Vicktorhmustjap:
Hello everyone.

Please I sincerely need your help in terms of advice and counselling.

I am a young man in my mid thirty, has a beautiful wife and 2 kids. I have about 32 staff working for me. Just recently, December to be precise I started developing an emotional attachment to one of my staff. I told her I want her to join me to see a movie and she said she was travelling and she won't be around but January was fine. I knew she was avoiding the outing so I bought a ticket to the movies and sent it to her she never showed up and I didn't call her until work resumed on January 4th and I asked why she didn't come for the movies and she apologise that she was busy.

I told her we can go see the movies now since she initially wanted January, she said she can't that she doesn't want to be seen with a married man, and besides my wife is nice to her and also she doesn't want any girl with her husband when she eventually gets married so she won't want to be with anyone's husband that I belong to someone else.

I told her I don't want sex from her, all I want is from her is a squish relationship. she practically turned it down that she can't because she will be hurt in the end because belong to someone else.

Honestly, I felt hurt because I truly love her. I am more emotionally drawn to her even more than before. We spend considerable time chatting every day and on phones in the evening till night after the day's job. She is not so comfortable spending time in my office as she told me the day I was not in the office everyone kept asking after the boss from her and she felt embarrassed and asked them why can't call to know why I am not in the office.

she said we should please remind her the way it is, just chatting and phone calls and she can't afford to be seen around with a married man.

I really love her and I feel hurt as she is turning me down. I wish I can stop loving her, I really don't know how to stop loving her as I really wish not to hurt her.

Please I need the mature minds here to help give workable suggestions.

please Move to front page

lala

A squish relationship while married is emotional infidelity with potential to degenerate into a sexual affair. Show yourself and your family some respect and move on. The girl in your office is gold btw.

qtguru:


Shut up

I am not Married, I don't have a wife, I spend my whole day looking for/working for money to help people here, and contribute to people's life all you ever do is bring up my name and state that I cheat on a wife that I do not have, I don't even bring my relationship issues here. I have never told anyone to cheat on their significant half here before. Just refrain from mentioning me. I know your type, you have nothing to offer, of little help to anyone but can make all the noise in the forum.

You're just a noise maker nothing more nothing less. You are not worth anybody's time

Ignore her, brother.

MufasaLion:

Guardian Angel?

And you too,including all the redpillers.

Fiscus105:


Its matter of mindset, when you keep killing the lustful thought, a time will come that mind won't bring it up again, ........still happened to me this last December, one young lady joined my church and i huge influence in the church, If I asked the girl out, she would agree for me one time, in fact the girl kept asking for xmas gift for me which I gave her, my mind disturbed me a lot to ask her out but I resisted, now the lust faded already.

And if urs refuses to fade, tell the girl to leave , since its ur own work

I think I have opportunity to be around more women than you yet , I still stand my ground

That is wrong, so because she turned down his request, she has to lose her job ?, this even makes OP more irresponsible

MufasaLion:


Ignore her, brother.

If he ignores me,will you give me the attention? eat shit too

Iyaebe:
And you too,including all the redpillers.

And why would you be my Guardian Angel?

Iyaebe:
Eat shit qtguru,you will eat back all this thrash if you truly know me. I don't want to spoil your day because it won't take me 2seconds to do so.I will mention you and any other person as I like,do you want to do anything about that? Big head

Me and your path will never cross, regardless i wish you well. I have nothing against you other than the level of stupidity and immaturity you show. You can mention me all you want, if that's how you choose to spend your free time.

MufasaLion:


And why would you be my Guardian Angel?

Because you need to get married against your wish

MufasaLion:


And why would you be my Guardian Angel?

You dey mind am, she think say I be NL people who loves drama, me I will logout and tend to my people. wetin concern me

And that's how men are. A woman has told you that she doesn't want to be with a married man. She's told you know in so many sentence, but you still keep persuading her. Later you'll say all of them are hoes.

qtguru:


That is wrong, so because she turned down his request, she has to lose her job ?, this even makes OP more irresponsible

OK ooo, let her destroy his marriage and run his business aground oooo. After succeeding in doing that, she would still leave.

Bitter truth always hard to swallow.

Iyaebe:
Because you need to get married against your wish

You don't have the authority and expertise to make me do that.

qtguru:


Me and your path will never cross, regardless i wish you well. I have nothing against you other than the level of stupidity and immaturity you show. You can mention me all you want, if that's how you choose to spend your free time.

Yes,our path can never cross(we are world apart) but I'll be a bone in your neck on this forum till I decide otherwise.I'll look for your trouble anyhow I like and call you out everywhere unnecessarily, what can you do about it?

qtguru:


You dey mind am, she think say I be NL people who loves drama, me I will logout and tend to my people. wetin concern me

Smart move, brother.

pocohantas:

I am sure this one took his wife out last in 2004 when he was chyking her, but he is here trying to surprise a small girl with a movie date, while his wife and mother of two kids is at home in a hair net and bongo shorts, running after two hyperactive children.

