I have been married for over 10 years, but recently my wife told me that she does not love me. Even worse, she said she had never loved me and worst of all she said that of all the men she has been intimate with in her life (she listed them – and painfully enough I know them too because she double dated with each of them during our courtship) I am the only one who does not satisfy her or give her pleasure. That in fact I have never given her an orgasm yet all these guys have.
Before you say that she is merely being spiteful, she was saying all this with flood of tears and anguish. As you can imagine, it was equally extremely painful for me to her such words. The anguish can never be expressed in words and I do not wish my worst enemy to hear such words.
Naturally, I asked the following questions:
1. But how did it come to this?
2. But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way?
3. Why did you proceed to the wedding
4. Why did proceed to have children with me
5. Why didn’t you end it soon enough

,  answers she gave to these questions to follow.

while i'm waiting for your answer, let me be quick to say your wife is a b.i.t.ch solely for the reason that she proceeded to tell u all dis after 10yrs, 10 years which u might have been happier with some one else, well dis is a one sided view as i don't know your wife's version of events

I don't know how to answer your question but your post breaks my heart. I can't imagine my spouse being so cruel (honest or not, her actions were cruel, especially considering how she's felt these past 10 years). What exactly brought about her confession? Have you asked if there is someone or something else? I wish you both the best.

I'm also waiting for the rest of the post. I smell a b.i.t.c.h though

This is a very sad story.
Am feeling sorry for you.
But this your wife is really mean.
Why did she marry you in the first place?
and must she tell you all these after ten years of marriage?
Ask her what she wants you to do now?
And what she intends to do next.
Sorry

. . . I'm waiting for the answers she gave, please.

Hey guyz, b.i.t.c.h. Is a very mean word. Puhleeese, wait out d ans be4 calin names. Poster bera hury up.

Was she so desperate to get married she ended up marrying a man she did not love? Shocking indeed but the woman has said she never loved you to begin with, based on the painful truth she told, I would look at finding a way out of the marriage to be happy elsewhere, if I were you,

Kick her f**kin' ass out.

Hmmmn, na wa oh!

Som pple can b heartless, why d hell did she marry u in d first. @poster i wil like to hear her reason abeg

SA Goddess:

Was she so desperate to get married she ended up marrying a man she did not love? Shocking indeed but the woman has said she never loved you to begin with, based on the painful truth she told, I would look at finding a way out of the marriage to be happy elsewhere, if I were you,

I was going to ask the same question. This is what happens when people get desperate. I cant imagine the pains her words would have caused you

Sad, really sad. Her answer before my question.
The way the cookie crumbles,

FREDYP, I am still waiting for the answers she gave to the questions before making comments. anything I say now will be mere assumptions since the full picture is not clear

Fredy, bring 'em answers 'cause my fingers and trembling

As much as I feel sorry for this guy, he said something that just doesnt sound cool.

FredyP:

I have been married for over 10 years, but recently my wife told me that she does not love me. Even worse, she said she had never loved me and worst of all she said that of all the men she has been intimate with in her life [b](she listed them – and painfully enough I know them too because she double dated with each of them during our courtship) I am the only one who does not satisfy her or give her pleasure. [/b]That in fact I have never given her an heavenly feeling yet all these guys have.
Before you say that she is merely being spiteful, she was saying all this with flood of tears and anguish. As you can imagine, it was equally extremely painful for me to her such words. The anguish can never be expressed in words and I do not wish my worst enemy to hear such words.
Naturally, I asked the following questions:
1. But how did it come to this?
2. But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way?
3. Why did you proceed to the wedding
4. Why did proceed to have children with me
5. Why didn’t you end it soon enough

,  answers she gave to these questions to follow.

So she was double dating in their courtship, and that was how he found out about the other guys. I'm guessing there are at least 2 guys or more. But he knew she was doing so . . . why didn't he get rid of her?
Not trying to add salt to your wounds . . . but it sounds really weird.

Dear NLers, thks for ur reps. the ans below:
1.   But how did it come to this? - she did not have the courage to say it all this while, but it has been the case since the begining, because i did not allow frindship to flourish before entering to courtship
2.   But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way? - from the very begining because of the above
3.   Why did you proceed to the wedding - she thought it would improve
4.   Why did proceed to have children with me - same as above
5.   Why didn’t you end it soon enough - same as above
On the double dating, this info only came to light after the union.

FredyP:

Dear NLers, thks for your reps. the ans below:
1. But how did it come to this? - she did not have the courage to say it all this while, but it has been the case since the begining, because i did not allow frindship to flourish before entering to courtship
2. But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way? - from the very begining because of the above
3. Why did you proceed to the wedding - she thought it would improve
4. Why did proceed to have children with me - same as above
5. Why didn’t you end it soon enough - same as above
On the double dating, this info only came to light after the union.

