ishaqyesir:


It does not mean they are broke � money � does not buy love never

Mftivi:
we no know say you get key to the future.

SILENTandSMART2:
Ode you just dey think like rat wey see delicious food in the trap.......

This are the way of thinking that's making Nigeria to move backward.....

What if the second guy later got broke or it can't happen ?......... Let her marry the one wey true love dey , if he didn't loose his job will you bring yaaa nonsense brain come here writing rubbish ?.....

This type of thinking always consume my energy........ Mad people everywhere......

orohbiro:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, my sister and this guy has been dating for 4 years now he use to work in a company but lost his job 2yrs ago since then he had been a parasite to my sister coming to our house to eat our food two times a day.

There is this new guy who asked my sister out. He is gentle and he has a good job, he is a Christian he has his own house, we all like him. I have been begging my sister to give him a try because he is ready for marriage unlike the other guy who has no hope of taking good care of my sister rather sucking my sister dry.

My sister seems to love the broke guy more but that guy is not a serious person for 2 good years he can't look for a job not even a menial job. If my sister mistakenly marries the broke guy she will suffer in the marriage because all the responsibility will be on her head. Gidforbid!

Please how do I convince my sister to focus on this other guy that is comfortable? I want the best for my sister.

nwaimoroseyaho:


The problem is not losing his job, it is attitude of laziness for two years. If your sister goes broke, what will happen? Let her go with the other one.

Athemisia:

Aunty preach some more... As if you can do the same.. Too many movies have made most of you forget realities....
His sister ain't getting any younger.
His sister needs a man to take care of her and her family not the other way around.
If that guy truly love her, then he should let her go rather than being a burden to her.

Life is the present. The past is history.

BRATISLAVA:


She's a gold digger if she leaves him, but he's not been a gold digger for 2 years?

As much as there are broke ass girls, there are broke ass guys leeching on women and nobody is concerned about their productivity in the relationship rather they want the women to build with him. It's a parasitic relationship and it has not changed because he's a man and has a "vision". Don't the broke girls you referred to have a vision, or you think they want to be broke?

If the guy was working or doing something with his life, OP wouldn't have to call him out. He comes to their house to eat, are you sure it's not their parents house? She has a say. She's a good sister.

awulio:
First of all you don’t know me. Second of all 90% of guys I’ve dated I hv in most cases been richer than them I come from a good family. My family raised me in a way to never judge ppl based on the size of their pocket. That’s why I repeat it’s only a broke person like the OP that will look down on a man based on him being broke.

awulio:
She has no say bcuz she’s not the one dating the man. It’s obviously the sisters house and not the family house..... OP should focus on her own issues instead of getting involved in the sisters drama. The Op is only calling the man a parasite bcuz a richer man likes the sister.... girls that just follow men for money will never be respected or treated well bcuz the guy knows she’s just there for money.... OP has no vision based on what she posted, her whole anger is based on the amount of money the man has and not his vision. I repeat I dislike such girls bcuz they tend to be senseless.

Melst:

Hypocrites are insulting you. Same guys that have been screaming they don't want a liability in a woman are now supporting a man that lost his job for two whole years and can't find something little doing rather he is living off his girlfriend. If she doesn't leave him, he will not wake up and behave like a man should. Even I can't stay jobless for two years depending on anyone. No teaching job around? Security? Any goddamn thing or even business no matter how small. She should better not carry that load. See women dying anyhow because they are carrying a load that is not meant for them. It's better she's single than be with a man that will sit idle for two years. Except you are exaggerating it sha. Anybody that is being spoon fed will not step out of his/her comfort zone and make something better for and of themselves. It is not a crime to crave a comfortable life for yourself and your sister. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. If she loves that guy, she should push him to get something no matter how small. As for the new guy, she might have her reasons. For him to be that comfortable but still single says a lot though not for all his kind.

PuZZyNegro:


Nairaland is a very terrible place to seek advice. Most people here will write trash just for the likes.

