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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by TheRealestGuy(m): 3:27pm On Apr 07
emmaodet:


It is not about redpill bro, it is what it is.
Over the years, have learnt to face my fear.
If a woman travels and cheat, So what? What next? Is that the end of life for me? The time i placed my life and purpose on women is over bro, have learnt to focus more on things i can control than what i can't.
A woman is a human like me with her own mind, life and decisions. What she does are solely controlled by her and there is nothing i can do about that.
She can decide to bang all the men from Egbeda to Iyana ipaja ayobo and there is fuuucking nothing i can do about that BUT what i can control is myself - my life, adding values to myself and positioning myself in better and better places to meet more and more better people in my own little way.
Bro, have outgrown that stage of losing a woman, have outgrown the Phobia and very very very very Selfish now.
I watch out for my interest now and i love it.

Lol.

You are actually doing the exact opposite of facing your fear.

Emotional bonding and love is a natural human need and no amount of avoidance can change that.

You see, in all meaningful relationships, vulnerability is always key.

Of course being a pragmatist is great. Have boundaries and all that. And surely no one can be expected to be 100% loyal or trustworthy.

Even you yourself are not.

These are facts of life.

However, going through life avoiding vulnerability means you're actually weak and unable to embrace your fears.

Find someone who shares same values and outlook to life and share your life with them, no matter how long/short it lasts.

Life is meaningless and monotonous without love and emotional bonds my guy.

We all need love.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Willy123(m): 3:33pm On Apr 07
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lalasticlala:
What's the coldest way you found out your relationship was over?
After aborting my pregnancy..l still went to her sister's wedding that she have given me an Iv earlier on hoping to still patch up things with her....she was surprised to see me and my friend. When we about to leave she was seeing us off only for the guy (guy that had dump her before and came back) just order her to stop and come back. It was then l know is over.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Nonexistent: 3:42pm On Apr 07
Hassanmaye:
why don't you do married women?
One of the things a young man shouldn't be doing if he wants to live long and be successful in life.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Youngpo413: 3:47pm On Apr 07
SaintAlbert53:

No dear.. A woman was created from a man's rib. women are the best creature created after men, you will definitely meet the one meant for and you'd be happy you never ended up the ones that hurt.
true true you no get sense,with this mentality,those hôes will continue to do you strong thing.....SIMPle man.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by luminouz(m): 3:48pm On Apr 07
TheRealestGuy:


Lol.

Why do people who wanna stop heavy drinking or smoking avoid bars and smoke joints?

Of course it doesn't mean it would make them stop but there is a good reason.

I suppose going by your logic even married people can decide not to live together, cos it really doesn't matter?

Stop all these idealism and whataboutism and get real man.

Cheers.

Who is the idealist here now? I just gave you a real life scenario and you dey tell me I should get real. What's more real than what I have said. Whoever will cheat will cheat, long distance or not. That's the real deal nigha.

You don't want your fiancée to go to serve far from you because you fear she will fall. To have that fear(that's not precaution) means you have already lost her. You don't think you are good enough,man enough, worthy enough for her to stick with you,despite being in camp or doing NYSC. There are girls who would, that yours let you down didn't mean all other girls WOULD lose their discipline.

Witha guy like me, my gf knows that my fear is never if she cheats or not, she knows once I detect any misbehaviour,I simply upgrade to the next beautiful babe on my list. She knows I have options. So if she fuqs up,I won't start crying and wailing, I will simply get another girl. Once a woman knows you fear losing her or such BS, you are telling her you don't have options and that makes you undesirable to her. A woman whose man is desirable by other women is always quick to stay in line,so as not to lose him.

I'm telling you real shiit hommie. Tested and trusted stuff. My personal experience.

N.B: what dafuq are you on about people who don't want to drink avoid bars and such? How does that tie to relationships stuffs about long distance or NYSC? Are the bars far away or the men fuqin their drinks?
You on some weird shiit nigga.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by TheRealestGuy(m): 3:52pm On Apr 07
luminouz:


Who is the idealist here now? I just gave you a real life scenario and you dey tell me I should get real. What's more real than what I have said. Whoever will cheat will cheat, long distance or not. That's the real deal nigha.

You don't want your fiancée to go to serve far from you because you fear she will fall. To have that fear(that's not precaution) means you have already lost her. You don't think you are good enough,man enough, worthy enough for her to stick with you,despite being in camp or doing NYSC. There are girls who would, that yours let you down didn't mean all other girls WOULD lose their discipline.

Witha guy like me, my gf knows that my fear is never if she cheats or not, she knows once I detect any misbehaviour,I simply upgrade to the next beautiful babe on my list. She knows I have options. So if she fuqs up,I won't start crying and wailing, I will simply get another girl. Once a woman knows you fear losing her or such BS, you are telling her you don't have options and that makes you undesirable her. A woman whose man is desirable by other women are always quick to stay in line,so as not to lose him.

