madscientist88:
thats your opinion,what does it have to do with what i said?you have a valid opinion as one reason to why that could happen,but mentioning me and nullifying what i said to make your point is just, outright boorish,its what an ilitrate would do tbh.

I had to cause you are making a big deal out it mentioning trauma , rape homosexual etc

Mrfeel:

I had to cause you are making a big deal out it mentioning trauma , rape homosexual etc

and so what? people live with a lot and you think you know what exactly?

madscientist88:
and so what? people live with a lot and you think you know what exactly?

Raped victims know the negative effect of being raped , if this guy was a raped victim he could have mentioned it , it's not something to forget

Mrfeel:


Raped victims know the negative effect of being raped , if this guy was a raped victim he could have mentioned it , it's not something to forget

how would you know? if he was molested as a child or not? besides i was only asking questions based on instances which could cause the shyness,he said he is always shy whenever he sees a group of guys,why would a normal man feel shy amongst other men? its not like he has any disability,he further went ahead to say sometimes guys tell him he acts feminine, which is a pointer that he is facing physical rudicule added to a couple of things,the trauma results as the shyness he potrays. take note i never said he was raped that is why he feels that way,i said rape victims exhibit same behaviour around normal people.i also concluded by saying if none of those things happen to him then he might just be attracted to men for certain reasons, sometimes when people are attracted to other people they show some degree of shyness. are you g@y? because i dont understand why you are disturbed when i attributed homo to rape,truth is most homos are child molestors because children are easier and weaker targets, and because most adult males wont tolerate their g@y status they shift their target to innocent kids.i took my time to explain everything to you,if you still think there is a reason for you to say my claims are invalid and yours is superior then thats your problem.have a nice life.

My dear Op, you have to grow a thick skin and learn how to not care what people think of you.

I used to be very shy and timid until life and experiences happened to me.

If you need a new friend, dm me and I'll send you my WhatsApp number so we can chat and talk whenever you like.

Be you! Take care of yourself.

[quote author=Effizybozz post=124425306]As I guy I'm always shy around my fellow guys I don’t know why, im trying to overcome the shyness is not just working I act a little bit feminine but not all that girly tho, I’m always shy that they will monk me or say something I wouldn’t like…

How do I overcome this shyness, it actually ki!!ing Me, im an introvert because of this. There are some guys I’m not comfortable around them, when I’m with them I want them to go, secondly if I see group of guys, I will be shy to pass there… if I walk into a place sometimes and I see lots of guys I will be shy at first, then when I look at their faces, the shyness will reduce a bit

What do I do? Is it normal.. I need advice please from

Matured minds only


No jokes here I need to slap you first then we go to mushin or ajegule, will rent an apartment there for you, when I carry you comot mix you up with some dude you go change character…smooth transition.

madscientist88:
how would you know? if he was molested as a child or not? besides i was only asking questions based on instances which could cause the shyness,he said he is always shy whenever he sees a group of guys,why would a normal man feel shy amongst other men? its not like he has any disability,he further went ahead to say sometimes guys tell him he acts feminine, which is a pointer that he is facing physical rudicule added to a couple of things,the trauma results as the shyness he potrays. take note i never said he was raped that is why he feels that way,i said rape victims exhibit same behaviour around normal people.i also concluded by saying if none of those things happen to him then he might just be attracted to men for certain reasons, sometimes when people are attracted to other people they show some degree of shyness. are you g@y? because i dont understand why you are disturbed when i attributed homo to rape,truth is most homos are child molestors because children are easier and weaker targets, and because most adult males wont tolerate their g@y status they shift their target to innocent kids.i took my time to explain everything to you,if you still think there is a reason for you to say my claims are invalid and yours is superior then thats your problem.have a nice life.

