Please stop this your mentality already...

keneck1:
Some kids saying all manner of things against women today may end up begging to marry some of the girls they are calling all manners of names.

Thank God you say "some" & "may" , and that's the irony of life.

And that might be because those women have gathered wild experiences due to their past and the men in question is a novice.

The truth is; it is a two-way thing. Life doesn't revolve around one person/gender.
no one, I repeat no one should use his/her body anyhow during his youthful age thinking they just want to enjoy.

Y always her always I don't understand, wat about him, his past, how many ladies he dicked, how many guys dicked him join, how many ladies aborted or have a child for him. Pls check his past life too before husbanding him. Mak person no go marry curse instead of husband.

NOETHNICITY:
Women can know how to advise about forgetting about the past.

Get the message and forget whose gender it came from.

the bitter truth is that people like that cant never change no matter how hard they try

meeky247:
It once happened to me that I came to know the past life of my girlfriend while she is in school. She do collect money from random men to visit them during the weekend. I approached her and she confirmed that its truth and she did it to sustain herself while in school. It's not that big deal for me since she did not lie. But she somehow continued with her past life and I decided it's time to let her go. A monkey will always eat bananas no matter what you do.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

PLEASE avoid this advice.
This is the WORST advice ever given to humanity.
I am married.
Please avoid this.
Kindly go for those LADIES who have kept themselves ooooo.
I know what I'm saying!
Ask Married Men ooo

Favfables1:
I'd rather stay unmarried, than marry a female who is not a virgin....
Nahhhhhhh...
That's not a possibility I'm willing to consider...
As long as she wasn't raped and she's not a virgin, then she's off the chats already...

And for those of you saying, "it's not about her past, it's about character", is sleeping around a trait of good character? Can't a person be a virgin and still have a good character?

that has been my question for the "character over virginity" chanters...

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

How will u know her past? U b thinkin u married to a goody goody girl meanwhile she's been moved around by men.

lilvicky68:
Lol.

Watin dey funny to you?

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

There are more single ladies than single guys.
There are millons of single ladies in Nigeria.
Literally hundreds of millions of single and searching around the world.

It cannot be impossible to find a decent one without reducing your moral standards.

I have followed Tacha, the BBN naija girl Instagram page/post even before she entered the bbn house and contested. This was a girl that open her yans.h and body to the whole world. She literally had no form of respect for her body. She advertised and promote products by first revealing her unclothedness to attract people before displaying the product. The height was when she used Solomon Lange gospel song called Grace to go almost naked, shaking her ass seductively, that was blasphemy and it got me. That singular act would had set naija on fire is it was done to the other faith.

OP, now Tasha is packaged and pseudo refined since she came out of bbn….obviously to gain more promotion and brands.

Now, you are advising me to ignore this lady’s past and marry her?…and expect not to be burnt?

OP, I cry on your mother’s behalf for you

michael1508:

Please forget this fallacy of there are lots of..
It's sickening when people use that as a defense mechanism,can't you see the kind of people our society breeds today?

Well, my statement didn't deny that there are some irresponsible women. Defense mechanism that what? I know a lot of decent ladies, if you're not meeting them then you're meeting your likes.

Dagger111:


You must have put your issue into Reference, for saying this.

Are you an Albino for real.?

Uncle, yes I have albinism. And the post doesn't refer to me.

Magnoliaa:


Watin dey funny to you?

Compliments of this period jare..hope you are enjoying Sha

Opeyemiextra:
Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

And your point is?

Ade3131:


To many ladies out there, they want a man with allot of bedmatics experience bcus it is believed that these kind of guys would know how to satisfy their sexual desires, hence a man's body count would mean that he's got the right blend skills and competence.

To some of us communication is the lifeblood of the relationship. If there's something I can't discuss with my would-be lifetime partner, then there's an issue somewhere. The dead doesn't hide his unclothedness from the person who would conduct his janazah. We should be so in to eachother to the point that it just won't make sense not to open up on past, present and future.

Of course I'll want to know what am getting into. Lemme know the extent of the damage if at all there's any, because the earlier we discuss it the earlier we get to work on how to right some of those wrongs and salvage whatever is left.

Past could mean some abortions gone wrong and womb destroyed....past could also mean that the potential wife is a porn star....past could also mean an armed robber or drug addict.... could be anything of that nature. I've always encouraged discussing past relationships with my exs, and I do so with the most sincerity of intent. I don't castigate or use it against them in any topic of discuss.

