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Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 11:41pm On Oct 12, 2021 |
richboy7: I'm happy.... Very happy... We are not dumb lol.... 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by fredoooooo: 11:43pm On Oct 12, 2021 |
Lamanii22:That's not lay , that's getting the wife you married back... Attimes you need to cast the madness out with .. it goes both way though |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:04am On Oct 13, 2021 |
stonecoldcafe: Awwwwn I'll send you an email now... Thank you hun |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:18am On Oct 13, 2021 |
77up: Ha! I don't want ooo .. infact I miss my younger self..... So pure and innocent.... And very sweet.... |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:19am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Thank you hun.... Much love x |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:22am On Oct 13, 2021 |
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Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:22am On Oct 13, 2021 |
kingsceedon: God forbid! It's not my Portion in jesus'name |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:24am On Oct 13, 2021 |
jaxxy: Bipolar? That's extreme ooo.... I reject it in jesus'name.... High tone is what it is.... Just that high tone ooo.... |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:25am On Oct 13, 2021 |
drimzsmoke: He'd say something like "God, where's the wife I married" or "you're just very stubborn".... |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Lamanii22(f): 12:27am On Oct 13, 2021 |
fredoooooo: Lool, using madness to port madness.... |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Ogalanyaidi(m): 12:55am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Richy4: � |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by kunle75(m): 1:05am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: God will help you, I was once like that too. Its takes grace and self discipline � |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by emmyluizzz: 2:32am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: then is obvious you know what your problem is... then why bring it up here? |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by sharone21(f): 2:58am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Davash222: You always tilt everything to hate on Naija girls.. Kukuma marry virgin oyibo which u can only see in your dreams. I wonder if na Japanese woman born u? That is y someone rightfully said your WAHALA too much. Get sense, how old are u sef? You want to take this attitude into marriage? I bet u, even if u mistakenly see a foreign woman, u will still transfer this hate for Nigerian girls and female gender to the person. unknowingly, anyway na still Nairaland u go still come ask for marital counsel. E be like say u get paid to start gender war? And your type wants to marry and get peaceful marriage in your dreams abi? You better drop this childish, redpill mentality that disgraces u in public after u go occupy front page typing nonsense like a teenager. I'm not even sure the women u are hating on, u half intelligent like them as u always type rubbish about the female gender. Na only the females in your family u love and think u can insult females in other families? Every time, tilting your write up to put women in bad light. Continue, even the virgin oyibos u think will love u may just be on Nairaland reading all your nonsense which portrays Nairaland men generally as no good in relationships or u think u are only giving yourself a bad name? Anyway, common sense is NOT always common. A word is enough for the WISE if at all u are one. |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Greystone: 4:00am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Lol...ok |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by codeKart(m): 4:15am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Whenever you're having an argument, count to 10 (slowly) before you respond. It's going to be hard initially but it'll get easier over time. |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by kingsceedon(m): 6:00am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Then show him some respect, for you to keep a man that loves you is by showing him some respect, you can't be shouting on me and expect me to love and keep you in my house, never 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by cardoctor(m): 7:32am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Then stop yelling |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by kapelvej: 7:41am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22:sincerely I was just joking. I know a lot of people have called you names. But let's be honest I salute you for realising that it is not a desirable attribute and willing to find help. Sadly I have been having same issue with my spouse for years and nothing has changed. It is the worse thing that can happen to a man. It makes the man treasure women outside who just respect them a little. In my view, I think it has circles around when a woman loses love and respect for their spouses. These are the root causes. Shouting could be the symptom of your frustration with him, or your own expression of assertiveness and not willing to come under his headship of the family, hence the loss of respect. In our place of work ,even if we do not live our bosses, we however dare not shout on them because we still see them as the head hence we still fear them .( let no one deceive us fear is a firm of respect.Fear is the highest form of respect, that is why people achieve a lot with a gun and kind words, than with kind words alone) Women naturally adore and respect who they love. Therefore, loving him more and respecting him will automatically make you stop raising your voice without struggle. However, if there is anything oga is doing that has made you become like 'this to him, then that must be addressed first. You are soundly educated. I read your posts, clean English, therefore you are intelligent enough to know the root cause. I really salute you for seeking a solution. God help you. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Nackzy: 8:07am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22:notice you're into business, can we chat on WhatsApp |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Iheakonye(m): 8:53am On Oct 13, 2021 |
