horny4u:

Thanks for the kind words my brother

Lots of 9ja babes better than me , and some are still single.

The problem is this gals compete with the TV at home and the printer in the office : they donot go out, but as a Man please source them out, men need women and vis a vis.

May the Almighty bless you too.

desertboom:

@Jenifa. . . . That's the problem with you women, sometimes I wonder if MATERIALISM is written in the faces of all women/girls, so a rich and submissive woman is not good for a struggling hardworking guy. What happened to Respect, Royalty, Love, and unconditional support? Many women like you will always cry and blame satan because of this kind of mentality you just displayed above.

desertboom:

@Jenifa. . . . That's the problem with you women, sometimes I wonder if MATERIALISM is written in the faces of all women/girls, so a rich and submissive woman is not good for a struggling hardworking guy. What happened to Respect, Royalty, Love, and unconditional support? Many women like you will always cry and blame satan because of this kind of mentality you just displayed above.  

horny4u:

I beg to differ with somethings, I donot think the problem is who is richer or poorer,  I think its ambitious, wise and a smart decision maker and taker, a fearless Alpha male,
I love money too much  BUT i know lots of guys that married their wives richer than they are but today the Guys are commanding money, Its the potential !!!
If you see a man who has hustler potential, good attitude and hopefully education to back it up, trust me, his millions are already there just not yet visible to the Unclad eyes.
I agree its almost impossible to be submissive to a lazy man , I for one its a deal breaker I love the idea of a man waking up before me, when  ideas come our way he actions them with tenacity and guides me with his vast knowledge , those stuff turn me right on.
I can submit to a man without a lot of money but lots of hustler spirit, but i can never submit or respect a lazy man, just not in my DNA.

Jenifa_:

the solution will come when men change their demands on women to be submissive. if that happens, women will not mind marrying a struggling man.
until that day comes, most financially independent women have no other choice than to remain single or marry a richer man who they can be submissive to.

because it is impossible to be submissive to a man who is poorer than you. how can a woman sweat to earn money and at the end of the day, the husband (who is not earning anything) has control over all the decisions. won't the woman rather be single and have control over her own life?
and wait till she can find a rich man to marry then ehn ehn you can be satisfied to be a submissive wife. at least the husband will take care of her and she may not even have to work.  so it's easy to be submissive to a rich man.

but for the struggling guy, abeg find a job if you want a submissive wife. otherwise, women will continue to marry late.

at least Nigerian population will decrease small 

desertboom:

@Jenifa. Hahaha. . . You make me laugh. You reason like a 14 years old, there is always a difference between Girls and Women maybe you're still in your maturity stage. Women like you lack foresight to identify a good man, maybe someday when you grow older you're know that not all that glitter is gold 

bhusayor:

IMO, everybody wants a good life, a woman ready to marry a poor, but aspiring man does so because she hopes things would be better, and he'd get rich, not that shes prepared to live with a poor man for the rest of her life, in the long run, going for a ready-made man and an 'about-to-be-made man' means financially securing yourself and the future of the family, irrespective of whether the woman is earning good money.

Nayah:

And what's the benefit being divorced at 25?? my brother 37 is NOT OLD as some people can think and especially in Africa, people should remove this on their head, what about our mothers who delivered until 38 or 39? for some people it would be strange too, or having children at 20 in our days could be very difficult judging from economic context worldwide

Princek12:

For me the issue is not whether you should take your time to pick a desirable partner, but the qualities you look for in a man and the attitude, your mentality, and the way you respond to men when they approach you.

Some searching women will not even give a man who does not buy them material things the time of the day, which is a silly criteria to pick a mate.

As silly as it sounds, some searching women will not talk to a stranger who approaches her unless her girlfriend introduced the man to her. That is silly. If you feel a potential connection with the stranger, then give it a try.

Some searching women walk around frowning their face and exuding a negative attitude, which makes that woman unapproachable.

