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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:02am On Mar 02
TheVictim01:
Consider her leanings unto FUN.
yeah I do and I dont like it. I tried bro, she likes mostly going to fancy places just to eat and dress up for photos. It's fun initially but after a while you see how shallow it is. Her shows too are just there, very predictable.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by pretteemee(f): 11:03am On Mar 02
needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o grin

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.




I've come to notice that in this part of the world we live in, most beautiful girls/ladies really do not have anything meaningful to contribute to the lives of either their families,friends or partners.

It is NOT because they are so dumb but because the only thing they think about is how to impress a guy with beautiful looks and intimidate the ladies with fancy wears.

They worry about slaying the streets and there's no room for the brain to think on how to be productive and useful to themselves.

So this is it, I must be honest with you....If you are looking for a girl in the picture you just portrayed....then, you are on a loooonnnng thing.

Of course, we have your kind of woman, beautiful,brilliant,smart,not easily provoked or aggressive and I'm sure you also like them sexy but you're gonna need to be very patient and lower your standard or better still take your eyes off the Physically adorable, try the ugly ones.

Guys ain't left out too...Just like kidwaya and laycon

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by TheVictim01(m): 11:09am On Mar 02
Lobatan!!! Adhere to her leanings and see yourself getting dumped. Las Las, try come up with script for acting, it might work.

needanswer:
yeah I do and I dont like it. I tried bro, she likes mostly going to fancy places just to eat and dress up for photos. It's fun initially but after a while you see how shallow it is. Her shows too are just there, very predictable.
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:10am On Mar 02
pretteemee:





I've come to notice that in this part of the world we live in, most beautiful girls/ladies really do not have anything meaningful to contribute to the lives of either their families,friends or partners.

It is NOT because they are so dumb but because the only thing they think about is how to impress a guy with beautiful looks and intimidate the ladies with fancy wears.

They worry about slaying the streets and there's no room for the brain to think on how to be productive and useful to themselves.

So this is it, I must be honest with you....If you are looking for a girl in the picture you just portrayed....then, you are on a loooonnnng thing.

Of course, we have your kind of woman, beautiful,brilliant,smart,not easily provoked or aggressive and I'm sure you also like them sexy but you're gonna need to be very patient and lower your standard or better still take your eyes off the Physically adorable, try the ugly ones.

Guys ain't left out too...Just like kidwaya and laycon


This lowering your standard stuff is like the norm. You spoke well, cant fault anything you typed. It's just a sad reality though.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:13am On Mar 02
TheVictim01:
Lobatan!!! Adhere to her leanings and see yourself getting dumped. Las Las, try come up with script for acting, it might work.


At the stage, she is looking for a ring and I am checking if she is the one. So a lot of compromises between us to just to see if it can work but it's boring.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by TheVictim01(m): 11:15am On Mar 02
Seek advice from Buhari for now. Las Las, Lobatan.

needanswer:


At the stage, she is looking for a ring and I am checking if she is the one. So a lot of compromises between us to just to see if it can work but it's boring.
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:18am On Mar 02
TheVictim01:
Seek advice from Buhari for now. Las Las, Lobatan.


You tried bro. Good advice you have. I have tried them though. I prefer advice from Lai Mohammed instead

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by ivolt: 11:19am On Mar 02
needanswer:


I have gone 2 years before without a date. And it was okay but going out long doesnt mean when you come back to dating things will change for the better, hope you get?

Your advice isn't bad but I have tried it before and when I came back it was still the same, plus i am not hurting. I'm good emotional, I am just worried that there are gorgeous girls everywhere i can date but they like something extra to keep me from becoming bored once the relationship starts or i settle down with them.

You are not addressing the real issues.
Why do you need to settle down when you are not cut for it?
How will settling down help you?
Why adopt a somewhat forced lifestyle if you know it will likely not fit you?

Answering these questions will help you determine if you are living for yourself or others.

Don't go into marriage with the mindset that someone somewhere will help you fight boredom.
Nobody, not even professionals can maintain a peak performance for years on end. Whoever you marry will become "normal" with time. With that may come resentment.

The truth is that marriage is not for everybody.
If you still decide to forge ahead, at least let your partner know what they are getting into.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by WestAfricaan: 11:19am On Mar 02
needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o grin

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.

Oga new phones get released everyday. It's the same thing with women, you will keep meeting women that are more younger and Beautiful than your present gf.

My point is it's better to marry all of them

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by studentofTruth: 11:20am On Mar 02
Lucrativress:

Can't you see that you are not intelligent?
I asked you a simple question and you couldn't even answer right

Why are you attacking the young man. What he considers intelligence may not be what you consider intelligence.

To some, especially the ladies, intelligence is how fast and witty one can be when chatting or how well they can use stickers and emojis to spice up the gist.

To some, especially guys, it's how well she can discuss topical issues, politics, sports, or other stuff not related to her book knowledge.

