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Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by STINEKPROJECTS1: 9:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124:what kinda question is this? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by PDJT: 9:01pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
-This is why a section of men are only looking to marry orphans in this social media age. -OP it seems you're one of those "men" who bury their head in-between their wives legs every night - the quickest way to lose your mojo and respect. I think they call it see finish these days. -Chai! Some African men have lost their mind. Anyway, you can allow her bring her mother to "your home", if she was the one that paid your bride price. Cos, like others said here; you're the bride in that marriage. -As for my fellow men here, please I beg of you start saving for your old age, be very selfish about it. When you're loaded in your old age, na dem go de rush you to wipe your bum for you. This is 21st century oo! 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Positiveme2020: 9:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
olamilekan9: No way, Let her pay for her mum too. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by nemadfsyahooc: 9:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Let her go and stay with her other sibling. Let her know how she treated your mum It's a no no to me. What come around goes around. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Iamzik: 9:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
If your wife did not allow your old sick mum to live with you then she has lost the right to bring her own mum. By the way you don't sound like someone who have the will power to put his feet down and make decisions at home. For all those women telling him to forgive the wife blablabla you are all enablers of bad behaviour under the guise of forgiveness. If you can't take it then don't give it! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by WHITELIGHTER: 9:02pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Hopium: God bless you Sir. He doesnt see it yet. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by engronwe22: 9:03pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Don't even try it, garbage in garbage out bro, serve her with her 9wn coin, since her bad advisers advised her not treat your mum this way, then remind her what he did to you then, if she can do this to your mum who was there for you guys when your dad left you, then she is evil woman, forgive her but don't forget never you allow her, your mum won't be happy with you in her grave. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by basmur(m): 9:03pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
When old age arrive, I pray she get treated same way by the wife of her son. Op, you f**k up.. shey na one room apartment you dey live. Your mum faa, for reasons beyond her power (sickness) you allowed your wife hostility affect such crucial decision.. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 9:03pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Samantha124:I’d bet that’s the expectation but he can correct me if I’m wrong 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by onoja12: 9:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
When I read things like this,I wonder what is wrong with some men,who heads the house? No woman that I married with my money would determine how long my mother stays most especially if she isn't well,your weakness killed your mother,the only woman who actually loved you,that your wife is using you for family empowerment. And trust me as soon as her mother moves in all your problems will become upfront because there is no way her mother wasn't a party to that decision. ozalogbo: 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Don't ever allow it. Infact, if she insists on her mother coming to stay, send her and her mother packing nonesense. I don't know why are most women like that. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by STINEKPROJECTS1: 9:04pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
cococandy:w women sha |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by KINGS100(m): 9:05pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
There is no long story here, Remind her that marriage is between man and Wife. Any other story you are not involved. People must reap the fruit of their labour. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by occfx: 9:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ozalogbo: OH you want to hear our thought, ok lets keep thoughting. There is a reason Old testament was not removed in the Bible if not, Israel would have been a forgotten country. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by franugo(m): 9:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Bluffly: It's funny how some ladies are grasping at conjectures just to be able to justify the wife's misgivings. Op can obviously afford a maid comfortably so i don't understand where the put life on hold is coming from, especially when it wasn't stated by op that his mum was in a vegetative state. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Berankis: 9:06pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Unfortunately, women are women and men are men! That's why we have a world. It wouldn't have been a world if we were all men or all women!! Women and most especially wives have been known to be selfish and irrational. My mother in-law stays with us since the beginning of our marriage and no issues but the kind of respect the my mother would command in my house might not make things so easy compared to her mother. So, I don't really know what it's going to feel like if my mother decides to live with me permanently, honestly, I have my fears. Women are not so tolerant and there is always this contentious feeling between both parties over who has more control of the man - this is the bane of the problem. Women are not so tolerant, that's why men are more forgiving, tolerant and patient (not stupid). So in the light of this, even though, we all feel vengeful about your wife, I would advise you listen and follow your heart and strength as the Lord has blessed you with. |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:07pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Darammliveth:I won't even send any money for her upkeep let her other children do it or my wife if she can. The mother is not my responsibility. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by marcopollo(m): 9:07pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:Period. End of discussion. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:09pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:is like you didn't read the part where he said she was hostile towards his mum and even treated bad. So this is far beyond just ordinary fear of the unknown like you put it. She is wicked that's what it is. Where una dey even see this kind wife from. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Gilgil: 9:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
One thing we are all missing out is, How would h dal with the resentment he feels everytime he remembered how his wife treated his mum? If his MIL comes into the house, there would be inconveniences due to her age and health, naturally. It requires both parties to be in agreement to overlook such inconveniences. But in this case, he would feel deep resentment almost on a daily basis whenever the slightest inconvenience from his MIL happens, which it surely would, and this would certainly threaten the home. So I recommend he has a discussion with his wife and ask his MIL yo be catered for by the other siblings while he and his wife support financially and MIL can have short visits 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 9:11pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
soles21:We are assuming your wife is not expected to work outside the home correct? You’re providing EVERY SINGLE THING she wants hence she’s expected to hold the fort at home? In that case no problem. Mind you this isn’t about you specifically. So generally speaking the women who are expected to be at the beck and call of the man and his family are also usually expected not to be dependent financially otherwise they are liabilities. So if you want to speak logically, ask yourself how is that supposed to work out smoothly. Just food for thought Sounds like a you problem. If you love someone. Taking care of the thing they value most the world shouldn't be an issue. If you see this as manipulation then I don't what to say to you. No it does actually sound like a you problem. If you love someone so dearly, you wouldn’t pawn them off on someone else to care for. Sounds like you expect her to love your parent more than you do. People without spouses still find a way to work and provide and still care for their loved ones. Seems like you’re going to use “I’m providing” as an excuse to pass your responsibility onto someone else. Because you’re the first person to ever hold a job 🙄. Ask yourself how others are doing it maybe you’ll learn a thing or two. I work and I love my parents. I won’t quit my job to care for my parents and I won’t pass it onto my spouse either. If you pay me I might be willing to teach you how to be a provider and also a present caring family member 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Cowbell521: 9:12pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:You no get sense. His own mother that died nko? Better mute your mouth if you have nothing to say 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Mrfixitt(m): 9:12pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Stevenbright:You're wise bro 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ebony2King: 9:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
ojun50: And will women also understand that the man is not their blood too and be ready to expect anything as well? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Aklee4994(m): 9:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
frozen70:same thing will happen to your son |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Kaytixy: 9:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Nemesis0147:OP sef na mumu guy. You and just your mum alone in nigeria and you allowed your wife disallowed you from bringing your mum home even when she was sick. Sorry to say OP you are a very stupid guy and you deserved to be flogged with 300 strokes of the cane. You be mumu OP 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Ebony2King: 9:13pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1: Exactly 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by cococandy(f): 9:14pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
STINEKPROJECTS1: What are you doing right now to learn how to care for your parents? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 9:14pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Zupay: Have you seen where APC has solved any problem? They always create a problem to solve a problem.,which they end up not solving and the problems result to more problems ....... Don't too blame the guy, he is following the footsteps of his masters.... |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Fairbanks(m): 9:14pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Neweramify:Should Op also accuse her of killing her mother inlaw? Op should just remind her that marriage is between husband and wife alone and doesn't involve mother inlaw |
Re: Should I Allow My Mother-in-law In Our Home? I Need Advice by Cowbell521: 9:14pm On Mar 29, 2023 |
Dindondin:Who be this mumu? 1 Like |
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