kandiikane: @sagamite, you know why you find most women selfish and even get into abusive arguments with them?
It is because you hate when a woman challenges your ideas. If you discuss something and a woman has a different opinion to it, your first word to them is "cretin".

You finding most women "not nice" shows it is you with a problem not them. The way you interact with MOST women shows you to be a typical stereotype of a naija man.

Don't hate me, just throwing it out there.

That is purely a silly accusation.

1) If anything, I call men cretins more than I call women on NL.

2) People like chaircover, jennykadri, Missy B and ronkepb consistently challenge my views with their different views but I have never insulted them BECAUSE they apply alot of sense and logic when they talk. At least, I would most times find their arguments specious, not purely moronic. (ronkebp even had the audacity to say I have no value. She is lucky she is married. )

When I call people cretins is when they say STUUUPID things without any evidence of applying their brain. And worse still is when they don't take correction and want to stick with their fucktardism.

Now to give you evidence that I don't just throw cretin at people, here is someone that recently called me (A WHOLE ME, SAGAMITE FROM SAGAMU-EWA) slow IN THINKING. My job o. My means of livelihood: THINKING:

https://www.nairaland.com/968810/victor-moses-wigan-rejects-chelseas#11170579

KAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAI! ABOMINATION!

But guess what? I did not insult him because I could see the REASON why he said so. And I know if I was in his shoes and seeing that, I would do the same thing or worse, so I should be willing to take what I dish out. Hence, I just explained myself to him.

That is an example of why I keep on telling everyone on NL that I am the most objective and fair person you can ever come across. (ronkebp, take note: VALUE. Your husband get this kind?) . Remember, I did not do that under duress or monitoring. I did that based on fair judgement where I was judge, jury and executioner. And we all know how good an executioner I am.

And no, I have no problems. Most women are just semi-dysfunctional and I don't stand for their shyt. And majority of them think as the "fairer sex" they are allowed and entitled to be dysfunctional and there should be no consequence and it should not be reciprocated.

LWKMD!

Sagamite, those are the only handful of women you would call "nice".

You have used 'cretin' on about 98% of people you have argued with on NL, even if its on how many sugars to put in a tea. Maybe, I am even being generous with the 98%. From all your arguments, first word I see is "cretin".

I see coogar is following your footsteps too.

kandiikane: LWKMD!

Sagamite, those are the only handful of women you would call "nice".

You have used 'cretin' on about 98% of people you have argued with on NL, even if its on how many sugars to put in a tea. Maybe, I am even being generous with the 98%. From all your arguments, first word I see is "cretin".

I see coogar is following your footsteps too.

Okay. Let me give you a challenge:

Go and pick examples of posts where I called someone names and you think it was unwarranted (i.e. they were being sensible). Preferably pick ones that backs your assertion that I call people names because they are female and dared argue with me.

I wait.

This should be easy since you said you are being generous with 98%.

Lol.

Ok, wait there.

P.s, my assertion is not that you call women names because of their gender but don't like most because they challenge you. Typical 1800 male. Probably also hate the idea of women voting and working.

kandiikane: Lol.

Ok, wait there.

P.s, my assertion is not that you call women names because of their gender but don't like most because they challenge you. Typical 1800 male. Probably also hate the idea of women voting and working.

Lets park your garri N20 conjectures for now.

Please get the posts first.

kandiikane: Lol.

Ok, wait there.

P.s, my assertion is not that you call women names because of their gender but don't like most because they challenge you. Typical 1800 male. Probably also hate the idea of women voting and working.

This is the same guy that hates the idea of women working?

www.nairaland.com/870887/how-career-women-cope-domestic/2#10201164

Na wah for conjectures.

And, again, this is the guy that hates if his wife wants to work?

https://www.nairaland.com/405445/ladies-arrange-order-preferred-attributes/9#5635027

https://www.nairaland.com/405445/ladies-arrange-order-preferred-attributes/9#5635168

Kandiikane, you told me to wait here o.

Wey the posts?

sagamite

I was once in a relationship where I was trying too hard to keep it going.
It was already dead but I wanted him to walk out first without ever blaming me for not doing my part.
And the more I tried to do my best,the more I became weak and drained within because it was not being reciprocated. I lost myself in the process.
Well eventually it was over and it was the best relief for me. My life came back.
I look back and think I was either stupid or blind. But I am glad he's only got himself to blame.

That is why I doubt that you can ever please a guy except he chooses to and I can never sweat to please or win somebody's love.

pendo89: sagamite

I was once in a relationship where I was trying too hard to keep it going.
It was already dead but I wanted him to walk out first without ever blaming me for not doing my part.
And the more I tried to do my best,the more I became weak and drained within because it was not being reciprocated. I lost myself in the process.
Well eventually it was over and it was the best relief for me. My life came back.
I look back and think I was either stupid or blind. But I am glad he's only got himself to blame.

