₦airaland Forum

numericalguy:
The hypocrisy of Cahrlyboy, Peter Obi and Ezekwwesili is disgusting.

It is sad and despicable that such an evil happened in the north and should be condemned in totality and Charlyboy has done theright thing by speaking aagainst it. But my issue is why is it that CharlyBoy, Peter Obi andd Ezekwesily always refuse to speak out anytime similar issies are affecting the south east. Are they saying there are no criminals in the south east or what

Keep running your mouth until they kidnap you in your region... You will learn.

DaddyCoool:
Not true, unless you at least like her. You can marry someone who loves you, but the mere sight of her pisses u off. Of course the love will gradually disappear and you'd have been better off marrying someone YOU love!

What if the person you love doesn’t love you back? It’s the same situation. When I say marry someone who is m a d l y in love with you, I’m not suggesting you marry someone you don’t love. Of course, you should love her too.

1. Sex has become cheaper.

2. Worsening economic situation.

3. It's now harder than ever to maintain a fake life.

Nobody is talking about rent?

santaclaws:
Obasanjo was one of the most inefficient presidents this country ever produced. He couldn't even fix Lagos-Ibadan express road, neither did he fix Ota road, a federal road in his own state...

Yet baba's achievement is "bringing GSM to Nigeria" as if he owns the telcos that came to invest...

The telcos came to invest in his regime because the business environment was fairly favourable.

In 8 years, he achieved more than the Chicago fraudster can ever do even in 200,000 years.

One of the greatest gift you can give yourself as a man is to marry a woman that is m a d l y and hopelessly in love with you.

Little effort >>>>> massive result. Never settle for less.

Crestaria:
Shed tears as I read. Take heart. Please how are the twins now?

Thank you, my sister.

They're doing really well.

copyrites:
Damn
! Man
This is too much. If I may ask please, what made you leave the private hospital? If they have been very good like you said, leaving shouldn't have been an option except maybe their billing was too much.
I'm so sorry man.

Thank you.
Explaining the reasons we left would mean revealing too much details. But just to clarify, the reason is unrelated to billing, but more about the hospital policy - a very senseless, religion-informed policy.

BlackRoook:
Hi everyone,

I have been a silent reader/follower on this thread and other similar threads on this fruit of the womb journey. It's not an easy one but it's all worth it in the end.

Got married in August 2022. First pregnancy in Nov 2022 but was lost at 6 weeks (blighted ovum). Wifey got pregnant again in January 2023. We lost the baby boy at 32+ weeks in utero in late Sept 2023 out of the Doctor's carelessness. Wifey was severely hypertensive and he didn't handle it well. It was a traumatic experience.

Wifey got pregnant again in December 2023 and we just welcomed our bundle of joy last week ending. This time around, we went to a Federal Hospital. Despite their bureaucracy and frustrating methods of doing things, they've enough capable and competent hands to care for one. Mother and baby are healthy and doing fine. Wifey was still hypertensive in this pregnancy but they followed it up bumper to bumper with enough dosage for both mother and fetus and her BP was always within normal range all through this pregnancy.

Few Lessons and tips from our experience:

- Federal Hospitals are much more better than Private clinics, if you can handle the stress. Most private Clinic Practitioners tend to be jack of all trades. It was later I found out the Doctor at the private clinic we initially went to wasn't even a Gynaecologist in the first place but he tends to pregnant women.

- Tracking of ovulation works. Wifey tracks her religiously and we do the BD at the peak periods.

- Pre-seed lubricant works wonders too in aiding conception. Though we didn't use in the last pregnancy because we weren't even expecting to conceive yet, we were just "having fun" but in previous times we used it with ovulation tracking, it works really well.

- We also did lifestyle changes. Cut out sugar, lost weight and exercised regularly.

Wishing baby dust to all Parents trying to conceive and to those already heavy, safe deliveries.

Now I can "enjoy" Father's day with my full chest.

Congratulations to you and your family. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through! But, I have a few thoughts about your experience at the government hospital.

The same frustrating and bureaucratic system you mentioned is the reason I still can’t forgive myself for my wife’s death at a government (teaching) hospital. My wife and I initially started at a private hospital, where everything was going smoothly until an issue arose, and we had to switch hospitals (that’s a story for another day).

