pawa4ul:

[b]I hate it when we speak as though we are not in Nigeria or that we are not aware of the nature around us. Most of you guys that want to skin the Poster alive are even doing worse than what you are thinking of this lady. Having house girl in Nigeria is a very common thing. It is seen everywhere including your houses and neighbourhood. But we thank God that it is getting refined except for those who are hard-hearted. Most people have house helps and make sure they attend not just school but private and other good schools. The level of exposure your house girl receives also determines the kind of treatment and coaching your children would receive from the house girl, cos whether we like it or not, the house girl is also your daughter and co-coach for our children.
You can hardly identify a house girl this days as they look close to if not exactly like the children of those who hire them. And come to think of it, what do they really do these days? Just to help in bathing the kids (that is if the parents did not meet up in that for that time in question), sweep the house and assist the woman of the house when she is cooking. As the kids set out for school in the morning, she follows suit.
I am saying this cos we have a maid in my house. Neighbours around us never knew that she was not related to us till when she was to leave (that was after passing out of Secondary school). And to tell you the truth, we are scouting for another.
A lot of people put theirs in a trade to benefit them in skill learning. This means that the maids are busy only in the morning.
They really cook. Ask those who have one, and you will find out. this is so cos most men would not want any other person to cook their home food except their wife plus the fact that the women will not give that opportunity of their husband rating the food of the maid better.
House maid is not slavery at all, rather it is a way of helping to reach unto the less previlieged. You use them as you would use your children. This is my perception anyway. [/b]

pawa4ul:

[b]I hate it when we speak as though we are not in Nigeria or that we are not aware of the nature around us. Most of you guys that want to skin the Poster alive are even doing worse than what you are thinking of this lady. Having house girl in Nigeria is a very common thing. It is seen everywhere including your houses and neighbourhood. But we thank God that it is getting refined except for those who are hard-hearted. Most people have house helps and make sure they attend not just school but private and other good schools. The level of exposure your house girl receives also determines the kind of treatment and coaching your children would receive from the house girl, cos whether we like it or not, the house girl is also your daughter and co-coach for our children.
You can hardly identify a house girl this days as they look close to if not exactly like the children of those who hire them. And come to think of it, what do they really do these days? Just to help in bathing the kids (that is if the parents did not meet up in that for that time in question), sweep the house and assist the woman of the house when she is cooking. As the kids set out for school in the morning, she follows suit.          
I am saying this cos we have a maid in my house. Neighbours around us never knew that she was not related to us tilwhen she was to leave (that was after passing out of Secondary school). And to tell you the truth, we are scouting for another.
A lot of people put theirs in a trade to benefit them in skill learning. This means that the maids are busy only in the

morning.


They really cook. Ask those who have one, and you will find out. this is so cos most men would not want any other person to cook their home food except their wife plus the fact that the women will not give that opportunity of their husband rating the food of the maid better.
House maid is not slavery at all, rather it is a way of helping to reach unto the less previlieged. You use them as you would use your children. This is my perception anyway. [/b]

ronkebp:

I really do not understand what the insults and accusations are all about. House helps/ omo odos are generally used in Naija,. you people should stop pretending and fronting on a faceless forum, people who can afford it use these helps, infact i am beginning to see organizations that solely deal with these house-help things and they receive their monthly pay. No body should blame the poster for having a house help, you men are opening your mouths and typing 'ridiculous things' as if you help your wives back home with the house chores. The whole idea of having a help is that, one good turn should deserve another, not just using the girls and throwing them away like a piece of trash, but helping them too to be somebody in life. Do you think that the parents are happy that their kids are helping others, no!!! (though some, do not give a damn oooo, as long as they have their beer and pepper soup). Na money, infact the lack of it, is causing all these palava.

@ Poster, if you are doing all you said you are doing for this girl, then God bless you, and more power to your elbow, how many people can do it,? they are all here preaching the bible, majority of them are fake and liars.

BlueDiva:

Having a househelp is a way of helping out poor parents right?
The lady did not say she maltreats her help, so why the attack on her?

Just wondering though. . .

With all the modern gadgets, why use a househelp?
You have your pressure cooker, microwave, vaccum, dishwasher, washing machines etc

We Nigerians are a lazy lot.[/quote]

GOD BLESS YAH.

PLEASE ASK THESE MODERN DAY LADIES FOR ME.

LAZY GALS!

Da Doctor:

GOD BLESS YAH.

PLEASE ASK THESE MODERN DAY LADIES FOR ME.

LAZY GALS!

BlueDiva:

It's funny really.
The unthinkable aspect is when you let others raise your kids for you.

I have 3 kids and never for once thought of hiring a maid.

pawa4ul:

[b]@Da doctor and Pinkrex, I think you guys are deranged. The issue here is that you see what I wrote as impossible huh. Ok, tell me what is wrong in bringing someone from a very remote village who has no parents stay with you and get some form of education. I bet I have done better than you both. Impact some lives around you!

BlueDiva:

Having a househelp is a way of helping out poor parents right?
The lady did not say she maltreats her help, so why the attack on her?

Just wondering though. . .

With all the modern gadgets, why use a househelp?
You have your pressure cooker, microwave, vaccum, dishwasher, washing machines etc

We Nigerians are a lazy lot.

