This is very common, Bcoz harth of women is evil

all4zionlover:
I'm sure if the man was a good husband and father to his children, they will not abandon him in old age.
Sow love, care and kindness now that you're a young husband and father.

I know a man in my street here he will be 72 this year... The man hustle for children and wife but now was abandoned ... If not be say na strong man sef...

ChybuzzDD:


Unreasonable response.

You’re not a woman. Of course it will unreasonable to you.


Rubbish

onumadu:


This is not always true. At all.
In fact I've seen quite a few cases where this happened and the men involved where EXCELLENT fathers and husbands.
The problem is natural.
Monogamy has a reductionist demand on men that is impossible to meet. A women for example would want to avenge the fact that her husband looked at another woman 30 yrs ago! It is not that the man looked at another woman. It is that she is looking for a pretext to abandon him in old age!
A man gets married and at first controls 90% love and admiration. But as he ages, and he keeps investing in his wife and kids, he gradually drains himself of that love and admiration because he empowers them while he dis-empowers himself.
Over time, he would be lucky if he controlled 10% love and admiration.
How does love and admiration come about? Through MATERIAL THINGS: money, properties, etc.
Once he depletes all that and the kids grow up, the wife becomes "free" of the kids, and since he is sexually emptied as well for his wife, he loses everything and gets abandoned.
Life is NOT sentimental.
That is why a smart man must plan ahead and keep his materials very close to himself until his old age.
With those materials firmly under his control, he would retain love and admiration whether his wife and kids like him or not, or else ...

how did you know they were excellent fathers? Were they your father? Did you live with them? See, some parents waste away their lives enjoying their monies outside while the wife and children are suffering at home

onumadu:


This is not always true. At all.
In fact I've seen quite a few cases where this happened and the men involved where EXCELLENT fathers and husbands.
The problem is natural.
Monogamy has a reductionist demand on men that is impossible to meet. A women for example would want to avenge the fact that her husband looked at another woman 30 yrs ago! It is not that the man looked at another woman. It is that she is looking for a pretext to abandon him in old age!
A man gets married and at first controls 90% love and admiration. But as he ages, and he keeps investing in his wife and kids, he gradually drains himself of that love and admiration because he empowers them while he dis-empowers himself.
Over time, he would be lucky if he controlled 10% love and admiration.
How does love and admiration come about? Through MATERIAL THINGS: money, properties, etc.
Once he depletes all that and the kids grow up, the wife becomes "free" of the kids, and since he is sexually emptied as well for his wife, he loses everything and gets abandoned.
Life is NOT sentimental.
That is why a smart man must plan ahead and keep his materials very close to himself until his old age.
With those materials firmly under his control, he would retain love and admiration whether his wife and kids like him or not, or else ...

You’re talking trash. Go and ask women what they face in the hands of their husbands and their side chick. You’re pretending to be dumb or what?

There’s a reason why the hotel and bar business is the most popular in Nigeria.


Go to hotels tonight and see married men’s cars lined up.


Be realistic for once

onumadu:


This is not always true. At all.
In fact I've seen quite a few cases where this happened and the men involved where EXCELLENT fathers and husbands.
The problem is natural.
Monogamy has a reductionist demand on men that is impossible to meet. A women for example would want to avenge the fact that her husband looked at another woman 30 yrs ago! It is not that the man looked at another woman. It is that she is looking for a pretext to abandon him in old age!
A man gets married and at first controls 90% love and admiration. But as he ages, and he keeps investing in his wife and kids, he gradually drains himself of that love and admiration because he empowers them while he dis-empowers himself.
Over time, he would be lucky if he controlled 10% love and admiration.
How does love and admiration come about? Through MATERIAL THINGS: money, properties, etc.
Once he depletes all that and the kids grow up, the wife becomes "free" of the kids, and since he is sexually emptied as well for his wife, he loses everything and gets abandoned.
Life is NOT sentimental.
That is why a smart man must plan ahead and keep his materials very close to himself until his old age.
With those materials firmly under his control, he would retain love and admiration whether his wife and kids like him or not, or else ...

This is just it... Women control the home at old age... Just like my in law... My wife dey always talk am say common pencil their mama no fit buy for them... But now their papa no dey collect money ... Funniest be say the boys dey always fight their papa sef...

armanipumping:

Totally outrageous and feeble

Totally outrageous and feeble? OK o! When you get married, try and abuse your wife and children, and subject them to unhealthy mental states for years. Then lean back and watch how they will abandon you in old age...

Mindlog:


Women who have healthy relationships with their husbands from the earlier years of their marriage, tend to be too attached to their husbands even in old age.

There is a family, who have been our neighbours for over 30 years and the man is battling with poor health though he is still able to move about, unassisted. Their daughter based in Denmark wanted the woman (her mum) to come over for omugwo last year November to return in February but mama said she can't leave her husband behind despite their last 2 children who are graduates still live with them in their family house.