While we were still at the private hospital, we went through a few episodes of threatened miscarriages, intense vomiting (no food stays in her stomach for weeks), and bleeding at different times, yet her pregnancy remained intact. Her experience was tough, and we had to undergo a cervical cerclage at 16 weeks, which was successful at the private hospital.

Because of "that issue," we had to move to a government hospital at 24+ weeks, based on her consultant’s advice and other people's recommendations. On the day she was to deliver, I was, as usual, given a prescription to get Vitamin K1. I searched the entire hospital (which has more than 10 pharmacies), but it was nowhere to be found. I then went to some of the largest private pharmacies in Ikeja, Opebi/Allen, and Ogba (Alpha Pharmacy, Boluke, Healthplus, etc.), but still couldn’t find it. By the time I returned to the hospital, about 2-3 hours later, my wife had already delivered our babies. One of the babies came out pale and needed a blood transfusion. Meanwhile, my wife was still in pain and hadn’t recovered. But thankfully, the husband of a friend my wife made at the ward was able to help with blood test and all. Like my wife, his wife was pregnant and also admitted.

Anyone who has used a government hospital knows that they won’t give a patient even basic medication like paracetamol unless someone is there to pay and get the drug. Throughout the time my wife was admitted to the government hospital, every blood test required me to go get the collection bottle from one location, find a nurse to draw her blood, take the sample to another location, and then return hours or a day later to get the results and bring them to the doctor. I did this every day for a week—I suffered ehn! This was something we never experienced at the private hospital; all we had to do was pay. I hustled for every single thing myself: the blood we needed in case of an emergency after the C-section was gotten from another private blood bank, the RhoGAM injection she was to take after delivery 'cos of her (-) Rhesus factor, and more. It was a horrible experience.

I can’t write out everything here, but one thing is certain: some of the people who advised us to use a government hospital for the "best care" later admitted that "private hospitals are better." The only advice I can give anyone is to follow their heart.

My wife had already delivered our babies before 4 p.m., but they kept her in bed over 5 hours later until she died. During my research, I later learned that the global standard for women who undergo C-sections is to get them moving/walking as soon as possible to prevent blood clots. Want to know how my wife died, according to the hospital? Pulmonary embolism (a blood clot). And guess what happened to the other man’s wife, the friend my wife made? She died two days later in the same hospital.

I’m sharing this here because my wife was a devoted follower of this thread.

Another thing I’ll point out: doctors in both private and government hospitals are often no different. Many of them work in private practice and are rarely available to check on their patients' progress. The consultant who attended to my wife throughout our stay at the private hospital was the same person who performed her C-section. This same doctor works in four additional private hospitals. So, what they do is deliver your baby and then leave. Maybe that’s standard medical practice, I wouldn’t know. However, one thing I’m sure of is that my experience wouldn’t have been as bad in a proper private hospital. A private hospital also wouldn’t have abandoned us the way they did my family. Two nurses who were friends with my wife (she was extremely likable, and everyone loved her during her stay) called to check on us and couldn't hold back the tears. One even laid heavy curses on the doctors cos she knows how they operate. But there was no follow-up regarding the babies’ health and progress. Dem no send anybody papa. Well, I have since moved my family elsewhere. Lessons have been learned in the most painful and devastating way.


Sorry for the long post, and congratulations once again to you and your family.

You haven't even seen anything. Just wait till 2026.

He's only trying to sell his estates, land, etc.

cococandy:
Diabolical 😮‍💨

What your sister is doing now is exactly what her aunt did. I just hope she doesn't take out her frustration on her nieces the way her aunt did to her.

That said, carrying on your mom's beef with her sister, especially when you don't know or aren't willing to understand the full story, is not healthy. If she hasn’t wronged you directly, then there’s really nothing to forgive.

Everyone should focus on their own lives. You don’t need to be friends, but that doesn’t mean you have to be enemies either. You can simply be strangers.

If your aunt needs forgiveness, tell her to meet your mom. You don't have the capacity to forgive your aunt over what she did to your mother.

Motirayo2018:
30 for a livein maid is still good if it comes with a good accomodations, feeding and some days off .

I got an offer recently has a caregiver and cook but I rejected it because of some condition.
I will be sleeping in the sittingroom

I will be payed 70,000 but the agent will take 50percent.

My salary will be giving to the agent.

