My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.


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How long did you date him before ,you people got married?

joceey:
How long did you date him before ,you people got married?

Divorce him. I think it's better to get a second wife and make it legal rather than cheat on you.

In your last post you said you were enjoying your marriage to the fullest, now watta gwan??

How you have been coping with him is how to cope with such a spouse.

Don't listen to those who advise you to divorce him. They have no guarantee that your next husband will be better. Cheating on you is very bad. But I advise you to bear it since you don't suffer domestic violence and starvation in the marriage. If you divorce him, men will likely take sexual turns on you until you fade and regret your life.

Don't listen to those who advise you to cheat on him. Two wrongs do not make a right. You don't use fire to quench fire. If you cheat as a payback, you will likely suffer more emotional damages.

Calvary247:

But, how did you confirm that he cheats on you?

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

Get a bf or gf

madam get yourself a sugar boy , forget your husband life is too short dont stress over him,

NeckingNgulping:


Divorce him. I think it's better to get a second wife and make it legal rather than cheat on you.

No answer am
If u try am
U go lose ur respect smal smal boys go sleep with u all In the name of emotion
Divorce is for the rich

So long as he is playing his role as a husband and a father and he does not bring his girlfriends home my advise to you is to just look away otherwise you will give yourself HBP for nothing

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

you can ...
A) divorce the animal before he infects you with some deadly disease
B) shut up, stay married to the animal and live with the consequences... as its obvious this man doesnt care about what you think OR has any respect for you and the marriage you guys have.

BTW cheating back is by far the worst possible thing you can do. why turn into the animal that he is? how is that gonna solve the problem (remember, he doesnt really care about you)?

Madam, one toto no dey belleful man

Calvary247:
■ My husband cheats alot. I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

How do you cope? Well, you are already doing just that which is accepting that what you are worth is a cheating husband who has no respect for you nor values your emotional and psychological wellbeing. That is coping right there and you are doing a hell of a job of it for that Mrs. Badge.

If you like leave your marriage because of what Nairaland chief feminist Kobojunkie said.

When you do you will realise that the only real options available to you in the dating pool in Nigeria are widowers and possibly divorcees.

You're not likely to find a single guy in Nigeria who will readily marry a divorced woman with kids instead they will be taking turns to fuçk you.

If you must know the husbands of most of your friends also have sidechicks but they are more discrete about it so stop envying them.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

Divorce him he obviously don't care about you and don't listen to those men that will advice to stay because if the tables were turn, they will be the first to tell the husband to leave you.
The truth is most men can't take when they diss out, they expect women to take their cheating bullshit because to them we don't have feelings, you staying in a marriage with constant cheating will affect you mentally and emotionally in the long run, you will become a shadow of yourself and many people that goes through this usually dies young from High blood pressure and studies have shown that stress causes some cancers, do you want to keep living a life where you will be in constant stress and pain because of your husband.

I always tell people life is too short to be so unhappy, marriage is supposed to be a union, a happy union and if one is hurting the other, it's better to leave because Trust me if you cheat once you husband will never forgive you, so just leave forget all those talk of nobody want a divorce woman because they are fear mongering tactics to keep your unhappy in a loveless marriage.

Try to build yourself, become financial independent and you will surely meet the one that will make you happy and always remember life is too short to be unhappy

BareFacedLies:
■ If you like leave your marriage because of what Nairaland chief feminist ... said.
When you do you will realise that the only real options available to you in the dating pool in Nigeria are widowers and possibly divorcees. You're not likely to find a single guy in Nigeria who will readily marry a divorced woman with kids instead they will be taking turns to fuçk you. If you must know the husbands of most of your friends also have sidechicks but they are more discrete about it so stop envying them.

See what I was saying, @OP! Even this one is here is telling you that you should be grateful for have a cheating husband who cares nothing for you because your friends equally have the same.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?

Elusive001:
∆ Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?

Are you certain you are OK at all? Person tell you say the man cheats on her and does not even care what she thinks, you come dey ask if him dey born-again? Which kain yeye question be that one? Religion has seriously damaged the way a lot of you reason.

Imagine some werey for up just dey advice madam op to cheat on her husband .

That's to tell you how irredeemable our society has become........When you come online to seek advice,na then you go know say over 90% of people using smart phones are just humans with the brains of native goats

Kobojunkie:
Are you certain you are OK at all? Person tell you say the man cheats on her and does not even care what she thinks, you come dey ask if him dey born-again? Religion has seriously damaged the way a lot of you reason.

Are you done?

Kobojunkie:
See what I was saying, @OP! Even this one is here is telling you that you should be grateful to have a cheating husband who cares nothing for you because your friends equally have the same.