Nairaland represents Nigeria people. Only few people are sensible. Others follow bandwagon.

Most of the people insulting you now will still blame your sister if and when the man is unable to take care of her and the children.

I had a sister like that who married her husband because the man appears to be a church goer. My sister's question to my mum then was "between a rich man and a man that knows God which do you prefer?"

Many years later, my sister still borrows to pay rent. I'm sure if we turn our back on her, she would have been thrown to the street with her children.

The only thing the stupid man does is to keep getting her pregnant. My sister foots all the family bills, from rent to school fees, feeding, hospital treatment, etc.

She has even saved up money to start some business for the husband but they all failed because every business seems stressful to him. He has a working class wife so why not?

Tell your sister that you will not look at her face when the financial responsibilities surface. That's how some girls will see fire and step into it. Which type of guy lacks self worth that he has to be eating daily in your house?

Been jobless for a whole two years? Trust me, that man will never make a good husband and father.

Forget whatever nairaland members are saying, most people here are hypocrite. Typing as if they don't need money themselves.

People should be able to live with their decisions in life. I'm sure by the time your sister ends up with this man and things get tough and you refuse to assist, she will see you as wicked.

Now her decision is hers but later she will want to share her responsibilities with your family.

That's how people go about giving birth to so many children than they can care for because it's their decision to make but when the responsibilities come, they will be looking for one uncle and aunty to assist.

orohbiro:
90% of guys u have dated shey u be olosho no u not married and u already a shareful giver this shows how cheap u are any dick and harry can come and climb, anty am a top chick am nowhere been broke. As for ur rich family.*everybody rich for Instagram*

orohbiro:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, my sister and this guy has been dating for 4 years now he use to work in a company but lost his job 2yrs ago since then he had been a parasite to my sister coming to our house to eat our food two times a day.

There is this new guy who asked my sister out. He is gentle and he has a good job, he is a Christian he has his own house, we all like him. I have been begging my sister to give him a try because he is ready for marriage unlike the other guy who has no hope of taking good care of my sister rather sucking my sister dry.

My sister seems to love the broke guy more but that guy is not a serious person for 2 good years he can't look for a job not even a menial job. If my sister mistakenly marries the broke guy she will suffer in the marriage because all the responsibility will be on her head. Gidforbid!

Please how do I convince my sister to focus on this other guy that is comfortable? I want the best for my sister.

Rozcol:
Maybe the guy was good to her when he was working and probably have promised your sister marriage as soon as he gets back on his feet,if this is the case please let them be,they will weather the storm together.

orohbiro:
Good day my fellow nairalanders, my sister and this guy has been dating for 4 years now he use to work in a company but lost his job 2yrs ago since then he had been a parasite to my sister coming to our house to eat our food two times a day.

There is this new guy who asked my sister out. He is gentle and he has a good job, he is a Christian he has his own house, we all like him. I have been begging my sister to give him a try because he is ready for marriage unlike the other guy who has no hope of taking good care of my sister rather sucking my sister dry.

My sister seems to love the broke guy more but that guy is not a serious person for 2 good years he can't look for a job not even a menial job. If my sister mistakenly marries the broke guy she will suffer in the marriage because all the responsibility will be on her head. Gidforbid!

Please how do I convince my sister to focus on this other guy that is comfortable? I want the best for my sister.

Qatar2022:

Now he lose his job he is parasite but when that money was coming he was god to your useless family, your post show how desperate you and your family are, you want to discard him because he lost his job, shame on you and your family

awulio:
Firstly I ain’t no LovePeddler. Currently doing my masters in the USA and I run my own business... a top chick ain’t going to look for a man with money, she will look for a man that loves her. You claim to be a top chick but u get ur money from dating men with money, that’s not something to be proud of. Baby girl focus on improving yourself instead of depending on men to take care of you. Yeah sure call me a shameful giver since my ex that had nothing bought me land when he finally made money. Focus on your life and not your sister. Last time I’m speaking on this topic. I won’t degrade myself by arguing with a top class LovePeddler.