Alot of guys who are not exposed act shy timid around other guys , some are naturally born that way it's normal


I'm not g@y and I feel disturbed and irritated the way words like homosexuality lesbianism is mentioned in our day to day conversation in this generation , growing up we had guys that actually looked like women and behaved like women but no one actually mentioned words like homosexual or being attracted to men and we had girls that looked like guys but no one mentioned lesbian or being attracted to girls cause it was something unheard of , and such guys grew past that shyness and feminine behavior to become strong men same with the girls

This topic of homosexuality & lesbianism is becoming a normal conversation these days and it irritates me

Mrfeel:


Alot of guys who are not exposed act shy timid around other guys , some are naturally born that way it's normal


I'm not g@y and I feel disturbed and irritated the way words like homosexuality lesbianism is mentioned in our day to day conversation in this generation , growing up we had guys that actually looked like women and behaved like women but no one actually mentioned words like homosexual or being attracted to men and we had girls that looked like guys but no one mentioned lesbian or being attracted to girls cause it was something unheard of , and such guys grew past that shyness and feminine behavior to become strong men same with the girls

This topic of homosexuality & lesbianism is becoming a normal conversation these days and it irritates me

i dont know your age but im 35,i have a boy who would be 20 this year,you think i love to mention those words? jay-z mother got married to a woman this year,she had 5 grown boys with a man,did you know what her excuse is? that society chose a lifestyle for her,that was why she got married to a man and had children for a man,my take on this is simple,it could be a mental disorder and society frowns at it but that doesn't change the fact that it is what it is,the fact that those men married women doesn't mean they are not seeing other men in secret,the reason why the names are all over the place nowadays is because of social media,in the past it was secret thing.its not a subject of whether you like it or not a g@y person is a g@y person for his or her personal reason, i don't care and that's their problem as long as it has nothing to do with my family.
below is a picture of me and my son

Why are you gae?

madscientist88:
i dont know your age but im 35,i have a boy who would be 20 this year,you think i love to mention those words? jay-z mother got married to a woman this year,she had 5 grown boys with a man,did you know what her excuse is? that society chose a lifestyle for her,that was why she got married to a man and had children for a man,my take on this is simple,it could be a mental disorder and society frowns at it but that doesn't change the fact that it is what it is,the fact that those men married women doesn't mean they are not seeing other men in secret,the reason why the names are all over the place nowadays is because of social media,in the past it was secret thing.its not a subject of whether you like it or not a g@y person is a g@y person for his or her personal reason, i don't care and that's their problem as long as it has nothing to do with my family.
below is a picture of me and my son

I'm 36 raising 3 children 1 is my daughter she is 17 , the other is my nephew 17 and the last is my niece 15

My nephew has been with me since age 6 , he has 2 younger sisters who live with their mother , my nephew looks and behave exactly like his mother even the way he speaks he has a feminine voice and he talks alot just like his mother he was never abused by a homosexual or anything he was just born with those traits of his mother , now someone like my nephew if he was in the western world he would be brainwashed to believe he is a girl trapped in a boys's body ,then he will start seeing himself as a girl which he is not ,

what makes a boy a boy goes beyond the social construct of a boy must behave this way or that way to be a real boy , no a boy is a boy cause he's born with a penis with testicles that produces sperm those are male reproductive organs , behaving like a female doesn't make him female

Same thing with a girl, a girl is a girl cause she's born with a vagina a womb breast , she can get pregnant give birth and breastfeed her baby , those are female reproductive organs , behaving like a male doesn't make her male

Mrfeel:



I'm 36 raising 3 children 1 is my daughter she is 17 , the other is my nephew 17 and the last is my niece 15

My nephew has been with me since age 6 , he has 2 younger sisters who live with their mother , my nephew looks and behave exactly like his mother even the way he speaks he has a feminine voice and he talks alot just like his mother he was never abused by a homosexual or anything he was just born with those traits of his mother , now someone like my nephew if he was in the western world he would be brainwashed to believe he is a girl trapped in a boys's body ,then he will start seeing himself as a girl which he is not ,

what makes a boy a boy goes beyond the social construct of a boy must behave this way or that way to be a real boy , no a boy is a boy cause he's born with a penis with testicles that produces sperm those are male reproductive organs , behaving like a female doesn't make him female

Same thing with a girl, a girl is a girl cause she's born with a vagina a womb breast , she can get pregnant give birth and breastfeed her baby , those are female reproductive organs , behaving like a male doesn't make her male

great to hear you are a responsible man too,but thats your opinion i stand with you,but that doesn't change the fact that homos exist and some of them rape people.

madscientist88:
great to hear you are a responsible man too,but thats your opinion i stand with you,but that doesn't change the fact that homos exist and some of them rape people.

