of the woman in a home. That's number one. Yes, women now work, but everyone should remember and perform their primary roles at home. Men are the breadwinners, women are the homemakers. Anything done outside these primary roles is supposed to be in an assistance/secondary role. Women should not be the ones bearing the burden of providing for the family. They can only assist where necessary to complement the man who should be pulling his own weight. Likewise, a man can assist with shopping and cooking once in a while, but it is not his primary duty.

Number two: pressure from the world to conform to the world's standards.

Number three: abandonment of Godly principles for marriage.

Some women worked in the 80s and 90s but the kind of work they did were the ones that gave them time for their families e.g teaching. Others had shops just in front of their houses so they could take care of the home easily. I think the right thing to say is that the type of work they do now is different which is not necessarily a bad thing. Even the virtuous woman described in the Prov 31 was a working woman who was still able to balance things. True that women should not be the one bearing the burden of providing for the family but life happens, the man may suffer job loss or downturn in fortunes. What is not right is for the man to sit back and not try to get back on his feet ASAP.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by edoairways: 6:35pm On Jan 12, 2021
staga:
Primary reason is a failure to adapt to the changing roles of the woman in a home. That's number one. Yes, women now work, but everyone should remember and perform their primary roles at home. Men are the breadwinners, women are the homemakers. Anything done outside these primary roles is supposed to be in an assistance/secondary role. Women should not be the ones bearing the burden of providing for the family. They can only assist where necessary to complement the man who should be pulling his own weight. Likewise, a man can assist with shopping and cooking once in a while, but it is not his primary duty.

Number two: pressure from the world to conform to the world's standards.

Number three: abandonment of Godly principles for marriage.
The stated points are valid reasons
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Hassanmaye(m): 6:35pm On Jan 12, 2021
womenareapes:
why won't it last when the foolish black eddiot called Naija women all see marriage as poverty eradication programme undecided

when they were young you will see them opening that black fish hole to any diicck that comes it way not putting the consequences in consideration, but once getting old (evening newspaper stage) you will see them looking for who to dump there miserable expired body on but it's too late undecided

anybody who is marrying those piece of black shiit this days is just putting curse on himself!

that institution called marriage is a scam
Haha feminists will come for you

Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by ofiko123(m): 6:37pm On Jan 12, 2021
1.Lust of the eye..

2.Lust of the flesh.

3.Pride of life.

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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by AgainstIslam(f): 6:37pm On Jan 12, 2021
INSTANTCASH345:


Is it your quoting? You are the only one who is indifferent here, check yourself and stop being boring to guys around you.

OK.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by omoharry(f): 6:41pm On Jan 12, 2021
staga:
Primary reason is a failure to adapt to the changing roles of the woman in a home. That's number one. Yes, women now work, but everyone should remember and perform their primary roles at home. Men are the breadwinners, women are the homemakers. Anything done outside these primary roles is supposed to be in an assistance/secondary role. Women should not be the ones bearing the burden of providing for the family. They can only assist where necessary to complement the man who should be pulling his own weight. Likewise, a man can assist with shopping and cooking once in a while, but it is not his primary duty.

Number two: pressure from the world to conform to the world's standards.

Number three: abandonment of Godly principles for marriage.
of all the comment so far ,I agree with yours 100%
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by omoharry(f): 6:44pm On Jan 12, 2021
abbey621:
The truth is simple, back then our mothers suffered lots of injustices. Back then our women had no say and many had to abndon anything called career or goals just for the family. Back then as a girl, you only hope for two things, marriage and children.

Nowadays women want more! Civilization has shown them that they too can be presidents, CEOs and so on. Women have also seen the calamity that comes from depending on men for their continued existence. Gone are the days of of the king regins supreme, nowadays it is all hail the king as long as the queen is pleased!

In conclusion, adapting is key! Men who do not adapt will end up divorcing more than once same goes for women, true wisdom comes when you realize marriage is very similar to a business contract, everyone must play their part or the contract is null and void!
You are right .
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Kormex: 6:46pm On Jan 12, 2021
One man one wife!!!!!! Just saying
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by annyz: 6:50pm On Jan 12, 2021
SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

Internet:
Most couples are on social media.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by peacettw: 6:51pm On Jan 12, 2021
Pochettino:
Because your mothers could take severe beatings in silence.

Enough said.