The daughter had to file visa for mom and dad, they went just before Christmas as mama was jokingly saying that if her husband was hands on with the 7 children they had, that a baby won't put Papa off. 🤣

It is good seeing them on Facebook, wearing their winter jackets and gloves, visiting many places in Denmark and both looking fresher within weeks.😄😄😄

Awwwn

Godwin4444:
what u should know is that old age is payback time for women n children to men


That’s is when u will reap whatever u have done as a man in your youthful days, all those shits u did n walk away with it that’s when u will reap it n if u were a good man, that’s when to enjoy cos your sacrifices are I’ll b remembered n u will b compensated for that

Na lie be this... After few years my father died my eye clear... Especially if you are a male ... Na later years you go understand how men dey feel wella...

Amumaigwe:


You forget that women age faster than men and are more susceptible to infirmities. Hope it will also be okay if the man abandons his wife in her hour of needs over bottled grouse he has against her. Only foolish husbands enter vengeful women's trap set at their old age. I now can only love my family as myself. Not more.

Men usually marry younger women, so your point is trash.

Men are more vulnerable to life threatening diseases, how many old female actors have you seen asking for help?

all4zionlover:
I'm very sure no good woman will abandon a loving husband in old age. What do she stand to gain?

Women rarely forget things ... They can just be anything you never expected... They do it well

Fearyourcreator:

I know a man in my street here he will be 72 this year... The man hustle for children and wife but now was abandoned ... If not be say na strong man sef...

Hustling does not make one a father. There is more to being a father than hustling to feed your family.

Fearyourcreator:

Women rarely forget things ... They can just be anything you never expected... They do it well

The very same applies as far as men. Stop believing in these delusional lies abeg!

onumadu:


Of course there are few good women who would not abandon their husbands in old age. BUT ...
The majority of the women do, but society hardly takes notice.
Not saying that some men are not reaping what they sow, but women (again by nature) forgive less than men. Women remember things that happened DECADES ago in the marriage; even trivial ones. It is THEIR NATURE.
Know why most men die before their wives? It is not always because they are older. A lot of them die due to neglect.
Men suffer in silence and die without anyone noticing.
Most men feel too embarrassed and ashamed to share their stories.
These days is even worse because women get attention from younger men.
And if woe betides the man the woman has a better career and travels. He is finished.
Solution is simple: Never exhaust your FINANCIAL resources so you can buy care for yourself in old age.
People love money, whether wife, kids, relations, job-seekers, EVERYONE.
Life is not sentimental and no one is perfect.
To expect humans to not be selfish just because you are their relation is to be clueless.

Guy you really sabi as e dey go... Just like men were created to suffer...

Kobojunkie:
The very same applies as far as men. Stop believing in these delusional lies abeg!

Cases have seen well... Its where I am here sef... I have at least three case studies here ...

Kobojunkie:
Hustling does not make one a father. There is more to being a father than hustling to feed your family.

I don understand now ... I can't argue with you ooo... No vex

They are abandoned because they where not there for their families when they were needed
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Fearyourcreator:

Cases have seen well... Its where I am here sef... I have at least three case studies here ...

Most of you are always on the outside looking in. You only see what you want to see. It is sort of like trying to judge a couple's relationship from their Facebook posts. It doesn't work at all. The only way you can get a more honest picture is to ask the children who live daily with these people.

ejimatic:
It has been observed that many more crises are taking place in families nowadays. One of them is our focus here.

Many wives and children now abandon their husbands after the men retire. Some turn children against their fathers while some wives plan to kill their husbands so as to inherit their husband properties.

Why is it that wives want their husbands dead so as to inherit them? Why is it that when husbands are sicks WIves always try to know what is in the wills of their husbands? Why do wives abandon their husbands at the old age and pack to another apartment? Why do wives want to be in control of their husbands at the old age! Why do families crack when the old age is about to set in .

A man was abandoned by his wives and children so much so that he was crying for help in his apartment. When thean died the children slaughtered cows and painted the house.What do you think about this development? What is happening in the families now?

If all your family members abandon you when you become old, then you have always been the problem. You are just reaping it in your old age

Kobojunkie:
Most of you are always on the outside looking in. You only see what you want to see. It is sort of like trying to judge a couples relationship from their Facebook posts. It doesn't work at all. The only way you can get a more honest picture is to ask the children who live daily with these people.

Lolzzzx...
Something that happened to me ... I don hear you ooo... Like I said before I can't argue with you ... Even my brother in law was saying he will arrest their father cus of ... Madam... Forget am... Am talking from what I have seen... Our community chairman was close to the man clocked 71 last year .. Same issue... Most in the street don talk with the woman sef... It's what happened around me am talking about and not just one or two...

It is a grey area for most African couples. How you live while growing together will tell a lot of stories.

delpee:
Men need to spend more time with their kids. It creates a bond that no mother can break. I was close to my dad till he died. Nothing could have changed that even as he wasn't a perfect human being. No one is. Despite his busy schedule, he always created time to relate with us at home and during outings. He had personal files for each of us to monitor our progress and proffer advice or discuss problems as they arise. He paid the bills mostly through our mother who never denied same. Of course, our mum supported him as much as she could. He also never pretended that he was the sole financier.