BTW, you're beautiful hadjia Zainab

You spoke well.

Nagode. Merci.

AfroKnight:
This is bad advice.

Don’t eat sh!t because you’re hungry and jollof rice is still on fire. As a man, place value on yourself. Don’t be like OP.

True talk.

Zeinymira:
There are lots of decent women but y'all chose to ignore them.

Another true talk.

mirexxx:
how much the bride price come be??

How much is your own brideprice?
Remember that you'll bill the guy right from relationship days before he even pays brideprice.

Thank God I am wise. Na ladies dey give me money. I love my Life.

Justkatty:
Get the message and forget whose gender it came from.

I'm truly sorry sweetheart but that is not possible

But in Nigeria 95% of the women hide their past, tell lies and deceive men.

Sonnobax15:

This is certainly the most senseless advice (comment) I've seen here on nairaland for this year

Chaiiii, which kind mumu advice be this . You mean I should just lock up and try and forget the fact that the woman I'm about to share my prestigious and beautiful future with was once a community diick servicer?

Mallam Kabiru,I no blame you at all . E be like say your preek never jam pussycat wey settle down swallow am like tap wey every abokii don fetch water from .

No matter what--"Don't ever marry any Woman out of pity". Or. "Out of compensation".

Hahahhahahaha let the fool be, he will learn the hard way please

Clickguy44:
Good advice, in fact one of the best advice on this forum. To make it better, if she is a single mother, go for it, they love the best. It's gets better, look for those that have had sexual relationships with yahoo boys preferably those that have been used by them, those that their womb is damaged and the working dead among them. Just forget the past, since the past is in the past. After all she won't judge you by your future.

leave the fool he will learn the hard way

BigDawsNet:
"marry her like that"

African mentality!
Is it a must to marry?.

Some of us don't want, just live and adopt a baby, will family pressure allow us?

DropsMic:
Reminds me of Emeka that year.. Girls wey boys dey use hold body for street that year, e reach Emeka turn him go marry her talking about my love for her is pure and the past is the past. This same Emeka dey cry today say him wife dey cheat..

If you Gerrit, you gerrit.


Guys must have sense by force....

Opeyemiextra:
Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

nah

Hassanmaye:

leave the fool he will learn the hard way

Opeyemiextra:
Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

nah

Hassanmaye:

Some of us don't want, just live and adopt a baby, will family pressure allow us?

Bro, I don't know how things are at ur side but I believe when you are 27+ above ...you are a real man and you can make a perfect decisions for yourself...

I'm not saying you should not marry oh...
But making a decision to adopt or surrogate or baby mama... should be a decision you will make and stand on it... They can only advice...no one can can force...

But try search well...
You may be lucky to find a wonderful woman
And don't forget to pray before any decisions

nesgeeek:
I've been keeping my precious body for the right lady, I've never engage in sex. so u expect me to go and marry an harlot. God forbid...

Hahahhahahaha forget the past please she has changed, you are a man

osaeti:
Y always her always I don't understand, wat about him, his past, how many ladies he dicked, how many guys dicked him join, how many ladies aborted or have a child for him. Pls check his past life too before husbanding him. Mak person no go marry curse instead of husband.

I agree with you that it goes both ways….

BigYash:
Her past will still not give you peace of mind. If you like know it,if you like don't know it. Girl wen don spoil,don spoil. No amount of money you give her can change her,not even sex game.. Cux she don do party tire,before she met you... So,girl wen don spoil,don spoil o

Lol

Sunday2021:
This is a foolish advice, your advice is encouraging immorality.
So a girl that I know she is doing ashawo,who even sleep with my father and brothers, go to maiduguri do ashawo,go to Calabar do ashawo, go to sokoto do ashawo. I should just close my eyes marry her abi? And tomorrow you will be one of the people that gossip when when we go shillo looking for a child because of the number of abortion the dog (girl) did when she was bobbling.

But you are a Man please, you should Man up, can't you see you are a man

Stevyne:
Women in there 30s still go far self.
Let's tone it down to some gals in there 20s or early 20s.

Two months ago, I overheard a gal of 20 telling someone her body count is 11, committed two abortions already.

Hahahhahahaha damnnn