I'm telling you real shiit hommie. Tested and trusted stuff. My personal experience.

N.B: what dafuq are you on about people who don't want to drink avoid bars and such? How does that tie to relationships stuffs about long distance or NYSC? Are the bars far away or the men fuqin their drinks?
You on some weird shiit nigga.

You clearly do not understand how an analogy works.

Also, your head is so deep in your ass you think redpill has made you figure out women.

I laugh at your naivete.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by luminouz(m): 3:59pm On Apr 07
TheRealestGuy:


You clearly do not understand how an analogy works.

Also, your head is so deep in your ass you think redpill has made you figure out women.

I laugh at your naivete.


Forgive me darling!! grin

Bye Felicia

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by MsAnne(f): 5:30pm On Apr 07
My own breakfast was served through a text message, the message sef shock me�
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by MrMacinterchi1(m): 5:45pm On Apr 07
1stHooligan:
She went for NYSC and never looked back. I don't much blame her but I hope she never finds what she's looking for.

She left with a part of me I am trying to get back
Bros, you are holding yourself in bondage . Free her, and free yourself. Do it for your sake.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by MrMacinterchi1(m): 5:52pm On Apr 07
SaintAlbert53:
very heart breaking... sad

she went to Nysc camp, I couldn't reach her after the third day she got there. I tried so many times to connect to her, but all attempts failed.
Finally, her line went through and when i asked her why happened, she confidently told me she gave her phone to someone who needed it urgently.
We talked, laughed and at the end of our conversation, she told me this: Teddy, I am sorry things aren't going as planned before I came here, i am seeing someone else and i really like him so much..

I was speechless and i no cry o but tears dey rust down my eyes..
Then I told her;

Me: Who's this guy?..

Ex: You don't need to know him Teddy, I just want you to know we won't be talking on the phone anymore because he doesn't enjoy me talking to other guys..

Me: Mummy u mean this thing abi na Yahoo format be this?

Ex: Just try and understand, like I told you when we met the first time, I don't like to have anything with my ex-. So, please get someone to love you, i am sure you will be fine in no time. Bye, God bless you.

It was like i was listening to one of John Legend's song until she updated all her social apps dp with the new guy's pic and wrote MY KING..
OH MY GOD.. SIGHHH
I'm just laughing out loud here Lol
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Nobody: 5:58pm On Apr 07
luminouz:


You already told the world his name na abi no be Arinze? undecided

No wonder the geh duped you. Why on earth would you blame Arinze and not your own gf? You scared or just that plain simping? You are very slow. If Arinze no fuq am,even me luminouz go fuq am, cuz you are just too slow.
You attacked the man and left your own gf as if the man forced or raped her! You forget that the agreement lies on the woman to say yes or no. She already started cheating on you when she saw you are slow. How can you not know the 'i'm a virgin format' is as old as hell. No real nigha will give any woman so much without vetting her first. Even people told you but still you no listen,come dey blame Arinze. That old fuq cheated on his wife, yes but never forced your babe or raped her.


Come to the redpill. That's the only thing that would save you. Check the romance thread and you will see the redpill thread. If you don't take this pill, your next gf will have luminouz name on her lips and give you heart attack
The campaign for redpill(cult) is real.Mr Churchill go and eat shit
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Zontrident: 6:09pm On Apr 07
Hmm this comment section Is interesting oh for me that is a 200lv virgin fear Don grip me oh be like I go forget relationship mata till I graduate start de earn and settle down, but I'm afraid I'll be inexperienced nd I won't know how to act in a relationship
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by AmuRubber(m): 6:12pm On Apr 07
SaintAlbert53:

the truth of the whole thing is that the guy is a niece to Solomon Dalung. The sport minister with the red cap.


He is a nephew, not a niece. A niece is a female.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by MrMacinterchi1(m): 6:19pm On Apr 07
extol1:

I noticed something about you, you are always saying I came to read comments. madam, say your own and let people learn from you
it's allowed to read comments nah. Free the girl.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by MrMacinterchi1(m): 6:25pm On Apr 07
Aksnoopy:
Lala!!! Lol this heart break will definitely go round.
A voice note of her conversation with her EX played while she was playing music out loud with her phone. The way she rushed the phone, I grabbed it before her and she struggled for it and later left it with me.
We both listened to it, she couldn't look me in the eye. I was just smiling. She left the phone and went home.
A spirit actually told me not to put on the generator that very day, very unusual, I obeyed that spirit.
I couldn't sleep that night. She came back for her phone and threatened to seize some of my property, I told her I will arrest her if I ever see her in my house again.
I refused to give it back and told her she is never getting it back.
I gave the phone out to a lil bro. grin.

I didn't just take the phone back, I took back everything I ever got for her, most of them were in my name, lol!

