killmods:

Here we go again.. what makes u so sure that it's the man that's at fault? What makes u so sure the problem is not from the woman being Frigid? You're contradicting urself also by using the term spice it up. Is it by distancing herself far from him that will spice up the Marriage?
At the bold I blame Nairaland for making u throw those words at me on a norm I can't be seen sharing the same breathing space with u.. u this ugly duckling with no dress sense. Forming big girl with ur dirty tattered slippers and ur still posing. No let me tell u word this afternoon. I'm not ur regular NL boy. Idiot

Ninisun:




Go and wash plates small boy! Taaa gbafuo there

edunaragold:
I even called my pastor to it,and my pastor said allow her to leave ,after 3 weeks ,she is gonna miss you,honestly that is what is happing now.woman can miss somebody without telling the person I miss you .but her characters must show that she miss you,you don't need to beat your wife,but follow her jeje.even if cheating in her back without her knowing just do it, so both you will have peace at home,when you no longer make sexual advancement to her, no body go tell her say she done dey useless for house .when there are many fishes in water.

silibaba:


[s]Sure bro.

The last thing I will do is worry about wife or girlfriend things.

All I owe myself in this life is give my kids all the best and enjoy my life too, nothing more, nothing less.every other thing nah secondary.

My younger brother invited me to their bank end of the year party at eleguishi beach last December. I swear wetin I see married women dey do that day ehhh. Since then I come understand why donjazz never marry.

Marriage nah sca[/s]m

Hashabiah:
Brother, you are just taking a risk with this decision. Now I am not here to give you advice (since it is obvious that you have taken matters into your hands ) but you should know that having a successful marriage requires one thing: the presence God. Human wisdom will only lead to confusion and the way I see it, your marriage might just be heading in that direction if you do not put things right.

emmaodet:
Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment ,give your problem wife s sense of refreshment,or let them miss you so they can know what they have. - This your comment at the last paragraph.

You know, i didn't bother much about all you wrote aside this last paragraph.

Do you see marriage as a cage for women? because that is what you comment insinuated. That no woman wants to be tied down. Is your marriage a chain or cage?
Do you actually think a woman is doing you a favour just to be in your house? or you are the one even helping her ass not to be on the street hustling alone.

There are many ways to refresh in marriage without separating or calling it a cage.

A woman that says you irritate her and lost interest in banging you - 1. is probably banging outside OR 2. She has met a new guy probably on social media / an Ex who is far doing better than you and she is regretting marrying you because she would have had a better man if not for you.

What happened to you happened to me early last year and i just ignored my wife totally and picked up a lady, after some time she became worried am having affairs outside .... and so??
When she asked me why have not been approaching her again? she asked is t because of her cold attitude to sex? that she told me it is my duty to spice things up and bring her into the mood? i just told her she irritates me and i lost interest in her (same thing your wife told you)
Ever since then, our sex life has been A1 - Excellent
Your wife is probably banging outside bro.
For a woman that is jobless and you had to raise money for her to do business, she has more to lose than you if the marriage goes south. The pressure should be on her to regularly try to seduce you to bed rather than the other way round happening. She is not doing you a favour being in your house.
Let her know she going out or trying to give you space has consequences. The guys deceiving her outside are just doing that because they are not the ones paying her bills and free sex is always sweet to men provided they are not the one paying for it.
Alpha bangs, beta pays the bill.
If the marriage crashes and she tries to move in with the guys deceiving her by the corner, instantly the will hate her and avoid her like a plague because she is a bag of liabilities.

muheeb01:
Marriage is not a child's play,it requires sacrifices,endurance and a lot of compromises

MrBrownJay1:
desperation to be married at all cost makes a lot of people marry total strangers, and then when they finally realise who they married, its too late and they are stuck.

in Nigeria, marriage is synonymous with happiness, even if both spouse are miserable!

edunaragold:
I even called my pastor to it,and my pastor said allow her to leave ,after 3 weeks ,she is gonna miss you,honestly that is what is happing now.woman can miss somebody without telling the person I miss you .but her characters must show that she miss you,you don't need to beat your wife,but follow her jeje.even if cheating in her back without her knowing just do it, so both you will have peace at home,when you no longer make sexual advancement to her, no body go tell her say she done dey useless for house .when there are many fishes in water.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

advanceDNA:
Wait.. what is this one saying....??
Your wife refuse you sex for 7 months..
She Said you are irritating her....

Then she said she wants to relocate to her state and she left.... for what..?? So her business can flourish.... so, the business cannot flourish where you and her live together?


Well, I would have called you a Secretary of simp association....but since you enjoy your marriage like that... what’s our own...
Carry go..

Czario:


You see this guy knows how the movie will end he just wants to watch it in slow motion.. doesn't want it to end GBAM !!! Just like that.

I respect the guy, he get liver mixed with patience

kurlz:


Let me be truthful with you. I am a woman, the desire of every sane woman who is in love is unto her husband, the Bible even said it, as a man, any woman who is your wife or girl friend who doesn't desire you often and always crave for your presence and attention or even sex from you are out of love with you. She's probably cheating or doesn't love you any more, that's the bitter truth. I'm sure she regrets getting married to you.
Every woman in love strives to keep her home and be by her man not to the other way run.

You have to man up, tell her as she's no more with you and doesn't want you it means she's out of the marriage, then watch her reaction.

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know, both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them, while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.

Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from, my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes, but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage, but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.

When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired, leave me alone, pls stop, etc when I make advance at her, I tried to find out what is wrong, I called her attention to it politely, she told me that I was irritating her, so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop, I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school, she still continued in refusing me. I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her, but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop.

Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet, she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.

After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did, and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone.

Na who sex help, another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me, but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.

Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment, give your problem wife sense of refreshment, or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

MrBrownJay1:
desperation to be married at all cost makes a lot of people marry total strangers, and then when they finally realise who they married, its too late and they are stuck.

in Nigeria, marriage is synonymous with happiness, even if both spouse are miserable!

BlackyOne:


Until someone start to knack her, and that's if someone or people have not started knacking her already