For someone like me, it's about knowing the trends in tech and digital space, understanding the financial markets, and being able to discuss events happening around the world — including central banks meetings and decisions. I always imagine coming in, and she asks me: "hey boo, what do you think about this or that stock? See their last quarter earnings, this and that"

My point is, most times, it's really about one's area of interest, and it goes both ways.

So, the most important thing is to find someone who shares the same interests as you.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by WestAfricaan: 11:24am On Mar 02
needanswer:


This your picture eh grin

E carry weight
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:24am On Mar 02
WestAfricaan:


Oga new phones get released everyday. It's the same thing with women, you will keep meeting women that are more younger and Beautiful than your present gf.

My point is it's better to marry all of them

A legend! But I dont stan, ask fela or Solomon for reasons
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:25am On Mar 02
studentofTruth:


Why are you attacking the young man. What he considers intelligence may not be what you consider intelligence.

To some, especially the ladies, intelligence is how fast and witty one can be when chatting or how well they can use stickers and emojis to spice up the gist.

To some, especially guys, it's how well she can discuss topical issues, politics, sports, or other stuff not related to her book knowledge.

For someone like me, it's about knowing the trends in tech and digital space, understanding the financial markets, and being able to discuss events happening around the world — including central banks meetings and decisions. I always imagine coming in, and she asks me: "hey boo, what do you think about this or that stock? See their last quarter earnings, this and that"

My point is, most times, it's really about one's area of interest, and it goes both ways.

So, the most important thing is to find someone who shares the same interests as you.

How can I like this more than once

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by oma19(f): 11:26am On Mar 02
See nobody is perfect the same way you calling ur ex shallow someone else is talking bad about you.
So you need to sit and think how you getting it wrong.
Do a quick survey example by calling an ex and asking her how you got it wrong.
I believe you judge and you have already accepted all are shallow.
believe me you may be surprise what they say about you.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:37am On Mar 02
oma19:
See nobody is perfect the same way you calling ur ex shallow someone else is talking bad about you.
So you need to sit and think how you getting it wrong.
Do a quick survey example by calling an ex and asking her how you got it wrong.
I believe you judge and you have already accepted all are shallow.
believe me you may be surprise what they say about you.

Sure, I try to keep things civilised with my ex's, but I am show some will speak ill of me
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by pretteemee(f): 11:38am On Mar 02
needanswer:


This lowering your standard stuff is like the norm. You spoke well, cant fault anything you typed. It's just a sad reality though.



Yeah...it's a norm and it's sad that it has come to stay.
We all have taste,desires and likes.
Everyone want a perfect partner but its unfortunate that they do not exist.

What is common is beauty without brain,brain without beauty, beauty plus brain minus good character,brain without beauty,good character without beauty plus brain....We can't fix this or remain single because there's mystery in being all alone,you need a companion...yeah ask those who have choosen to be single.

We can only choose the fault(s) we can cope with or tolerate.
So the 'Lower your standard' song is to say when you get a good looking lady with few good traits and flaws that you can manage,please keep her.

If you are out for a balanced partner, you might end up deciding to remain Single for ever.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by PearlFid(f): 11:40am On Mar 02
needanswer:


I have gone 2 years before without a date. And it was okay but going out long doesnt mean when you come back to dating things will change for the better, hope you get?

Your advice isn't bad but I have tried it before and when I came back it was still the same, plus i am not hurting. I'm good emotional, I am just worried that there are gorgeous girls everywhere i can date but they like something extra to keep me from becoming bored once the relationship starts or i settle down with them.
you'll remain single or think marriage is not for everyone if you keep looking for Miss perfect(miss perfect is someone who fits into your desire completely), and unfortunately you can't find such, look for who you love and love her completely with her imperfections. (imperfections you can deal with, not the one that will kill you).

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 11:41am On Mar 02
PearlFid:
you'll remain single or think marriage is not for everyone if you keep looking for Miss perfect(miss perfect is someone who fits into your desire completely), and unfortunately you can't find such, look for who you love and love her completely with her imperfections. (imperfections you can deal with, not the one that will kill you).

Thank you.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by uthlaw(m): 11:47am On Mar 02
needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o grin

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.
exactly my thoughts!
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by adekayo1234(m): 11:53am On Mar 02
Jsaviour:


I can agree with you that most women are shallow. Most men are shallow too.

I think it's predominantly an African thing.

Nevertheless, there are still inspiring and interesting men and women just that they are few.

I guess it has to do with your birth month, exposure and self awareness.

Some people get bored easily when the spice isn't there.

Why you don't always see women complain same thing about men is because they either can't wait to see who will take them in or don't have any level of self awareness.

Keep looking until you see what you are looking for. Never settle else you might become miserable.

This is a wake up call to both men and women to develop and work on themselves.

Some women only care about their makeup, and body while their brain, emotions, social capital etc are zero.

I don't like boring or shallow men either.

I get tired of people who have nothing else than money and sex to talk about.

Can we talk and discuss about business ideas, global issues, books, events, future aspirations, vision, goals, leadership etc.