Niggas, if you brake up with a bitch, take your properties back ASAP! cool

If a bitch complains that you have been fucking her recklessly, tell her to give you back your semen as well. grin
Lol to your last line.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Hassanmaye(m): 6:32pm On Apr 07
Nonexistent:
One of the things a young man shouldn't be doing if he wants to live long and be successful in life.
I will take this advice serious, but do you have proof?
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by luminouz(m): 7:04pm On Apr 07
Warrgidanairala:
The campaign for redpill(cult) is real.Mr Churchill go and eat shit
K
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Nonexistent: 7:29pm On Apr 07
Hassanmaye:

I will take this advice serious, but do you have proof?
I have heard stories but my own cousin and two of his friends are all the proof that I need. Today, three of them are working as hard as lionesses and eating as hyenas eat leftovers.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by felzokugo(m): 8:02pm On Apr 07
pyyxxaro:
LALA

This one when u de ask this kin question

Abi there don break ur heart again

Just drink chilled kerosene and elephant grass , you would be fine undecided
Even ur pidgin english bad. Na wa oo.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by spiceadole: 8:03pm On Apr 07
Karleb:


Your first sex experience actually changed your perspective about sexx. It is alright.

I hope you don't deny your spouse his rights tho.

I'm glad it did.

I don't but I am not crazy about it.

I can always masturbate
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Gentlebuka(m): 8:03pm On Apr 07
SaintAlbert53:

I swear to God my creator, I really want to stop it. Trust me, it's killing me already. I don't get to have feelings for sex with a woman.

I hope you will do the things I say even if they sound stupid to you.

So this is what i did that enabled me to quit: I stopped watching porn or anything that can trigger an arousal. I did this because back then, I would only masturbate if I watched porn or looked at sexual images. So naturally, I had to quit porn so I can quit masturbation. I even avoid checking out girls' profile pictures or checking girls out in real life. No sexual thoughts, no sex-related chats with anyone. I rarely sleep facing down, its either sideways or on my back. So basically, you have to avoid your triggers completely and at all costs

Secondly, I used affirmations like this one: "I have become completely chaste" I repeat these words 20 times to myself convincingly everyday without missing a day (it goes permanent within 2 months time if it works for you). If you dont want the hassle of repeating this exercise, you can opt for Hypnosis. I think Hypnosis works better. A Hypnotherapist will typically hypnotise you to stop masturbating and trust me, you will never masturbate again in your life, ever. Don't take my word for it, you can try it. For this process, this monicker @Gofuckyourself can help you. He is a Hypnotherapist. A nairalander too.


Lastly, I use 528 Hz frequency audio to heal my brain. 528 Hz is a healing frequency that can restore one's DNA to its original condition, thereby restoring your brain to its original condition too. As you might know, addictions mess with the brain so even after your addiction has stopped, you still have to allow your brain to heal. Depending on how long you've been addicted and how many times you've tried to quit but eventually came back to the habit, this could take time. 528 Hz frequency audios accelerate the healing process. If you have doubts about this, you can search this on google: "528 Hz frequency". You can find and download the frequency audio on youtube. The particular 528 Hz frequency audio I use on youtube goes with this title: "528 Hz Solfeggio Frequency DNA Healing Activation Pure Miracle Tone". Secondly, if you've been masturbating for long, you need to heal your kidney too because expelling semen too often messes with one's kidney big time, and the kidney is a very important part of the body (if you notice that your eyesight is not clear enough, kinda brownish or any other color that you consider not to be the ideal, that's a sign that your kidney is messed up). For healing the kidney, this frequency audio works very well, but you have to follow the instructions on the Youtube web page where you will download it from very strictly. The title of the audio is this: "Kidney Regeneration (Energetically Programmed Audio)". You'll find it on youtube.

Alternatively, you can use healing affirmations to heal your brain and kidney. They can heal extremely fast if they work for you. For this process, you need to repeat this 20 times to yourself everyday: "My brain is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health" (this one is for healing the brain). "My kidney is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health" (this one is for healing the kidney). If there is anything else that needs healing in your body, you can use a general body healing affirmation like this one instead: "My whole body is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health". Or use it alongside the other ones.


In summary: I recommend you consult a hypnotherapist like @Gofuckyourself to hypnotise you to stop masturbating. Secondly, use a healing affirmation to heal your body, or use the 528 Hz and Kidney Regeneration frequency audios if the affirmations do not work for you.


Am available for any questions you might have. I just want to save a lot of people from this mess because I've been there before and I know what I went through.

Note: if you quit this eventually, never go back because if you do, the effect becomes 10 times the previous one.

Pro tip: join the Nofap subreddit on Reddit or visit the website called Nofap and see you are not alone in this, plus tips on how to stay clean completely.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by kurlz(f): 9:27pm On Apr 07
SaintAlbert53:

lol I already cried my cry alone.. I just want a normal life back again, I want to know how to love back again.


