BRATISLAVA:


According to Nigerians laws, it belongs to his father now. Unless he decides to teach the man a lesson.

Which of the Nigerian laws?!!

If it is legally and rightfully bequeathed to him via inheritance, his father has no claim to it except it was stated in the Will!

Funny thing... Many of you guys castigating the Op would have said otherwise if it were reversed: if it were the mother dragging his inheritance with him!

Maobichek:
You have a point but the right question should be: who is the next of kin to the late woman? Did you write a will? These questions clarifies the squabble ok.

Sadly, the Op confirmed that his mother didn't leave a will.

Mindlog:


So OP's father so love the late wife that he wants to sell some of the land she left behind without the knowledge of his adult son?

The son is not telling you guys everything....

Ask him more

Is your father that own the property until he die before you inherit the property. Take for example if is your father that build the house your mother will inherit the house until she die before you inherit the house

Maobichek:


You have a point but the right question should be: who is the next of kin to the late woman? Did you write a will? These questions clarifies the squabble ok.

Next of kin is not key when it comes inheritance.

Kobojunkie:
No! The Married Women's Property Act of 1882 in Nigeria allows for women to have and keep property of their own in marriage.

Thank you for correcting him I was just about to

Bro for equity and fairness share whatever your mom left with your dad. You cant take it all, nor can your father take it all. From every indication your dad depended on your mom for survival, now nOw she is dead, the right thing would be to give him a portion, you can have the d larger share yeah. But he should get something.

pocohantas:


[b]At what point did she bequeath it to her child? [/b]The child on his own decided his father is extravagant and not financially responsible. Face OP and his father.

I misread the OP, he made it sound as though the mom left the property to him specifically.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Why do you bring this case before nairaland Internet Judge Judy’s at the 11th hour ?

It will also be helpful if you would offer some solutions you deem fit or appropriate so we can bang heads together.

Obviously this is not the whole story.
Did she have a will ?

There are 2/3solutions I see here
1. You get a lawyer and find out legally what you are entitled to.

2. You sit down with the old man and map out what you will give him from your mum inheritance. A house or 2 with recurring revenue. With a legally binding document which states that he agrees to it.

3. You get money to pay him off and keep the houses from falling into a 3rd persons hands. With a legally abiding document that the properties belong to you.

GraciousGod190:
no will

Then you are a mad man and a very useless son for this.

The property naturally passes to your father whether you know it or not.

SmartyPants:


I misread the OP, he made it sound as though the mom left the property to him specifically.

Of course you wouldn’t read the OP well because you want to blame the mother- A WOMAN.

KingOfAllIgbos:
Both father and son are useless.

Both should go and work hard like the industrious mother who worked for the same things you leeches are quarrelling over.

I am not sorry to say this... Both of you are very revolting and shameless.

Don't you have any principles at all ?

" I took my son to court over my wife's properties " or

" I took my dad to court over my mother's properties"

How do these 2 statements sound? Like Father, like Son.

That means you don't read!

I don't like putting mouth in this kind of thing but since you brought out let say something. Don't allow your father waste those properties, contact a good lawyer if you can afford that. Claiming a big boy is not by mouth, this is the time you need to show it.

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

ur family is not in order. This shouldn't even come up. Der belong to ur father. He gives u wat he wishes to give

Igbo and properties sha

Your papa wan use money go married another wahala woman wey go claim to be your stepmother in the future. You better stand on your ground make your papa no go hustle abeg. A good parent live an Inheritance for his children tell am like that. Imagine property in question no belong to am.

pocohantas:


Of course you wouldn’t read the OP well because you want to blame the mother- A WOMAN.

Have no issues with women.

Rest.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

Who is the next of kin. If it is your dad....forget it.

Kobojunkie:
Sadly, the Op confirmed that his mother didn't leave a will.

Then he can't legally and rightly claim she left it to him...

Maobichek:

If the above questions can't be answered and the husband married her legally with certificate, he definitely has more right to the properties oh!

