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Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
A woman should be homely without compulsion. It’s an inbuilt thing. Do you also assist in the house chores? Or your expectations are that it’s a woman’s thing! Times have changed, do your bit and teach her before marriage, whatever you can’t alter before marriage will only get worse and manifest after marriage. Putting your both work into consideration, a lot of families cook once in a while and stock up the freezer. In my home, it’s every 2 weeks, some even monthly, funny enough, it’s cheaper, saves gas and stress. You guys should cook up. It will also reduce stress when children starts rolling in. 5 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 9:44pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
QuizPay:She leaves for work 7:30am? Eh! And you want breakfast? Please be considerate. People eat breakfast at work. 3 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by ezewealth(m): 9:44pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
We all have our shortcomings, u want her to be perfect which is not possible. To me though, is not red flag, with all d merits and demerits of her personality you wrote, the merit supersedes. Any man that is looking for a fully perfect woman, is sitting on a long thing 3 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by od501: 9:46pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
LotaTee: This topic is not fir kids, I recommend you don’t get involve until u are 18. I'm sorry for shaa...with all this your wack modern woman mentality. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by omosefeeguaibor(f): 9:47pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
Make someone help me tell this guy that a good woman hard to see these days oo, na slay queen plenty pass for the lot. Hmmm truth is no one of us is ever perfect. This thing called marriage is all about partnership and most importantly balance, where your other half is falling short, nothing stops the other from standing in gap. I feel you both should sit down and have a deep conversation concerning this and in the end, you both should find a compromise around the situation. Nitori pelu gbogbo advice I've read thus far hehehehehe oga you may miss it. Make una two sit up abi na level up. Ire oo |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by 07kjb: 9:48pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
Bro she is still blinking pink when u finally marry her she might turn red or green... just be watchful |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by AutoChick4U(f): 9:49pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
QuizPay:You go to work, she goes to work as well and u expect her to enter kitchen after work? Habaaa! Fiancee fa 4 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Mvena(f): 9:50pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
No be red flag o
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Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by BigBashiru: 9:50pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
LotaTee: This is a weak argument. Assuming she doesn't work she should do all that.... and if she does work she's should do 50% of the chores. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by AutoChick4U(f): 9:52pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
princeeze1:Women work now so how do you expect them to be homely? His fiancee goes to work by 7am and he expects breakfast? Haba. If she had a business or a laid back job, it would b a different case. 3 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Chris2863(m): 9:55pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
shantti: |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by nesgeeek(m): 9:56pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
No woman is perfect. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Bayyajidda(m): 9:56pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
LotaTee: And you had to insult him? |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by aribisala0(m): 9:56pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
BigBashiru:This is according to a) The Quran b) The Bible c)The Nigerian Constitution d) Ohanaeze e) all of the above |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Nobody: 9:56pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
Someone goes to work from 7:30 to 6pm and you don't think she needs to rest. You don't think that after all that wahala she wants to lie down. She will bear children with all the stress and you still want her to work and take care of kids at the same time. Maybe when she wears herself out and looks so old due to stress you will be satisfied. And I'm sure you'll still want mind blowing sex on top of all this stress. People have to pray for considerate partners. 8 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Gabflex: 9:58pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
LotaTee:Wahala dey oooo.. A woman. Should be able to wake up early and fix breakfast b4 leaving home. This thing u just said now is rubbish If u are a girl u need to be single bcz u will kill somebody's son |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
viyon02:he just wanted likes nothing more. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by koolguy88(m): 9:59pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
A big red flag!!! This is NOT a wife material at all. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by zeusdgrt(m): 10:00pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
LotaTee:Na una dey spoil people marriage,if we even check u out now u dey cook and even bath ur guy before he go work 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Tomilola360: 10:01pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
it's a purple flag. why do people come here to ask questions imbeciles won't even ask? |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Klass99(f): 10:03pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
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Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by angelfallz(m): 10:04pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
Quizpay, what kind of woman and family do you want to have? Do you want a woman that would be cooking and doing the house chores? If yes. Then your fiancee is showing you blood red flags. Know what you want from a woman/wife. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Nobody: 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
acetylcholine:ladies like u are rare. Thumbs up 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by angelfallz(m): 10:05pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
So she can't get up early and cook breakfast? Xilsbridalhouse: |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Nkemosarodion65: 10:06pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
viyon02:That is very true. |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Silentmoni(m): 10:07pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
My friend you are so good 2go....with these 3attributes faithful,supportive & prayerful she makes up 4 your complaint ×10,marriage is about complimenting your partner as no humanbeing is perfect. since u dnt find it a problem doing chores nd cuking u can b making up 4her in dat area while also talking 2her about it in a luvin way,wit time she would adjust...(mind u she's nt a full house wife who has all d time).....u might not understand d value of a prayerful nd faithful woman until u marry a prayerless nd cheating woman wey sabi cook nd do house chores den u'll understand d adventure in dis bible quote ''a virteous woman who can find''....luk beyound her little weakness so u dnt make a terrible mistake. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Bignuell(m): 10:07pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
My own be say "anything thing wey you no fit continue, no start am". Nobody is perfect, what if kids start rolling in |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by AfroKnight: 10:08pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
The truth is she won’t change not even when you have kids. Be prepared to give them cereals in the morning before they leave for school. Just buy fruits regularly to help balance their diet. 1 Like |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by Kooldame: 10:14pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
QuizPay:Though there is no perfect woman anywhere,but for a typical African woman,House Chores should be no 1 on the list of a Home Maker.Let me use myself as an example.I am a teacher with two kids.When my kids were still very young,my husband is the type that doesn't help with any house chores.He doesn't take breakfast before leaving home but I have to cook for my kids before going to school so I do all the chores in the evening so that when I wake up I will be left with only sweeping and cooking because I love fresh foods for my kids and we leave home around 7:15am remember I have to bath for one of them and dress her up because the older one could bath himself and dress himself up when he was 8 yrs.I know many ppl will say teachers don't close late but our work is so tasking you all know what I mean someone teaching like 4 to 6 periods talking and standing during these periods then we have to go back to d class in d afternoon to coordinate students to read.So we leave sch then by 3:30pm and I have to pick my kids in their schs,you can see it's not easy because on getting home I have to get them something to eat and then supervise their home works,prepare dinner,do house chores e.t.c So house chores and cooking is a woman's major assignment in order to keep her home in order.If your fiancée's job is so tasking that it makes her so tired to do these things she should do them in the evening.Try and monitor her whenever she's on leave.Then you can truly know what's contributing to her complains.Then make sure she sleeps on time so she can wake up on time to do her duties.If it's possible for her to cook and keep inside the refrigerator then warm in the morning,it's not a bad idea.Just try and make things work btw both of you and correct her with love you can do the chores and cooking together with time she will get use to it.It's not a good idea for a woman to shy away from house chores when she's still single so when she eventually gets married how would she cope.I have seen house maids becoming madam of the house because the Mistress was so careless and left every duty for d maid.So sit her down and strategize how she will be able to carry out her responsibilities when she eventually gets married. A word is enough for d wise. 4 Likes |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by kkonyeji(m): 10:14pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
It's not a red flag bro, it's a Green White Green flag... infact it's pure white! |
Re: My fiancee Finds It Difficult To Cook & Do House Chores, Is This A Red Flag? by franksam2009: 10:15pm On Jan 15, 2022 |
Like someone said, there's no complete package out there, if I'm in your shoes I will marry her since her good sides outweighs her bad sides,, cooking can be managed and planned though,,, it's just the lazy aspect you will learn to cope with which might likely get worst after marriage, Just pray she's not the lazy+dirty type sha 1 Like |
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