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Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by emerged01(m): 1:05pm On May 08, 2021 |
Naija147:Case closed if you are a responsible father. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by ivolt: 1:07pm On May 08, 2021 |
@Akv666 Go ahead. If you are going to practically act as the father, you should definitely go legal. If you fail to do so, the sperm donor father might start blackmailing you guys later with threats of collecting the child he never cared about. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Keemsleek005(m): 1:08pm On May 08, 2021 |
Pls dont mind some people and there mentality. Look at bola tinubu, bill Clinton, etc. If you good with it and your spirit goes with it. and do it legally. Cos someone as a bad experience with one single mum dies not mean all of them are bad, are all single ladies good, there are worse single ladies than single mum, if u hear what they do u will run. I'm talking to you from experience. From what i just told u, I'm sure you know were i stand and that's is were my joy and my strength and my hope is been drawn from. Its all about you, your happiness, your home and your future. Let no one decide for you. All the best. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:09pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: No. Everyone should handle his own shit. All the best |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by charles614: 1:10pm On May 08, 2021 |
No try am , he may rise to drag with your biological children tomorrow |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 1:12pm On May 08, 2021 |
You re not the father, the father is still alive even if he is irresponsible, your fiancée is hiding secrets from you, never trust a single mom, they re black widow spiders. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 1:12pm On May 08, 2021 |
acesboy: jackcanfield:what a bomb shell of a respond. Thanks for this man�� |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by A305: 1:13pm On May 08, 2021 |
chihes:I tell you he will always choose you over his biological father when the time comes Madam prophetess. You just foresee the future, just like that! |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by stacyadams: 1:14pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: U just wan carry another problems join ur own |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by DrAkpa(m): 1:14pm On May 08, 2021 |
[s]Righteousness2: What is this one saying?? |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Angy55(f): 1:15pm On May 08, 2021 |
Nonexistent1: Just listen to yourself. But it is right for a lady to marry a Single dad. Nigerian parents need to lecture their male child very well, they've failed in that aspect. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Nobody: 1:17pm On May 08, 2021 |
Op Avk666 you are making a mistake you would definitely regret The boy would always gravitate to his father in the future, thank you no go reach you The father might have issues birthing tomorrow, he would definitely come for his son, first son for that matter The woman that is rubbing your head today was once the toy of the previous man, not even marriage guarantees she won't continue on her established history To me i would dump both the woman and the boy, start with a fresh girl without multiple luggages Na man dey bring luggages give woman not the other way, the so called love shaking you can be gotten from another woman just like if the current one dies you would find another 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by frozen70(f): 1:19pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: I will advise you from general angle You are going to be his step dad and not biological dad so for the time being, let him bear his own father's name or the woman's father's name but not your name Because his father can cine out from no where If he us bearing your wife name, it's safer that way Unless the guy is willing to give you the right to do so then it has to be written and documented for future purposes Just treat him as your son and sponsor him as your own child, that's all he needs from you irrespective of his name It's difficult it's easy to adopt but difficult to change a child's name where his father is aware he has a child somewhere My advice, let him bear your wife maiden name |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Burgerlomo: 1:21pm On May 08, 2021 |
cococandy: Don't blame them my dear because someone somewhere is using their buddies head to play ping pong. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by xtervaganza(m): 1:21pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666:single mothers always manipulating innocent men into dungeon. How are you sure the child's father abandoned the baby? Or perhaps he was alienated. If you like adopt the child, by the time dem shoot you spiritual rubber the lady will leave you to find another willing simp 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Ruthymoon(f): 1:24pm On May 08, 2021 |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by CioAngels(f): 1:24pm On May 08, 2021 |
It is a tall order to me. Your finance wants a responsible father figure for her son, who will blame her? I won't. The future risk is that, that irresponsible father of yesterday will shamefully come to fight you dirty to for his child. It is not denials that the child is his. It sound painful, you should train the child as yours for now because, I doubt if we have a very strong law to wrestle that child when it is established that the child's father is alive. Train him as us yours for now, but, no adoption. Let your would wife know you have to yourself and your family, which is her and the boy. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by YoungDaNaval(m): 1:25pm On May 08, 2021 |
