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Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by chrisj2(m): 5:49pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Of course, it will be nonsense for a non progressive. The answer for most of you is for him to increase his hustle as if you know he is not trying or the answer is to pray or accept that as a man he has to slave in a marriage... That is why the rich always get richer and they marry other rich people. If a man wants to marry a broke woman and an entitled one too because of stupid tradition and religion, that is their problem. Poverty exist and poor people still deserve love and understanding... There are broke ass women and family abroad too... In the UK, there was a programme called Jeremy Kyle - there, you see how people (mostly poor) in UK are not so disimilarYou think social security payments cover everything? There are white folks visiting food banks, prostituting themselves and begging. Poverty is poverty but it is not a crime to be poor or to be a poor man. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by GetMeRight: 5:54pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Kapilta: Good perspective but wrong tone because you are too harsh on the Op. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Avast(m): 6:04pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
RisenPhoenix1: Lol, double wàhálà for dead body. I always love to read your words, they are always powerful. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by MummyD2020(f): 6:07pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
BadRadio: Lol, u have reminded me of literature as a subject, far back in sec sch. I love that subject |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by chrisj2(m): 6:28pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
So, a woman marries a broke poor man with the help of his family and there after expected him to behave financially as someone that is alright. He made a mistake but I also blame his family and tradition/culture... In our country people are ready to lend you money for functions and events but no education or business or other progressive matters. Your wife also now strongly believes that the marriage was a mistake - she probably did not think it through properly or expected things to go certain ways. Or perhaps like one of my sister-in-law, she thinks just because the family as a while is alright, they will take care of her and her broke family and her entitlements. Sad! She has called your bluff on the divorce thing. She is ready to move on too... So, your move! The wife is ok as per what was written and the low expectations of Nigerian women but I cannot abide by women thinking their money is just theirs and the man's hustle is for everyone including her family. Nonsense in 2021! 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by larryking540: 6:54pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Bennysam:it's quite obvious the wife don old |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Rhozabeth(m): 6:58pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
You are a matured man and u are here talking like a baby! First ask urself what u think u know about ur wife before you married her? You obviously know nothing which means all the years of courtship was a waste! Truth be told it will get to a stage that u will not be able to say a word in that house if u don't correct this anomaly! If I were in ur shoes, I will make that statement 2 more times and I will damn the consequences and that's for a start! 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by yinkbell: 7:12pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
TrueChristians: You are hasty in your conclusion. Remember, Christian are not to judge anything before time. Even if he missed it in marriage, there is no situation that is beyond redemtion. our lives ain't beyond redemption, how do you think someone else's marriage is beyond redemption? If you read the article very well, you should be able to deduce that this is as a result of finacial pressure which with time when they sit down and talk the issue over with advice from good people all around, they will get over it. The marriage is too young for you to give such conclusion. I pray that God make a way for the guy and uphold his family. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Rushna27(f): 7:13pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
with all dat u ave explained, to me u are guilty ooo... where are d families dat sponsored ur wedding now, are dey experiencing all dis with you? u borrowed money from madam for an apartment of her choice without considering u bin able to sustain it..... u need to be man enough and stand ur ground on wot u can afford without bin at anyone's mercy.. well, u can keep yielding to her satisfaction if she is taking d responsibility of the head of the family.. in asmuch as u shud not disregard her opinion u too shud not fail in realising wot u can afford... two good heads are better than one not just a head ooooo... Goodluck.. and moreover, always know dat every marriage gat it's own horrible side but we all package it to make it work out.. fight for ur marriage if u wants it .Goodluck 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by KLand(m): 7:15pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
You did not make mistake. Both of you just need to understand each other better to live better. Other points to note: 1. Look for the money and pay up the outstanding bride price. It will continue to affect your manly pride if it remains unpaid; 2. Reason with your wife but don't allow yourself to be pressured into doing things you will come to regret later; 3. Your wife needs to be less selfish; if she has the money she should contribute to the family finances rather becoming a lender to you. 4. Don't give up on your marriage because it can still work. 5. Please don't think of divorce, even if you joking. If you have the time pls see the article in this link: https://victorscorner.com/2016/10/07/towards-a-better-marriage-7-shut-the-door-on-divorce/ |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by remirez07(m): 7:15pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
slawormiir:you sick ���� |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by malcom1X: 8:07pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
SmartyPants: No one loves a man, men are just slaves in this world, only your child can love you or your wife can indoctrinate them to hate you. Just do your thing. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Chinny024(f): 8:07pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Where is 2 bedroom 100k please... In which country? |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by life707: 8:26pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
