Mariangeles:


I nukwa there's nothing Christian about marriage?

Kobo is a junkie...

Kobojunkie:
That is what Jesus Christ Himself, the Christ in the word Christian told you over 2000 years ago when He said your marriage is of this world(unholy) and not of the Kingdom of God(Christian).

So this fight you have here isn't against me but against Christ Himself..

The fight is in your mind Kobo.
I don't have time for nonsense.

UyaiIncomparabl:


It would interest you to know that the mature women in your use of context have their fair share of youthful exuberance. Well, I can only speak for myself, though. I am not 27 yet, but I am nowhere near immature or whatever you define under 27-year-olds to be.

But then, I get your context.

oh wow

osazsky:
Ferminist all the way..say no to marraige..

We will soon shoot up the prices of any commodity that resembles d!ckk.

Cucumber
Dilldo
Roll ons
Anti perspirant cans
Torch


We are cumming!

Mariangeles:
The fight is in your mind Kobo.
I don't have time for nonsense.

It's in my mind yet you attacked me for stating exactly what Jesus Christ said to you over 2000 year ago and went as far as to bicker about it , this instead of providing a wellformed rebuttal to explain the reasoning behind your attack? Come on now....

It would benefit you a great deal to spend your time learning the truth of the one you call savior, so you don't resort to attacking folks simply for speaking it.

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

Well said. You have the qualities of a marriage counselor.

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

Thanks alot... but when it comes to respect many people respect in pretence, mostly for what they're getting from him, once he seizes to give that, you'll know the real people with genuine respect, notwithstanding every other thing you said is premium

Munzy14:

Commander-in-chief... finish him..lmao

He is dishing advise na..UNFILTERED..

Hardly will any woman be happy and free with a man like that.

I so much dislike men who threaten with committing adultery. That is so weak and cowardly.

UyaiIncomparabl:
This post is for mature, married folks.

Married folks, you have all had experiences in your various marriages for however long you have stayed married. Most importantly, you have gained knowledge from them. That being said, wisdom is what you can do today but couldn't do before. It's what you would do before but never would now.

So, the question is, If you could travel back through time to advise your younger self about marriage, what advice would you give?

don't married

Don't get married to those black female baboons who called themselves naija women

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

You really stayed with a grand MA.

Idaytesj29:


Be careful before some overzealous dirty minded people will accuse you of wanting do something nasty with a married woman.

I have been there before.

...... thanks for your advice, everyone is entitled to think as they wish,I can't change that

Kobojunkie:
Not entirely true at all. A marriage is an agreement between a man and woman, like a sort of business. For a business to thrive, all partners simply need to be in agreement and compromise when necessary. No one partner has to continually cave in to the others for any set reason except that agreed upon.

If you ask me, mutual respect wins hands down over submission any day.

u nailed it..at times we too need to sibmit we men cant be right all the times

Kobojunkie:
1. God is indeed not the author of this here confusion as His decree has been so since almost the very beginning in this. What Jesus Christ said , He did over 2000 years ago.

2. So, even though the same God placed a curse on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16, you want to completely disavow the curse so you can pretend marriage bestows on you a form of holiness in the sight of God? ..... LOL

3. God's curse on marriage does not in anyway imply that God hates marriage. Much the same way that God's curse on mankind does not imply God hates mankind. A lack of understanding of God's Truth is what would lead one to come to that conclusion.

4. A marriage is made up of a man and a woman without whom marriage cannot be said to exist. A curse placed on the same man and woman only in marriage is a curse on marriage.

5. God's original plan for marriage didn't include divorce but since man rejected His original plan, God who hates divorce provided divorce as a way out of marriage for His own. In Jesus Christ, divorce is not a sin.

6. God, who rendered marriage unholy .I.e.of men authors marriages? I understand you folks relish blaming all your Satan but accusing God of authoring all marriages, isn't that a bit too much?