I'm not denying the existence of homosexuals and lesbians they do exist , and it's common these days cause gay porn and lesbian porn videos are all over the internet teenage boys and girls who stumble on such videos like that most times end up becoming gay and lesbians that's why parents must monitors their children to know what they do on internet , my daughter is 17 but I have not given her a smart phone yet , I will buy her one soon cause she just finished secondary school but I will still monitor what she does on the internet

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Mrfeel:

I'm not denying the existence of homosexuals and lesbians they do exist , and it's common these days cause gay porn and lesbian porn videos are all over the internet teenage boys and girls who stumble on such videos like that most times end up becoming gay and lesbians that's why parents must monitors their children to know what they do on internet , my daughter is 17 but I have not given her a smart phone yet , I will buy her one soon cause she just finished secondary school but I will still monitor what she does on the internet

That's literally not how human sexuality works

Flamemignon1:
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That's literally not how human sexuality works

Explain further pls

Mrfeel:

Explain further pls

Anyone who's gay is gay,no amount of porn can change your sexual attraction

Flamemignon1:

Anyone who's gay is gay,no amount of porn can change your sexual attraction

Are you telling me people are born gay ?

Mrfeel:

Are you telling me people are born gay ?

Nobody is born gay or straight from the womb. The whole concept of "born this way" is that you birth yourself as you grow with environment and other factors affecting that growth,you birth yourself as you grow

Flamemignon1:

Nobody is born gay or straight from the womb. The whole concept of "born this way" is that you birth yourself as you grow with environment and other factors affecting that growth,you birth yourself as you grow

Good.
So what exactly is your point of saying who is gay is gay ? What makes a guy turn gay in the first place?

Mrfeel:


Good.
So what exactly is your point of saying who is gay is gay ? What makes a guy turn gay in the first place?

My point is that porn doesn't turn anyone gay or straight, it's only a visual manifestation of your desires in action not the other way round

Flamemignon1:

My point is that porn doesn't turn anyone gay or straight, it's only a visual manifestation of your desires in action not the other way round

No, you can get exposed to something you have never thought of before and that exposure will pervert your mind to do that thing .

What do you think will happen if you show a porn video to a 10 year old boy who knows nothing sex ? If a boy as 10 watches a video of two men having sex he will likely go out and try to do it with another boy , if he watches a porn video of a man having sex with a dog he will likely go out and try having sex with the dog in his house , it's not the manifestation of what that boy desire but what his mind was perverted with

Mrfeel:


No, you can get exposed to something you have never thought of before and that exposure will pervert your mind to do that thing .

What do you think will happen if you show a porn video to a 10 year old boy who knows nothing sex ? If a boy as 10 watches a video of two men having sex he will likely go out and try to do it with another boy , if he watches a porn video of a man having sex with a dog he will likely go out and try having sex with the dog in his house , it's not the manifestation of what that boy desire but what his mind was perverted with

If we are going by that logic,I as a gay man was indoctrinated with the straight agenda since birth,I never ever in my entire life saw queer representation as a kid but here I am today,a flaming homo

Candidlady:


Why not just embrace the feminine part of you.. there is no sin in that...

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Op u v got work to do on yourself. Obviously suffering from low self esteem. Everyone wished there's something he has to feel complete but nature has it distributed differently. There's is something in you someone else is admiring. U need to tell yourself you are good enough. Be free and confident when relating with people. Look into their eyes during conversation. Dress well. Smell nice. Carry yourself with with dignity. As for me I walk with my head high (not proud). I can burst into any gathering, shoe decorum and exchange greetings. Next time you come across guys in ur age bracket. Just say how far guys , little smile n walk away.

