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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by IdrisE(m): 8:21pm On Jun 07
Oh my sister hustle, cause na your hustle go determine your fate���.
Leave poor or rich man matter.

Your life can't completely be as that of your mom and your mom is not wrong either with her opinion. Just do what you think it's right.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by nini007(m): 8:22pm On Jun 07
Amotolongbo:
If you are already high, you don’t need a man then.

If the men have this mentality of yours, they won’t marry ladies lower than their status.

Your mother made the right statement but you didn’t get the message. She said don’t marry a rich man, she didn’t say marry a poor man. You have run foul of false dilemma, making just only an option to counter your mum’s advice ie any man not rich is poor.

There are men with no material now cos they are currently investing their mental resources to create wealth in the future. Men with potentials, these are kinda men your mum is telling you to marry.
Adding your potential value to compliment this kind of resourceful men to create wealth will earn you a maximum eternal matrimonial respect

Don't you think she's intellectually lazy to understand her mother's statement. Someone that's not making any money or has contributed anything tangible to a project dares call another man "poor"? It's so sad that people like her think it's just like a snap of a finger to get married to a rich man.

I just pity some girls sha, their empty brain won't absorb anything tangible making them useless even in that rich man's house instead of contributing tangibly there.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by BrainSanitizer: 8:22pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.
If you're rich, go for a rich guy.
If you're struggling, go for a struggling guy.
If you're poor, go for a poor guy.
Las Las, e get why.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Asadujames202(m): 8:22pm On Jun 07
omolola100:

i am not a lazy gal, i dont depend on anyman before i buy cream and make my hair.


How sweet is your p-hole
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Auxtan(m): 8:23pm On Jun 07
Amotolongbo:
If you are already high, you don’t need a man then.

If the men have this mentality of yours, they won’t marry ladies lower than their status.

Your mother made the right statement but you didn’t get the message. She said don’t marry a rich man, she didn’t say marry a poor man. You have run foul of false dilemma, making just only an option to counter your mum’s advice ie any man not rich is poor.

There are men with no material now cos they are currently investing their mental resources to create wealth in the future. Men with potentials, these are kinda men your mum is telling you to marry.
Adding your potential value to compliment this kind of resourceful men to create wealth will earn you a maximum eternal matrimonial respect
E shock how the mumu girl just open mouth dey tag average men the mum told her about as poor men. Her mum is making lots of sense but is sad this generation doesn't get what an average man with potential means anymore.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by afroniger: 8:23pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

Your mother isn't wrong actually. Though I have to also say that it is not bad to marry a 'ready-made' man either, if you can find a good and single one that is willing to settle down with you. The problem with many ready-made men is that they have lots of options (lots of women also want them), and so they think most women that like them are either gold-diggers or after their money. Therefore such men don't usually regard their wives as much as they would if she had met them while they were still struggling.

Another thing you need to consider is that a single man can be struggling and yet NOT necessarily 'poor'. A struggling man with prospects and ambition shouldn't be regarded as poor, but rather should be seen as one gradually building a future, 'Rome wasn't built in a day'. I see nothing wrong with settling down with such a man.

Better still, instead of waiting for a rich man, start working hard and smart so that you can complement your future husband irrespective of whether he is rich or still hustling, that way you would put less emphasis on how rich or poor he is.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by nini007(m): 8:25pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

Don't you think she's intellectually lazy to understand her mother's statement. Someone that's not making any money or has contributed anything tangible to a project dares call another man "poor"? It's so sad that people like her think it's just like a snap of a finger to get married to a rich man.

I just pity some girls sha, their empty brain won't absorb anything tangible making them useless even in that rich man's house instead of contributing tangibly there.
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Nwaotu10(m): 8:26pm On Jun 07
Redpill dudes.

This gurl said she doesn't want to stoop so low to marry a struggling guy, but she wants a rich guy to stoop so low to marry her.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Eriolubrainee19: 8:26pm On Jun 07
Ole oloju kokoro omo alatenuje

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Auxtan(m): 8:26pm On Jun 07
Amotolongbo:
If you are already high, you don’t need a man then.

If the men have this mentality of yours, they won’t marry ladies lower than their status.

Your mother made the right statement but you didn’t get the message. She said don’t marry a rich man, she didn’t say marry a poor man. You have run foul of false dilemma, making just only an option to counter your mum’s advice ie any man not rich is poor.

There are men with no material now cos they are currently investing their mental resources to create wealth in the future. Men with potentials, these are kinda men your mum is telling you to marry.
Adding your potential value to compliment this kind of resourceful men to create wealth will earn you a maximum eternal matrimonial respect
Between I commend you for being very thoughtful despite being a girl.
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by IYANGBALI: 8:27pm On Jun 07
Please listen to your mother o. bola146 married a very reach yahoo boy, but today, she is regretting the decision she tooked that time. So learn from her mistake

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Hassanmaye(m): 8:29pm On Jun 07
NeeKlaus:

So you feel you are stooping low to marry a struggling man but you don't think a rich man is stooping low to marry you, yes?

