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Mailthaddeus:
Did u actually read and understand what I wrote? Or are u just Paranoid because I mentioned that Jesus Christ whom she publicly despised is actually the solution to her problem.

You are a Muslim, and I am a Christian, which means even though u claim we worship same God, but I strongly doubt this cos our view on theology and issues are different. The God I profess has the power to deliver her from her ugly situation as He has done with me. I expected her to humbly ask for how to approach Jesus Christ to get her problem solved.

And helping her in the name of humanity is totally my choice, and I wouldn't wanna offer assistance to someone who publicly reject the source of my wealth and life.

Sarang:
This too.
100%%

thesicilian:
If only you can see that by giving her her up for adoption, you may be subjecting her to a future worse than what you have gone through!
Not all that glitters is gold. That person that promised you heaven and earth to train your daughter and set up a business for you, there may be more to it than meets the eye.
Plus your daughter may never forgive you for pushing her away.

Or11:
It's sad that that you have lived such life but I would say never give up your child. Especially a girl. Things may seem hard but would you want to make it harder for your child? You are going to regret it if you put her up for adoption. Better work hard and man up to your responsibility. The way you didn't ask to be born is the same way she didn't ask to be born. God bless you and may you find a solution without adoption.

Mailthaddeus:
Madam, u can't be asking for advice or help from people who actually believe in this same Jesus Christ u despise. People who Jesus have actually helped to live life they never ever imagined was possible. For all I am today, I give all the glory to Jesus Christ my Lord and God who answered me whenever I call upon him in sincerity and humility.

God won't bend His rules because of u, He has created man and the universe and doesn't interfere with the affairs of men unless they invite Him. I advise you to turn back to Jesus Christ who is the actual solution to all ur problem, ask and seek Him in humility, not with this ur pride. There is a way to receive from God, find out that way and do it. Don't just think because u are suffering, then He owes u an obligation to save u. No way.

Righteousness89:
I will be Very Frank with you!

Until the Root Cause of a Problem is Tackled, one might keep Going in Circles. And also using Basket to Fetch Water..

The Same Pattern of your Mum is Exactly what Happened to you.

Its time for you to treat that issue..

It does not look like what can be done by Power.

My Advice to you is to Seek For GENUIE Bible Believing Church. Go there, Surrender to JESUS Completely and Let HIM Work on you..

You need to be Soaked in God to Break Certain yokes and Patterns..

Once the Root Cause is Sorted, other things will Fall in Place..

Mizflo:
Please I need your advice. I had created this account because I am well known here with my main account because I am always active and I want to remain anonymously.

Am 21 a single mum with 1 girl age 5 , her dad rejected me when I was pregnant he left when I was 4 months pregnant with her .

I had a difficult time growing up , my mum died when I was 8 years and my dad denied me claiming my mum had cheated on him and there’s no way I could be his daughter.

My aunty who was supposed to care for me had never bothered about me , she was always out leaving me in the house all alone without food , whenever I complains she will beat me telling me to go to my mum graveyard to ask her for assistance.

I have suffered in the hand of my aunty she didn’t care about my education if I have managed to complete my primary school till jss2 was thanks to this aunty who was a teacher at my school and a good friend of my mum , she sponsored me , And when I was 14 my aunty landlord kicked her out of the house because of rent arrears she said I am the enemy of progress she cant take me to her boyfriend house because he won’t accept me to stay there that I should go and look for a place , I cried and pleaded with her to take me along with her but she refuse I beg her to show me where my dad is she said he will not accept me because he hated my mum but I beg her to take me to him .