B4 u talk to him, if u are angry, count 1-10 within u. Secondly, listen to him with the intention to understand not just because u want to reply. Also, learn to listen twice as much as u speak. U can aswell be making ur contribution to him as a form of suggestions n not imposing, learn to request and not demand. |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by jaxxy(m): 8:55am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: When does this high tone happen? When just talking normally or during an argument or when sing soprano in the other room? If it’s only during arguments then u are just overly defensive or stubborn by nature. It’s not a good trait. If ur husband also had a habit to increasing his tone it would be a shouting competition bt I think he needs to warn u cos now ure feeling like a wolf and he’s looking like a sheep. |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Babatojide: 9:11am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Being a quiet person most of my life... I suddenly became aggressive and i always needed to raise voice/shout at times... Then I discovered... Cos i used to be quiet people never took me serious or listened(especially older persons) I needed to repeat my self over and over again (sometimes for weeks to pass a particular message)... Subconsciously i became agggresive(not violent)when the need to be heard on an important isssue... Now i have learnt to use the two emotions to my advantage... I could be a quiet mumu for weeks ... And i could be an arrogant lousy person in a second... Cos it has been certified here in Lagos That “weyrey die die is necessary” Just like salt in soup Small small periodic craze may make u look like a mad person to others but it keeps YOU sane... Been aggressive doesn’t have to involve VIOLENCE |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by drimzsmoke(m): 9:35am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Lolz....Ma,you and I both know there's no problem here,you just came online to show off your man Your husband is a VERY MATURE REAL MAN,I'm impressed with your selection of a husband,you must be very smart But if you're truly worried,you can massage his ego anytime you shout at him.He will want you to keep shouting at him everytime |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by OdenKelechi(m): 9:48am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lol...You should just be on your own and not in any relationship |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by wiseass: 9:57am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: If thats the case all you need to do is be less aggressive or more dispassionate when arguing..I used to raise my voice a lot with my ex during arguments because she always felt the need to be right, I'm talking 2hr phone calls and as time went on I began to resent her for it but now with my current babe I don't raise my voice and if the argument is getting heated I just concede..and when the tension has died down I then make my point or patiently wait for the I told you so moment... And you know what she respects me for it 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Dermie: 10:30am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Before you begin with proving your point, count from numbers 1 to 10 while breathing in and out. Also, think of how damaged you will be if he was to punish you for yelling at him. It is obvious your respect for your partner is not solid. Learn to respect your partner. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Olarexxie(m): 10:37am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Same with my girlfriend, I will never raise my hands on her but I always make sure she feels my anger in silence � |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by Cheeryfeet: 11:21am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22:Cos somewhere in your heart you despise him, probably think somehow you are better than him, you could probably be earning more or somehow taking care of him. They said why we shout or yell at people is because we have grown far apart in the heart so subconsciously we shout so they can hear us |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by jozz(m): 11:28am On Oct 13, 2021 |
[quote author=Lamanii22 post=106674256] Not like I insult him or anything... I can't make a point without raising my voice.... I'd just start keeping quiet and not respond....[/qu May I ask: Were you like this when you were dating him? |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by jozz(m): 11:29am On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: Did you behave this way while you were dating him? |
Re: How Can I Stop Yelling(shouting) At My My Partner? by OBTOREPA(m): 12:41pm On Oct 13, 2021 |
Lamanii22: You are beginning to dislike him then. Or maybe you have another guy at heart. |
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