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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by alphaNomega: 10:36am On Apr 08
uthlaw:
who true love help....true love no de pay bills...no deceive the guy,heartbreaks change no experience!
True love would pay your bills if your spouse is rich enough.

Who hurt you so bad? You need to heal
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by alphaNomega: 10:38am On Apr 08
emmaodet:


Forget Love, there is none anywhere.
Our forefathers didn't use Love as a yardstick for marrying then and they did far better than this Lovey Lovey generation
Your forefathers were more into slavery that's why traditional marriages are glorified market transactions were a girl child is sold off to another family

When you buy a slave, the person must be obedient to the core. The owner does not give a damn about her feelings. She must serve that new family until her last breath
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by uthlaw(m): 11:25am On Apr 08
alphaNomega:
True love would pay your bills if your spouse is rich enough.

Who hurt you so bad? You need to heal
I need no fucking spouse to pay my bills....I do that myself....who can hurt does who doesn't love,I can date you for 5yrs without loving you....who go hurt me de never born her!
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by UwaMmebii(m): 3:23pm On Apr 08
Leetika:
Met this girl in Abuja whilst serving. She was serving too..well she claimed she was a virgin and we should not do anything sexual.. I agreed . I would ask her to kiss me at least , she wouldn’t . She just didn’t wanna do anything sexual. But she is so quick to ask for money . Like I turned to her father. Money for hair , money for pad , money for data money for everything walahi..minus other embarrassing thing I did for love. I sha noticed that there’s no way this girl loves me. She is just in it to drain me. . She even asked me for iPhone 12 me that just finished serving. Struggling to get on my feet. We fought on this request. She told me to touch my savings so I can buy her the phone.. I said she should chill so I get money from another source as I can’t touch my savings .

Everyone told me this girl was using me sha but I still stayed. Anyways 2weeks ago she was in my house and one way or the other I found out she was sleeping with one of her bosses where she was working as a corper. I wish I can mention the name of the company cos the foolish married man is here on Nairaland also .

This evil soul told me she was going for a work trip to Enugu last December , said it was her job people taking her there and it’s by flight. And I should send her money to buy stuffs. I did but I wasn’t comfortable With it. I did not know they went to knack my girl in Enugu.. and I went to pick her back from the airport after dem don knack her.. the so called virgin wasn’t a virgin after all . I broke up . I put it to her that she cheated but this girl swore with her life that she didn’t for some reasons I could not show her my evidence.

I got nothing against u .. but u got a habit of chasing corpers posted in your office. How your wife doesn’t know u re cheating on her baffles me. I don let the girl go . Chop her. Na small thing make me change my mind do wetin my guys wan do u and that girl together. The. U know the debt is paid

Chai sorry bro. Very painful, why girls like this? Chai chai chai. Sorry once again
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by fineboynl(m): 4:37pm On Apr 08
SaintAlbert53:

Lol five minutes is enough to get a girl to love you deeply, win her heart by providing all she require, tell her something sweet and show her the MONEY hahaha.. Mind you, not everyone this works for.
She was already in love with the guy,, it was more than two weeks they met though..

that's is not love. such kind of relationship end really fast. she is an opportunists. how did you fall for her in the first place and not to have know her character. some of you guys needs to read you book wisely or take the red pill
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by fineboynl(m): 4:44pm On Apr 08
NACE13:
We started dating immediately I got admission in a Tertiary institution. My school was miles away from home. She was constantly hitting me with calls and messages on 2go that she misses me and can't wait to see me again. Na so mumu me just dey hurry up make semester end. If i had a way of slap the semester and tell it to hurry up eh. Funny thing was that I had a course mate seriously crushing on me but I was busy forming Mr. faithful man.

Finally, I came home, called babe that I'm back, she was so excited. We took a walk round the neighbourhood holding hands, with me showing her off. After that day, babe changed totally. Stopped replying my 2go chat, picked my call when she feels like and making the conversation short. Till date I don't know what I said or did that made her switch off just like that.