She took me to him it was my first time seeing him I looked just like him with one eye big one small but he insulted the hell out of us saying he will never accept me because my mum was a cheater she had so many boyfriends that I should ask her who my real father is but my aunty insisted that my mum had told her before she passed on that he was my dad even taught I resembled him still he denied and kicked us out like we were dogs I cried and my aunty was angry because of the insult so she left me all alone in the street but later came to me .
Since that day my life situation has worsened because I was forced to stay with different people where I was being abused , my baby dad came as a guardian angel to my life he took care of everything i needed by promising me heaven on Earth I taught he will get me out of my hard situations but I was wrong i find out he was married with kids I was heartbroken because I didn’t want to live the same lifestyle as my mum had lived but history has repeated itself just like my mother had me with a married man but she knew he was married but me I didn’t know , but it was too late for me to moved on because I was already pregnant for him and I didn’t want to abort my baby I have decide to continue the relationship but when I was 4 months pregnant he left me and blocked me from all his contacts , this is the man that has never bothered to asked about his child for 5 years now..

My little girl dont even know her dad the same way I did not know mine until
I was 14 which break my heart anytime I think about it.

My daughter and I are staying with my madam the lady tat I serve her for now 3 years but things here hasn’t been easy for us because my madam children don’t like me they keep accusing of things I don’t do like I stole their money , clothes and many more before my madam was telling them to stop with their bad attitudes towards me but I have noticed that whenever they had accused me she start getting angry with me sometimes we can go days without her not talking to me which I think I have overstayed and I am not longer wanted here I want to leave this house and to go and hustle but I feared for my daughter because I don’t want her to end up like me.

If I leave this house we will be on the street for a long time till I will be able to get somewhere else to stay with her also I don’t think I can give her the best education because if she stay with me she will end up being a teen mother just like I did something I don’t want to happen to her and I came across someone who’s willing to help me by taking care of my daughter to give her the best life something that I have always wanted for her , she promised to take care of her till university and she will give me the money to rent a room and start up business she said she will take things to the right direction like adoption but I don’t know how she will do it because I have no idea that I will have to sign up papers for agreement i have agreed because I think is really a good opportunity for me even taught I have accepted but sometimes I am getting worried about giving her my daughter I am having sleepless nights and thinking all nights.

I am just tired of living this life I didn’t ask to be born my parents created me and now I am suffering from their mistakes something I didn’t consented and I don’t want my daughter to suffer because of my mistake I think giving her up for adoption is a good thing , but I don’t know if I am doing the right things.

please no insult what is your advice for me.

Thanks

andyanders:
Good advise. Most of you girl not yet married reasons with their anus instead of their brain. You parents gave you an instruction not to travel and you want to disobey your parents 'cus of a guy who don't reason with his brain, but his legs. Op, I pity your stupidity.

Same stupidity lead a promising your girl, who lied to her parents that she was travell

GOFRONT:
Not only selfish but self centered.....

victoradey:
OMG! Though I didn't know you but your write up shows the guy only want you for sex.
You are still very young consider the fact that you are a graduate at 22, there are many profitable things you can still do with this your age that will make other ladies look up to you and give you a glorious future.
Thank God for your strict parent who don't want your destiny and glory to be battered and butchered on the altar of sex, listen to them the more and be more close to your creator to know why you are here on earth so that your route and journey life can be defined. Being bothered by boy enemy is a distraction to you now and a poison to your moving forward.
Make meaningful use of your time on something profitable, not in pursuit of men that is only around to empty you of your glory.
Let the guy go and have a close relationship with God for the best.
Listen to your parent, don't be bothered by the word lust that rapped as love, make meaningful use of your time for a glorious future and have a close relationship with your creator for your self discovery.
I see a glorious destiny!
I see a brighter future!
I see a world changer!

Heartheart:
Hi I just needed to bring this here. I am 22 years of age and I am not happy at all. My boy friend and I are in a long distance relationship. Not long perse. He is in lagos while I'm in abeokuta. I served in lagos so that's how we met and we got to spend quality time together.

Now since I've passed out I've been at home. I passed out in June. So it's been June that we saw last and now we're in august. He has been disturbing me to come visit him as it has not been easy staying alone, loneliness and all. I promised to visit him next week which also happened to be my birthday week. I have super strict parents but I still promised I will find my way.

