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Was tryin 2order 4mine now and discovered there's nomore white in stock,dey av just black n red...can ds fone only b gotten on konga now?

Adufetohposh:
I won't be cranky during pregnancy! I'm very sure about it... I ll rather keep to myself instead of pouring my frustration on anyone around me.

Madam,its easier sed dan done!am pregnant @ d moment and nomata ow much I try 2prevent havin mood swings or overreact,I end up doin it...perhaps,thers little or notin u can do 2 control ur hormones...plus pregnancy is not as easy as u tink!!!
Experience is d BEST teacher...

ameenahz:
1. I don't have a co wife yet. And honestly sometimes I pray never to have. So I don't really know the extent of a first wife's hurt. But I do know it hurts. No matter how beautiful your marriage has been, it brings a sense of inadequacy. You start wondering if there was something you lack and all that.

If I were the first wife, of course I will not be happy. But it won't do to let one's insecurity drive the man farther away from home. I will do my best to put my sadness, anger and fear behind me and turn this lemon into lemonade. When he's with me, his other woman does not exist. He is the man I married and not a piece of meat I have to share with another woman(even if he has somehow made himself that)

2. I really don't think the husband's reaction was because he has been missing something. He just got something errmm.... new(lack of a better word) Have you ever seen a middle aged man with all these small girls they run after? They tell you they feel young again. The groom in question is probably in his late thirties or early forties so let me assume midlife crisis is a contributing factor too. A large percentage of men's reaction to issues is centred on their ego. In fact to me, they thrive on it. And except those who can successfully ward off lustful thoughts and lower their gaze, a bit of lust is more or less inevitable. All we pray for for our men is the strength to resist the whispers of Shaitan and avoid adultery. This man was probably like ' na me land this cha cha babe? I be baba o'. His being hyperactive does not mean he has found something in the second wife that the first wife lacked. In fact his marrying a second wife does not necessarily mean his first marriage was not happy. He is simply being who he is. And I am sure in some of his moments alone he will reflect on his life and his first wife's strong points(especially when the reality of marriage sets in for the 2 of them) and knock himself on the head for not being contented.

Hmmm...well said,sis..

#Team jenifa 4 life...I can't count d numba of tyms av watched it ova n ova again!

God wil pUNish PDP and dt steewid gbenga daniel 4 al d attrocities e commited in ogun state durin his tenure...e is supposed 2 evn cover his face in shame!!!
By God's grace its Amosun til 2019!!!

busuyem: Pls house, I need ur help on this invite received from ISI, UI 2day:
You are invited for a written interview test in ISI, UI on Mon 15/9 by 10am in the school premises. PAO

Pls, who knws about their welfare package? I don't knw if I should honour the invite because I'm currently working with state govt with 40+ salary. I need ur contribution if u knw about them, pls. Thanks.

I can't blv u wantu leave d state govt wrk 4 private!u are so lucky cos av bn tryin al means for yrs now,2av an opportunity 2wrk wit d govt cos its more secured and has huge benefits,infact its far beta nomata ow much private wil pay u...pls rethink!!!

Hmmmm...,na wa o!
som women r just soooo shameless;cheatin on ur hubby is a terrible tin 2do not 2tink of doin it in ur matrimonial hOme,on ur matrimonial bEd...haba!!!
One tin is so sure;u can't eat ur cake n stil av it...God elp her...

Ninilowo: Quickly go to Adedokun International School, Iloye, sango-ota. From Adalemo bus stop, take a bike to Adedokun International School. All the best.

@ninilowo,tanx...am a graduate of biochemistry and I av ova 4yrs teachin xperience.pls do u knw any1 dt wrks in d skul?I wantu knw wat their renumeration is...I stay along ijoko road,sango also...tanx

Standard007: and so?? what does having or not having d word Christian. or Christianity have to do with bombing people?

Oga pls kindly answer d simple question e asked u & stop makin a fOOL of urself...aftarall,its nt wrong 2ask pple who KNOW IT ALL lik u wat we don't knw about ur religion...one more tin sir,where was it stated in d bible dt jesus went 2church or was a xtian,den I'd lik 2knw if e went 2catholic,cele,c&s,redeem,winners or apostolic church...tanx in anticipation 4ur PROMPT response SIR!

