1Sharon:



Yes! and yes

Deydontknow:






Bro you're wise the girl am dating now, when we met she lied that she's a virgin 1. she has intention of extorting cash from me 2.
Observing that after one or two moves she made I just smile.
Fast forward to after like two weeks she came to my house I no run mata with am o.
Second one she came around mehn on close observation without running one or two o, I asked her Babe what's up she said she was raped on 31st December night 2017 but she can't recognize the guys because it was dark mehn I got furious and wished she knew one among the 3 guys so that they will receive a bitter lesson.
Now she's 20 and a good girl at that but I made it open to her to always tell me the truth no mata how hard it is... A real nigga will always understand the street.

Sis, this your story is confusing my dada. I don't understand what you're saying?

Lovethaa:




Thank you for understanding... I like her honesty but the secrets was just too much to handle ... but I'll handle it like a man... although I'm not sure we might get married

BiggyB242:
You guys keep saying he isn't perfect. The issue is the state of her womb after several abortions. What if after marriage she can not bear him a child.
The truth is if you see a woman who loves to hold her strong is difficult to find a girl who does unconditionally.

Lovethaa:




Just because your friend managed to marry a simp of a guy doesn't mean I'll do the same


Have you thought about the spiritual effects of having multiple sex partners , or the physical effects like her not being able to give birth ..

I'm still young and handsome..so don't expect me to settle for an over used vehicle when I can get a brand new one.... @Yusufisraelj I thought u were wise but this your comment made me realize you're fake and the type that would say bullshit just to get public approval

Elsueno:
My girl should have no body counts( she can relax, no sex till after marriage, in case we broke up, she won't say I used her)


She doesn't have to be pretty, normal will suffice bundled with good character



Abortions are out of the question, I won't ask, but I will find out, you can't hide that shyt.


You can't willingly fuvk several men & expect me to accept fairly used ass ( am sorry if this is rude to Some "woke" ladies)

rape victims are an exception though & i totally accept them

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

HoneySwag:
It's normal for op to feel disgusted by her past. In my own opinion I think it's very wrong for a lady or guy to open up about their past at the beginning of a relationship, because some persons don't have the stomach to absorb certain truths when a bond has not been formed. I believe before revealing certain truths in relationships, you should both have earned each others trust to the extent of being fond of each other. When that connection is there between you two, then it may not be difficult for either partner to accommodate (the truth).
But op, if you can give her a chance, at least get to know if she's a changed person..

theForth:
no wonder you took it very personal. The surge of emotion was very baring.

OgbeniSamm:



I just spoke to the dealer now, he asked me to check back next week, so be patient till then

callmetoniaa:
The devil u know is better than the Angel u don't knw..

callmetoniaa:
The devil u know is better than the Angel u don't knw..

ibkonekt:

Understood however recall that the girl had 4 abortions. You cannot use childhood trauma to explain way all responsibilities of peoples actions. There must be accountability at some point in people’s action and choices. For a lady to do 4 abortions means she was grown enough to go to a medical personnel that does such acts. There is also failure from the parenting, it is their duty to protect their ward, no matter the circumstances. They failed in that.
Let me give you an example a suicide bomber that believes it is okay to kill others to receive rewards in heaven will at some point question himself if his actions are truly just, or if his family or loved one are to be killed he would panic, showing that instinctively he knows that the act of killing is bad. Its just that they believe that their reason was just. She would have know at some point that acting sexually in that way was bad but maybe no courage or she enjoyed it.

The girl came to “tell” you, which means her instincts knew something was wrong and she made a move to correct it somehow. How can a lady have 4 abortions, why didn’t she tell her parents like this child did to you. I understand fear, trauma and manipulations exist but at what point do we say this person needs to be held accountable for this (it is already established that the man is useless and should be dealt with). However, we are responsible for our actions at some point. We all have teachings given to us from childhood but if we feel it’s not up to par we have the choice to question them. What you say does happen and it does seem like it may have some element in this story, but I also see someone that was enjoying all the pleasures of sleeping around and doing abortions because in her mind society does not condemn as it did in the past.

BLOODYSPERM:




She needs medical intervention not a Man

Bloomfrancs2:


Shift abeg. You get luck say you no dey close to me to talk that nonsense.

Magnoliaa:


Awwwwwwwwwn. You're really gonna get them for me?

Margthatcher:
U are very immature, u don't deserve her, u are coward and a golddigging manwhore.
go ahead and dump her, because she doesn't need a toxic person like u in her life,
she told u smth in confidence, not only dat u betrayed dat confidence by telling us her story here bt u are nt even listening to d advice pple are giving u here instead u are acting all high and might like u are perfect.
like i said before u don't deserve her and will never deserve her.

Akinsazy1985:
Please bro, this is the kind of lady i have been searching for all my life.

how u fit help me send this girl number on code, I was constantly molested as a child in my younger age, and raped by a big aunty who was a tenant in my fathers house then, an hairdresser by profession, she would abuse me to her satisfaction, i didnt know the implication until i got to secondary school, and whenever anxiety comes in, i will freeze out and release watery semen.

This has affected me in many ways, including my sexual life and most ramifications, I have battled with this for years, and this has made me lived in solitude till this moment, i'm 35 and if i could get someone who has been through what i went through, it will help me understand how we can work things out, see in real context, it takes pain to recognize pain and appreciate liberty .

pizzzy:
Op abeg no mind all dis people wey dey say she's honest by telling you her past. What if there is more to it? Now let me ask if a restaurant owner confess to using diabolical means to attract consumers.bet you my night food even if TB Joshua has delivered her you won't go back there to eat.

Kingcalls:


Story...give me history... stop deceiving urself ....all men are the same when it comes to that department of a woman's past... some live in denial and some pretend so that they wudnt b viewed as judgemental.... y do u think men protects their daughters towards their fellow men compared to women.... it hurts a man more when he hears that his daughter is hoeing around compared to when his wife hears about it... thats y u hear stuff like when a daughter starts to grow his father buys a gun... men love to taste different women but don't wanna marry a woman that has tasted different men , no matter how pretty or intelligent u are...if he eventually even marries u, he will b treating u like trash

Kingcalls:


Story...give me history... stop deceiving urself ....all men are the same when it comes to that department of a woman's past... some live in denial and some pretend so that they wudnt b viewed as judgemental.... y do u think men protects their daughters towards their fellow men compared to women.... it hurts a man more when he hears that his daughter is hoeing around compared to when his wife hears about it... thats y u hear stuff like when a daughter starts to grow his father buys a gun... men love to taste different women but don't wanna marry a woman that has tasted different men , no matter how pretty or intelligent u are...if he eventually even marries u, he will b treating u like trash

litaninja:
What if he's impotent bro? Or if all the hoes he's been with have stolen his destiny as nigerians will say?