Melst:


Well, there are always exceptions. But mehn, one needs to be really careful with men in their mid-thirties that are unmarried. You need to look thrice. They are mostly players that toil with women's emotions, or very boring men with archaic mentality, or loners that can't live with anyone because they are intolerant, or perfectionist that will frustrate you in marriage. The list is long but yes there are exceptions.

Then that mentality of chasing money and leaving women is flawed. There's actually no time of your life as a man that should revolve around "women". Meaning no time of your life as a man justifies womanizing. Discipline is key . And once you are disciplined then there's no chance that any woman would distract you from your goal rather she will propel you. Knowing the right kind of woman too matters. Because if you say, chase money and leave woman, in marriage, would you be able to be a good husband and father? Or would you stop chasing that money once you get married? You even need it more then. And money can run dry for those that believe in chasing money then women will run after you. Or are you saying once you have made money then you are immune to the distractions a woman brings? Or are you simply going to chase money all your life? Always create a balance and discipline is key in all facets.

mydivinely:
This remind me of a lady i lov to a fault, we were both serving in same state, same LGA, same area. she responded to the love things went on smoothly, then she travelled home for Christmas returned January started giving attitude, Guess what she found someone who was working and became old story, ( she was so desperate for marriage now she got someone working, she suddenly forgot all i did for her) not quite long the guy contracted was terminated, started searching for another , infact she left me n to stay with the guy, when i discovered what she was doing , i went though her phone saw how far they have gone , in romance n the rest...i gave up at last i was fooled. everyone already know we were dating i didnt even give a smile to any other lady . so after service God buttered my Bread. Got a job and Guess what.. She is interested again....After everything she did with the guy..... She wants to sing the old song again... ( i can be a fool for very long but if the elastic limit exceed forget it, Even though u are my Oxygen i better ceased to breath.) Ladies and Money... Forget the Money, look at the Person, look at the future , look at the qualities, she confessed i had all she needed except that she wasnt sure i wil make it that fast, just one month after service , Jehovah did it for me...... If i no get today, u dont know my Tomorow...be wise

felixzo1:
if the new guy losses his job, what happens

awulio:
First of all you don’t know me. Second of all 90% of guys I’ve dated I hv in most cases been richer than them I come from a good family. My family raised me in a way to never judge ppl based on the size of their pocket. That’s why I repeat it’s only a broke person like the OP that will look down on a man based on him being broke.

PuZZyNegro:


You write like you are not in this Nigeria bro. Unless the person did not go to the university, at what age do people graduate from the university? Get a higher degree for people who desire to do masters.

I started my masters degree in 2018, just immediately after passing out from Nysc and as I write bro, I'm still in the first semester of my second year. Now, imagine someone who has to wait to work for 2 to 3 years before enrolling for his masters.

People have minimum standards they want to attain before getting married. It's not everybody that wants to manage.

Some months ago, a bag of cement was 2500, today it's 4000 naira. This will definitely cause a delay in building projects as the cost has tremendously increased. Are you saying a man should abandon his building project to go and marry?

Some people travel abroad to hustle and before they gain ground, they are in their mid or even late 30s.

So many genuine reasons can make a man marry in their mid or late thirties bro.

Your other reasons of the man being a loner or perfectionist is debatable because no matter the type of personality a man has, he will definitely find someone who fits in to that.

And the sister of the poster is even 27 years. Is something also wrong with her or don't you think she should have married before 25?


Nobody is saying you must have all the money in the world before getting married, but you should have a reliable steady flow of income. Family is not run on emotion, you need money to keep it functional.

Chasing women and career may not be completely mutually exclusive, but check best graduating students in the university, they're not the type that follow everything in skirt.

Athemisia:

So because you came from a rich family every other person both those from poor homes should behave like you, right?
Amazing...

awulio:
Yes. All I’m saying is don’t call ppl pests or parasites just bcuz they don’t hv money that is common human decency. It has nothing to do with coming from a rich home.