I kinda agree with you

tellwisdom:

Na so, cos i no go like hear for paper tomorw say, A man killed her wife for infedility By then story go change

tellwisdom:

monkeyleg and LadyT, You guys fink  its this easy to just walk up to your husband and tell him you are YASHING ANOTHER MAN( No tushed word for it)

Honey, I dey bleep dat guy, and you  would imagine how the husband would feel when he hears it??, #Una don dey madt abi??#

On a serious note, It wont be easy at all, and you guys will not be there to bear the pain with her, so why SPIT rubbish like you guys were the best PEOPLE, If you were with me most especially (Monkeyleg), I go don scrap all your ten fingers wey u dey take type and by then, we no go dey see you for NL again.# Bombombastical eleme#

Great question . . . . .  The man will not even remember that he did it too

Fhemmmy:

If she needs grace to break away from the man she is sleeping with, then, she is not ready to change and work on her marriage, she has said that she is not in love with the other man that is just sex, so what is the grace she now needs

It's obvious that she is sexually attracted to the other guy that's why she needs the grace of God to break out, it's not by muscle o!

tellwisdom:

I swear, na dat time him own sin go become righteous one, Pkomor mehn spiting rubbish like they knew 100% what the man will do!

LadyT:

Excuse me where did I say she should tell him?

I told her if she really wanted to tell him she needed to be[b] prepared for the back lash![/b]

ronkebp:

Minx, i feel for you , only because your heart is like a rollercoaster now, beating fast and not knowing what to expect from anything. Where i think you missed it, was when your husband was confessing to you, that i think, should have been the best time for you too to confess to him, he will be angry of course, but you would have cleared your mind, He is not justified to have any relationship outside his marraige and you are not justified too, You both have messed up. And it is a good thing that your husband still loves you, since you have let that moment you should have confessed slip by,, just ask him jokingly, "what if he catches you with another guy, what will happen?' all you need is just for you to know what his reaction might be, you know your husband, you know the best time to approach him, you have to let him know, this is not a new thing, infact in my country 70% of married men cheat on their wives and it happens everywhere, and you have 50% of women also, cheat on their husbands,
   So my dear, am not saying, you should tell him now, but you have to tell him someday, but i think the earlier the better, when you are about telling him, pray and fast first, ask God to forgive you and pray that God would touch your husbands heart, then prepare his best meal, take him to the room, kneel down at his feet with tear in your eyes, and confess to him, you would see, his anger would not last for long, he will forgive you. Don't be scared!!!

monkeyleg:

Ultimately it is upto the poster to choose what ever course  she wishes. Persoanlly I dont think healing can begin if lies still exist, and I would want to dreed the outcome if he ever found out, which remains a big possibility.

Poster really needs to understand that this kind issue comes with its consequences, and most times there is no easy way out.

Good luck

Fhemmmy:

She could imply it to him without telling him . . . . and i think the best is for her to forgive herself

You have to make a choice and be prepared for whatever the outcome.  You cant have your cake and eat it dear.

If you tell him be prepared for him leaving and telling everybody what you have been doing.

If you dont want to keep it a secret you cant expect him to accept and be happy about it.  He sounds like an alpha male.

your conscience will be free but you have a tough road ahead of you if he makes a lot of noise about it.

He may suprise you with his reaction 

Just prepare your mind for the worst stay strong and please protet your child from this mess you guys created.

Excuse me where did I say she should tell him?

I told her if she really wanted to tell him she needed to be prepared for the back lash!

ronkebp:

Fhemmy it is not easy it all, but taking 'a' step towards becoming faithful, is what matters.

monkeyleg:

She will forever live with this lie, and it is bound to eat her up. Her husband may never understand her behaviour. I think ronkebp got it right there, not quite sure about the favourite meal thing, it might end up on her face. but the fact remains that for her to begin a new, she needs to get rid of the guilt in her heart, and believe me if she does she might find that the journey may not be as difficult as we are all thinking it might be. Dont forget that we are told the husband screwed up as well, so his anger is likely to be short lived.

but I wish her well

Ultimately it is upto the poster to choose what ever course  she wishes. Persoanlly I dont think healing can begin if lies still exist, and I would want to dreed the outcome if he ever found out, which remains a big possibility.

Poster really needs to understand that this kind issue comes with its consequences, and most times there is no easy way out.

Good luck

tellwisdom:

Brother its not this easy as you think, These guys will live under the same roof forever and youe xpect that guy to be happy whenever he remembers MONKEYLEG dey bleep him wife, man mi,  if e hit u, u go knw watsup

MeGaStReEt:

Wife playing away
Husband playing away

You guys will end up giving birth to Messi and C Ronaldo

@poster, as I dey read your post I dey provoke! DID HE FORCE YOU TO MARRY HIM Whats all the talk about you dont feel happy anytime he is around, after you don say I DO. Una dey mad self? wait oo singles full this NL ooo, make una kno come use una disco take spoil my makossa ooo

You people should end the marraige and move on with your lives!!!!!!!!!!! And I was thinking this generation will be the worst

na only God know the kain children wey una go born

Foooolish, e-diotic, moronic, senseless Wife.

paraphase:

Monkeyleg is the most annoying human being on this thread for his\her.Please stop telling her to tell her husband mehn. Things you cant even do yourself[b],how i wish i can remove those fingers you use in typing the most silly post on internet.I will kick my wife(whom i love so much) out of my house if she confesses she cheated on me[/b].I think you should go and sleep becos you are not making any sense.

paraphase:

Ok Brov
You are one of the few people making meaningful posts right now. Tell monkeyleg to stop annoying readers o jare