I swear you are mad

qtguru:


You dey mind am, she think say I be NL people who loves drama, me I will logout and tend to my people. wetin concern me

loads of drama awaits you against your wish.You will run if I decide to start

MufasaLion:


You don't have the authority and expertise to make me do that.

Don't underestimate me

Iyaebe:
Yes,our path can never cross(we are world apart) but I'll be a bone in your neck on this forum till I decide otherwise.I'll look for your trouble anyhow I like and call you out everywhere unnecessarily, what can you do about it?

lol Free world, you women have rights anyway so you can do what pleases you my dear

Iyaebe:
loads of drama awaits you against your wish.You will run if I decide to start

Yimu but feel free sha,

qtguru:


Me and your path will never cross, regardless i wish you well. I have nothing against you other than the level of stupidity and immaturity you show. You can mention me all you want, if that's how you choose to spend your free time.

Out of every reply on this thread she chose you. Person wey don use your DP masturbate tire come dey find your attention.

MufasaLion:


Smart move, brother.

I have 109 members to mentor on slack I don't have time for a teenager

Iyaebe:
Don't underestimate me

Till you approach issues with maturity and professionalism, I will only see you as a troll.

qtguru:


Yimu but feel free sha,

Fear has gripped this one already,later you'll be forming hard man.

DroppingLiquid:


Out of every reply on this thread she chose you. Person wey don use your DP masturbate tire come dey find your attention.

My brother I tire, I wish say I be dark skinned person so that she go free me

qtguru:


I have 109 members to mentor on slack I don't have time for a teenager

That's cool. Lots of people are looking for who to mentor them in IT. STEM is the future.

Keep up the good work, Chief.

Even women that hate me on Nl don't go this far

MufasaLion:


Till you approach issues with maturity and professionalism, I will only see you as a troll.

I will always misbehave as far as this forum is concerned and will only stop when I've found husband

MufasaLion:


That's cool. Lots of people are looking for who to mentor them in IT. STEM is the future.

Keep up the good work, Chief.

Not just IT there are tons of fields, but people are zoning to IT, but I will keep bringing them up sha, cuz people dey suffer for this country

DroppingLiquid:


Out of every reply on this thread she chose you. Person wey don use your DP masturbate tire come dey find your attention.

I rebuke you.Dirty mind, go to church for deliverance

Vicktorhmustjap:
Hello everyone.

Please I sincerely need your help in terms of advice and counselling.

I am a young man in my mid thirty, has a beautiful wife and 2 kids. I have about 32 staff working for me. Just recently, December to be precise I started developing an emotional attachment to one of my staff. I told her I want her to join me to see a movie and she said she was travelling and she won't be around but January was fine. I knew she was avoiding the outing so I bought a ticket to the movies and sent it to her she never showed up and I didn't call her until work resumed on January 4th and I asked why she didn't come for the movies and she apologise that she was busy.

I told her we can go see the movies now since she initially wanted January, she said she can't that she doesn't want to be seen with a married man, and besides my wife is nice to her and also she doesn't want any girl with her husband when she eventually gets married so she won't want to be with anyone's husband that I belong to someone else.

I told her I don't want sex from her, all I want is from her is a squish relationship. she practically turned it down that she can't because she will be hurt in the end because belong to someone else.

Honestly, I felt hurt because I truly love her. I am more emotionally drawn to her even more than before. We spend considerable time chatting every day and on phones in the evening till night after the day's job. She is not so comfortable spending time in my office as she told me the day I was not in the office everyone kept asking after the boss from her and she felt embarrassed and asked them why can't call to know why I am not in the office.

she said we should please remind her the way it is, just chatting and phone calls and she can't afford to be seen around with a married man.

I really love her and I feel hurt as she is turning me down. I wish I can stop loving her, I really don't know how to stop loving her as I really wish not to hurt her.

Please I need the mature minds here to help give workable suggestions.

please Move to front page

lala

You are not in love, you're rather infatuated which is a form of stupidity.

So get your head together and take hold of your emotions. Stop the contact immediately and focus on your job.

If you continue, she may eventually fall for your foolishness, and ruin your business, marriage and then your life.

Fiscus105:



OK ooo, let her destroy his marriage and run his business aground oooo. After succeeding in doing that, she would still leave.

Bitter truth always hard to swallow.

Her ke, or it's the OP trying to destroy his own marriage. I've met his type and worked for his type and I will give the same advice, focus on your marriage. Leave the poor girl alone

That your staff is a nice girl� because there are some you'll get to meet until you fold up your business they won't stop to milk you.

You don't want sex from her���REALLY?

When you are able to control your 3rd leg as a man, 65%of your problem is solved.
Channel that your love you have for her to the mother of your 2world.

love-vendor her to your taste and see her turning back to the way she was the very day you met her.
Mister avoid side chick.