bigpicture001:


I am a full grown adult and don't wallow any more in the infant emotional manipulation of mother's....

I can't kill for her.

KiNg0G:

who be this mumu? wetin the op do you?

must you insult am, because he carry him family problem come here. All this nairaland frustrated people self.

oldienavie:

He is the only son.
Some parents are not reasonable, you just assume that everybody can act rationally.
My dad managed to build 3 houses with the support of my mom , he is a very excessive spender and he does not know how to control himself when people ask for help.
He can give out his whole salary to people while the family suffers.

As I speak he has sold 2 houses, and we dont even know how he spent the money, infact, I wont be surprised if he has sold the last one.

What I did is to focus on building myself, I approached life with a mentality of an orphan, so I never looked at all the things he acquired which he has now squandered.

So @OP, I understand this is a difficult situation, but if you are doing okay like you claim, focus on your own family and forget that he exists. Let him sell the property if he wants, since you are also in a good place, there is no need bothering yourself with his wasteful lifestyle, some African parents are a burden on their children and that is the reality.

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

tctrills:

God never cursed marriage or said man and wife are no longer one. He still blesses marriages till today.
.

You(wife) will want your husband very much,
    but he(husband) will rule over you(wife).” - Genesis 3 vs 16

patwilly:

You see everything through the prism of domestic violence's/Marital problems. Try dey disguise your insecurities sometimes abeg. You pocohontas will get married and have a blissful marriage. Wish it unto thyself.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg, how true is the claim made below..

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

Mindlog:


As long as your mother's marriage to your father was legally recognized, him being the surviving spouse, you and your siblings will all be beneficiaries.

Get a lawyer involved.

socialmediaman:


Inherited properties are usually given to the children, not the spouses

Trojan8:
The man trained you to where you are, and you are shameless dragging land with him like this. Were you the one that married your mom? Na wa for these kind children.

Blazadenise:
Imagine I'm married, have 4 children, me and my wife train them all through school, gather properties around the country, now Wife pass on, and for one/two reason my son want to drag property with me..something that solely belong to me and my wife, Even if there was a WILL. Me and my wife would have agreed on how to share our property.. Unfortunately one party to the will is still even still Alive, do you know what it means to drag your dad over what belong to him. Except there re more yo your family background you not telling us.

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

GraciousGod190:


How?

Really

I don't agree at all

If I wasn't born, do you think those property would be accessible to him?
Because he married my mother.
It would have been passed down to the closest relative of my mother kindreds

Mindlog:
The attached screenshot gives an insight.

https://guardian.ng/features/next-of-kin-implication-on-beneficiaries-of-estates-in-relation-to-laws-of-succession/

KiNg0G:
if your daughter married in the future and after her
demise, her husband decides to sell the inheritance
you left her and just to flex anyhow without minding
your grandchildren u go like am?
some of you need sense refill

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.

tctrills:

According to Nigerian law, the spouse is automatically the next of kin. The child only inherits if its expressly stated in a will or if there was a divorce.
Again, we don't advise families to settle issues in court. Keeping the family together is more important than sharing property.

KiNg0G:
This is serious, according to bible na papa right since him and your mama na one.


But normal common sense, your papa nor supposed drag your mama property with you na

Him supposed to dey hustle to die live better one for you...


Things dey happen for this life...o chai

immortalcrown:
Your house is not in order. This is all I can say now.

But by right, your father is most entitled to your mother and her property, just as you will be most entitled to your wife's property.

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid that ain't entirely true, even in Nigeria.
Thanks to Mindlog!

GraciousGod190:
As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.