I must not discuss anything about the payment with the employer.

No off Day except during festive period

50% of 70,000?? Ah!

doggedfighter:
This is good to hear abi to read🤣💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃💃

Anyone 😆

Thanks dear

pocohantas:
Indeed it would be. Thanks for being a considerate boss.

Glad to hear you alp are good.
Jisike!

Thank you poco 😍🙏🙏

Smartcitizen:
Politics is over and he is living his normal life again but most of you are not just happy with that...... nawaoo!

The most dangerous thing is that you have a government in power suffocating you but it's never your problem because you are already a conquered SLAVE.


🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sadly true.

pocohantas:
I know them na. Elderly for me has to be way past children troubles. That feeling bad is how you find yourself making up. Bothering about her children's fees, health, academics...etc. It is too much for me, so I avoid them.

So you have two carers for the girls? How are they faring? Nice to see you getting back here.

I completely understand. It's a lot to take on, and I get why you'd want to avoid that.

It has always been just one carer, with family members. Family members have been extremely helpful but they need to get back to their own lives, so for the next couple of months, I thought it wise to have two. The poor sleep, workload will be unbearable for one person.

The girls are doing really well. Na dem be my motivation.

pocohantas:
I don't consider mothers for such jobs. Their story no dey finish and we both can't be having children troubles.

I find this really funny because I can relate. One of my girls' live-in carers had to go home yesterday because her son was ill. I always feel bad knowing she left her family behind.

Tallesty1:
How many Nigerians take home 30k monthly after deducting accommodation, transport fare, food, electricity bill, water, and other benefits a live-in maid enjoys from their salary?

But this is not a fair analysis. The live-in maid leaves her family behind just to survive. Some of them have children and they're forced to leave them behind. There's a reason off-shore and expatriate workers typically earn more than their counterparts (home country nationals)

It's almost too late to change her. Hygiene issues typically start from childhood/home.

Pay more attention to their actions, not what they say.

Not just BBNaija. The era of cable TV is gone.

Awesome! Big big congratulations to your niece. 💐

You mean your maternal grandfather's name (aka, your mom's surname)??

Dumping your deadbeat dad's name for your maternal grandfather's name is absurd though. Are you sure your maternal grandfather, a man you probably do not know isn't another deadbeat or more (e.g., chronic abuser, drunkard, etc.)?

Your best bet is to pick up your mom's own feminine name (e.g. Ruth, Rebecca) as surname. But I'm quite sure you don't want this. Think.

The reality is that everyone is poorly paid and, if given the opportunity, majority will migrate.

The only reason doctors are migrating in higher proportion (compared to other professions) is because their services in many developed and well-paying countries are in higher demand.

It's a demand and supply issue. A less developed country like Nigeria can never match the level of pay in these countries. The higher you want to increase doctors pay in Nigeria to match these countries, the more pay disparity and crisis you get both within and outside the sector.

So why bother with laws and policies against migration? Address the demand and supply issue by increasing the number of medical colleges. When the developed world get higher number of doctors than they need, the rest will stay back.

Beyond addressing demand and supply issue, a second and cheaper alternative is to develop the economy. N1,600 to a dollar will make any sane person consider migration.

It is not impossible. At least 85% of the most corrupt politicians on earth come from Nigeria.

Thundafireseun:
This are some of the things that satanic EFCC should be looking into…. Instead you will see them slapping girls in the hotel at odd hours or chasing after small boys

Look into NASS matters? Common ex-governor from Kogi state sef, they can't arrest.

TinubuCriminal:
So what of the other monies?

A reason to have multiple accounts with different banks.

Anybody selling "healing" water is obviously a fraudster.

validplanet:
At least let them start making some impact

The Lord's prayer says "They kingdom come. They will be done on earth as it's done in heaven. "

The church is the agent of bringing God's kingdom and will on earth

There's no hunger in heaven.

Why should there be hunger on earth?

We blame the government

Mind you, in America, one man called Bill Gates own 270,000 acres of farmland without waiting for government

https://www.popularmechanics.com/science/environment/a42543527/why-is-bill-gates-buying-so-much-farmland/


Very big shame on Nigeria churches

Tufia kwa

SMH. You're condemning churches in Nigeria while praising Bill Gates in 'America.' There are no churches to blame or praise in America?