Standard007: Ah ah!!! wetin do dia almighty quran weh say u d pesin go go heaven, Allah go give d pesin 7 virgins per person killed in a pool of wine??

Abeg make d muslims weh dey this thread no finish me cos ah neva see quran b4 talkless of to read am. Na wetin I hear!!!


Proudly a Christian!!!!!!!

SMH seriously!!!am sure its d liks of u dt wil say Muslims r violent n intolerable...ds piece u posted shws LOVE abi
Well,am nt surprised cos "a person's TONGUE wil definately give u d taste of his HEART...
PEACE!!!

deols: I tried to close this thread o but I dont know what admin changed to make it impossible.

Y do u wantu close it?
Am njoyin it cos av sincerely learnt a whole lot 4rm here...leave it joor!!!

tbaba1234: Women: Are Women Deficient ?   (fatwa by the scholars of www.ourdialogue.com)

My daughter keeps asking me about the Hadith that women are deficient in mental ability and in religion. Could you please explain it? Why does the Prophet, peace be upon him, say that most women will be in hell?

Answer:

Your daughter is not alone. Many are those who question the meaning it conveys. This is largely due to the fact that the Hadith is quoted only in part and the relevant statement is cited out of context. People always attribute to the Prophet, peace be upon him, the suggestion that women are inferior to men on grounds of a deficient mind a lack of faith. This is far from true.Let us look at the Hadith in full: “On the occasion of Eid, either that of sacrifice or that of ending the fast, the Prophet, peace be upon him, went to the prayer place, and then went to speak to women and he said: “Ladies! I have not seen people deficient in mind and religion yet can get away with a rational man’s mind like any one of you.” They asked: “How are we deficient in mind and religion, Messenger of God?” He said: “Is it not true that a woman’s testimony counts as half that of a man?” When they answered in the affirmative, he said: “This is her mental deficiency. Is it not true that when a woman is in her period she neither prays nor fasts?” They again answered in the affirmative. He said: “This is her religious deficiency.” (Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

To start with, the Prophet, peace be upon him, was speaking to a congregation of women on a joyous occasion. Exemplary in his care for others, particularly his companions, and kind and compassionate as he was, it is inconceivable that he would insult them by such a statement, if he meant it as a statement of fact, like some of us do. The Prophet, peace be upon him, simply used this phrase “deficient in mind and religion” to alert them to what he wanted to say to them. The Prophet, peace be upon him, frequently uses such a method, inserting some words that may not be relevant to the point he wants to stress, so that they serve to attract the attention of his audience. Furthermore, his statement expresses amazement at a well-known situation, when a man is infatuated by a woman to the extent that his behavior changes in character. He may be wise and intelligent, yet he could easily behave in a way that is inconsistent with his intelligence and wisdom when he is so infatuated. This is a case where a woman who is generally weaker than a man can control him.

The Hadith mentions that the Prophet’s women audience asked him to clarify what he said. His clarification pinpoints certain aspects that suggest no inferiority whatsoever. The mental deficiency is related to the fact that in certain cases, two women witnesses are required in place of one-man witness. This has to do with the role of each of the two sexes in Islamic society. It is no reflection on a woman’s mental ability.

As for religious deficiency, the Prophet, peace be upon him, states the fact that a woman is exempt from prayer and fasting when she is in menstruation. While God gives a woman the reward for prayer and fasting as if she has done them, since she stops only because of her condition and in response to God’s orders, still the fact that she does not fulfill these duties means that her worship is less in terms of what she offers. It does not mean that she is a lesser believer.As for a relevant statement of fact in this regard, the Prophet, peace be upon him, says, “Women are full sisters of men.” In the Arabic text, the Prophet, peace be upon him, uses here a word, which implies total similarity and equivalence. Hence, the Prophet’s statement suggests no inferiority attached to women. The Qur’an and the Sunnah assign the same duties to both men and women, and promise them the same reward. If this does not mean the same status, I would like to know what does.


