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Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by bastian5050(m): 10:23am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Firstly, there is nothing wrong with your wife or marriage you are just being under pressure by your inner self who is telling you something is wrong with her. Have you asked yourself why you married her and why you think she is acting this way? . Firstly, she saved you some embarrassment with the dowry issue which you should have paid pronto before she asked. Now see what you should do, start being a good husband by doing romantic things and please don't fake it. What It takes for you to have a good marriage is all in your hands. While you think your wife is the problem you will find out after you both sit and talk that the biggest problem is you. All what you should do is sit her down and have a good conversation with her telling her the plans you have and how you intend executing them with her help. 14 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Odingo1: 10:23am On Jan 22, 2021 |
The problem is yourself, you know you are financially stable and you got into marriage, unless if you are older 35 years but if you are below that age you rush into marriage with no adequate capital, what if you start having children. Who will pay hospital bills and the pressure of house rent, feeding and others. This exactly how you hear a story of husband stab wife or wife stab husband because without adequate capital in a home there will be katakata, at a stage your wife will start fucking around to sustain the children. 7 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Binance(m): 10:24am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Bennysam:How please? it's like you can't deduce from the post that OP is an arrogant type. Sometimes you need to use a balanced sense of judgement not blaming opposite sex all the time 4 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Nobody: 10:24am On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X:Op better pay what he owe!!!! |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by NORSIYK(m): 10:24am On Jan 22, 2021 |
JudgeKronos: If knew anything about Imo State you'd have known that women don't collect bride prices 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by sojfarm: 10:24am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Though, I only read your story to paragraph 3. Again, I need to mention this, I do not know your tribe oooo. But to me its like you sold your birth right. You wife told that she will announce that she has collected the dowry, what an evil. Summarily, you need to be a man and be in charge!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Some women are not weaker sex but rather wicked vessel!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by MissB46(f): 10:24am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Land is 150k in your area?? please what area is this 2 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by preshyusufu: 10:25am On Jan 22, 2021 |
I think she also means well, but she just need to understand that, you people need to take things gradually. Both of you are in it together, no need of trying to impress anybody. If she is working, both of you should put head together financially to run the home. stop thinking if you have married the wrong wife. NOBODY MARRIED ANGEL. 3 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by saintfizzo(m): 10:26am On Jan 22, 2021 |
BigSarah:would be a pleasure to engage you in a convo....your assertion up there just made my day 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Hydronium(m): 10:26am On Jan 22, 2021 |
These occurrences do not imply that she's the wrong partner. I have to say that in some of these cases, you've acted immaturely, such as threatening to end the marriage. You also started thinking of accommodation after the marriage. Really!? If you've not been able to pay her back her N50k for over two years, it tells me you're not thinking big and are not making enough effort to build your marriage. Truth is women love money, no matter how spiritual they are. Get used to that fact, and let it drive you to work hard and seek extra streams of income. Think big. Read helpful books. Renew your mind about money making and being a better spouse. Your wife will respect you more when you're better. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Zooposki(f): 10:26am On Jan 22, 2021 |
gbengaoyeladun: Imagine reneging on your word. That can erode all trust. In all ramifications, the OP is wrong. If I’m the wife, I will be so annoyed. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by DaddyGngeess(m): 10:26am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Na money way no dey, listen to Davido song assurance, na waiting most women want be that, sorry about that |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by virtousB: 10:26am On Jan 22, 2021 |
BigSarah: I wish i can like this twice! How will someone who cannot even afford to rent a decent apartment proceed with Marriage? They say love is blind, the cost of diapers will open your eyes to reality! 7 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by romenna: 10:27am On Jan 22, 2021 |
I dnt know d kind of men we have this days. In my home, there is notin like my money or your money. I earn x2 of wat my wife earns and she knows I have asset b4 I married her. Now everytin is ours. No mine or urs. I dnt understand wat u mean by borrow from her. Can one borrow wat rightfully belong to him? If ther is a financial obligation b4 d family, weda from ur side or from hers, check d family account and agree togeda on how to fulfil d above mentioned. Dem say Marry a wife in ur league of control, una no dey hear. Now Bush meat don catch hunter Thank God for d kind of wife God gave to me 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by OdefaGirl(f): 10:27am On Jan 22, 2021 |
You should search your heart if you truly loved her... because all you wrote here are just minor issues that couples settle. All you need is God's blessings so that some of the expenditures won't be too big for you to handle. 5 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Bluezy13(m): 10:29am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Please where do you reside, so I can get a land of 150k |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Think9ja(m): 10:29am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by IMASTEX: 10:29am On Jan 22, 2021 |
BigSarah:Simple! He thinks boyfriend & girlfriend is same with marriage. Love doesn't replace responsibilities that are real in marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by TheWalkingMind: 10:30am On Jan 22, 2021 |