Few days before I was to go back to school, I told her I wanted us to see again before leaving, so we agreed to meet in church. After service, babe said she was very tired and wants to go home. I was like, I hope you know this is the last time you may see me in months to come. Her response was like "yeah, whatever". I was mad but kept my cool, next thing her phone rang and a female voice at the other end told her something, she screamed with happiness and told me she has to leave. I was like, I thought you said you are tired and wanna go home. She just dismissed what i said and told her if she leaves me here she won't like what comes next, she called my bluff and left me alone.

Ladies and gentlemen, na me still go beg am make she no vex sey I threaten am. Babe told me not to ever call her phone again. It was like a movie to me. Imagine someone telling you how bad she's missed you, then you show up, then of a sudden, she can't stand you.
I know of that feeling. some people are like that. they are possessed. when you are far away chasing your future dream they comes in to distract you and it's the davil, but when you became available they lose interest. another thing it might be because of money. she sense that you don't have money or you are not as cute she once thought.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SweetCunt97(f): 5:24pm On Apr 08
Willy123:
[color=#006600][/color] After aborting my pregnancy..l still went to her sister's wedding that she have given me an Iv earlier on hoping to still patch up things with her....she was surprised to see me and my friend. When we about to leave she was seeing us off only for the guy (guy that had dump her before and came back) just order her to stop and come back. It was then l know is over.
You d intruder.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Yxxx: 8:24pm On Apr 08
I was a rebound. I just had to call it quit and move on. I just felt used.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by alphaNomega: 10:18pm On Apr 08
uthlaw:
I need no fucking spouse to pay my bills....I do that myself....who can hurt does who doesn't love,I can date you for 5yrs without loving you....who go hurt me de never born her!
You seriously need to heal.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 10:59pm On Apr 08
fineboynl:
trust me she has been dating the guy before then. Maybe The guy proposed to her immediately she went for service.
exactly. Dude didn't know about this until now!
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Lighthammer(m): 11:01pm On Apr 08
She uploaded a kissing video of herself and a guy on her whatsapp status..but my own revenge was epic..she still wan come back
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 11:09pm On Apr 08
SaintAlbert53:

No, she met the guy right there and perhaps the bonding was quicker than expected.
Is she married now?
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 11:13pm On Apr 08
fineboynl:
It’s seems to me I have a Foresight and sometimes people think I see visions, but it’s just my too much sense and instinct. I always walk out from relationships before it get to that point or the worst. There is always signs which many of you ignore. And beside I never put my mind fully in relationship. Always wearing an amor when going to into it as I see relationship as war and battle you have to be prepared for the the worst. That why I can like you today and dislike you tomorrow. And the next thing is to discontinue
You have never really loved or trusted enough to love... perhaps, you have been betrayed somewhere...
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 11:51pm On Apr 08
SmellingAnus:
irony about life be say na one boy wey no spend much go chop you like fresh fish for bed...
Na so their life just be lol... yet dem go dey raise shoulder.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by NACE13: 12:07am On Apr 09
fineboynl:
I know of that feeling. some people are like that. they are possessed. when you are far away chasing your future dream they comes in to distract you and it's the davil, but when you became available they lose interest. another thing it might be because of money. she sense that you don't have money or you are not as cute she once thought.

That part you said about money is what I suspected. That day we met after I got back, I wanted to be romantic and take a walk with her but I guess she wanted more than a romantic stroll, because after the stroll, I noticed a change in her responses but I just brushed it off.
She was 17 then but obviously very mature body-wise, with so many well-to-do guys always hovering around her and showering her with gifts.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 12:09am On Apr 09
KevinDein:

One thing you have to admire about women. They are really ruthless and won't think twice before cutting you off when they meet a better man. Give it to them.
very very ruthless and mean.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 12:11am On Apr 09
ayomikuolatunji:



Never be kind to a woman..!!! Be ruthless and heartless... I comfirm that today and I will make sure I will never be nice to women.. Seen this same comment and talks from different women..
That is it.. as long as you are not yet ready to marry her... do not be kind to anyone...
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by CheedyJ(m): 12:15am On Apr 09
1stHooligan:
She went for NYSC and never looked back. I don't much blame her but I hope she never finds what she's looking for.

