naija4life247:


According to the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria or according to your village constitution

StilmaVsBorn2w:
fake pastor

Felimax:


Some men just lack sense. Hear yourself. So if that is your sister that is how you will walk to the morgue to go and carry her? Nor worry, dey there dey smart. Your head go soon correct by the time we finish with you.

I have one simple advise for you. Hurry now to the family with either your dad or the eldest man in your family or anybody that can stand in that regard, go with some cash and schnapps.

Take this time now as a matter of urgency to go inform the family officially of the latest about their daughter most especially if this is happening around Delta State.

If you like do, you like refuse.

nighter:


I love your stance and admire fearless and courageous people. Stand your ground. You're not the first man to keep a woman in the house before marriage. It's we women that ought to be wise. Giving a man free, endless sex before marriage is gross stupidity.

Don't pay that bride price. She's gone she's gone. You owe her family nothing. Save for burial ceremony. Paying bride price on the head of a dead person is barbaric and downright sentimental.

A lesson for all: stop marrying outside your tribe. As a yoruba girl, I'd rather die than marry from that tribe called igbo. God forbids. Marrying into a tradition and culture you do not understand or know nothing about.

And lastly, don't be intimidated by the comments on here. Majority of NLers are igbos. Meaning that majority of the advise you get won't be objective. Don't be intimidated. There's no forum you go to, you'll find that 70% of its users are igbos. They sure know how to dominate physical and online spaces.

Slurity:
Without You mentioning the tribe here, we know the tribe that has that primitive custom, my gentle advice is simple, just go to a nearby police station to report the development and make sure it is documented with you having a copy of the report, don't bother to run from them, let them make advancement to take the boy, then arrest whoever come first and let the person drag the case with government in court. Don't even bother go drag your boy with them when they take the boy, just take go to police station to report a missing child and give them your suspects.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Your just been rude and arrogant, I guess your still a teenager.
No More response to you

PastorFire:
This is not exclusive to Igbo culture but a cultural norm everywhere. As far as her family is concern, he is a stranger and not a family member regardless of whatever transpired between him and their daughter. Moreso, something tells me, he is indirectly responsible for her death. He wouldn't go so far to loan millions to save a woman he is betrothed to. Neither will the family sit back and watch him take up all the responsibility.
There is something he is not telling us.

flexyrule:

Baba. Read this your statement again.

Person dey sick, instead of him to save her life, he should take the money and approach her family for her hand in marriage.

Omo. Omo. Omo. I Don read things for this thread today sha.

McTominay:

That's why I said INITIALLY brother. Boss said because of poor economy he didn't marry the lady... If he actually wanted to marry the lady he would have found a way. O.P just dey make excuse

TyroneP:


He is obviously looking at legalistic approach to the issue. What you're saying is immaterial in the court of law- infact, he's not from the woman's tribe so he doesn't know the provisions of their customary practice in a case like this. In furtherance to this, the deceased was not a minor as at the time of cohabitation, she should have decided on which way to go as regards traditional wedding before agreeing if to cohabit wih him or get married to him.
May her soul rest in peace. What if cases relating to stalking, intent to extort/defraud, misrepresentation of fact, threat to life or constructive possession is instituted/proven against the family? Moreover, he said he was willing to let them have the child. Op, take things easy on yourself. God be with you.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Ilaje1:


I don't know why you are troubling yourself. It was a mutual agreement between you and the girl to live together. She was an adult and not a minor when she moved in with you, hence, old enough to decide in shat she wants. It is high time we stopped that nonsensical getting marrying to a corpse in the name of tradition. We might as well walk bare footed, no vehicles in the name of traditions. Guy, if anyone touch your son, report to the kidnap case to the police immediately. Nobody had the right to take your son away from you.

FOJEM:
Were the parents blind when their daughter moved in with a man without proper marriage? Now they are asking the man to marry her corpse. That is really stupid.
While she was with you, did you not feed her, clothe her, shelter her? You carried responsibilities which the parents should have borne! My friend you have overpaid the dowry!
Parents should train their daughters properly instead of encouraging them to get pregnant for men in order to trap such men.
Oga, spend money on her burial, mourn her for a few months and get yourself a good wife.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

No I won't

calmness0:
Op, most tribes act like that, you did not pay bride price and you have been with another persons daughter for years, banging morning afternoon night without paying bride price, you never knew death can knock early right? if it were your sister nko, op go and settle her family.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

OyeofIkoTuN:
God bless you..If we can't trace where he's coming from, we can't know where he's possibly going to..you sabi

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

4ckyou:


na for everywhere oh, same thing happened to my bro who married a Yoruba woman

StilmaVsBorn2w:

You here for the tribe only?
Or to give me reasonable advise?

4ckyou:


na for everywhere oh, same thing happened to my bro who married a Yoruba woman

blackmanothysef:

Which part of Yoruba?

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Your just been rude and arrogant, I guess your still a teenager.
No More response to you