However, men who honor side chicks while allowing their wives and children to suffer should plan for and expect anything. You can't have the love and respect of your family when you're paying the bills of mistresses and denying your family love and care. It's too emotionally, financially and physically tasking for a woman living under that condition. Of course the children see things oftentimes without being told.

Mothers should let their children show gratitude and respect their fathers. It's actually a spiritually rewarding thing for them. Hiding the fact that a father pays the bills (if he does) is grossly unfair. He loses the respect of the children while sacrificing so much for them. Mothers should separate issues between them and their husbands from the relationship between him and his children. They are two different things. It's never wise to use the children to fight battles between couples. It's probably one of the reasons why we have so many dysfunctional children these days.

A mother's attitude and actions has a great impact. Don't tell your children stories that will make them hate their father. If you feel terribly disenchanted, it's better to leave than to wait for revenge. It's a waste of valuable time and most unhealthy. Bitterness is a slow poison, avoid it.

Above all, both men and women should save towards their old age. A mix of investments makes it easy to have access to funds at all times. Even when the children are willing to do their bit, circumstances may make things difficult e.g. ill health that requires a lot of funds to manage. Whatever the child can provide should not be the main income source. Over dependence could hamper the child's progress too.

As Yorubas say, a jere omo. On the other hand, a ni woju omo ka to jeun. Amin (We'll reap from our children but we won't have to wait on them to be fed.)

God help us all.

Good submission dear

Fearyourcreator:

Lolzzzx...
Something that happened to me ... I don hear you ooo... Like I said before I can't argue with you ... Even my brother in law was saying he will arrest their father cus of ... Madam... Forget am... Am talking from what I have seen... Our community chairman was close to the man clocked 71 last year .. Same issue... Most in the street don talk with the woman sef... It's what happened around me am talking about and not just one or two...

I can tell you of my own personal story as well. Everyone around called him a great man but to his family a great man he was not. At one point,
he even went as far as attempting to legally disowning them one by one when they stood against him. He is still known by outsiders as a man who is great, but to those in his household he remained a stranger and nothing more.

Kobojunkie:
I can tell you of my own personal story as well. Everyone around called him a great man but to his family a great man he was not, and today, He even tried to disown them one by one when they stood against him. He is still known by outsiders as a man who is great, but to those in his household he remained a stranger and nothing more.

Then what happened ...

Fearyourcreator:

Then what happened ...

What do people do with strangers?

Godwin4444:
what u should know is that old age is payback time for women n children to men


That’s is when u will reap whatever u have done as a man in your youthful days, all those shits u did n walk away with it that’s when u will reap it n if u were a good man, that’s when to enjoy cos your sacrifices are I’ll b remembered n u will b compensated for that

😂🤣 you will be compensated with nice coffin and we'll organized funeral

Kobojunkie:
What do people do with strangers?

I don't get your question

okomile:
If my husband falls down, I will not lift him up nor render any assistance.
Why?

When I was working, I was virtually d breadwinner, he then was amassing university degrees and associations.

Now, I don't have a job, I have turned to torn in his flesh.

Am patiently waiting to take my pounds of flesh

You are a man.

Fearyourcreator:

I don't get your question

What of people do with those who are strangers to them?

LadyRosa:
If you like be a deadbeat father, you go hear am.
Your old age will be so damn lonely till you die.

My friend's dad is currently going through same shiit.
I no even bother to beg her to look her dad way man TOO Bleep UP.

Recently self a neighbour was telling me one of the cousins who landed a big job came to his family house wearing the company's face cap. He woke up to see his father putting it on, he snatched it away from his head and warned him never to try that again.
He told him clearly that the honour for who he is is meant for his maternal uncle who train him through out his education.

The old man is still in shock.

... 😂 Are you threatening us with old age ?

This is the honest truth.







.uote author=Tallesty1 post=120321788]You're not sure of anything.

The reason some fathers are abandoned in old age is because they married incredibly manipulative women[/quote]

On my first trip to New York I saw a woman mistreat her father and I wondered why even being so young. I can’t speculate maybe he was the best father but influence and narcissism allows people to treat you terribly and think you don’t have an option to be treated better.

Mind you I was coming from a home where we loved and doted on our grandfather’s. Most have been 5 years old but I stayed with me.

It’s not easy right now because the older generational leaders still carry ancient beliefs and superstitions about women’s financial inclusion in society, so unless you teach a woman early how will she know to save?, Unless you add her to the sharing formula how will you make money to be cared for?

Ok baba account o ti everywhere o measure milk o na kpelu igbale

they don’t abandon you nobody to help you cause not everybody wants that in life. Suffering is not attractive only kindness is without Make-up and all the things we think

There are people today you sleep in their house and everything is counted. By the third day your no longer welcome. others you sleep over and it’s like you don’t even want to go home you are welcomed

I remember handing my birthday money every year until I could manage it more to parents as appreciation for their investments

Funny enough with this wicked economy they still help me through

For some of us once we get the criminals benefiting from us we will set everybody straight financially

Monopoly teaches skills