She left with a part of me I am trying to get back
Your kidney or what , don’t tell me your heart oo
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by uthlaw(m): 1:14am On Apr 09
alphaNomega:
You seriously need to heal.
heal from watin....can you tell me benefit of love apart from sex!
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by Yoighaman(m): 4:28am On Apr 09
spiceadole:
I was 22.
3rd year in medical school.
I had my first boyfriend.
He was about 32,a resident doctor in the university teaching hospital.

I thought I had found love... Finally.

He started pressurising me for sex barely a week we started dating.
I wasn't ready.. I was a virgin and wanted to maintain myself that way till after wedding.

3 months later, I thought he was for real.. and I gave in.

I grew to love and adore him.
Spent my little spare time in his house, cooking and cleaning.

I spent Christmas and New year with him..He drove me to the airport that morning and I travelled home to my parents.

Next thing,he stopped picking my calls,or calling me.
He barely responded to my messages.

He gave excuses as being too busy at work.
I returned from home and he wouldn't see me ..
Continued same way for about 2 weeks.

Then,I visited him unannounced .

He told me he was no longer interested.

He never loved me...He was sorry for everything.

That his friends made him place a bet about sleeping with me since I was too reserved and proving to be too decent,not involved with anybody within university and hospital environs.

He went on to say he was supposed to show them videos of our knackings and my nude pix...but he found out I was indeed decent and didn't do it.

He had somebody he wanted to marry from his tribe(Yoruba).


That broke me!

That I didn't commit suicide was a miracle.

It took me 4 years before I had another relationship , after graduation...and I made sure
Sex was never involved.

Instead,I watched porn and masturbated in my closet to relieve sexual tension.


I dated 2 more guys .. Got married to the last one(a colleague too) and we relocated to the UK.

Wherever you are,I hold nothing against you,ADEKUNLE

I am thankful your act shaped me.
You people are not called DEMONS for no reasons.
I learnt how to close my legs and place value on my body.






I sense the pain and regrets in your comment, but thank God you have moved on, just find a place in your heart to totally forgive him.

It is well with you, I wish you a blissful marriage.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by iRepNaija1: 5:54am On Apr 09
BernieLee:

She also had a side, so we cancelled each other in the cheating aspect. she just couldnt handle the aftermath.

It doesn't cancel anything out. You were both cheating. As in, why do some people even bother going into relationships if they're going to behave like this? Smh.
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by kense88: 8:14am On Apr 09
emmaodet:


I will rather allow my gf to go for NYSC than to be scared of losing her.
Rule number 1 - Never be scared of losing a woman.
If a woman will misbehave because she is far away from you, it is simply because she is a loose woman. Don't try to cage her or slow her progress down just for a selfish reason that doesn't worth it.
You are a real man. Most men here have no self worth. If she mess up, is her loss

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by kense88: 9:18am On Apr 09
Lighthammer:
She uploaded a kissing video of herself and a guy on her whatsapp status..but my own revenge was epic..she still wan come back
to come back and serve you more nonsense. Umunwanyi
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by spiceadole: 10:59am On Apr 09
Yoighaman:


I sense the pain and regrets in your comment, but thank God you have moved on, just find a place in your heart to totally forgive him.

It is well with you, I wish you a blissful marriage.

Never in my entire life have I felt so much pain and regret like with this incident.
Along the line, so many guys rejected me because I maintained No sex.
I couldn't imagine sleeping with 2nd man and then he dumps me .
No way!
I have totally forgiven him..
But it will never be the same.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SaintAlbert53: 5:05pm On Apr 09
HustlePro:
Is she married now?
no, she isn't.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SaintAlbert53: 5:06pm On Apr 09
kurlz:



Don't worry, don't force it. It will come naturally when you meet the right person.

But open your eyes be sure its mutual.
smiles. Thanks dude!

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SaintAlbert53: 5:11pm On Apr 09
Gentlebuka:


I hope you will do the things I say even if they sound stupid to you.