I don't understand this answer! Did you force her into the marriage? As in with her hands tied and a gun to her head If no then she doesnt have a case. If she felt you were rushing her, she should have summoned up the courage to say something to that regards, afterall it's a marraige, not a relationship.

But I bet she was too desperate or greedy, she thought she could eat her cake and have it!

She's as sorry excuse for a woman!

FredyP:

Dear NLers, thks for your reps. the ans below:
1.   But how did it come to this? - she did not have the courage to say it all this while, but it has been the case since the begining, because i did not allow frindship to flourish before entering to courtship
2.   But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way? - from the very begining because of the above
3.   Why did you proceed to the wedding - she thought it would improve
4.   Why did proceed to have children with me - same as above
5.   Why didn’t you end it soon enough - same as above
On the double dating, this info only came to light after the union.

Classic! *Shakes Head*

FredyP:

I have been married for over 10 years, but recently my wife told me that she does not love me. Even worse, she said she had never loved me and worst of all she said that of all the men she has been intimate with in her life (she listed them – and painfully enough I know them too because she double dated with each of them during our courtship) I am the only one who does not satisfy her or give her pleasure. That in fact I have never given her an heavenly feeling yet all these guys have.
Before you say that she is merely being spiteful, she was saying all this with flood of tears and anguish. As you can imagine, it was equally extremely painful for me to her such words. The anguish can never be expressed in words and I do not wish my worst enemy to hear such words.
Naturally, I asked the following questions:
1. But how did it come to this?
2. But we have been married for over 10 years, when exactly did you begin to feel this way?
3. Why did you proceed to the wedding
4. Why did proceed to have children with me
5. Why didn’t you end it soon enough

,  answers she gave to these questions to follow.

It's because of threads like these i am not longer keen on getting married anytime soon.Women are totally impossible to please and living your life just to please them is a total/complete waste of time.Check out this website to see what their fellow woman has to say about them and you'll have a clearer view of how messed up women are in the head :

http://womensinfidelity.com

@Poster

Don't bother trying to be her friend.She wants to end the marriage and i can bet N1,000,000 that she's sleeping around already.She probably met a guy that out performs you in bed, she might not call that person's name but that of people in the past (who you know).Check out the website i listed above, read through it carefully and digest it.

I don't need to type much.By the time you are done reading, you will know that stressing yourself over that LovePeddler you call a wife is not worth it.Matter of fact, NO WOMAN is worth the headache.Our forefathers of old knew this that was why they married several women.That time they will spend making your life miserable will be spent squabbling over themselves.

10 good years without saying a thing , OMW!!!

can't wait to hear her response to all this, [color=#770077][/color]

Those are not excuses IMO. If a woman is not satisfied in bed she doesn't wait for 10 years to say it   Bloody coward!

A woman who has been sleeping with ONLY her husband for 10 years wouldn't tell a man that he can't please her after 10 years. Your wife is having affairs and is not ready to continue with this marriage

What a wicked woman! Who tells their husband after 10 years that their past mates are better than him? Who bloody says that? Only a wicked woman.
You should let her go 'cause this kind of woman is not ready to stay with you.

COco102:

10 good years without saying a thing , OMW!!!

can't wait to hear her response to all this, [color=#770077][/color]

The answers are in post 17

Na wa o
Sincerely I just cant comprehend this, I cnt believe that she do such and keep secret for 10years with no reason.

Am not encouraging her behaviour,but remember hell has no fury. . . . woman scorned.
Anyhow she bleeped up bigtime tho.

harakiri:

I don't need to type much.By the time you are done reading, you will know that stressing yourself over that LovePeddler you call a wife is not worth it.Matter of fact, NO WOMAN is worth the headache.Our forefathers of old knew this that was why they married several women.That time they will spend making your life miserable will be spent squabbling over themselves.

Dont go that way young man, you'll end making your life miserable. True, women can be cruel, but that is not to say that you can never be happy with one. Your choice goes a long way in making you happy. Dont base the most important decision in your life on irrelevant thing!

Dont go that way young man, you'll end making your life miserable. True, women can be cruel, but that is not to say that you can never be happy with one. Your choice goes a long way in making you happy. Dont base the most important decision in your life on irrelevant thing!

Same message I was about to pass on to him.

Dont go that way young man, you'll end making your life miserable. True, women can be cruel, but that is not to say that you can never be happy with one. Your choice goes a long way in making you happy. Dont base the most important decision in your life on irrelevant thing!

am sorry, I do not understand the quote above - particularly the text in bold.

^^^ Actually, it was directed @ Harakiri and not you!

Marriage is the most important institution in this world because any decision you make, you get to live with it for the rest of your life. People marry women because they are beautiful, rich, tall bla bla bla. At the end of the day, they turn around to do cheat on their husbands and ruin their families.

That's why I said decisions about marriage should nor be based in irrelevant things!

gottcha!

So Fredy, what are your plans?

Radiant:

So Fredy, what are your plans?

Yea, what do you want to do