I can go on and on, but you get the gist. It is usually the little things that make a big difference.

publisher:

[size=13pt]When it comes to late marriages,women will always be at the loosing end. We all must understand that even though God made humans to become 'higher' animals,we are still 'animals'. The way God designed ALL animals,he gave us 'mating seasons',every set of animals created by God have mating seasons,once any female animal fails to take advantage of that season,she looses the opportunity for procreation. For ladies,their mating season is between 18yrs to 25yrs,this is the age at which any NORMAL woman should find her ideal mate and start having children. The Good Lord in his mercies added jara to women by giving them 'going going' extra time which is between the ages of 26yrs and 29yrs,as from thirty years the woman enters danger zone,as the yoruba would say,'won ti 'ta' ti',i.e dem don sell finish,close shop.
Many women in a bid to acertain their so called equality with their male counterparts have also fallen into this mess. They keep forgetting that a man of 50yrs can still LEGALLY get married to an 18 year old girl and have lots of children with her, no shaken!
Anyways,i believe their eyes don clear now as even one of their role models BEYONCE,don jejely get belle inside her husband house. even as many other single old cargoes dey psyche themselves say 'Girls run the world'.

PS: Ladies no vex,i'm just trying to dish out some tuff luv over here,still love u guys. LOL!!![/size]

bhusayor:

IMO, everybody wants a good life, a woman ready to marry a poor, but aspiring man does so because she hopes things would be better, and he'd get rich, not that shes prepared to live with a poor man for the rest of her life, in the long run, going for a ready-made man and an 'about-to-be-made man' means financially securing yourself and the future of the family, irrespective of whether the woman is earning good money.

Lax75:

IMO best to wait and be with someone you can truly be happy with than to meet some "deadline" and fall victim to the pretentious society that labels late marrying females as outcasts or rejects.

I have friends who are unhappily married with children and still young (in their 30s). They present a happy home to shut society up but behind closed doors they are miserable and unhappy. This unhappiness is what is causing affairs (both men and women). They all made hasty decisions, and though the marriage blessed them with kids, well, they have realized that kids don't make a marriage work. It's the couple that made that decision to walk down the isle that shoulder the success/failure of the marriage.

bekay911: Men lack gud upbringing too, and dey av no respect 4 us as well. Dey just wnt wats unda our skirts and notn else and can u brief me abt the law stuff cos i av no idea hw we use d law 2 our advantage . i thnk i need it seriously

iv4real: @ skyone and who told u dat ladies dat got married above thirty are not happy about it. The problem with Nigerians is dat they think a womans life ends and begins in marriage. I will say it again not everybody is supposed to get married in their twenties. Getting married to d the right person at any age is the most important thing.

iv4real: @ skyone and who told u dat ladies dat got married above thirty are not happy about it. The problem with Nigerians is dat they think a womans life ends and begins in marriage. I will say it again not everybody is supposed to get married in their twenties. Getting married to d the right person at any age is the most important thing.

skyone:

Well i can categorically tell you the issue of spiritual husband is on the board and can not be erased. Many likes of yours knows this problem is the epitome of late marriages in women desiring one.





Obviously number 1 applies to your belief above. And where you failed woefully is your foul belief of career over family life. Yes you can strife for better future but hey your silly move is not the way to go about it . Ask many women  that has left wearing your shoes how regrettable their life is today.




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Skyone I would like to cut in here.
The lady above is enjoying a fulfilled life and you're moaning otherwise!!

It's a matter of opinion.....ways of assessing quality of life.
It's not in your remit to decide how people should live their lives and at what age to settle down.

That's Superiority/ Inferiority bullsh.....it.

I have a 38yr old female single unattached friend who enjoys herself, traveling the world n learning about new cultures, art, music and chateaux... You have no "right" to think she has a poorer quality of life.

I constantly meet as clients, women in their 40's and 50's who have been single for relative long periods with no children...... guess what

They are having a ball!!!!!!!!!!

******Loneliness gets easier to deal with as you grow older.
BTW, many wives are lonely in their marriages
So its relative!!!********


They look years younger than their contemporaries with children, have a satisfying career or hobby, encourage a good circle of friends and a holistic approach to life.

For the woman seeking a partner or husband, more "vaseline" to your elbows.

To those not quite there yet, take your time, freeze ur eggs if you're maternal once arriving at 30!! Or consider egg donation IVF or potentially cloning!! (Technologies are fast developing).

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Just my OPINION!!!