So this is what i did that enabled me to quit: I stopped watching porn or anything that can trigger an arousal. I did this because back then, I would only masturbate if I watched porn or looked at sexual images. So naturally, I had to quit porn so I can quit masturbation. I even avoid checking out girls' profile pictures or checking girls out in real life. No sexual thoughts, no sex-related chats with anyone. I rarely sleep facing down, its either sideways or on my back. So basically, you have to avoid your triggers completely and at all costs

Secondly, I used affirmations like this one: "I have become completely chaste" I repeat these words 20 times to myself convincingly everyday without missing a day (it goes permanent within 2 months time if it works for you). If you dont want the hassle of repeating this exercise, you can opt for Hypnosis. I think Hypnosis works better. A Hypnotherapist will typically hypnotise you to stop masturbating and trust me, you will never masturbate again in your life, ever. Don't take my word for it, you can try it. For this process, this monicker @Gofuckyourself can help you. He is a Hypnotherapist. A nairalander too.


Lastly, I use 528 Hz frequency audio to heal my brain. 528 Hz is a healing frequency that can restore one's DNA to its original condition, thereby restoring your brain to its original condition too. As you might know, addictions mess with the brain so even after your addiction has stopped, you still have to allow your brain to heal. Depending on how long you've been addicted and how many times you've tried to quit but eventually came back to the habit, this could take time. 528 Hz frequency audios accelerate the healing process. If you have doubts about this, you can search this on google: "528 Hz frequency". You can find and download the frequency audio on youtube. The particular 528 Hz frequency audio I use on youtube goes with this title: "528 Hz Solfeggio Frequency DNA Healing Activation Pure Miracle Tone". Secondly, if you've been masturbating for long, you need to heal your kidney too because expelling semen too often messes with one's kidney big time, and the kidney is a very important part of the body (if you notice that your eyesight is not clear enough, kinda brownish or any other color that you consider not to be the ideal, that's a sign that your kidney is messed up). For healing the kidney, this frequency audio works very well, but you have to follow the instructions on the Youtube web page where you will download it from very strictly. The title of the audio is this: "Kidney Regeneration (Energetically Programmed Audio)". You'll find it on youtube.

Alternatively, you can use healing affirmations to heal your brain and kidney. They can heal extremely fast if they work for you. For this process, you need to repeat this 20 times to yourself everyday: "My brain is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health" (this one is for healing the brain). "My kidney is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health" (this one is for healing the kidney). If there is anything else that needs healing in your body, you can use a general body healing affirmation like this one instead: "My whole body is safely and extremely quickly being in perfect health". Or use it alongside the other ones.


In summary: I recommend you consult a hypnotherapist like @Gofuckyourself to hypnotise you to stop masturbating. Secondly, use a healing affirmation to heal your body, or use the 528 Hz and Kidney Regeneration frequency audios if the affirmations do not work for you.


Am available for any questions you might have. I just want to save a lot of people from this mess because I've been there before and I know what I went through.

Note: if you quit this eventually, never go back because if you do, the effect becomes 10 times the previous one.

Pro tip: join the Nofap subreddit on Reddit or visit the website called Nofap and see you are not alone in this, plus tips on how to stay clean completely.
Thanks.. The fact that you mentioned kidney being damaged as a result of constant dispensation of semens, my brother i don give up for masturbation automatically o.. Thank you so much, I just deleted all the porn videos and pages saved in my phone now before replying to you.
I'd be glad to see a great change!
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SaintAlbert53: 5:13pm On Apr 09
AmuRubber:



He is a nephew, not a niece. A niece is a female.
oh sorry, I didn't take notice of the error when typing. You're perfectly right, I was not happy when i was typing it though!
God bless you
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by HustlePro: 7:30pm On Apr 09
SaintAlbert53:

no, she isn't.
Okay. A part of you still love her. It is obvious. In whatever you decide, never take her back. Find someone else and stick to her if she is willing to make effort.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by kurlz(f): 6:51am On Apr 10
SaintAlbert53:

smiles. Thanks dude!


I'm a lady o. Biko.

All the same. Thanks you are welcome
Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by AmuRubber(m): 9:53am On Apr 10
SaintAlbert53:

oh sorry, I didn't take notice of the error when typing. You're perfectly right, I was not happy when i was typing it though!
God bless you



God bless you too.

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Re: What's The Coldest Way You Found Out Your Relationship Was Over? by SaintAlbert53: 5:40am On Apr 11
kurlz:



I'm a lady o. Biko.

All the same. Thanks you are welcome
Oh sorry about that, lol.

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