nedekid:

Ha, some men eh, both young and old like milfs.
My paddy who is 52 and as randy as hell, cannot look at a lady below 35. He claims young ladies do not know how to take care of themselves. They give you VD, they carry belle, the desturb you for 1phone 40, they beep any how unlike older chicks.
Some yeye young boys too prefer older women especially married women, widows and devorced.
Those days I know 2 guys that is only women that tie rapper they can nack. As in you must commot rapper from your waste before it will exite them. Lolz

BigBashiru:


Even women in their 50s hv boyfriends too.... there will always be demand for sex.....

But they are not preferred....only guys without younger options go for such....

But I won't argue with u.... if u want 40s and 50s u free....

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

Kobojunkie:
Satan ke? Another deluded individual who believes Satan is out to take his marriage.

Contrary to what you may believe, marriage isn't meant for everyone and not all single people flirt or bounce from one relationship to another. There are single folks out there who are single and free and happy at that.

janejjjjj5000:
I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired.

Nnamaka1:
1. What you failed to realize is that marriage is not the perfect bed of roses that the movies makes us to believe it is. Marriage is about sacrifice.

2. Overcoming your selfish desires and focusing on your family's happiness.

3. If only we can have the husband and wife focus on the other party, trust me marriage won't look like the condemnation curse that you have now been programmed to believe it is

Kobojunkie:
1. If that is the case, then the OP knows marriage more than you do this since she is willing to sacrifice her marriage certificate all so she and her children can live without what seems emotional/verbal abuse from her husband.

2. Her family here includes her 4 children who are clearly not happy with the abuse from their father at all. Or are you instead insinuating she place her husband's desires above those of her own children in this?

3. I don't even understand what you mean by this here. Their are 6 individuals in the family, 5 of them tired of what seems like emotional abuse from the 6th member and you are suggesting that having the wife focus on the husband and the husband focus on the wife will do what to make the reality of the abuse disappear ?

Nnamaka1:
I don't want to get into a back and forth with you. My advice is based solely on the word of God through Jesus Christ. If you don't share the same faith with me, you can never agree with me on my points.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Kobojunkie:
Your advise has absolutely nothing to do with Jesus Christ who told you instead that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. God Himself, who gave you marriage in Genesis 2 vs 24, is the same one that cursed it in Genesis 3 vs 16, along with child bearing, rendering the union unholy, so don't pretend that holding on to a worthless marriage certificate endears you to the one who cursed it because it doesn't.

This woman here is considering whether it is right to abandon marriage in order to give her children an out from what seems emotional abuse caused by their own father. Try to consider it with your heart as a human and not as a robot fixated or false ideals where marriage is concerned.

Nnamaka1:
I come in peace who ever you are. I wish you all the best

cle62000:
You made reference to winners chapel and Papa and Mama but you fail to understand how that happens, let me take your mind back to the Papa stuff, a preacher asked him "so you mean you haven't shout at each other for the past 25yrs, do you mean you guys doesn't step on each other's toes"? And Papa replied I am standing here and she's standing there, why would we step on each other's toes, he further explained I know what to do and I do it, she knows what to do and she does it, why should we have argument or shouting situation, now let's bring it down, your husband shouts on you, what led to it? What did you do? Don't tell us he just shouted, except he has a mental issue. So most times when things are wrong we tend to blame everyone else or someone else but self. It's good when we look at issues honestly and critically and ask what actually did I do wrong and how would I have done it better that made him to react this way, cause for every reaction there's a cause effect.
My dear you have a very good husband you may not know now until you loose it and then start wishing you didn't, do not let what you hear, read or see deceive you.
May God guild you but much more guild your self by thinking right and heed to good counsel
God bless you

JovialJune:



Why the hell will you believe such a lie? Use your common sense na,, siblings argue, colleagues argue, friends argue, didn't you see your parents argue at a point? Once you're staying with a person for a long period of time, there is no way there won't be misunderstanding now, haba


At bolded, you've never shouted at your husband? You don't provoke him too? In fact your comment above shows you are really naive, and that's the effect of marrying too early, SMH.

You are very delusional babe, because your reason for leaving your marriage is very silly, you are simply tired of being married because you never experienced single life, you married at age 19, so I understand your mid life crisis

You are your problem, not your husband.

LesbianBoy:
And I like where you said men should stop marrying because I don talk am here many times. Marriage is becoming a scam to men o.

janejjjjj5000:
No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.

janejjjjj5000:
I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired.

Karlifate:
You already shot yourself in the foot with this.
Women are easily carried away by what they hear.
Yes, the duo are good friends cos Bishop David Oyedepo is a Libra, while his wife is an Aquarius.

In conclusion, choices begat consequences.

intruder15:
Your kids will not see these when divorced. But your kids will see worse. It's not a swear. It's just life.

Kobojunkie:
So you resort of using their horoscope to explaining what is a lie they fed OP.

ROFLMAO

Karlifate:

Highway na way

I hope she gets my point. That's the most important.

Kobojunkie:
But you made no point in your attempt to rationalize the lie told by Oyedepo and his wife in their desperation to represent that which is not of God as if so.

Even Jesus Christ argued with His own mother but you believe the stars validate the claims made by this liar among men?

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Nuelzi:
What exactly does this gender want?

Sorry to say this but if what you wrote up there is true then permit me to say that you don't really know what you want

- you pointed out these qualities that most men lack yet you don't want to hold onto him.

E be like say e get niqqa wey you dey eye somewhere na why you wan dropout

Nobody should quote me....na my mind I talk,I no stone person

DoctorOlasDesk post=112181342:
Nigerians can be very biased and very unbalanced in their judgements with their stereotypical prejudiced misinterpretations.

Eleven pages of people judging a woman who speaks up about her situationship. If it were a case where one committed suicide out of depression, the same people would say why did she or him not speak up.. The comments of 95% of people on this thread is sick and troubling and imagine the set of humans condemning another.