That is why I doubt that you can ever please a guy except he chooses to.

You women are the ones frequently with the responsibility for choosing and determining if a relationship would start.

Unfortunately most of you girls like to pick guys you can't have when you are at your aesthetic peak. You like the challenge and the danger of trying to change him. You like the adrenaline rush of not knowing what he would do next. The more a guy likes a young girl, the more likely she would play up. You girls do not like the good guys then until you start seeing the decline in your aesthetic beauty and the accompanying decline in approach by men or decline in interest in you when another girl (normally younger) is there.

I bet deep down you thought this guy was not the right one for you before you started dating him?

Although sometimes good guys do lose interest.

Sagamite:

You women are the ones frequently with the responsibility for choosing and determining if a relationship would start.

Unfortunately most of you girls like to pick guys you can't have when you are at your aesthetic peak. You like the challenge and the danger of trying to change him. You like the adrenaline rush of not knowing what he would do next. The more a guy likes a young girl, the more likely she would play up. You girls do not like the good guys then until you start seeing the decline in your aesthetic beauty and the accompanying decline in approach by men or decline in interest in you when another girl (normally younger) is there.

I bet deep down you thought this guy was not the right one for you before you started dating him?

Although sometimes good guys do lose interest.

I have never picked a guy,Actually he pursued me through thick and thin. And when I got to know him we were just friends.
But he had a very very rough and sad past. Not criminal but cruel and abusive dad.
I started seeing those traits in him later into the relationship.He was a dove outside,very cool,but full of anger unexplainable. Exploding kind and very bitter.I think his past haunted him.
I am sure I pitied him and wanted to see him happy.But NOTHING could soften his heart.
Instead my heart suffered as I tried to warm his!
Some people are just rocks and cannot love.

pendo89:
I have never picked a guy,Actually he pursued me through thick and thin. And when I got to know him we were just friends.
But he had a very very rough and sad past. Not criminal but cruel and abusive dad.
I started seeing those traits in him later into the relationship.He was a dove outside but full of anger unexplainable. Exploding kind and very bitter.
I think his past haunted him.
I am sure I pitied him and wanted to see him happy.But NOTHING could soften his heart.
Instead my heart suffered as I tried to warm his!
Some people are just rocks.

When I say picked a guy, I did not mean pursue him. I meant agree to date him. Women tend to have the power to make that decision.

I would be surprised you were friends and you never knew about the anger before you started dating.

Most likely you knew about it and decided he was a Happiness project you want to undertake and started the relationship.

You wanted the euphoria of being the one to change him but ended up with the hurt of him not changing.

Your study of womanology did you wrong.

Well that was what and then. And we learn through processes.

A good lesson learned and am wiser now.

Sagamite: Kandiikane, you told me to wait here o.

Wey the posts?

Aha, I'm shocked at the links.

I guess I'm not the only one even jaybee asked what got into you.

kandiikane:

Aha, I'm shocked at the links.

I guess I'm not the only one even jaybee asked what got into you.

So lets just say you read me utterly wrong.

I am a maverick and a peculiar person this can easily be attributed to my superb brain. I feel confident enough to challenge the norm and not to follow the crowd.

Some girls will have problems with me because they expect, and are used to, guys praising them even when they are wrong and they are a complete arse. That is suppose to be the norm and culture for "mature, real men". The ability to take a woman's shyt is the measure of maturity to some moorons.

Sagamite is not like that.

If you are nice and cute, I would call you and bluntly tell you that you are and even say how much I miss you. I am very good at praising ladies.

If you are not, I would tell you you are not and direct you on how to fck off (after a series of warning).

I am the most objective and fair person you would ever come across.

^when I first came across you, you were very brash and crude. You remember the 'ini edo topless thread'?



I noticed a change recently when I came back, that has changed abit.
I have not received one insult from you but we will see.

I had no issues with you in general but the way you came across.

sagamite. . . . I dey watch u.

^you are not the only one.

desertboom: sagamite. . . . I dey watch u.

Say wetin?

You be assassin?

kandiikane: ^when I first came across you, you were very brash and crude. You remember the 'ini edo topless thread'?



I noticed a change recently when I came back, that has changed abit.
I have not received one insult from you but we will see.

I had no issues with you in general but the way you came across.

Because that is what I thought you deserved!

You came across as a belligerent and biased feminist. My pet hate.

And your quick-to-insulting-of-parents did not elude class and someone I should respect. I like ladies.

Sagamite:

Say wetin?

You be assassin?



Because that is what I thought you deserved!




You came across as a belligerent and biased feminist. My pet hate.