May I add here that the translation of this Hadith as quoted by you is wrong, because it splits the relevant sentence and gives the Prophet's words in such a way that they appear to make a statement of fact. This is wrong, as I have explained.As for the other part, a full translation of it goes as follows: “‚I have seen hell and I have never seen any thing more horrific than what I saw then. I also saw that the majority of its dwellers are women. ‚ They asked: “On what grounds, Messenger of God? He said: “By their denial.‚ They said: “Their denial of God?‚ He answered: “No. Their denial of their spouses and their denial of kindness. You may be kind to one of them all the time, but when she finds fault with you she says: I have never received any kindness from you. ‚”To start with, the Hadith does not say that most women are in hell. It says that the majority of hell dwellers are women, which simply signifies that more women fail in this worldly test than men. Then the Prophet, peace be upon him, points out their failure, which is not based on denying God. Rather, it is denying kindness, particularly in marital situations. The Prophet, peace be upon him, has pointed this out in more than one Hadith, warning women against grumbling and frequent complaints. He is also warning them here against denying kindness by their husbands, highlighting a failing that is often expressed in denying past kindness.The Hadith shows that women can easily avoid such a destiny by being fair and appreciative of kindness. They should always be grateful to God for what He has given them and also be appreciative of any kindness done to them by others, particularly those with whom they live, be they their husbands, parents or other relatives.

 

 

Source:

 

http://www.ourdialogue.com/Ws1.htm

Hmmm..may Allah reward u 4ds clarification.As muslims,we just av 2be VERY careful of d way som of ds hadiths r interpreted.may Allah strenghten us in faith & mak us firm on ds glorious path,ISLAM cos dts d only way we can talk wit boldness evn wn non muslims wanna use most of ds interpretations 2 paint islam black...

onegig: Give examples... Marriage to Aisha at that age can't be termed Sunnah.

Marriage on its own was an obligatory aspect entrusted on all Muslims who are capable. The only rule there was marrying someone who has "balaga" i.e matured. Question we should ask is was she matured? Age is a relative thing coupled with the poor date keeping skills back then. You can't use age(numbers) to judge maturity. It's impossible. You should know better.

Also i can't wrap my head around how an obligatory thing became a Sunnah also.

Shouldn't those trying to cover this as Sunnah not follow it up to the hilt and marry a widow aged 60 or so based on some sources just like the Prophet did with Sawuda (AS) so that they can complete and follow exactly what he did.

So can you see their fallacies? Man is the problem not the rules.

Yea,well sed broda!d truth is dat ISLAM is PERFECT buh we muslims aint...some men r sooooo selfish n self centred, dey ONLY hammer on tins dt favor them...am sure dey won't lik d part of marryin aged widows as d prophet(SAW) did,buh dey wil beat their chests 100tyms wn it coms 2marryin young girls afta their wives...their motives of marryin is usually 4 their selfish & lustful desires!!!
Dats y a woman shld just do her own part & leave d rest 4 Allah(d most Just,all seer& al knower)

deols: Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri:Once Allah's Apostle went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) o 'Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion." 
4:20-21

@sissie. This is d verse for no.3

Hmm...am sincerely short of words wit ds!

ameenahz: From Marriage to inheritance, nothing seems to favour women. I once asked my teacher about houris. After ages of merry-go-round-ing, he concluded by saying i should be satisfied to be the queen of whatever number of women my husband chooses in Jannah. I was like seriously? Let's just leave that side.

I may sound like a defeated woman, but really, what do we do anyway? Let's just pray for a settled spirit, a pure heart and a happy home and the ultimate reward (whether we get 'houris' or not, at least we get the peace and pleasure we deserve after the struggles of this dunya). Whenever all these thoughts creep up, i do some nawafil and i say this prayer:

Ya muqolibal qulub, thabit qalbi alaa deenik (oh Changer of hearts, steady my heart in your religion).

Rabbana aatina fi duniya hasana, wa fil akhirati hasana wa kina adhaaba naar(My lord, grant me the good things of this world and the good things of the hereafter and save me from the punishment of hell)

It really doesnt help for one's thought to be going this way. Please put your hope and trust in Allah. He is The Just.

May Allah reward u abundantly 4ds..truly some tins r byond our reasonin as women and its BEST 2leave dem 4Allah cos HE alone knws d reason(s) 4makin dem dt way...one tin I knw is dt Allah is Just!

winner01: once again I'd lyk u to count many of the religions in the original write up and tell me how many of them are linked to intolerance, violence and terrorism....my best female pal is an alhaja and many ahlajis and imams I got as family members and are good people...no one hates any religion, people only hate violence, pillage, murder, terrorism.....terrorists keep arising saying they are doing deadly things for allah and islam.,if any of the above mentioned religions CONSTANTLY produce religiously motivated terrorists, people won't hesitate to identify them with their religion...no hatred towards islam, ill also be skeptical if it was any other religion....and dear, í don't take bitter pills, I prefer sweet ones and I hope we all live in peace with good people.