mystery22:Lmfao |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Babyg0123: 1:26pm On May 08, 2021 |
Just marry her and take care of the boy. When he is old he won't forget you but he definitely will look for his real dad. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by richeme22: 1:27pm On May 08, 2021 |
I'm suspecting that you are cause of their separation? I believe you caused problem in their relationship and now you want to adopt the son. Be careful.... |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by ivolt: 1:28pm On May 08, 2021 |
[quote author=pocohantas post=101477212] It is foolhardy and against natural law and order to do such when the man is still alive, irrespective of how irresponsible she claims he is. I am very concerned that she suggested it and you considered it. Th irresponsible man remains her child's father. She can get (sole) custody, but erasing the man’s name is WICKEDNESS. DON’T DO IT! Take care of the child like you would for your own and it should end there. This is even why they should go legal. The "father" may show up in 5-10 years time and demand full custody of his child. And with the Nigerian law, his request will be granted regardless of what the responsible parents have done. The child currently has no father, so no transfer is taking place. If they get divorced, then this new father still remains the father if he makes it legal, so no transfer is ever taking place. They have no custody of the child in the eyes of Nigerian law. They are just caretaker who can be booted out at anytime by the sperm donor father. As far as I know, it would require an extraordinary circumstance for a woman to legally get sole custody in Nigeria because the child belongs to the father by default. So your other suggestion is impractical. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Gokoyer0(m): 1:29pm On May 08, 2021 |
The point is that he doesn't need to adopt him legally before taking care of the child as his own. Simple as ABC. If the irresponsible sperm donor consent to legal adoption, then he can do that. I have seen this kind of thing turned ugly for an acquaintance in the past. Shokoloko: |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Burgerlomo: 1:29pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666:
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Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by BREYZ: 1:30pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: So single ladies don finish? Don't come here crying fowl in the year 2022. Una no dey hear word, God will create and give you a simple life to live yet una dey complicate issues for una selves. You can marry her but forget about adopting her son because his dad will definitely come for him someday. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by A305: 1:31pm On May 08, 2021 |
cococandy:The law in the US and the practice in Nigeria are different and therefore mutually exclusive. Your opinion of adoption right works well over there in the U.S. doesn't mean it should be practiced here accordingly. We are different! Nigeria doesn't have such law indicating that — once a father abandons/neglect his kid(s) or role, then they can be given up for adoption without the father's consent. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Goldenklassy: 1:31pm On May 08, 2021 |
How does this relate to the thread...peruse well pls @ righteousness22 |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by greggng: 1:32pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: That area is no go area ...even if the dad is dead , he has family or relatives ...concentrate on having your own child with her ..,except you are impotent ...what she is encouraging you to do will amount to criminality ... |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Babavictor1: 1:33pm On May 08, 2021 |
Well on my own opinion . I also have a baby mama . I do my best to pay d boys school fees and occasionally send money for clothing but when d lady is asked she claims she does everything for the boy that d father abandoned her and d baby . I once rescued her from an accident wc gulped close to 60k but her family forgot that. If a woman is good why did the man leave her . Some ladies leave cos they can't endure . My brother 100 yrs is not forever there will always be problem between ur kids and d boy . People know d story and will tell them. Just take care of the boy and don't adopt . D future no one knows has a lot . 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by MarketDispatch: 1:34pm On May 08, 2021 |
Akv666: You can take care of your fiancees son without adopting him legally. |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by pocohantas(f): 1:35pm On May 08, 2021 |
[quote author=ivolt post=101491592][/quote] There is nothing impractical about my advice. They should go for a legal (sole) custody of the child and leave it at that. EOD |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by Cashio(m): 1:38pm On May 08, 2021 |
By the time the starts calling the boy bastard within the neighborhood and amongst his peers in school, no be person go tell make him find him root.... Adoption is usually better for female children..man go must always find his root. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Adopt My Fiancee's Son Legally? by hybridblood07(m): 1:39pm On May 08, 2021 |
Is it a crime? mystery22: |
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