I told them (parents) that I was travelling to visit a friend (girl). I could not tell them it was my boyfriend I was going to see because I knew deep down they wouldn't allow me travel to another city to see a guy. But my parents have blatantly refused that I cannot visit this girl. I had to tell my bf that I was not going to come. He was so sad and angry and he let me know he has wasted a lot of money preparing to surprise me for my birthday. He was so excited to see me and he had made a lot of plans. He told me he was disappointed in me and he doesn't think he can continue a relationship like this. Yes he comes to abeokuta sometimes but he mostly lodges in the hotel. He told me he can't continue lodging in the hotel that if I love him I will make effort. I tried to convince my parents they did not gree. Imagine, I told them I wanted to see a gf that they knew and they refused. What if I had told them he was a guy.

Pls guys how do u advise me to save my relationship, I'm in a tight spot right now and really sad.

efosky1246:
The loss of a partner is not what anyone expects or prepares for ideally. If you're even going into marriage with this kind of mindset, preparing for the ultimate worst from the onset, then nothing I say will make sense to you.

Even if both partners are working. It would surely take its toll except the man was nothing to write home about. But if there was love and transparency in the marriage. The woman would have access to all finances so in the midst of the grief, she's not entirely lost, she has something to start a business to keep the family afloat, and even at that. will you tell me you've not seen families where the man still provides from the grave via investments?

There are men who pride themselves in taking care of their families. They love doing it, they lead their homes, not control despite being the breadwinner and they appreciate the intrinsic values a woman bring into their life.

I know you can't relate but get out of your toxic circle. They do exist.

Hathor5:
You can be pro-choice and still have an opinion on which choice is better right?

Freedom of choice and freedom of speech/opinion can co-exist.

prophetfire:
I wonder. What happened to the freedom to choose as it suits one which they advocate?

prophetfire:
. Being a house wife, does it make a woman a slave? Though I would not want my wife to be house wife but it doesn't put women in any cage. I have seen very good and happy housewives. A friend who works in the oil industry and his wife is a lawyer, they decided the woman stay at home for the kids and she left her legal patnership and they are happy.

mariahAngel:
As long as they understand each other, I see no problem with it.

A woman who stays at home does not mean she's idle.
If you understand what it takes to keep the home going on a daily basis, you'll know that it is not easy.

adebopo:
May Allah continue to grant him Aljanah firdaus

nkwuocha1:
The Only Hausa Fulani president Ndigbo adore.Continue to rest in peace.May the almighty Allah punish Buhari along with his mother in law.

lalasticlala:
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softset:
This is really sickening, the problem is that Nigerians were not brought up to be patriotic, majority of us reading and commenting here would gladly accept 100k from 10 people every day with smiles on the faces not minding the consequences of their actions.


Due to the poverty and greedy mindset of the average Nigerian, we will feel so comfortable accepting such money. The leaders are really not the problem but it is you and I reading this.

We have a collective responsibility to build our nation,there are so many countries even in Africa that will reject such money due to national interest.

Integrity is the problem here

Johnamooh5:
If you want to learn how I am making it doing this business online drop your whatsapp numbers so I can teach you for free.

Stop begging online there is no dignity doing that.
I will coach you and give you a detailed info on how to do this business. I am a guru in online business.

Drop your numbers now if you are interested.
Bye...

femi4:
Its chances are very low in humans

femi4:
It has no effect, she's already pregnant. Your sperm can't fertilize any egg again

meobizy:
In her next fact she’ll claim the Earth isn’t flat.

ogbuefi677:
is Shekau not an imam?
Was al Baghdadi not an imam?

ogbuefi677:
Yerobber mumuslim.
At least him no dey throw bomb or behead people like una own imams

dhardline:
I have a Cele church right opposite my house so I can confidently tell you that Mr man... You too lie! What I've seen over the years makes we wonder how people who go there confidently refer to it as a church.