Xisnin:Snippers are still cheap. Do you want this young man to commit suicide? |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by NoToPile: 10:30am On Jan 22, 2021 |
But she covered your shame by claiming she had collected the dowry, why have you not given her the dowry since 2018? Na wa. Besides You should have paid the 20k Dowry during the wedding its not too much please no matter how broke you were haba. These things have their significance its not proper to borrow such or letting your wife give you the money. Why are you even threatening your wife sef, You see someone ready to struggle with you wahala again. Nawaoo 9 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Kieel: 10:30am On Jan 22, 2021 |
That's not an excuse,no one should rush you or push you into marriage or pay bride price when you know you don't have the money Na you get your money so you should have waited for a convenient time when you know you have the money to pay the price price even if na 100k Apartment should come first before bride price..why the rush Learn to be cautious of your word,the word you said to your wife is enough to break your home. 3 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by BornToSucced(m): 10:30am On Jan 22, 2021 |
You are not married to the wrong person, you are not just man enough to manage the woman you married and your marriage. Women aren't perfect and so are we men. So learn how to manage your wife's excesses while also consolidating on her strengths. Recently, it's like you married people are always looking for a way to escape from your marriage, rather than face the issues in your marriage. You're not married to the wrong woman, and if you are, you made the choice for yourself.............so double up bruv!!! 8 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by mightyhazel: 10:31am On Jan 22, 2021 |
slawormiir:damu nigga u get 3m na him u dey lament say u abandon ur small bungalow u dey build for sapele road benin City? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by ShoeShineGuy: 10:31am On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X: @Bolded is my submission. OP should not blackmail that woman. She's entitled to that money because she did agree to save him from that embarrassment. He should even ask himself how many women in all reality these days will agree to marry a guy who can't pay meagre bride price of 50k. Truth is, the OP must man up. Marriage is not all bed of roses. There are a lot of things to be endured. Women are nearly the same and they only vary in one or two things character-wise. And if as a man, you really think you've completely known your girl before wedding then you must be suffering from the greatest deceit ever. OP is only having issues and regretting now because he can't cope financially. And money has a way of shaping the characters of women. For me, I can't see anything the woman has done wrong. Living in a room with a wife is hell enough. Not paying up her dowry as you promised for over 2years will keep her depressed and at little challenges you keep telling her she can go a separate way from you. Who threatens such?! 8 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by HarunaWest(m): 10:33am On Jan 22, 2021 |
you no get money, you go marry..Wife dey vex, you dey complain..Don't you even have shame? You are sleeping with her and you haven't even paid her bride price whereas our Bros is up there, after bride price ,father say till 2 months...Rabbish 4 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by 1000COMPUTERZ(m): 10:33am On Jan 22, 2021 |
i reserve my comment...................................... |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by OhiOfIhima: 10:33am On Jan 22, 2021 |
The lady is not a wrong woman bro.. She is just reacting to the situation on ground (financial status). The mistake you made was not to give her d dowry on that marriage day. Islamically, that's not allow and more also, not any right to determine the amount been paid because it has value every yr, though, it rightfully belong to the wife Sha. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by mbahdi(m): 10:34am On Jan 22, 2021 |
slawormiir:Come Oyo state u go see d one of dat 150k divide by two. But it's either Fulani herdsmen kill u or u kill dem.cos na dem go be ur neighbors there 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by edogu(m): 10:34am On Jan 22, 2021 |
DEmejioba1:My brother, uwa bu ofu mbia. Meaning our stay on this earth is just once, so make maximum use of it. Your wife seems to be taking advantage of your vulnerability. Do not allow anyone to push you around. There is nothing wrong in your wife lending money to you. But do make sure to pay back at your convenient time. Remember at your CONVENIENT TIME. Use dialogue to iron out your differences but if she still insist on using your vulnerability to blackmail, exploit or take advantage of you. Then it's time you put your foot down as a man. If she truly loves you, she'll mellow down and understand its no longer business as usual. But if she still insist? My brother, that woman wasn't meant for you. It's time to lock up and say goodbye for your sanity. Good luck! |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Osas4lav(m): 10:35am On Jan 22, 2021 |
It's not about her, it's about you. You need to put your house in order and understand that what really matters is your decision. Why should you worry about age to get into marriage in the first place. Please don't blame her. Ladies are emotional beings, never say words you don't mean, they don't forget. She loved you enough to marry you even when you didn't have even money for dowry. Please think about the children when they start coming i guess that would motivate you to do what it takes to make things work. Get a side hustle or what ever. PLEASE, don't later come here to say she forced you to get a 5th child, it's all on you bro. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by kalu61(m): 10:36am On Jan 22, 2021 |
You decided to enter into marriage because age was against you. Poverty is upon you if you don't hustle hard. Make money and all these petty issues wouldn't be. 6 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by harmony75: 10:36am On Jan 22, 2021 |
oga you're very wrong.. appreciate that woman and provide for your family and stop complaining you made that very bad statement against your union still you're still finding fault with your wife?! this is new year start again to make your home happy let's start again, try and God will bless your home! 6 Likes |
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