Flamemignon1:

If we are going by that logic,I as a gay man was indoctrinated with the straight agenda since birth,I never ever in my entire life saw queer representation as a kid but here I am today,a flaming homo

Here you are today , yeah tell me you just woke and became gay?

Mrfeel:


Here you are today , yeah tell me you just woke and became gay?

Lol,you think with all the hate, scrutiny and marginalization of queer people,that I will just one day wakeup and decide to be gay?

Flamemignon1:

Lol,you think with all the hate, scrutiny and marginalization of queer people,that I will just one day wakeup and decide to be gay?

For you to call yourself a queer person means whatever you are doing is not normal
And you said earlier that

Flamemignon1:

Nobody is born gay or straight from the womb. The whole concept of "born this way" is that you birth yourself as you grow with environment and other factors affecting that growth,you birth yourself as you grow

It simply means something led you to being gay , is it your environment ? What are the factors that made you gay ?

Mrfeel:


For you to call yourself a queer person means whatever you are doing is not normal
And you said earlier that



It simply means something led you to being gay , is it your environment ? What are the factors that made you gay ?

Thank goodness you used the word "normal" not "natural",the former is defined by society while the latter is innate and I don't want to be normal,you normal people are so boring and predictable, there's literally no zest for life,do you think we will have solid entertainment from Michael Jackson,Prince or Madonna if they were normal? No,so being normal is overrated,as long as no one gets hurt,I will lean into my abnormality because something being abnormal doesn't mean it ain't natural

Like I said, environment have a way of shaping human sexuality,the problem is one side of that sexual spectrum is demonized when it shouldn't be

Flamemignon1:

Thank goodness you used the word "normal" not "natural",the former is defined by society while the latter is innate and I don't want to be normal,you normal people are so boring and predictable, there's literally no zest for life,do you think we will have solid entertainment from Michael Jackson,Prince or Madonna if they were normal? No,so being normal is overrated,as long as no one gets hurt,I will lean into my abnormality because something being abnormal doesn't mean it ain't natural

Like I said, environment have a way of shaping human sexuality,the problem is one side of that sexual spectrum is demonized when it shouldn't be

If you use the word , natural , what you do is it natural? The anus is an opening at the end of the digestive tract it is there to pass out stool waste of the body , so it's not natural to insert penis or any object into the anus it's both unnatural and abnormal, just because you are able to insert the penis or other objects successfully into the anus doesn't make it natural , you can also insert same penis into a goat, dog , cow, chicken etc successfully that doesn't make it natural

Mrfeel:

If you use the word , natural , what you do is it natural? The anus is an opening at the end of the digestive tract it is there to pass out stool waste of the body , so it's not natural to insert penis or any object into the anus it's both unnatural and abnormal, just because you are able to insert the penis or other objects successfully into the anus doesn't make it natural , you can also insert same penis into a goat, dog , cow, chicken etc successfully that doesn't make it natural

You do realize that anal sex doesn't mean gay right? There are gay men that don't even like anal sex when there's frottage, mutual mast etc and there are some straight men that love anal sex,anal sex is just a form of sexual pleasure regardless of your sexuality

Flamemignon1:

You do realize that anal sex doesn't mean gay right? There are gay men that don't even like anal sex when there's frottage, mutual mast etc and there are some straight men that love anal sex,anal sex is just a form of sexual pleasure regardless of your sexuality

I know , and those are all unnatural form of sex ,a man inserting the penis in the anus of a woman is unatural also , licking a womans vagina is unatural sucking the penis using the mouth is unatural etc they might all give pleasure but just cause something gives you pleasure doesn't mean it is natural , a dog can lick a womans vagina and give her pleasure but it's not natural

Mrfeel:


I know , and those are all unnatural form of sex ,a man inserting the penis in the anus of a woman is unatural also , licking a womans vagina is unatural sucking the penis using the mouth is unatural etc they might all give pleasure but just cause something gives you pleasure doesn't mean it is natural , a dog can lick a womans vagina and give her pleasure but it's not natural

Who are you to define sex between consenting adults as unnatural,sex is subjective