THIS IS DEMONIC AND YOU OUGHT TO QUICKLY CHECK INTO A NEARBY REHAB.. THANK YOU

Kobojunkie:
Not entirely true at all. A marriage is an agreement between a man and woman, like a sort of business. For a business to thrive, all partners simply need to be in agreement and compromise when necessary. No one partner has to continually cave in to the others for any set reason except that agreed upon.

If you ask me, mutual respect wins hands down over submission any day.

Kobojunkie, I usually do not engage you because I find your thought process strange. However, about the emboldened, I would agree wholly with you, at least for once.

Blessedassuranc:
THIS IS DEMONIC AND YOU OUGHT TO QUICKLY CHECK INTO A NEARBY REHAB.. THANK YOU

Prove your mind isn't the demonic influence here by attempting a direct response to the points made.

You see staying in family house is the most dangerous thing to ever consider expecially if they are large

truthsayer009:


The people who are normal on this forum are not upto 5, I can confirm it for you. It is giving me that hell fire "Evangelist Oluwafunmilayo Adebayo, alias Mummy G.O" kind of vibes.

If you ask her any question, she will reply with Bible verse and tell you something scary, related or unrelated.

For example:
Random NL post: Do you think women should get married early?

Kobo's reply: Genesis Chapter 1000, verse 900. Marriage is a curse, Marriage is unholy. God deemed it unholy.

Lmao...

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks, Mods.

Which mods.. I woke ur sleeping thread and the mods did the needful.. show a little gratitude.. it's all I ask

Interesting thought sir.

Kobojunkie:
Reality is that people choose what they allow or do not allow. No one can force submission on another. You ether allow it or you don't. And if you realize that a partner is suddenly leaning towards it, you still have right to chose to stay or run for dear life.

I don't believe in making silly sacrifices for the sake of marriage. Divorce is not a sin so I chose to see it as an exit plan provided by the Almighty Himself from the foolishness of our decisions in marriage.

Make sure that the person you want to marry is your friend.

Ishilove:

Kobo reads her bible through a haze of the finest Kwale weed.

It's a guy! Read thru his very early posts years back, and you'll be able to know it's a guy now trying to masquerade as a lady.

killmods:

Which mods.. I woke ur sleeping thread and the mods did the needful.. show a little gratitude.. it's all I ask

Thank you, If you truly did so.

Dont get married in Nigeria.
Leave this place at once!

Thank you for this advice
For once I see something meaningful from Nlanders
God bless you and may your marriage continue to be fruitful

Durabest:
I have been married for six years now with two beautiful Childre.My advice would be that,1:Don,t be disperate to go into marriage,2: Don,t pretend to be what you are not in order to win a man's heart.3:When your guy friends are around him do not join their conversation when you are not invited even when they are talking about your village people joining a conversation you are not invited will devalue your guy,4:Try to knw when your guy is needt of food don,t always wait 4 him to ask b4 you serve him food.5:If you don't love a man,don't go into marriage with him.6:always be truthful don't ever belive a lie can gurantee you marriage.7:don't hide what you hate and don't hate what he love most just show litle advice if u don't like it.8: don't go into marriage with man who don't love you.9:When a man tells you things that he hates and asked you to stop doing those things he detest don't dare him.10: Be humble.11:don,t always feel without you he can't sx so there4 you will give him sx when you feel like.

Kobojunkie:
Be specific! What aspect of what I stated is false interpretation?
Did God not impose submission as a curse(unholy) on marriage in Genesis 3 vs 16?

Did Jesus Christ not proclaim that marriage is of this world (unholy) and not of the Kingdom of God(Holy) in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36?

Simple yes or no to any the question above will do! Be blunt this time about the topic and not my person.

so people shouldn't marry again or the wives shouldn't submit or what's your point gan gan this man??

UyaiIncomparabl:


Great advice here.

Thanks for your contribution.

Which contribution?? U fit read wetin him write

Deegee7788:


Which contribution?? U fit read wetin him write

Yes, I did. Just read it slowly.