Its gud u accepted dt u av GOOD pple who r MUSLIMS as family frnds n relatives...case closed!!!
Av a splendid evenin sir...

deols: It is unfair to dismiss these as a feminine thing. I cried this afternoon.

I have struggled with these thoughts for a long time. I am scared for my faith. I have prayed for it to stay strong. I av asked my people at itikaf to pray for me.

I learnt Islam all my life. Most of the people I grew up with were Muslims but Islam didnt do much in shaping their lives for good. All I saw were women who could have made it good in their own right being subjected to bullshiit in the name of being submissive and being 'good Muslimahs'. Unfortunately, there is always a hadith to back it up. Some men even smile after saying their women-unfriendly nonsenses.


I have more to talk about o. You just be my guest please. I hope to find my bearing, again.

@ deols,I undastnd ow u feel & ther r tyms I also feel dt way buh may Allah just strenghten us in iman...

winner01: no hatred gal, no one hates islam, what we hate is the terrorism inevitably attached to it.....And I don't know wt u mean by early grave (dyu mean d early grave jihadists send innocent people to), there goes the emphasized violence.

And who cares about ow u feel(either u hate or not)...ur entitled 2ur opinion my dear!did u evn go thru dt long piece of trash u posted earlier @aldt alone tells me d kinda violence runnin thru ur mind...must u alwys generalize & must u alwys blame ISLAM on d basis of a few muslims character
Don't tell me NONE of d muslims u'v met ur whole lyf(as old as u are),as done one or more beneficial tin(s) 2u and no xtian as EVA done evil 2u...
ISLAM has come 2stay broda...deal wt dat cos I knw its a very bitter pill 4d liks of u 2swallow!!!
PEACE

winner01: Muslims are not happy
They’re not happy in Gaza
They're not happy in Egypt
They're not happy in Libya
They're not happy in Morocco
They're not happy in Iran
They're not happy in Iraq
They're not happy in Yemen
They're not happy in Afghanistan
They're not happy in Pakistan
They're not happy in Syria
They're not happy in Lebanon
So, where are they happy?
They're happy in Australia
They're happy in England
They're happy in France
They're happy in Italy
They're happy in Germany
They're happy in Sweden
They're happy in the USA & Canada
They're happy in Norway & India
They're happy in almost every country that is
not Islamic!
And who do they blame?
Not Islam...
Not their leadership...
Not themselves...
THEY BLAME THE COUNTRIES THEY ARE HAPPY
IN!!
And they want to change the countries
they're happy in, to be like the countries they
came from where they were unhappy.
Try to find logic in that !
Jeff Foxworthy on Muslims:
1. If you refine heroin for a living, but you
have a moral objection to liquor...
You are a Muslim
2. If you own a $3,000 machine gun and
$5,000 rocket launcher, but you
can't afford shoes...
You are a Muslim
3. If you have more wives than teeth...
You are a Muslim
4. If you think vests come in two styles:
bullet-proof and suicide...
You are a Muslim
5. If you can't think of anyone you haven't
declared Jihad against...
You are a Muslim
6. If you consider television dangerous, but
routinely carry
explosives in your clothing...
You are a Muslim
7. If you were amazed to discover that cell
phones have uses other
than setting off roadside bombs...
You are a Muslim
8. If you have nothing against women and
think every man should own at least four...
You are a Muslim
9. If you find this offensive or racist and
don't forward it...
You are a Muslim!!
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Buddhists living with Hindus = No Problem
Hindus living with Christians = No Problem
Christians living with Shintos = No Problem
Shintos living with Confucians = No Problem
Confusians living with Baha'is = No Problem
Baha'is living with Jews = No Problem
Jews living with Atheists = No Problem
Atheists living with Buddhists = No Problem
Buddhists living with Sikhs = No Problem
Sikhs living with Hindus = No Problem
Hindus living with Baha'is = No Problem
Baha'is living with Christians = No Problem
Christians living with Jews = No Problem
Jews living with Buddhists = No Problem
Buddhists living with Shintos = No Problem
Shintos living with Atheists = No Problem
Atheists living with Confucians = No Problem
Confusians living with Hindus = No Problem
Muslims living with Hindus = Problem
Muslims living with Buddhists = Problem
Muslims living with Christians = Problem
Muslims living with Jews = Problem
Muslims living with Sikhs = Problem
Muslims living with Baha'is = Problem
Muslims living with Shintos = Problem
Muslims living with Atheists = Problem
MUSLIMS LIVING WITH MUSLIMS = BIG
PROBLEM..

