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OmoWeavefest 2012

One of them is gonna be disqualified.

From now on, anyone who dares to call this team "Super {the other bird}" will have to respond to me.

In nature, there's a behavior called Self-Preservation. It is almost universal among living organism. Pain and fear are parts of this mechanism. Pain motivates an organism to withdraw from damaging situations in order to protect its damaged body part while it heals, and to avoid similar experiences in the future.

There's no sense of right or wrong during self preservation. The organism doesn't think like, "Hmm.. If I hide in that hole, my cousin Joe will suffer so let me just stand out here and get eaten by the lion". It's an instinct whose only goal is to survive for another day, and with the least amount of energy or resources.

This concept has been introduced into technology, where machines shut down their non-critical systems but still remain "alive". When your laptop hibernates, that's a simplistic example of self-preservation.

@ ileobatojo, sometimes I don't know whether you are arguing FOR the man or AGAINST him.

The guy has made his choice, so what's your beef?

ileobatojo: You'll probably find my points on page 10 or so. What's your point?

No, you have no point.

You are arguing for argument's sake.

In your tiny brain, this man should be fighting a useless court battle based on his sense of morality. Rubbish? Doesn't he have bills to pay? Doesn't he have to take care of himself in order to be around long enough to see his kids? Will his ex-wife or the kids he never gets to see pay his hospital bills when he falls sick?

ileobatojo: First of all, I'm not trying to make the man the bad guy. From the OP's scenario, I absolutely don't blame the man for how he has decided to go. Men and women do not respond the same when it comes to matters regarding children. I can see things from his point of view. I would not do the same but maybe it's my estrogen talking. I recognize the law is unfair to father's and there are law firms springing up that specialize in father's rights during divorce. So in the midst of all the arguing I have never really had a different view thanost of you guys. Also I can assure you that none of you can produce one post of mine that contradicts what I just said. I have questioned some things that did not make sense to me that's it.

Secondly, a restraining order affecting the woman alone and not the children does not preclude him from seeing the kids. It makes it less convenient for all involved but not nearly impossible.

I disagree that paying child support automatically means he plans to see his children. These are two separate issues as far as I'm concerned.

Oh! By the way, I haven't read a word that scarf tying, estrogen laden, tantrum throwing infant has said some I notified him I won't be replying to his posts anymore. Zipped right past them. In case anyone is wondering.

Okay, he doesn't want to see his kids and his ex-wife doesn't want him to see his kids either.

What's your point?

Have we so soon forgotten the story of International Monetary Fund (IMF) chief Dominique Straus-Kahn? The lady was a West African immigrant who cleans hotels for a living. She wasn't even beautiful but she claimed raype. Luckily the case was thrown out, but damage had already been done to DSK.

You mean to tell me one of the most powerful men in the world couldn't get pvzzy in New York city and had to raype an old washed out overweight b1tch?

bjcole: u think this thing na joke, this is a matter of life & death, as my reading all these, my mind is just going 2 my kid brother over there. He is definetely not marrying over there but he shd not even have babe there abeg, all this living abroad does not worth after all, see all i m enjoying in my naija.

Please advice your kid bro. I also got advice from my big bro and that saved me big time. It actually made my stay over there enjoyable as my eyes come shine propa!

Baby and Sisi are living in lala land.

Sisi_Kill: Bottom line....His Ex is trying to destroy his relationship with his children and not taking action is NOT the right play.

No, bottom line -- His ex is trying to destroy his relationship with his children using biased laws, and he has decided not to play the game.

The only way to win is not to play, because once you decide to play, you're bound by the biased laws which only benefits one side.

dayokanu: But if he doesnt see them isnt it easier?

At least you cant accuse a man in New York or rappingg a child in Florida?

Exactly! The guy has analyzed his options, moves and consequences. He is taking the path of "least resistance".

Meynn.. logic and women don't mix.

Sisi_Kill: The wife has already filed a RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM! Ins't that already calling his character into question?! So the false Allegations aren't bringing anything new to the table.

Do you know how easy it is to get one of those? They get handed out like candy with no proof.

baby_123: I wouldn't advise him to violate the restraining order. But for future purposes he should fight the charges against him. And how she has spoiled his name in public. He probably doesn't want them to lose their mum for a few years if they find out she committed perjury. Eyah. Its a tough situation. He cannot just fold his arms, he needs to lawyer up and fight all these accusations in court. If she loses and goes to jail, oh well. She is an adult. An adult whoever it is must live with the consequences of their actions.

Hello!?? It costs money to go to Court!

Sisi_Kill: Okay so you are going to battle ko and you find out your opponent is using every available weapon. . .Good weapons too, in their arsenal. Sure the weapons are hi-tech and all but you also have good hi-tech weapons in yours, the problem is yours is not as close to you as your opponents and when you get them there is a high chance you will win...do you just give up because your defense is harder to get?!!

The guy is NOT playing the game on which pieces on the board because some pieces have not being unpacked!!