Da Doctor:

MADAM, MIND YOUR LANGUAGE. I AND MY WIFE HAVE LONG BEEN MARRIED WITH CHILDREN, WE DONT TAKE IN ANY 3RD PARTY. SHE IS UP TO THE TASK AND I HELP TOO AS NEED BE. IF U ARE LAZY NOT ALL WOEMN ARE LAZY. THE ODDS OF OMO ODO OUT WEIGHS THE GAINS . MY OPINION. NOTE THAT NOT ALL HOME USE OMO ODO. YOU AND your HUBBY MAY BE SPECIALISTS. NOT OTHERS

BlueDiva:

It's funny really.
The unthinkable aspect is when you let others raise your kids for you.

I have 3 kids and never for once thought of hiring a maid.

ronkebp:

Da doctor, you mind your language, thank God for you, at least you help your wife, how about those that do not, especially for those that are pregnant and heavy, don't they need some kind of help, In America, life is easier, we have light 24/7, water, good roads, for the fact that we do not have to fetch water, sit down and wash pile of clothes is a big help if you don't know. When Nigeria, becomes better, naturally everything would fall into place, there is no need preaching what you cannot do.

Da Doctor:

lest i forget i need a second wife. are u game?

ronkebp:

Are you a full time house wife or do you work??

pawa4ul:

@ Da doctor: MADAM, MIND YOUR LANGUAGE. I AND MY WIFE HAVE LONG BEEN MARRIED WITH CHILDREN, WE DONT TAKE IN ANY 3RD PARTY. SHE IS UP TO THE TASK AND I HELP TOO AS NEED BE. IF U ARE LAZY NOT ALL WOEMN ARE LAZY. THE ODDS OF OMO ODO OUT WEIGHS THE GAINS . MY OPINION. NOTE THAT NOT ALL HOME USE OMO ODO. YOU AND your HUBBY MAY BE SPECIALISTS. NOT OTHERS

May I also submit that your wife may be a full house wife. Not all women are. I also think that you do not have the mind of helping anybody so you hide under the cloak of terming it ''Lazy.'' We always say these mordern women,  we should also remember that our mothers had their siblings around to help them out in certian house chores as the case may be.

BlueDiva:

Always worked my dear.
Even had my first child while doing my post grad.

ronkebp:

Are you rich?? i don't do paupers!!!!!!!

Orikinla:

Ode poster, God will punish you for not educating her. Your punishment will double for every lie you have posted against the poor house-servant. God will punish the parents who love their own children and maltreat their house girls and house boys. It is your duty and responsibility to educate your housemaid or house boy. May God treat your children as you treat your servants. And no matter who you are, if you want to take me on, DON'T HIDE BEHIND A USERNAME LIKE A COWARD, DO SO WITH YOUR FULL IDENTITY. Most of you who come on Nairaland and other black forums to post nonsense don't even have the balls to do so on Cosmopolitan forums and the black smelling Nigerian big men and big women in particular are second class citizens in the US and the UK and cannot even be invited into the high class in the US and the UK. So, you look for the poor children of your fellow blacks to use as servants you even spend less to feed and clothe than your dogs. But many of you are non-entities in the US and the UK and cannot even have the intellect to interact with the civilized people of this world. Majority of you cannot even contribute much to the nation building of Nigeria. You are the curses plaguing Nigeria. Shio!

Da Doctor:

Yes sweery, money isnt ma problem, but can u deliver? and hope u dont snore?

ronkebp:

Da doctor, you mind your language, thank God for you, at least you help your wife, how about those that do not, especially for those that are pregnant and heavy, don't they need some kind of help, In America, life is easier, we have light 24/7, water, good roads, for the fact that we do not have to fetch water, sit down and wash pile of clothes is a big help if you don't know. When Nigeria, becomes better, naturally everything would fall into place, there is no need preaching what you cannot do.

ronkebp:

Da doctor, you mind your language, thank God for you, at least you help your wife, how about those that do not, especially for those that are pregnant and heavy, don't they need some kind of help, In America, life is easier, we have light 24/7, water, good roads, for the fact that we do not have to fetch water, sit down and wash pile of clothes is a big help if you don't know. When Nigeria, becomes better, naturally everything would fall into place, there is no need preaching what you cannot do

ronkebp:

Da doctor, you mind your language, thank God for you, at least you help your wife, how about those that do not, especially for those that are pregnant and heavy, don't they need some kind of help, In America, life is easier, we have light 24/7, water, good roads, for the fact that we do not have to fetch water, sit down and wash pile of clothes is a big help if you don't know. When Nigeria, becomes better, naturally everything would fall into place, there is no need preaching what you cannot do.

ronkebp:

Da doctor, you mind your language, thank God for you, at least you help your wife, how about those that do not, especially for those that are pregnant and heavy, don't they need some kind of help, In America, life is easier, we have light 24/7, water, good roads, for the fact that we do not have to fetch water, sit down and wash pile of clothes is a big help if you don't know. When Nigeria, becomes better, naturally everything would fall into place, there is no need preaching what you cannot do

pinkrex:



Arent they professional maids abroad? Can you use kids for your shores there without being jailed?

jennykadry:

Ronke you don't get the argument, we had people living with us back in the day. The problem people have with her is coming here to ridicule the 14 year old. You are a mother, no mother would love to see her child made fun of and laughed at like this.