Wats ur pOintno offence sir,buh ds luks lik a long roll of traSh...
Pls,av u eva asked urself wat uv gained so far 4rm d hatred n distaste d liks of u feel 4 our noble ISLAM
Has it stopped its growth in anyway?NO!!!
Has it stopped we muslims 4rm worshippin ALLAHNO!!!
So y nOt back off so dt ds hatred won't send u 2ur early gravejust a candid and sisterly advice though!!!

Mogidi: I never said all Muslims are terrorist, there are good Muslims too.

Hmm...Sir,if u'r reasonable enof 2 knw ds,den,y blame ISLAM 4 evrytin a MUSLIM doeshonestly,its ONLY a FOOL dt wil judge ISLAM on d basis of a muslim's character cos its lik,eatin A spoilt or rotten FRUIT & blaming it on d WHOLE TREE...
Pple shld learn 2 get it in2 their thick skulls dt ISLAM is PERFECT buh HUMANS aint,and can NEVA be(either ur muslims or xtians)!!!

Sallychizzl3: I've been going through your comments and I come to one conclusion, 'here is a man trying so hard to paint Islam black'
For starters, am a Muslim. If you are really sincere about understanding without sentiment the seemingly 'weird' or 'horrific' tales or stories you hear about Islam, pick up the translated source(Qur'an) of those 'horrific practices' and scrutinize it. Going about with hearsay and half-baked truth is the worst venom eating us in this society of ours. Many of us, with little knowledge of our own religion will join in the mockery of other faiths, it's pathetic in this age.

God, Allah, Jehovah, is all powerful and all-wise. HE can make us all faithful of a single religion if HE so wishes, why fight for GOD in a distasteful way?

Preach your religion to others in peaceful way and don't go outta your way to stir enmity between different believers.

BH kills majorly muslims, do you still believe they are muslims?
Have you related with Muslim in real life or try to read up about Islam?

Let's stop all these religious bigotry and think about the solution to the problem in our country, collectively
#peace.

Well said broda...may Allah reward u!

greall1: Why do u always interrupt whenever u see muslim thread is better u chnage ur manner.

Just d bitter trUth...buh dey won't listen!

EfemenaXY: No?

Whether you were peeping at her from the "corner of your eyes" or stealing coveted glances at her from underneath your lashes, doesn't change the fact that you took in very intricate details of her actions...you noticed the most minute details - which can only occur if you've been staring intently, and unwaveringly at her.

How else do you explain this statement of yours:



By "tips" you're referring to her nípplės aren't you? So not only were you lusting after her brėästs, you were able (from the corner of your eyes), to zoom and lock in on the tips of her nípplės?

Tut...tut..tut...Krall, you need deliverance!

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LWKMD 4here o!!!well sed sis...

@mycvclinic,thumbs up 4d gud job!!!
Pls do u stil review cv?I sent mine 2ur email since yday & avnt gotten any response...
Tanx in anticipation 4ur prompt reply

Cheers!

CERKEYNAH: السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
My Sisters, I want us 2 discuss problems we face @ our working place and those looking 4 jobs as a muslim lady just to help ourselves.

Salam alyk ma sis,am not employed presently and wil be very glad if u can elp,as am totally tired of idleness.am a graduate of biochemistry..jazakhallahu khaeran

Salam alyk fellow brodas n sistas...am so happy 2b here...am halimah and I live in sango otta

Emzybrown: Thank you so much be blessed...sorry for my inquisitiveness, where you trained on what your job duty are? or did you acquire the skills before being employed? i just submitted my CV to a drug manufacturing company as a QA personel

U wil definately b trained cos diff companies av their own SOP(standard operatin procedures) buh avin a fore knowledge of wat QA is al about wil elp u 2...al da best!!!