A broke woman marrying a very wealthy man = "She's securing the bag. Yassss Queen!"
A comfortable woman marrying a struggling guy = "She's stooping soooo low. Ewww!"

The standards are double these days.
Wow the most intelligent statement I heard today
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by stupidmod3: 8:30pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.
stoop low sorry, ur hand dey pain u shey, u no fit work make ur own money abi.

i pray that rich man u marry bleeps ur friends n enemies.

rubbish
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Lucas10(m): 8:30pm On Jun 07
Na so my sister take troway better person wey go marry her go jam agbako. Pray my sister before anything.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by spiceadole: 8:31pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.

Your mother doesn't want you to stay long in the husband hunting market.

Fact is.. most men are poor.
Some rich men started poor.
Try and be comfortable by yourself.
Whatever the man has is extra for you.
Don't wait for what a man can give you.
Most of them .. na only preek them get

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by EM123: 8:31pm On Jun 07
omolola100:

i am not rich, but i know i will be great tomorrow.
this is the best mumu comment i have ever seen , you no won cook but you won eat . "i am not rich but i know i will be great tomorrow". Senior nonsense.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by tonieguy(m): 8:32pm On Jun 07
The answer is simple.
Look at Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton, etc.

Your mom is a wise woman. A woman that grows with her man6has a say and can never play second fiddle. At a point, the much feared Abacha could only be approached through the wife whom new him and struggled with him when he was a nobody.

Imagine marrying a rich already made man. You are entering another kind of prison where your voice will never count.

My advice, marry an upcoming man, but hardworking, with dreams and visions

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by UwaMmebii(m): 8:34pm On Jun 07
Tony142:




By the time your mother get to old age and u are unable to take good care of her, and she ask u, why are u not sending me money, tell her that the poor man she ask u to marry have not even being able to take care of you not to talk of you having money to send her cheesy




Your mother says that if u want to have peace of mind u should marry a struggling man, that means she is indirectly saying that All poor men gives women peace of mind, while All rich men treat women like trash? That is a wrong generalization



So, never see poor man when dey beat woman abi? There is one poor man close to my house na almost everyday he dey beat his wife, so saying all struggling men give their wife peace of mind is not true



Seeing a rich man to marry is hard, but If u see a rich man that respect you for who you are, marry him


rich guys are few, the probability of u marry a rich guy is very slim, but if u did not see a rich guy u can still marry a man that is comfortable, even if he is not rich atleast he can take good care of a family and support him to grow




Before I go, let me let you know this



The reason your mother marry your father is not because of love, but because she have no other options, if your mother was able to see a rich man to marry when she was dating your father, trust me she for dump your father for the rich man lipsrsealed

I concur with ur aforementioned but how much can a man have to be considered RICH?
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mayberry1(f): 8:35pm On Jun 07
emmaodet:


Bro, why do i think you are kind of pacifying her to marry a man with potential.
Women are not doing any man a favour by sticking with them. If they like make them marry or not, men won't die and life will move on.
Only if you know that most men are also enduring them.
Hardly will you see a nigerian relationship that is balanced.
It is all about what they can gain from men.
Most of the relationship have ever been were a waste of time and resources. I don't fancy it anymore.
How will you date a woman for 3,6 months or a year without nothing to show for it.
You look back, no boxers, no wrist watch, no singlet or wears, sneakers etc NOTHING!!!! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!! and you think i will be proud of such person? Someone i can remember with anything, no hosting me on outing or pool or cinema etc
It is very very very boring.
Love should be give and take.
If you are too broke to buy things for your bf in a relationship, then am sorry you have a misplaced priority.
What you need as a woman then is a job and not a relationship.

You came on so hard on my gender... smiley
Mistake most parents make is focusing on the male child to be independent and self reliant while lowering the bar for the female child. I believe as an individual(s/he), your goal should be how to be independent in life. I for one cringe whenever I hear ladies wishing hard to marry a rich man like money is gender based(there's nothing as sweet as working hard for your money).
People forget the law of reciprocity when it comes to good deeds, lots of women want to enjoy being showered with gifts and all the good things of life thereby forgetting to reciprocate quarter of what they get, I believe that stems from the environment they were raised, lots of folks are self-centred and only care about themselves. It all boils down to orientation and upbringing . Nobody deserves a tight-fisted, self-centred egocentric partner.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by stupidmod3: 8:36pm On Jun 07
omolola100:

i am not a lazy gal, i dont depend on anyman before i buy cream and make my hair.

ohh wow hair n cream.
u are complete already
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by RPG2020(m): 8:38pm On Jun 07
erinatso:
Aunty with due respest pls permit me to tel u that u r mad. If nt dat u ar my senior i for tel u say u no get sense
u get mind tel us say ur mum no like u


You insult her you dey talk say if she nor be your senior you for insult her nor be juju be this
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Mypeople2(m): 8:39pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.
Alright Queen Elizabeth. You can go ahead and look for a rich guy who works in an oil and gas company or has his own company .When you find one that will marry you and not let make you a baby mama,let us know so that we can call your mum a bad woman .By the way, make sure he is not sacked or loses his company since the money is your goal

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by BRATISLAVA: 8:39pm On Jun 07
omolola100:

thanks for the little advice sir, i'm 22.

