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My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Confidant010(m): 8:36am On Oct 26, 2021
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 8:37am On Oct 26, 2021
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Mennnnnnnn, op,if to say you use that 300k buy bitcoin back then,I believe say by now you for don dey ball small small like yahoo boy..

I won't be surprised say na this type of op go settle down loosegaurd him fellow guyman because of ordinary 2k....But imagine am na,if to say na your guy you spend 1% of that money on,you think say that guy go fit ever loosegaurd you?

Well, let's bygones be bygones,like I normally tell my guys wey dey mumu follow women....Dem no dey tell blind man say fight don tear for Market before he dey TULELEH........But like seriously op,you fvck up,no be say I dey say na bad thing say you dey spend on your woman,but it's very important for every sensible guyman not to start any relation-boat with money....Even if you get too much money self,at least try use sense small..

Las las, no NIGERIAN lady worth one second of my headache undecided

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Stormtrooper11(m): 8:37am On Oct 26, 2021
Dump the bitch. You no be cashapp

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Fahdiga(m): 8:37am On Oct 26, 2021
How much do you give to your mom monthly? Let's start from there

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Geestarry(f): 8:40am On Oct 26, 2021
Smelling entitlement mentality!!

She should better learn how to be financially responsible, if not she will remain a liability to others.

@OP you should encourage her to learn a skill too, or she should buy and sell.

With 6k, she can buy and sell sachet water sef.

If she is not adding value to you, then you are better off alone, than being drained.

My 2 cents.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by SILENTandSMART2: 8:42am On Oct 26, 2021
Why are you sounding too weak ? You already know what to do

Is it by force to love ? If if you think money and caring makes girls stay then the day she complain about it. don't feel slow about it just carry your big L...

You created this thread to waste people's time not mine because this ain't something new and you can't tell me you don't know what it is....

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Solofresh2: 8:45am On Oct 26, 2021
Confidant010:
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!!!
You mean you are doing all this for a lady that is not your wife all this while?
Like seriously?
You are a disgrace to Manhood!
You don't deserve to be called a man!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Henix(m): 8:46am On Oct 26, 2021
Clap for urself!

I just hope u have equally spent upto that amount on ur Mom between the said 2017 to date

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 8:49am On Oct 26, 2021
Candidlady:
And your day one Niggarr is starving to death somewhere!

smh!
date a responsible girls that wont be a liability una no go hear!
You sure say you be banny at al undecided. Because you dey reason like guyman sad

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by ahnie(f): 8:50am On Oct 26, 2021
Pls how much do I need to budget in acquiring a Nigerian passport and how do I go about it and how long will I have to wait?

Pls do well to answer my question.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Candidlady(f): 8:58am On Oct 26, 2021
Sonnobax15:
You sure say you be banny at al undecided. Because you dey reason like guyman sad

lol

majority of my friends are males and trust me when isay iknw how ya'al dudes reason!

so bros i be "banny" wud like to see my "teetees"

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Divoc19(f): 8:59am On Oct 26, 2021
You really love her?

Don't allow love send you to an early grave.

Love yourself first and know what is good for you, sentiments aside.

Let her go back to her ex then

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Magnoliaa(f): 9:01am On Oct 26, 2021
Ehyaaaa. So initially, she pretended like a good girl, ba? Traditional, virtuous, submissive, stove, grinding stone and washing machine? Now she's disturbing you for money? She's exactly the type I had in mind when I made a post some days ago. grin When redpillars tell you AWALT, una no go hear. See am now?

I don't disagree. Me, I am like every other woman oh. Don't goan be thinking I'm different in any way. You'll just go and disappoint yasef.

If as a man, you don't know what to do about this on your own, op -- I have nothing helpful to say to you. angry

Sonnobax15:
You sure say you be banny at al undecided. Because you dey reason like guyman sad
grin

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 9:03am On Oct 26, 2021
Candidlady:


lol

majority of my friends are males and trust me when isay iknw how ya'al dudes reason!

so bros i be "banny" wud like to see my "teetees"
See your " teeters" grin. Ma'am,what do you mean by tha undecided
Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Divoc19(f): 9:03am On Oct 26, 2021
Why not create a thread on this?
ahnie:
Pls how much do I need to budget in acquiring a Nigerian passport and how do I go about it and how long will I have to wait?

Pls do well to answer my question.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Emecson: 9:04am On Oct 26, 2021
Is it that this guy is not on NL, they have been so many threads like this that have received much condemnation and you still get mind carry this kind tin come again, I feel you just felt like typing something cos you know d answer to your question already

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by mybiz234: 9:09am On Oct 26, 2021
Confidant010:
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.

