leave this girl alone. she isnt interested and she will cheat on you if you marry her.

Hmmm bros i undstnd d feelin bt jos luk up if u die cos of dis ur gal,do u tink she'll die wit u? Nope lyf will go on.ur ability 2 let go & muv on is wat meks u who u r.nobody's worth dyin 4.

^^^^^^^^^^^^ she is not the one holding you down, it is you that do not want to move on, she is not obliged to tell you any of her affairs, like someone pointed out you are not married to her yet, so she can do whatever!!! with her life. I can sense you are an emotional person, and that is not too good for a man, Ask Mr. Chuks that posted on here few days ago, how he is dealing with his own heartbreak.

Eeya, this is what one guy is currently doing to my cousin sister.
Stop choking her!!! allow her to make up her goddamn mind!!
she's obviously pushing you away cos you are trying to force yourself on her
Five years is not today, you woo a woman everyday!!!

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Bros please just forget the girl and move on with your life. I knw you love her but she has no feelings for you anymore forcing her to come back to you will not work. just continue with life. na their way.

hello poster
it's seen that u are a woman by been emotional,that's too bad.now she's the man.our ladies are not made to be too nice u have 2 be ginger de swargger

Oh boy, i can't stop laughing at you hahahaha

This was almost exactly what i experienced between Dec and March 2011 when i traveled newly.

In my case, my lady was more matured than yours.  At the end i realised it was all my fault, i was always nagging, complaining and suspecting.

Relax your mind and concentrate. Think less of what she does in your absence and all other things shall be added unto you. I don't bother about what my woman does in my absence, i rather spend my time encouraging, advising and appreciating her. Even if she leaves, she will always remember one thing --i was nice to her and meant not harm. Call your woman and have a long chat with her. Women need to be assured and reassured that you are there for them.

Build your relationship on openness, trust and care. Make her your friend. In fact, i encourage my woman to hang out with her male friends, go to club etc. Yes i do that, not because i am foolish but because i want her to be a bit relieved of my absense. It is not easy for a woman to stay that long without companionship, and to add to it nagging.

But me dey chop my suya small small here o. Life is too short

work on her and don't let your 4 yr relationship die out.

Ahh, i cry 4u!!! Ds girl doesnt give a hook abot u anylonger, sorry theres notin u can do abot it, shes crazy about d oda dude but bet me when she gets dumped, she will come back to beg u. But seriously u deserve someone beta dan her, i knw wat u re going thru, it reli hurts n i can feel d pain, jst take it easy so dat u wont ve hypertension o. The cure to ur emotional ppain is to get a girl in europe n let her f**k d hell out of u. I bet u will be relieved n wit time u ll 4get her n move on wit ur life. Sorry o.

To b honest,cudnt finish d post,way too long& am a lazy reader,but far as I read:op shd move on,forcing her to evn come bac won't stop her seein d one she trully loves

@sexkillz, marry me

shirleee:

@sexkillz, marry me

[size=14pt]Wow! A hottie like you? I'll be damned if i say no![/size]

shirleee:

@sexkillz, marry me

@OP Ur not yet a man,because if U're ,U will learn how to forget about her and move on, Guess Ur not Financially Ok or maybe that her thought and she left for better option, Uself go for better option and stop acting like a GIRL,

OP why not get a sexy cypriot chick and forget about ur lost babe in naija

Like my Grand mother say's " NOT EVERY THING THAT MAKES US HAPPY IS NECESSARILY GOOD FOR US"

@OP

Why are you wasting your precious time you have lost the lady, she was never really into you all this years
She is probably keeping you around as a posible fall back if the new guy disappoint her.

OP are you insane? you want a dishonest lying cheating venal woman to be the mother of your children?!

move on. you are very young. you'll be fine. she is damaged goods. if you pursue her, it'll be your ruin. mark my words.'

since you're so confused, just bury yourself in your studies or work for now. when you come up for air, you'd have gotten over it and ready to try again.