@DEmejioba1, You didn't marry the wrong person. The first 3yrs (shorter for some and longer for others) is the getting to understand each other years in marriage and many people go through this stage that is unspoken of nor taught anywhere. Maturity is required in dealing with a spouse. So tell yourself you won't take alot to heart when things are said between you guys. She is your treasure, protect her and love her and over time I am sure she will return the love and understanding u truly seek from your woman. Don't get yourself into petty arguments, it doesn't portray you as the man or example for her to follow. I left out the monetary aspect because there is no substitute to not having money in a marriage. Your best bet is to plan with what u have and don't make yourself a willing tool for indebtedness. Wish you the best of your early years in marriage. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by simplepee(f): 8:33pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Useless shameless man. Reason women should not bother going all out for most of these men. They are never satisfied and very ungrateful. 2 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by GetMeRight: 8:36pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
TrueChristians: Honestly speaking, nothing is wrong with his wife. Just a financial problem and teething problems that are always associated with young and new couples, we all passed through that phase. At least, my wife and I did. Then, Op should know how make firm beneficial decisions for the family and stand by it |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Philipsdael(m): 8:38pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
But one huge mistake u made was to go for a marriage without you having the dowry ! Geeeezzz That's the first thing u were suppose to have before thinking of even sewing any new dress for the occasion. Now ...to mend things... Pay the balance so u can regain your prestige as a man and a husband. Cut your coat according to your available material 2 Likes |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by life707: 8:39pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
KLand: Nice one |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by GetMeRight: 8:41pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
simplepee: You don't need that, op doesn't need it. Point out his mistakes and advice him if you have any. His marriage is young, he's still learning and understanding things. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by SmartyPants(m): 8:50pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
malcom1X: Na. This line of thinking is a Nigerian thing. I'm thankful that I have been privileged to see love from the perspective of other ethnicities so I know this is not how it should be and it is not how it is in other countries. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by aniblue(m): 9:18pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Your issue is finance, not your wife. Hustle up and your home will be blue..... |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by BRATISLAVA: 9:21pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
Emperorx:maybe Ebonyi |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Pelxmiye(m): 10:09pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
afilaka: Good one ma! Also women should know that a man and a woman after marriage are one, nothing like my money is my money and his money is our money, good men would always make their women happy, as such women should support in every way they can without necessarily expecting something back in return, you did well ma 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Pelxmiye(m): 10:26pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
SmartyPants: I agree with you my brother, even devoted Christian , Muslim girls think this same ,the few who don't are outliers, whose perception of what a union should be was influenced by their upbringing or exposure and such women are few and far between and can even be indoctrinated by friends and bad experiences from men, but still I few a man needs to have his dignity protected, there never should be anything like "my money is my money and yours is ours" in a healthy union, since both parties are working towards the same goal, but this is Nigeria sha, I have seen men who collected money from their wives to invest in businesses that would bump up the income of their families, but eventually were unlucky with the results they expected and had to borrow money from elsewhere to pay back their wives ...my advise still is to marry someone you can control |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Sweetnwa1(m): 10:41pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
JudgeKronos: No be lie oo. Currently imo girl dey deal with me after three children. I can't even advise my enemy to marry from imo, these set of people are just too mean, wicked, greedy and heartless. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by Codyt(m): 11:51pm On Jan 22, 2021 |
slawormiir:I don laugh scatter My guy you too funny |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by ebosed: 4:51am On Jan 23, 2021 |
DEmejioba1: You give woman sperm, she process and give you a child. Never speak carelessly, Never promise her anything, cause she won't forget. Don't talk and do. Do and talk. Your wife is trying to boost your self-esteem, appreciate her. And pay her money. If you borrow from bank or friends, don't you payback with Interest? Double your hustle 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by amazing101x: 5:25am On Jan 23, 2021 |
Bro, don't build house yet, try out some business , buying and selling, edibles or farm produce. |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by onome2013: 6:40am On Jan 23, 2021 |
All women are the same. If Trump or Boden or Buhari tells you what their wives are doing them , you will be shocked. Way forward is to bear until you get a better job to update your responsibilities.Dont use that bad statement on her again. Things will be alright |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by IVORY2009(m): 6:41am On Jan 23, 2021 |
onome2013: Onome na be so |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by iamL(f): 11:24am On Jan 23, 2021 |
This is what you get when u marry a broke Nigeria man. Your wife marries a broke poor man with the help of his family and there after expected him to behave financially as someone that is alright you label her wrong partner. A broke man that wants to divorce, sey u shut up by force talk to her like that again na and watch her kick u out, see why a lady should financially stable before getting married if the Op is financially ok he would have ended his marriage over is own fault. Wicked man of an ungrateful mind. 1 Like |
Re: Three Experiences That Make Me Think I'm Married To The Wrong Person by cooooooks(m): 11:47am On Jan 23, 2021 |
Did she marry herself? Are you living in the apartment with yourself? Family means partnership. You two are supposed to SHARE the burden of living. Did you guys know each other before marriage? DEmejioba1: |
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