I scrolled through the thread looking for this comment cos you have said it all. I value self development above all else. Just imagine dating someone that doesn't understand sarcasm or someone that doesn't care about current affairs. Some people are just empty upstairs and have nothing else to offer
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by Slimsly100(f): 12:10pm On Mar 02
If I may ask, are you perfect
Do you see yourself as someone a lady can say to have met her own requirements in a man

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 12:11pm On Mar 02
pretteemee:




Yeah...it's a norm and it's sad that it has come to stay.
We all have taste,desires and likes.
Everyone want a perfect partner but its unfortunate that they do not exist.

What is common is beauty without brain,brain without beauty, beauty plus brain minus good character,brain without beauty,good character without beauty plus brain....We can't fix this or remain single because there's mystery in being all alone,you need a companion...yeah ask those who have choosen to be single.

We can only choose the fault(s) we can cope with or tolerate.
So the 'Lower your standard' song is to say when you get a good looking lady with few good traits and flaws that you can manage,please keep her.

If you are out for a balanced partner, you might end up deciding to remain Single for ever.

It's TRUE. A well thought out answer. Thanks for sharing it with me and us.
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by NamelessOGBENI(m): 12:21pm On Mar 02
needanswer:


As long as you got money and you know how to tall to a lady they will always be at your disposal but I dont want to keep more than 1. But still I'm tired.
What a conundrum....
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by Sixfeetbelle: 12:56pm On Mar 02
pansophist:
What most men have come to realise is that "the struggle to develop themselves to be a quality man is nothing compared to the struggle of finding a virtuous woman". Those with good wives do not know how blessed they are, especially when they didn't struggle hard to find her.

Furthermore, the way women see themselves is not the same way men sees them. You might have experienced a scenario where you got a faint idea about a woman maybe through her online profile or recommendation from someone but after personal interaction and dealings, you realise she is just like the rest, a thing you can see, but she can't see.

Put yourself out there the more, and do not go strictly for beauty, it's deceiving. Or you may just enjoy the ride and settle down when a good one comes your way. It's better than enduring hell in the hand of a troublesome woman.

Somehow your post implied that men are decidedly good and that women are the ones who need to be sifted.

Not every man 'wishing' to settle down actually deserves a good woman by his side.

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by Sixfeetbelle: 1:09pm On Mar 02
needanswer:


Sure, I try to keep things civilised with my ex's, but I am show some will speak ill of me

That's the point.

Let them speak ill of you. Let them tell you of your shortcomings as a boyfriend and use it to evaluate yourself.

You might be surprised to find out something about yourself that you'd never have agreed you possessed
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by SweetCunt97(f): 1:16pm On Mar 02
needanswer:
Yeah, its hard o. All girls are the same to me (when I say all girls, I only mean gorgeous girls)

But beauty aside, most girls are the same. They are just in different packages but once I look past the beauty and into the person I get discouraged...nothing makes her special than the last or the next even my current girl.

Only one girl ever stood out, beautiful, emotional intelligent, charismatic, funny, homely, ****** and she was smart about alot of things, we both Learnt new stuffs talking with each other, things most girls normally dont like. She is a big GOT and Kdrama fan and because of her I looked into Korean movies and culture even wrote two novels based on kdrama that I published. But she could kill if she got angry, very violent. she spoilt my stuffs, na there matter spoil with her anger. If she had stayed maybe we would have killed each other, but if she wasn't violent she was a perfect fit. She has her own money (last born for that matter) and her family are well to do like mine, it would have been perfect.

I see my friends get married almost monthly but truth is their babes seem shallow to me, yes they are beautiful like mine but shallow. Me I cant cope o, after 1 months I will be bored of the entire marriage, if not for boredom I for dey with my babe and not here o grin

Guys how did you select your partner?

Me I am thinking this marriage is not for all o.
Well, this should let you know no one is perfect. You got a seemingly perfect lady but with a very bad temper. Wo no over this all this shit, when u get to d bridge fvcking cross it as life waits for no man.
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by cococandy(f): 1:21pm On Mar 02
Marry a man. You’ll find all you seek. And probably all men won’t be the same to you

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Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by cococandy(f): 1:22pm On Mar 02
Sixfeetbelle:


Somehow your post implied that men are decidedly good and that women are the ones who need to be sifted.

Not every man 'wishing' to settle down actually deserves a good woman by his side.
you don’t know these folks.
Illogical pompous debris. Nothing more
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by Lewisdinho(m): 1:24pm On Mar 02
LMAO
needanswer:


It takes one to know one.
Re: It's Not Easy Picking One Woman To Settle With. by needanswer: 1:43pm On Mar 02
Sixfeetbelle:


That's the point.

Let them speak ill of you. Let them tell you of your shortcomings as a boyfriend and use it to evaluate yourself.

You might be surprised to find out something about yourself that you'd never have agreed you possessed

Hmmm. But that doesnt mean I should settle for someone that is boring regardless.

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