Calvary247 I still stand by what I said earlier, most of your friends are also in the same boat.

So long as there is no domestic violence involved just ignore advise from Kobojunkie and her fellow feminists.

If you leave your husband because of this just know that your pússy will become free-for-all except if you have plenty of money to attract a lazy gold digger who will agree to marry you.

The odds are seriously stacked against a female divocee in Nigeria

Cope? You want some advice to stay? LMAO. You men-centred women disgust me.

BareFacedLies:
■ Calvary247 I still stand by what I said earlier, most of your friends are also in the same boat.
So long as there is no domestic violence involved just ignore advise from ...and her fellow feminists. If you leave your husband because of this just know that your pússy will become free-for-all except if you have plenty of money to attract a lazy gold digger who will agree to marry you. The odds are seriously stacked a female divocee in Nigeria

OP, here again, he reiterates the same point from earlier which is that your lot in life should be coping with a cheating husband who does not respect or value you as a human being because your very own friends may just be in the same boat as you.

Here's the kicker! If you dare to cheat on that same cheating guy you have there, he is likely to abandon your arse like a dirty rag and move on to marry another woman. And if one of his side chicks decides to elevate herself to wife status, that same cheating husband of yours might also abandon your arse like a dirty rag even then. If you think your stance is a righteous one, keep thinking!

Living with a man who does not regard you at all but maybe pays the bills and maybe throws money your way now and then when he is not thinking about his side chicks is better than living with disrespect and daily humiliation; that is the coping wife's motto, right? So hold fast to it, and continue...coping!

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

Divorce him and marry another husband.

Or divorce him and stay single and just have boyfriends to quench your sex urge when needed.

Elusive001:


Is your husband born-again? I did NOT ask if he is a pastor, minister, or worker in his church. I did NOT ask if he goes to church, preaches, prays, pays tithe, etc. I asked, Is he born-again? Is he crucified with CHRIST JESUS?

They said it's not necessary, a man ought to resist the temptation by respecting himself/his marriage, by exercising self control and by remembering that he is married to a very beautiful, loyal woman who doesn't cheat

Madam, one toto no dey belleful man

For your peace of mind and longevity, divorce him after trying all you can to bring him to his senses.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

the worst thing you will do is to divorce your husband,I doubt if many that are advocating for divorce has ever seen the reality of marriage,just keep on talking to him about the issue in the gentlest tone as possible,don't give ultimatums or sound threatening,just try and make him see reason,if the man is a good husband and provider then just ignore him,most men including me love their family and wife so much that what they do outside is not cheating but outdoors exercise.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

But you were enjoying your marriage here: https://www.nairaland.com/7421934/im-enjoying-marriage-fullest

Madam Calvary, what happened?

P.S. If your husband provides for the family very well, adores the children and doesn't transmit any disease, then it's perfectly OK to enjoy another vagina other than yours. You exercised your options by being hypergamous. You were in your prime. It's called Exercise of Options, not Cheating. It's only cheating when the man doesn't have money.

But sha, if the thing really pain you, you can divorce him o

okoroemeka:
the worst thing you will do is to divorce your husband,I doubt if many that are advocating for divorce has ever seen then just ignore him,most men including me love their family and wife so much that what they do outside is not cheating but outdoors exercise.

Something many modern TwitterNG lovey-dovey women have yet to realise - it rains everywhere. Before one will say there are some men who don't exercise as well. The question is: what percentage of married men in Nigeria who are financially stable don't indulge in outdoor exercises?

These people think they can fight biology. You wan fight testosterone?

NeckingNgulping:


Divorce him. I think it's better to get a second wife and make it legal rather than cheat on you.

This is the worst advise. Please, don't divorce him.. My close friend that divorced her husband is sleeping with married men.
Just imagine the circle. You can win your husband through your behaviour. Keep up being an amazing wife. He will come back to his sense.

Calvary247:
My husband cheats alot.
I tried communicating with him to consider my emotional and psychological well-being but he didn't really take kin interest. I have wanted to cheat back but thinking of it disgusts me. Just help with a piece of advice that will help me.

I'm very sure you knew this before marriage, but marrying to handsome bobo completely overwhelmed ur rational thinking faculty then.

Unfortunately, no advice I render to a woman that got himself hooked by a he-goat.

Kobicove:
So long as he is playing his role as a husband and a father and he does not bring his girlfriends home my advise to you is to just look away otherwise you will give yourself HBP for nothing

And he keeps infecting her with myriads of STI and HIV one day.

Clap for yourself.