You know this is another angle the OP could look into. If the marriage between his father and mother were never in fact registered, maybe OP could use that to his benefit. What do you think?

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

get a very good lawyer, hand over all adminstration of properties to him/her with authority to arrest and prosecute trespassers including supposed family members

I'm assuming she willed the properties to you. Still, get a good lawyer

Kobojunkie:
The same also informed you that this was as it was in the beginning. We are no longer in the beginning, not since God cursed marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16 ushering in the era of divorce and remarriage.

God never cursed marriage or said man and wife are no longer one. He still blesses marriages till today.
Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.
1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

won't this sound weird to u tomorrow u tell ur friends that ur son is dragging ur wife's property with u? How did this even come up. Pls u guys should arrange ur family

GraciousGod190:
no will

Next in kin fa?

try ask you dad how him want make una resolve the issue. If his still getting you out the try see a great lawyer. You will need him in a long run. Also look for a uncle your mom do confide in and talk to him. You need back up or you will lose in court. E get why

2goodbobo:
Your Father has the right to sell or claim the properties because he was Her Husband.

Why are some men so shameless that they want to inherit what belongs to the family of their wives?
The property is not what the wife worked hard to acquire.
She inherited it from her parents.
I think it is an irresponsible man that would want to inherit such property.
Can you see why families don't want to let their female daughters share in their inheritance?
Because they know their husbands will acquire the inheritance.
As a responsible man you should have enough dignity and self-respect NOT to touch any property that your wife inherited.
That is covetousness and stealing by stealth.
Shalom.

All things being equal(Assuming he didn't marry another wife,he was her husband before she died,he raised you all) you can not expect that all the property will go to you.You two should sit down and share the property.

I really don't understand

pocohantas:


At what point did she bequeath it to her child? The child on his own decided his father is extravagant and not financially responsible. Face OP and his father.




And rightly so…

Same way your mothers only care about you and not your fathers. Isn’t that why you can kill any woman that insults your mother? Because she loves you so much, that she hated your dad at the same time. At least now you see how such love starts. Mothers sacrifice a lot while fathers are doing oringo, just like OP’s father. He is a man thankfully, so let’s take his opinion of his father as the truth. Men don’t lie.

I am a full grown adult and don't wallow any more in the infant emotional manipulation of mother's....

I can't kill for her.

freemi:
won't this sound weird to u tomorrow u tell ur friends that ur son is dragging ur wife's property with u? How did this even come up. Pls u guys should arrange ur family

if your daughter married in the future and after her demise, her husband decides to sell the inheritance you left her and just to flex anyhow without minding your grandchildren u go like am?

some of you need sense refill

[quote author=GraciousGod190 post=111980899]As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.







If I understand you well you SAID your mother properties ws passed to have by her mother because she was the only surviving child ...
Here are some issues to contend with ..
Are your parents leaglly married before your mum passed on?
Is there any will on these properties?
Are the properties written in your mother name or both partner only??
Why so you so much interested in all these properties ?
Are there written documents or witnesses to affirms these properties are still intact ?


My suggestions are simple..
I feel you these properties are not rightly yours until your enemy father has passed away you make think you are one of these LAZY and property entitlement KiD ( pardon my harsh words ) ..
you should be gratitude that you still have a claim to some properties in Nigeria without anyone throwing arrows at you .
My thoughts are if there is any possibility of having a good discussion btw FATHER and SON on how to manage and yeild more income would be better .
But if he says no..in respect to Old age then you share the properties evenly and wait till his enemy pass to glory
To avoid future dependence on you and your children ..
But if you insist get yourself an experience property lawyer but be READY to burn some good CASH and fight hard( not physically ).
This are my thoughts ..

pocohantas:


The problem here is, I suspect your parents never had a peaceful marriage. Probably your dad was abusive in one or two ways, hence your willingness to drag property with him. You should get a lawyer.

Someone just said children take over inherited properties. Lucky you!

You see everything through the prism of domestic violence's/Marital problems. Try dey disguise your insecurities sometimes abeg. You pocohontas will get married and have a blissful marriage. Wish it unto thyself.