@ Poster:
You claim you want reality yet you continue to be in denial, burying your head in the sand like an ostrich.

The truth and harsh reality of life is that we can't always get what we want but only what we can - its as simple as that.

Your girl clearly doesn't want you no more and already told you so, what else do you want? Why must she have to give it to you in graphical details before you will accept the truth and move on.

Note, everybody on this thread can easily see it, so why can't you see it for yourself - after all we can't all be wrong.

Also note that Sexkills was only giving you the formula to act upon the (slimmest of) hope, based on your expressed wish to win her back; but I am sure even he too wouldn't  tell you that it was the wisest of options opened to you.

For goodness sake get a grip man, don't be wimp, move on; or else even if you were to succeed, you would have only succeeded in marrying a woman whose fidelity and commitment to you would always be questionable - to say the least.

You are unfortunately behaving like a drowning person ready to clasp the sharp end of a sword in order to save this relationship; but believe me man, she is clearly not the right woman for you - much as you may love and want her back, the more you try the more you would be pushing her into more lies and seemingly this endless circle of deceit.  

Sorry for telling you the bitter truth.

op i suspect that babe use african remote control on u(juju)

@ OP,u be mumu?how u go keep congo say make dem no shine am for country like naija.u left a naija babe with mouth promise and u come stop to send change for recharge card and weavon and yet u expect the babe to cross dey pray and wait for ur safe return from Malabo,u never begin confuse.wait small.that babe don waka since the day u enter aeroplane and u beta commot ya eye from her n,yash cos better Rambo don hold am and notin u fit do.I trust say that guy dey nack the babe wella and u dey self-service for ur bafroom.dt cyprus wey u dey don affect ur thinking,beta relocate to Israel or Palestine where harder men go teach u how to be man.

@ op; control ur anger brother, no girl wants to spend the rest of her life with one who cant control himself (except d desperate/ugly ones). The reason she hung around so long is probably 4 d financial benefits.
Manage ur temper, once she notice this she'll come back to u. Do nothing about it and d same case will resurface even if u move on to d next relationship. Believe that

@190, hve we got a problem here?

bennygee:

@ OP,u be mumu?how u go keep congo say make dem no shine am for country like naija.u left a naija babe with mouth promise and u come stop to send change for recharge card and weavon and yet u expect the babe to cross dey pray and wait for your safe return from Malabo,u never begin confuse.wait small.that babe don waka since the day u enter aeroplane and u beta commot ya eye from her n,yash cos better Rambo don hold am and notin u fit do.I trust say that guy dey nack the babe wella and u dey self-service for your bafroom.dt cyprus wey u dey don affect your thinking,beta relocate to Israel or Palestine where harder men go teach u how to be man.

@ Sexkillz, i believe u hun. Hope u slept well sweets?

Am not angry at the girl but the op.
You lack the courage to face and hear the truth so you prefer to hold on to a decaying or dead relationship.
Shes sleeping with another guy and she demands bb and money by dec? is that the kind of girl you want for a wife?
Your family and friends alike are warning you but you still hold on to false hope till u hear it from her?
Haven't u ever heard 'actions speak louder than words' and that communication takes different forms? shes TALKING TELLING YOU SHES IN LOVE WITH SMBODY ELSE!
What else are you waiting to hear? a confession? wait for that in the courts of law cz she wont.
How many ladies are in this world? take a walk. That is what life is about. When you see people in love know they also had their hearts broken at one time but they moved on.
It's your turm now. Make a move so that you can build ur life. Hers is already on course fyi. yeah it sucks and one chuck of a guy feels the same too but healing wont start till u accept its gone and cross the bridge. Get rid of that wall uv put around urself and meet other people.
People lose more op.This is NOTHING!

lefulefu:

op i suspect that babe use african remote control on u(juju)

^^what? @ 190 Isn't lefu ur right hand man in bashing naija babes? He just posted what u wld av said eventually.