I didn't get all what you wrote, but put simply: The odds are stacked AGAINST him in the US divorce court system. There's a concept known as "cut your loses", and I believe it's his guiding principle. Whether that's morally right or wrong is irrelevant (morality be damned). He's playing to survive.

Sisi_Kill: No one is denying that. ...we are just saying he should stop acting like it is the woman who won't allow him see his children when it's him who couldn't be bothered when it is easier to discard his kids.

Don't you think if the woman really wanted him to see his kids, she would have made the situation easier?

The guy is playing the game based on which pieces are on the board. You expect him to play by sentiments? If he does that, he loses.

Some of you women forget that, it takes a lot of energy, time and money to play the game of "courts & lawyers". Most times, it's easier for a guy to just say "fvck it!"

The best strategy is not to play the game at all, and that's what some guys have chosen.

Woged2005: Fellow Nairalanders is this man right in what he is doing just to avoid a confrontation or custody battle, or should he retain a lawyer too to fight for shared custody of the kids? The kids are in the middle. My interest? I am a God-mother to one of the girls…weeping!!

He's right. The odds are stacked against him. Let your b1tch of a cousin wallow in her deviousness.

+233:
GHANA VS EGYPT FRIENDLY!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USDqq1LVvYA?version=3&hl=en_US


BLACK STARS STAND UP!!!!!

4 times African champions went down in flames like a stack of dried wood. That's how bad the Black Stars are.

The way your Super Eagles have been beating good teams, I'm scared our Black Stars will not have a good SUPER CHICKEN supper at AFCON 2013 .

What's up with the "square"? What about triangle or another shape?

Abrantie: First of all, what exactly is LOVE?

There are about 5 different types of love, so may be, there might be other types present in OP's relationship to keep it going.


Type 1: Eros

Passionate love with sensual desire and longing. The Modern Greek word "erotas" means "(romantic) love". However, eros does not have to be sexual in nature. Eros can be interpreted as a love for someone whom you love more than the philia love of friendship. It can also apply to dating relationships as well as marriage.

Although eros is initially felt for a person, it can become an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or of beauty itself. It should be noted Plato does not talk of physical attraction as a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, "without physical attraction".

Type 2: Philia

This means friendship in modern Greek. It's a virtuous love without passion. It includes loyalty to friends, family, and community, and requires virtue, equality and familiarity.

In ancient texts, philia denoted a general type of love, used for love between family, between friends, a desire or enjoyment of an activity, as well as between lovers. This is the only other word for "love" used in the ancient text of the New Testament besides agape, but even then it is used substantially less frequently.

Type 3: Agapē

Means "love" in modern day Greek, such as in the term s'agapo, which means "I love you". In Ancient Greek it often refers to a general affection rather than the attraction suggested by "eros".

Agape is used in ancient texts to denote feelings for a good meal, one's children, and the feelings for a spouse. It can be described as the feeling of being content or holding one in high regard.

The verb appears in the New Testament describing, amongst other things, the relationship between Jesus and the beloved disciple. In biblical literature, its meaning and usage is illustrated by self-sacrificing, giving love to all -- both friend and enemy. It is used in Matthew 22:39, "Love your neighbour as yourself," and in John 15:12, "This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you," and in 1 John 4:8, "God is love."

However, the word "agape" is not always used in the New Testament in a positive sense. II Timothy 4:10 uses the word in a negative sense. The Apostle Paul writes,"For Demas hath forsaken me, having loved (agapo) this present world...."

Thus the word "agape" is not always used of a divine love or the love of God.

Type 4: Storge

Means "affection" in modern Greek; it is natural affection, like that felt by parents for offspring. Rarely used in ancient works, and then almost exclusively as a descriptor of relationships within the family.

Type 5: Thelema

Means "desire" in modern Greek; it is the desire to do something, to be occupied, to be in prominence.

First of all, what exactly is LOVE?

I didn't know wrinkled pvzzy could be so expensive.

He sings well, and so does the Chipmunks or the Beatles.

What's up with all this outdated singers? They only come to Africa after they've passed their prime.

solomon111: Ghana just won the biggest bank fraud in history.
Deal with that, bozo.

One not-for-profit job related miscalculation, vs hundreds of Nigerian 419 bank frauds a year. Deal with it bozos!

I thought the term BRT implies the buses had their own lanes.

Sisi_Kill: If this happened in the US. . .dude, will be rest assured his school fees, car fees, food fees, bicycle fees and any other fees he can acquire will be on paid off by KFC Dime. If someone can sue Starbucks for "too hot coffee", Ibrahim's case is in the bad.

You lie. That "brain" wasn't a health risk unless the food itself was contaminated somehow. Hot scalding coffee is a health risk.

Okay, back to topic -- OP, consider what you're going through as practice for marriage.

My papa used to tell us stories about our mama before they got married. He would always end with, "women are like children and one day you'll understand". His theory was, any guy who wants to have a lasting relationship with a woman should throw out logic, and learn how to reason like a child.