You are an idiot. Do you have low self-esteem and you have to pay money to get love?

You are among the dumbest men I've encountered in a long time.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Candidlady(f): 9:11am On Oct 26, 2021
Sonnobax15:
See your " teeters" grin. Ma'am,what do you mean by tha undecided

my two "headlamps"

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by cooooooks(m): 9:12am On Oct 26, 2021
Don't follow sunk cost fallacy. Cut off & say bye bye.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 9:13am On Oct 26, 2021
Candidlady:


my two "headlamps"
grin grin grin. No na,I'm heavenly bound...

Btw,are efficient and effective are your two headlamps? tongue

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Candidlady(f): 9:17am On Oct 26, 2021
Sonnobax15:
grin grin grin. No na,I'm heavenly bound...

Btw,are efficient and effective are your two headlamps? tongue

efficient and effective enough to blind your eyes lol! Even the sun aint bright as these "headlamps"

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 9:21am On Oct 26, 2021
Candidlady:


efficient and effective enough to blind your eyes lol! Even the sun aint bright as these "headlamps"
grin grin grin Do you believe in the saying which says-- "Seeing is believing" tongue

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Candidlady(f): 9:29am On Oct 26, 2021
Sonnobax15:
grin grin grin Do you believe in the saying which says-- "Seeing is believing" tongue

no i dont! Cuz if i did. It means i have to wait all my life to see god before i believe him!

so "faith atimes is believing" lol

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Sonnobax15(m): 9:32am On Oct 26, 2021
Candidlady:


no i dont! Cuz if i did. It means i have to wait all my life to see god before i believe him!

so "faith atimes is believing" lol
Sometimes "faith is believing" means spending one's day imagining and visualizing the pictorial view of... tongue

May god forgive me cha angry
Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Olatoman(m): 9:33am On Oct 26, 2021
I love that you claimed you trying to build yourself.
300k from 2017 till now like someone calculated earlier comes to about 6,250.00 per month.
I could go on about how’s she this or that, but here’s my candid opinion (which might be wrong).

You should not focus on a relationship for now, especially where you assuming financial responsibilities coupled with your struggles.

It’s also best you both sit down and discuss what she can be doing to earn some form of living. That way, she does not really on your “pocket money” but will appreciate it if comes willingly.

You mentioned she’s on scholarship, which takes away some financial burden on her (think we both know you’ll likely want to pay her fees if that was not available)

Prior to her visit, also have a serious discussion with yourself, life enough is stressful, do you want to compound yours, distracting yourself with “women palava” (no insults to my dear sisters)


And yes she’s right, the value of 6k 4 years ago isn’t the same as of now; re inflation and purchasing power, and she feels entitled to you doing better.

So dear Op, ball is in your court.

I’ll add one more thing; FOCUS!!!

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Olatoman(m): 9:38am On Oct 26, 2021
ahnie:
Pls how much do I need to budget in acquiring a Nigerian passport and how do I go about it and how long will I have to wait?

Pls do well to answer my question.

Learnt location matters too, southwest seems to be more “hotbed” than other states when it comes to price (official and unofficial), demand pushing unofficial prices up.

You’ll need a certificate from your local government, also your birth certificate, if I recall correctly, a letter from an existing passport holder, all this can be arranged by whoever is processing it.

Some people actually go to the north to do this, cause one, it’s cheaper, two, it’s faster.

If you around Lagos/Abeokuta, can dm you a contact.

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by ahnie(f): 9:40am On Oct 26, 2021
Olatoman:


Learnt location matters too, southwest seems to be more “hotbed” than other states when it comes to price (official and unofficial), demand pushing unofficial prices up.

You’ll need a certificate from your local government, also your birth certificate, if I recall correctly, a letter from an existing passport holder, all this can be arranged by whoever is processing it.
So no estimated amount to be budgeted.i need an estimate.
By the way,I reside in Delta State.

Some people actually go to the north to do this, cause one, it’s cheaper, two, it’s faster.

If you around Lagos/Abeokuta, can dm you a contact.
Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Nobody: 9:47am On Oct 26, 2021
grin my advance for you is that as you dey spend give your babe remember to give mama too because

GOD bless you my son

better pass

awwwwn awwwwn.

mumu girl wey no add mining to your life con imaging say you don marry her you give her money for food she go tell you Say e too small.

wise up no dey mumu urself there are many fishes in the water

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Re: My Girlfriend Is Complaining Of The Cash I Give To Her Now. Advice Please � by Nyascobar1414(m): 10:01am On Oct 26, 2021
You are nice nigga thats why..
She's taking you for granted

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