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Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by sanusianangi: 12:13pm On May 20, 2022 |
Kasaliola: The only advise I'll advise u is that go and meet ur mother and beg her 4giveness. I tell u u will see change I tell u. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Btruth: 12:14pm On May 20, 2022 |
.....my candid advice of you want to know, is let her go. Let her be. Separate from her now before it is too late. You are definitely not making that lady happy again. The only reason she is still in that marriage with you is because of her kids & the shame she will receive from her family when she leaves you. Better think right. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Naustine(m): 12:14pm On May 20, 2022 |
I really want to join others to blame and curse u,but I will try n hold myself. First u need to admit that something is wrong with u. U have failed as a man. The onus falls on u to hold it family together and u have failed woefully in that regard. Remember! When the centre cannot hold, everything falls apart. I do not believe in therapy anyway. I believe in self determination band willingness to get things done. Nothing came over u. I think something is eating u up withing u and it has led to frustration and now I take it out on our wife. I wonder why u lr asking why she is always moody. Do u expect a woman suffering domestic abuse to be happy? If I want to get things back... Man up. Work on urself ..take it wife out, give her a treat, get her gifts and assure her u will change. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by tmoneyu: 12:14pm On May 20, 2022 |
Kasaliola: |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by oluwafeolami(m): 12:14pm On May 20, 2022 |
stacyadams: U said well, u are very, very sensible. I hope the op can take this piece of advice if he desires peace and long life in good health. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by biggy4joe(m): 12:15pm On May 20, 2022 |
It takes a weak man to hit a woman,face ur fears and call urself a weak man.... |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Heavensent01(m): 12:15pm On May 20, 2022 |
your both parents are not comfortable with you people getting married which means it was a force marriage between you duo? I doubt if the beating will stop, someone somewhere might be manipulating peace in your family to break the marriage just to prove a point seek spiritual cleansing because for you to realize your mistake after the deed and understanding beating her is bad, shows you don't need any counsellor counsellor are only needed to educate people ignorance but in your own case, it's not ignorance but unconsciousness |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Nobody: 12:17pm On May 20, 2022 |
Brb |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Nobody: 12:18pm On May 20, 2022 |
The best way out is to seek advice from her elder brother on how to stop beating her. I'm sure and certain he has the best answer for you. Your life will never remain the same after that day |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by usah4(m): 12:18pm On May 20, 2022 |
UpInTheSky: The fact that some of you are bashing this man is not good at all, I am not in support of his acts but can you at least hear what the wife does repeatedly that makes him to use a gravitation force on her. Mr Man if you're reading this Silence at times is the best answer, whenever she makes you angry try as much as possible to leave her presence then whenever you come back behave as if nothing hapened while you left and if possible get her something on your way back. Whenever you return after a Quarrel just give her a hug & a kiss, if she refuses it tease her I am sure her heart is not made of stone so she will definately laugh and that will be the end of that chapter and if it continues, keep looking for different ways of making her smile and laugh after a fight (argument). This may sound crazy but it works at times, demand for sex more during your fight days. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Westernequinox: 12:20pm On May 20, 2022 |
You need help and mercy from Jesus before you destroy your life and that of your family. It is a serious case, you must learn how to manage you anger. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by ibechris(m): 12:20pm On May 20, 2022 |
KAI, with all the problem in Nigeria u still have the guts to beat your wife. Some people no like peace at all. The problem in the country is enough to dissuade us from doing certain things. Just stop it and I don't think there is any other way u can do it. Appreciate your wife whether good or bad,after all,when your parents refused to accept her,na u defend her and insisted it was she alone...then why the sudden turn around? Use your head oh,before it would lead to stabbing one day. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Testimony1988(m): 12:20pm On May 20, 2022 |
Jennyclay:He needs help, better still keep praying for him to change. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by tctrills: 12:20pm On May 20, 2022 |
You realize that you need help, that's the first step in recovery. Next, you need to set goals for yourself. Rather than beat her, what else could you do whenever she offends? watch your progress and continue to improve. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Camfoodsinhouse(f): 12:21pm On May 20, 2022 |
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Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Testimony1988(m): 12:21pm On May 20, 2022 |
Meet your church marriage committee if you are a Christian for them to counsel you and your wife. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by marosmart(m): 12:21pm On May 20, 2022 |