It seems you're new to this misogynist forum.

If you wanted real advice, this is the wrong place.

It is full of bitter, heartbroken, broke young men who want every woman to struggle with them, yet want women to bring so much to the table for them.

Marrying a struggling man will not give you a good marriage, as they would like to make you think. They are just projecting their fantasies and insecurities on this thread.

Marry who you want to. The people advising you will marry who they want to. Most are single, and single young men rarely say anything sensible. They only mature after 35 years of age.

There are good rich men and there are wicked poor men. Most poor people are innately wicked. They are only humble when they don't have money, especially men. Once you help him make money, he will dump you for his type of woman. Stories of such abound.

Most of them castigating you want to marry a rich woman who will carry all their bills. Watch them closely on threads where the woman is rich to know that they are lying to you and venting their misogynist frustrations and double standards here.

Hypocrisy in men is not surprising.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by RPG2020(m): 8:40pm On Jun 07
Lilpen3758:
Sister no listen to your mother because things has changed.......you think say poverty sweet?? you think say if i be woman dey way i broke now i for no start ashawo work??
you think say to dey poor for nigeria deh easy??


You never ready because Men dey do ashawo work

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by AljaanIVQ007(m): 8:46pm On Jun 07
omolola100:


i am not a comfortable woman, that is why i dont feel it is right to marry a struggling man, i am not after money anyway..


Shut up,what are you after broke madam?...money is unisex so get yours and marry whom you want...
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by princewarri1985: 8:46pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation, according to my mum, she said it is better to suffer with man to acquire wealth, than to go for a ready made soup.

Looking at the way things are going now, do you think a woman will now stoop so low and marry a poor man that is trying to make ends meet? Although, money is not love, but why would a parent wish her daughter to marry a poor man, i am begining to see my mum as a bad mother who does'nt wish me well.
Is it advisable i follow my mothers advice? I should stay in SURULERE instead of OLORUNSOGO.
You need 2 things right now and not a husband, 1, GO GET A JOB, 2, GO BACK TO KINDARGARTIN CLASS, VERY POOR ENGLISH
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Pharaoh4rin(m): 8:46pm On Jun 07
Amotolongbo:
If you are already high, you don’t need a man then.

If the men have this mentality of yours, they won’t marry ladies lower than their status.

Your mother made the right statement but you didn’t get the message. She said don’t marry a rich man, she didn’t say marry a poor man. You have run foul of false dilemma, making just only an option to counter your mum’s advice ie any man not rich is poor.

There are men with no material now cos they are currently investing their mental resources to create wealth in the future. Men with potentials, these are kinda men your mum is telling you to marry.
Adding your potential value to compliment this kind of resourceful men to create wealth will earn you a maximum eternal matrimonial respect

Do you why I quote sometimes? It's because I'm a sapiosexual and I find you on a corner line. You state ur views as I seem fit whether it's for a woman or man.

Nice one there
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by chatinent(m): 8:47pm On Jun 07
“Stoop so low.. ”

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by BRATISLAVA: 8:47pm On Jun 07
spiceadole:


Your mother doesn't want you to stay long in the husband hunting market.

Fact is.. most men are poor.
Some rich men started poor.
Try and be comfortable by yourself.
Whatever the man is extra for you.
Don't wait for what a man can give you.
Most of them .. na only preek them get grin grin grin grin

Lol, this advice!

True at bolded.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Trustedpronet: 8:48pm On Jun 07
Where are the rich guys in the first place. If you are referring to Yahoo guys as rich then sorry is your name. If you are referring to civil servants as wealthy guys then you are blind. I have seen the mighty fall and I have seen the poorest rise to the moon. Make your own wealth ma, it will be better for you at the long run.

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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by malvisguy212: 8:49pm On Jun 07
omolola100:
My mother advice me never to look for a rich man who is well do whenever i'm set to get married.
she said i should marry a man that we will both start our life from the foundation.
may God forgive you for calling your mum a bad woman. do you even know the word "foundation"? I'd advice you to marry a guy who you see a bright future in him. go and apologize to your mum.
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Amotolongbo(f): 8:49pm On Jun 07
Pharaoh4rin:


Do you why I quote sometimes? It's because I'm a sapiosexual and I find you on a corner line. You state ur views as I seem fit whether it's for a woman or man.

Nice one there
thanks sir

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