And your quick-to-insulting-of-parents did not elude class and someone I should respect. I like ladies.

Lmaoo, what? I am the most unbiased person you will ever meet. I am not a feminist. Everything thing I do, I do without being biased because I like to put myself in every shoe. I.e, I'm muslim but many will think, I am christian or an athiest because I do not impose things on people. You started insulting first, I don't insult without reason.

pendo89: sagamite

And the more I tried to do my best,the more I became weak and drained within because it was not being reciprocated. I lost myself in the process.
Well eventually it was over and it was the best relief for me. My life came back.
I look back and think I was either stupid or blind. But I am glad he's only got himself to blame.

Have you done some self assessment to enure you have not contributed to the failure of the relationship?
Why do you think he got himself to blame ?
He might be very happy that you are gone too

kandiikane:

Lmaoo, what? I am the most unbiased person you will ever meet. I am not a feminist. Everything thing I do, I do without being biased because I like to put myself in every shoe. I.e, I'm muslim but many will think, I am christian or an athiest because I do not impose things on people. You started insulting first, I don't insult without reason.

You must have said something silly for me to attack.

As I said, I don't insult for nothing and I definitely don't insult parents.

luckgames:
Have you done some self assessment to enure you have not contributed to the failure of the relationship?
Why do you think he got himself to blame ?
He might be very happy that you are gone too

She actually always comes across as a classy lady that is why I never thought to ask her this question.

One of the ones I feel the husband made a good choice.

If it had been most other females, I would have asked.

^ Oh, yes you do.

kandiikane: ^ Oh, yes you do.

I could go back again and tell you to bring evidence of such, but that would be cruel.

luckgames:
Have you done some self assessment to enure you have not contributed to the failure of the relationship?
Why do you think he got himself to blame ?
He might be very happy that you are gone too

Lemmie summarise it by saying,he has tried to woo me back for years but I have stood my ground.
Only a dog goes back to it's own vommit and God knows how much I gave in that relationship.Not only for him but for his sisters.
I was acting 'mother' to his sisters who were older than me and had kids!!If I tell you what I went through trying to encourage them you would think I was insane. They respected me cz I was there when there bro was trying to kick the hell out of their lives. I washed their babies,visited them in hospital,picked one's baby from a pit latrine,(that one was just a mad case)got admitted to act as mother cz she had gone into hiding,plus many other things.
And all this while I was in college! I used to pass by their home to help out cz I loved and pitied the guy.
And to add salt? it was my first relationship.

When a man openly admits that his anger knows no bounds and that he's is to blame then what do you say? He admitted that he is not in control of his anger.
His own sister I rem told me to live him! can you imagine? but I wanted to be there for him because I had seen him change from a deprssed man to a lively one in the course of our relationship.
That is brief.

The biggest lesson I learnt was this 'don't fall in love too fast no matter what or don't fall in love because of a circumstance.
I strongly believe that circumstances made us meet and we tried to 'create love' out of it.Wrong!

Sagamite:

I could go back again and tell you to bring evidence of such, but that would be cruel.

I would do but that is a long thing to do.

Don't worry I will catch you soon and remind you.

@pendo, how did you manage after walking away?

pendo89:

Lemmie summarise it by saying,he has tried to woo me back for years but I have stood my ground.
Only a dog goes back to it's own vommit and God knows how much I gave in that relationship.Not only for him but for his sisters.
I was acting 'mother' to his sisters who were older than me and had kids!!If I tell you what I went through trying to encourage them you would think I was insane. They respected me cz I was there when there bro was trying to kick the hell out of their lives. I washed their babies,visited them in hospital,picked one's baby from a pit latrine,(that one was just a mad case)got admitted to act as mother cz she had gone into hiding,plus many other things.
And all this while I was in college! I used to pass by their home to help out cz I loved and pitied the guy.
And to add salt? it was my first relationship.

When a man openly admits that his anger knows no bounds and that he's is to blame then what do you say? He admitted that he is not in control of his anger.
His own sister I rem told me to live him! can you imagine? but I wanted to be there for him because I had seen him change from a deprssed man to a lively one in the course of our relationship.
That is brief.

Sorry for your Pain
Hope you are right base on the information you provided me above
because I know people lie a lot
Hope you find happiness

kandiikane:

I would do but that is a long thing to do.

Don't worry I will catch you soon and remind you.

@pendo, how did you manage after walking away?

Ok that was my story.

But we always live again.

^wow, you have gone through a lot. If you can walk away from that and end up happy I guess every other woman treated like trash can.

That's the baby that died? Aw, how horrible.

queensmith:

I just vomited all over the gaff. . . .thank you yme! eurgh!

Its not a must na, haba
I don't see anything wrong in popping into your man's house to cook

PS I never said that would make a man love a woman