For you to ask help really means you are willing to accept one I'm not married but that doesn't mean I can't advice you After beating her did her mood swings change and did you feel better? no I guess *You hate yourself for beating *She hate you for beating her *Your children will hate you for beating their mother *The society hate you for beating your wife You beating her has changed nothing you need to ask her what's really bothering to make her have mood swing,if you can't tolerate her mood swing and You're not ready to help her find solution to her problem break up before you kill someone daughter End marriage is not end of life 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Abas01: 12:22pm On May 20, 2022 |
The road to improvement begins with identifying the fault… you sound remorseful meaning you know what you are doing is bad.. that’s a positive sign… secondly you have to understand that your wife could be going through stuff you haven’t made her comfortable enough to relate with you.. try finding out what the problem is.. you have to be patient with her.. when next you have the urge to beat her.. take a deep breath.. count down from 10-0.. repeatedly.. so your temper can be stabilized.. also remember how you feel about other people that beat their spouse.. it irritates you I guess? Have a decent conversation with wifey.. take her out.. relieve those good old days you guys were dating.. could be what she is missing that you aren’t giving her that is making her regret the marriage.. love her.. it is your duty to love your woman.. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by tctrills: 12:23pm On May 20, 2022 |
UpInTheSky:You have a big problem oh. This man is opening up and telling you his problem. He is obviously trying and seeking help but you choose to be negative. If we continue to discourage people who are seeking help how would others come out? |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Britishpea: 12:23pm On May 20, 2022 |
Marriage is heavier than the usual “ I want to spend the rest of my life with” we do say before the real marriage. Lasting and smooth marriage requires constant displaying of love between lovers, professing it and proper communication at all times. Quote the word ‘at all times’. And any partner who’s always moody instead of communicating isn’t fit in this shoe. It requires high level of maturity and self discipline for the other party not to find it hard. Grow up your mind towards her style. A lot of work huh! But you gat to do it. Don’t kill someone’s daughter. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Jennyclay(f): 12:27pm On May 20, 2022 |
Testimony1988:I'm not a prayer warrior. If he needs prayer then let him go to Cele for deliverance. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by JBoss25(m): 12:27pm On May 20, 2022 |
Giorgia:you wey dey date 10 naija guys and is planning to marry the main guy mtttchew |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by ocGuy20: 12:28pm On May 20, 2022 |
Be careful |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Bignuell(m): 12:28pm On May 20, 2022 |
Look at it this way, it's more of a psychological issue, it's not your village people for now . Maybe you should start seeing her as the mother of your children, start seeing her as CTO of your marriage. I'd love to ask, do you have any challenges at work?? Do you have a vision you're yet to accomplish and it's making you flip the switch?? Do you have any challenge in any aspect of your life that seem undefeated?? I know this last advise my seem off but i believe or think there is a lot of built up anger and regret inside you, try getting them out. Some sport activities might help but i won't mention the name. You don't have any right to hit her, mood swings or not. I hope you resolve this quickly |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by MaryMo: 12:29pm On May 20, 2022 |
You are obviously not in your right senses to think such a man just needs help, he needs proper reset, let him travel to the US and do that to ANY woman. He has done it several times with no consequences so he thinks it is alright solochris: |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Giorgia: 12:30pm On May 20, 2022 |
JBoss25:As the example above me has displayed Marry men at your own peril. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Blhezin(m): 12:30pm On May 20, 2022 |
Bros u be senior man abeg...I comot cap fr u.... respet man Richy4: |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by p1jiobi: 12:32pm On May 20, 2022 |
I will advice you get a gun a shoot her, beating is not enough. Odeh!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by fsarimiye: 12:32pm On May 20, 2022 |
Consult a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist to help you control your aggressive behaviour |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by truthCoder: 12:32pm On May 20, 2022 |
Kasaliola: A man stabbed his landlord for having an affair with his wife. The man was convicted and sent to prison for a long time. When he came back, the wife already had a baby for another person. If you beat her and she dies, what would be your gain? Put this at the back of your mind and you can change. Beating your wife is not the solution to any issue bro. It makes you less of a man. I dont beat kids talkless of adults 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by phemmyfour: 12:33pm On May 20, 2022 |
Kasaliola:See her as yourself...anytime you beat her, you are beating yourself. Anytime anger wants to take over you....walk away. Stop letting your emotions get over you. Respect is EARNED not DEMANDED. Also respect begat respect, show her respect and she LL respect you. |
Re: I Need Help.... Marriage Counselor In The House by Testimony1988(m): 12:33pm On May 20, 2022 |
Jennyclay:hmmmm. |
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