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dangerousdaddy:
Good evening people. Please don't mind my English. My post is actually out of pains and frustration and i may not type with the correct words.

I'm a 31 years old guy. I'm actually very bad with spending because when i have money, whoever asks from me gets. I am under alot of pressure lately especially from those around me. I am the 1st child of my parents and have so many responsibilities.

I got my girlfriend pregnant and she moved in with me. My parents were never there for me so i vowed i was going to be there for my kids. Hence i do all i can to make sure my daughter and her mum are OK.

The girl in question is a torn in my flesh. Totally different from when we were dating without a child. Nowadays, as soon as i get my salary, she wants to buy this, she wants to buy that even though she knows i receive less than a 100k and i have multiple loans i am paying back because we moved out of our old apartment due to space constraints especially after she delivered.

Whenever i don't have money, there is never a happy moment in my home. But if i come home and bring money, we become very good friends. She wants to live a good life which is not wrong but I feel when she knows how i am managing, she ought to understand and bear with me.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was, i was yet to be paid, i had 700 with me. I gave her to make some food because we had the basic food stuff in the house.... Rice, beans, ogbono, spaghetti, garri, Egusi.... Palm oil. So basically all she had to buy was fish or something to put inside the food.

I came home after a hard day at work and met an empty kitchen. When I asked for my food, she asked me what i expected her to cook with 700 naira. I got so mad and left the house but since it was late (it was close to midnight), i decided to come back. In my anger, i started asking her why she's treating me badly. And the next thing is, she called her mum to say I'm fighting with her and that i pushed her to the ground. Her mum replied and said that if anything happens to her daughter, she would hold me responsible. That she didn't give me a wife......

Now I feel i should just end everything and let's go our separate ways before it becomes a case of domestic violence. I never want to see my child grow up to see me fighting with her mum always and being unhappy. I believe a child that grows up in an unhappy home is always at a disadvantage. Please help me guys. I am in pains.

I hope this makes front page

IkpuNnegiEwu44:
Religious fanatics detected, back off!

pretydiva:
Shameless man. If he see he fellow man outside, he go mellow. Na him wife body he take get power

anonimi:
What is your business with two adults fcvking each other, misitah hypocrite?

anonimi:
Are you saying that you are a VIRGIN?

IkpuNnegiEwu44:
Afonja and infidelity na 5&6

anonimi:
Don't you fcvk with other consenting adults
What is with the hypocrisy?

thesicilian:
This something that can be medically, its not spiritual.

ValCon888:
Two consenting adults cannot have sex again.
If you cannot stand a cheating wife, divorce her.

ThatFairGuy1:
O would have answered you if you had completed your sentence, To what?

KingAzubuike:
This is the misconception many people have. Most couples don't have sex on their wedding night because they are usually tired and exhausted from the rigors of the day.

ThatFairGuy1:
Why must you think AT NIGHT?

kiddkash:
when I was younger, and attending a wedding ceremony,

I always wonder what the groom will do to the bride when they get home at night

like this picture

Abalado:
Ordinary Aboki o,, waiting Musa no go see for gate o

Beetobee:
Serial loser sighted

Samfloxin:
I wanted to say congratulations but I saw that he studied Islamic law...mtcheeeewww.

wisest10:
How did he do it...like seriously I was looking for an igbo name...hahahaha....i know am not the only one that got suprised....
Kudos to him

GBOKASINCHA:
Boko haram amaka

Sounds like depression.

Unfortunately we live in a world where people are ashamed to admit that they feel sad and miserable. They feel it makes you look weak, boring and vulnerable. So we carry fake smiles on our faces on the outside because we don't want to pollute the 'happy' air around us.

What you don't know is that almost everyone you see looking happy all the time are also faking it like you.

And so we keep feeling disconnected and alone in the world, because we can't truly connect with others emotionally on a deeper level.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Roger that.

I am even not as opinionated as you are thinking. As long as you have facts to buttress and prove, then that is fine. I am open-minded and well as opinionated.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Hi.

In as much as I respect your opinions, I would say that they are flawed.

I would only agree on the part of the "perfectionism". We all are imperfect. However, I am of the belief that even if perfection may be illusory, we should strive for it.

Anaerobi:
u d laugh abi, but am serious.

nBag:
cheers bro. na oyibo undercover feminism instilled into the African man. people who do that I don't really know what going on in their mind. are you begging her to marry you or what?

UyaiIncomparabl:
God when?

Kemimarch16:
Falling in love with the right person is the best....

nBag:
ya you've spoken well. but it's a start, Pete edochie has got the ball rolling that nonsense will stop some day. certainly not abruptly today but it will. I personally hate that nonsense.

deepwater:
SIMPS everywhere...
No wonder they destroyed the very vibrant unionism we left behind many years ago!
How can the Nigerian Government take your demands seriously when you literally kneel down for what is yours.
You sponsor that pussy,
u don't need to kneel down for it for it is yours
you grab it by the puccy (god bless trump)

Anaerobi:
Honestly speaking I have been weeping, crying that am getting old in school, even vowed not to post any pictures once I goes to service. but seeing this my uncle, I just weep my tears like David when he was informed that is son have died.... and he eat....
someone Pls get me food to eat.