Don't worry, don't force it. It will come naturally when you meet the right person.

But open your eyes be sure its mutual.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by ZINIIBANKS: 10:04pm On Apr 07
pyyxxaro:
LALA

This one when u de ask this kin question

Abi there don break ur heart again

Just drink chilled kerosene and elephant grass , you would be fine undecided
Guy you don mad aje you no get respect for our mod grin

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by ZINIIBANKS: 10:06pm On Apr 07
LagBae:
His number became unreachable since 2013.
TF grin

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by ZINIIBANKS: 10:08pm On Apr 07
Lala the babe don left you lol I no blame am cause you too na soso snakes you go dey chop everyday. Snake thread you go don push am to FP angry shey dem use snake do you nii angry
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Youngpo413: 10:14pm On Apr 07
spiceadole:


I would rather masturbate 100 times than have sex outside the confines of matrimony.
This was my vow after that incident.

After enjoying with your boyfriend, he dumps you, you move to another guy and the cycle continues.What sort of life is that??

. Masturbation is bae . I will not disrespect, slutshame or dump myself after the act.. I won't go about bragging to my friends how I used and dumped me.. no risk of unwanted pregnancy, abortions, heartbreak, STDs
atleast you are sincere...
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Uwaomaokey(m): 1:23am On Apr 08
Zontrident:
Hmm this comment section Is interesting oh for me that is a 200lv virgin fear Don grip me oh be like I go forget relationship mata till I graduate start de earn and settle down, but I'm afraid I'll be inexperienced nd I won't know how to act in a relationship

If you are a guy have fun, if you are girl have fun still, when you graduate, your experiences will shape you and also, more than half of your fun days should be Uni days, still focus on your aca play oh.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Gentlebuka(m): 5:04am On Apr 08
spiceadole:


I would rather masturbate 100 times than have sex outside the confines of matrimony.
This was my vow after that incident.

After enjoying with your boyfriend, he dumps you, you move to another guy and the cycle continues.What sort of life is that??

. Masturbation is bae . I will not disrespect, slutshame or dump myself after the act.. I won't go about bragging to my friends how I used and dumped me.. no risk of unwanted pregnancy, abortions, heartbreak, STDs

If you get addicted, na sorry be your case. Your story go change. The guy was very wrong, what he did to you. Infact, if a man did that to my sister, i wont be happy at all. However, i think that you've got to understand that masturbation is very addicting and not easy to be free from. If no one has ever told you the consequences of getting addicted to something, especially something as sweet as that, you've got to find them for yourself before it gets too late. Checkout Nofap on google and see what people are going through as a result of being addicted. I know you might not be addicted yet, but you've got to apply caution and know what you are dealing with. Since you now have a husband, I'd advice you quit completely. This time around, you do not have any excuse not to. Even if you do, trust me, you won't think twice before quitting if you get addicted eventually and the consequences set in as a result. By that time, you will abandon every excuse you have. Anything done too much always has its side effects.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by NACE13: 6:29am On Apr 08
Fiscus105:



Women can't love two or more people at ago unlike man, also they can't pretend to love like man too, immediately man's love fades in their hearts they show it without think twice.

This one happened so fast. Just less than a day after seeing me for the first time in many months. I swear, I didn't see that coming.
After few years, I realized she probably did it on purpose to size my manliness and I fell for it by begging her even when she was the one clearly at fault. That was a "see finish" move, and that's how most females behave. A good guy or simp will fall for it but 'bad guys' won't GAF
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by spiceadole: 6:36am On Apr 08
Gentlebuka:


If you get addicted, na sorry be your case. Your story go change. The guy was very wrong, what he did to you. Infact, if a man did that to my sister, i wont be happy at all. However, i think that you've got to understand that masturbation is very addicting and not easy to be free from. If no one has ever told you the consequences of getting addicted to something, especially something as sweet as that, you've got to find them for yourself before it gets too late. Checkout Nofap on google and see what people are going through as a result of being addicted. I know you might not be addicted yet, but you've got to apply caution and know what you are dealing with. Since you now have a husband, I'd advice you quit completely. This time around, you do not have any excuse not to. Even if you do, trust me, you won't think twice before quitting if you get addicted eventually and the consequences set in as a result. By that time, you will abandon every excuse you have. Anything done too much always has its side effects.


I rather get addicted to masturbation than have sex with a guy I'm not married to.
Masturbation over premarital sex and adultery.
Thank you for your preaching.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Hassanmaye(m): 9:32am On Apr 08
Nonexistent:
I have heard stories but my own cousin and two of his friends are all the proof that I need. Today, three of them are working as hard as lionesses and eating as hyenas eat leftovers.
They are miserably poor

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