Kobojunkie:
Jesus Christ didn't lift the curse by His death. What He did was instead provide a path to salvation from God's curse in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 22, and it is to this He declared that only those who endure till the end will be saved - Matthew 24 vs 13 - not before the end.

As for the curse on childbearing, we'll, every child born into this world is born into a cursed existence, removed from God from birth. Those who decide to find their way back to Him needing to suffer and endure tribulations to make it.

As we know God created some Eunuchs(childless) from birth , made some Eunuchs(childless) in this life, and allowed others to choose to live as Eunuchs(childless) for the sake of His Kingdom, well, it becomes sort of a no brainer for anyone who truly understands God in this. Do you drag a soul into a cursed existence, so it can suffer and endure tribulation and probably fail to reach God in the end? Or do you forego all that?

God can't be this complicated
you people are just deriving different theories to massage your egos

Make money as a man before settling don’t let anyone pressurize you

Mariangeles:


Hardly will any woman be happy and free with a man like that.

I so much dislike men who threaten with committing adultery. That is so weak and cowardly.

Lol...Some women abuse freedom...Talking from experience.


As for the Adultery boasting it was uncalled for...couples should stick to each other, whatsoever pleasure needed is there..They only need to explore and not exploit eachother.

Angela62:
I am married for about a decade now, and I am enjoying my marriage. Honestly, if the worse happens and I became a widow, I will not marry any other man, I will train my kids alone. That is how much I love my husband and cherish my marriage. Since childhood, I have always been close to my grandmother, I grew up with her since my mum died when I was a child. I learned a lot from her. I can still remember the advice she gave to me when I wanted to marry my husband, and I will tell you exactly that.

1. Look at the qualities and characters of the man you want to marry. Most ''shine shine'' men, as my grandma will put it are not the real men. `Just as sugar is sweet but unhealthy, lots of men are like that. That bricklayer that sends his mum money in the village every month, that doesn't go to a club, doesn't smoke and buy expensive designers, he might not even give you butterflies, those are the real men. Ten years from now when you are pregnant with your third child, his masculinity will be like an umbrella to protect, provide and be the best father for your kids.

But you see those ones that are doing fine boys only, care more about the phone they use and the girl they sleep with this weekend than their future, those you must avoid. They may be attractive now, but when the difficulties of marriage come especially financially, then you realize that truly, internal beauty (characters and virtues) is what keeps marriage. So do not sacrifice the future due to your youthful exuberance.

2. Look at his patterns, those are the secrets to his future and of course, your future. Does he wakes up and go to work every day? What is the relationship he has with his family? How does he handle stress? is he hardworking? Do people around him respect him? Where does he go after work? What is your assessment of his friends? `What are his goals? etc. You might be clouded with feelings with this assessment especially when you are in love, so you might ask people you trust for advice. I saw this thread some few years ago by pansophist, where he wrote about qualities you should look for in a man for marriage, I implore you to check it out. The guy is on point. As I read through it, I kept nodding my head in affirmation because my husband easily covered all these qualities.

https://www.nairaland.com/6257463/part-two-traits-woman-should

Also when I first met my husband, I wasn't that interested. He appears so ordinary (if you know what I mean), but as I scratch further, the depth of his manliness opens up. I was not attracted at first, but everything fell into place, and I was glad I didn't just brush him away. But I couldn't see his qualities quickly, it was my grandma that pointed it all out. So you should really have someone older, that have walked the talk of marriage, to advise and guide you.

3. Support him. Men are at their best when their wive are supportive. For example, my husband never asks me about my income, but every of my penny goes to my household. The idea that a man has to carry all the financial responsibilities is a self-defeating adventure. Such a woman punishes herself due to her short-sightedness and selfishness by reducing her worth in his eyes, making her easily replaceable.

hmm...good advice...the good thing is that, this your advice is useful for men to, we just have to change the gender here..looks is really not everything in marriage

Kobojunkie:
Prove your mind isn't the demonic influence here by attempting a direct response to the points made.

really a junkie