The women of those days endured a whole lot of unthinkable things and why wouldn't they when all they were at the time were dispensable objects procured with a singular goal to procreate miniature child workers.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by uvie66: 6:51pm On Jan 12, 2021
SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.
because women where too submissive then.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Originalsly: 6:51pm On Jan 12, 2021
1. Marriages in each generation do not last as long as in the previous one.

2. In previous generations travel was not as widespread nor technology as interactive especially since the availability and affordability of digital technology. A man can now interact face to face with females worldwide.... more women more choices more opportunities to cheat and stray from marriage.

3. New avenues for men to become rich and famous wayyyy faster and easier and younger than in previous generations. With money... comes women. Wayyy more women too have become financially independent... and now have the power and are willing to walk out of marriages.

4. Sexual exposure and experience at a wayyy younger age make it very difficult for present day married couples to be committed to each other... they want to continue playing the field and that eventually lead to marriage collapse.

5. Too many are pressured into marriage that they quickly run out of.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by CaptainFM1: 6:54pm On Jan 12, 2021
Smart phones and social media contributed to 50% of the breakup of our time.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Yusufisraelj(m): 6:56pm On Jan 12, 2021
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by GeneralPula: 6:57pm On Jan 12, 2021
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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Yusufisraelj(m): 7:00pm On Jan 12, 2021
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Mypeople2(m): 7:00pm On Jan 12, 2021
SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.
The role of social media has played a lot of negative impart on the life of couples .When you compare yourself with those on social media , your marriage will not last. Your marriage will not last when you keeping singing these songs " if you nor get money, hide your face", "Assurance " etc.People forgot that the things that musicians use to sing are just for fun and not for real.
Couples should stop comparing themselves with others .When you work together as a couple, you will accomplish much .But when you compare your wealth,your accomplishments with others, then division will set in.
Finally ,men or women should be contended with their spouses. After getting married to your wife, you are still looking for ladies with long legs ,big buttocks and boobs .You are married and you married ,stop looking at other people's future wives ,stay with your woman .Women should assist their husbands to greatness .Stop comparing him with other men.Make your own money as a woman and add it to the marriage .Some women will never buy matches of N50 naira with their money .Everything is man.That is appalling.Even if they buy the matches for N50, they will tell him they bought it for N500 naira .That is a lie
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Blueelf: 7:02pm On Jan 12, 2021
HRHQueenPhil:
Marriages are not lasting because many don't recognise the devil strategies to destroy the home. The long hours at work, the gadgets , the new satanic mentalities on marraige i.e women refusing to submit and men having extramarital affairs. All these are subtle but the devil key strategy on killing marriages. The couple must take conscious effort to make sure it works by all means Evry single day kiss

You are very wise Ma

In addition, there is the "Ego" problem.

Many not willing to apologize and take responsibility for wrongs done. Many not willing to bend the knee for the sake of peace. Maliciousness and unforgiveness. All these stem from an overinflated ego

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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Mryacks: 7:03pm On Jan 12, 2021
Liposure:
Because people marry for the wrong reasons. Any marriage started on the wrong foot is bound to fail no matter how you try to make it work. That is why it is good to build your relationship from the very scratch

My take too...
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Blueelf: 7:05pm On Jan 12, 2021
SchoolPedia:


Now nko?

What changed?

You no suppose reply am.

Her argument was devoid of sound reasoning and logic.

My Father never laid hand on my mum. Guess what, they are from different tribes - one Igbo and the other Yoruba and they have been married for more than 30yrs now and have been together for more than 35yrs.

Beating ko,, Dr Dre on the beat ni
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by LordReed(m): 7:07pm On Jan 12, 2021
SchoolPedia:
Let's have an open discussion here please.



Matured minds only.

I believe we will learn a lot here and help build better homes and families which will bring about better societies too.

Let's get the discussion running please.

Happy Sunday all.

Your fathers and mothers didn't have the same pressures society places on people now. Having a million naira is steadily loosing value such that you can spend that money in a single hour for something essential and it would be like you didn't even do anything. Also social dynamics have changed drastically, how society is structured is no longer the same our forebears were used to and it is still evolving, in some cases faster than we can keep up with.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by backbone503(m): 7:09pm On Jan 12, 2021
Nowadays, most ladies marry who is ready and available, and not who they love.
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 7:10pm On Jan 12, 2021
Cutehector:
the truth in this carry title for igbo land. Bravo bro.

You're welcome smiley

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