₦airaland Forum

doggedfighter:
This your defence is why they keep thriving. It's sad !

I am not defending Pastor Adeboye. Going to church in order to get some future funding or relief programmes is just self-deceit.

The best any church can offer is CSR programmes, which means that some will benefit while others won't. Some will get scholarships, most won't.

Dangote is one of the biggest independent donors in Nigeria, yet till tomorrow, his best will never be enough. He's recently just given 5bn or so to flood victims in Borno state, but guess what? Many people in that state will still lose their lives and properties and get nothing in return.

Op's brother pastored a church for 5 years and needs Adeboye to give him 20-30 million Naira for a kidney transplant? If the entire pastorate of the church make such demand, church no go close down?!

What we need is a reality check. People should stop running to churches looking for financial favours or some unfounded miracles. Adeboye does not have the key to eternal or everlasting life whether in heaven or on earth. He lost his son too some year back.

Adeboye may not have given him the money he needed for a transplant, but we also know that RCCG has hundreds of maternity clinics spread around the country, where women go to get highly subsidised maternal care. You see, that's how institutional CSR works.

His brother needed the government more than Adeboye at that critical stage. What has the government done about terminal illnesses? If Adeboye somehow provide the funding for his brother, what about the rest of Nigerians battling with kidney diseases who do not have 25 million for a new kidney?

People should rather go to churches for the right reasons. If they need to give, they also must give for the right reasons.

eyesoflagos:
He wasn’t paid any salaries, he was working as a telecommunications engineer , pastor adeboye gave him anointing oil when he was taken to him when he has kidney issues

Telecommunications engineer at MTN, Glo, etc., right? You guys should have taken him to his company's MD. He has better chances there as the MD has fewer people to worry about.

Adeboye has over 200,000 pastors, over 1 million elders/deacons/deaconness, and more than 5 million members to worry about. He has more members than Ebonyi and Ekiti states combined.

Above all, you have to find peace and acceptance in the reality of life. And may his soul continues to rest in peace. Like birth, funeral is very expensive. It's only cheaper when you patronise recycled burial grounds in Lagos.

RCCG has over 200,000 pastors. No organisation in the world (not even the Nigerian government) can offer free burial grounds for 200,000 people. This is just the number of pastors o. Now add pastors' wives, their children, deacons/deaconness,elders, etc. If every RCCG member decides to request a space for their loved ones, the entire RCCG camp won't be enough.

Any marriage that involves police services or interference has already ended - a complete waste of time and the police should do well to help such couples terminate their marriages. There are several traditional instruments for settling marital disputes.

santaclaws:
I've said it before and I'll say it again: the worst mistake Tinubu made was floating the naira and removing subsidy simultaneously... No austerity measures, no proper palliatives, he just took the decision first day in office, that was reckless on Tinubu's part!

He should have done either of the two, not both at the same time. This is why the economy is under so much pressure while they are even yet to implement the meagre minimum wage of 70k. Some state govs aren't paying the previous 30k yet, so where are they driving the economy? I bet Tinubu has no idea what he is doing!

The mess is now irreversible. No sane person would take such simultaneous measure.

The gain he thought he could realise from fuel subsidy removal has been completely truncated by the Naira devaluation policy so bad that Nigeria would have been better off without any of the policy measures.

Magicalsineros:
What was this man's wife suppose to do, if she has tried all her effort and it's not enough?
Was she supposed to wait and die with her children because of hunger?

Men who are ritua list can also apply this same l a m e excuse.

doggedfighter:
Lol

Kudos ! Doing a great job. 😊

Thank you, dear 😊

doggedfighter:
Acid, how are the cuties ?

Have they started scattering things in the house yet ?😁

You want to give me high BP with the word 'scattering,' abi? 😅 I don’t joke with orderliness ooo.. Ah!


They’re doing absolutely fine, though - still learning to sit up nicely with minimal support

descarado:
Haaaaa
We need those pictures( don't mind me, I am pulling your legs)

I am good but very stressed. Had to let go of a major project cos of my mental health. It has been so stressful doing that.
Everybody was so angry with me but if something happen to me today, less than one month, they will move on while my family and kids will not so yep, I just ended it.
Have been to hospital twice cos of stress. And I hardly go to hospital.
Aside this, I am very OK. Thanks for asking.

May the spirit of your late wife continue to protect you and the kids( I am a traditionalist a bit).
You all will be fine.

I'm really sorry to hear about all the stress you've been going through but I’m glad you prioritised your health, and yes, the well-being of your family will always come first. I hope things ease up for you soon.

Thank you for your kind words. I believe there is a life after death.

Take care of yourself, and try to rest as much as you can.

doggedfighter:
It's a small rugged house na

doggedfighter:
How many bedrooms ?


800k will run it.

Engineer dogged

descarado:
Hey Acidosis, how are you guys doing?

This place makes me sick as I read what people f
go through everyday.

Your babies and I are doing well o, my sister. They’ll be 5 months soon. It hasn’t been easy juggling everything with the two of them, but it would have been so much harder without the supports. Every day, I wake up thankful, and watching them grow and hit new milestones keeps me going. I should start sending pictures/videos to you

I completely understand what you mean about this place making you sick. The struggles are and heartbreaking. And with the recent hike in tariffs and fuel prices, I can’t even begin to imagine how much harder things will become in another week or two. Even business owners are struggling, but we keep pushing forward.

How have you been too? I noticed you haven’t been around much lately.

Holycity:
But this is the truth, we use prepaid meter and 2k light we only provide light for 2-3days, even when we no dey too too on all appliances....

Light for here in uyo cost pass rent....
I know people that pays up to 200k monthly for light in my area

That is the disadvantage of Band A.

psucc:
It's an investment. If you can afford to lower the rent and use the savings from there to feed their bills, that's very good move. Rent shouldn't take much more than their future in this present world.

As I dey so now, the cost of textbooks (only) for Primary One, is N20,000. Since yesterday, I dey find paracetamol to cool down my head.

This is so funny. Please take it easy, boss.

You want to kidnap a toilet cleaner in Nigeria?

The brutal truth is that the current situation is irreversible. It was an avoidable situation, though. Floating the Naira while also announcing subsidy removal on the other hand has got to be the d u m b e s t decision ever taken by any Nigerian leader.

Lamanii22:
omoooor in 2021 when I had my first baby I still bought sma gold for 3300

Seriously?? 450g or 900g?

Sign of a loyal APC supporter

Yeah, with rigging and judicial banditry.

Secure your tomorrow if you can. Under the APC government, Nigeria won't get better, Naira won't gain anymore value, prices of goods won't come down. Trends don't lie.

Reported cases?

Lamanii22:
Lol the prices are doubled now, lactogen is almost 6k, my baby is almost 11 months I'm thinking of switching to normal cow's milk

Double??

The same SMA gold the op bought for N3500 in 2013 cost 24k now.

Thundafireseun:
Everything he just said in the video is true …. There is no regulatory system in Nigeria anymore “REST IN PEACE DORA”
The most painful part of this video to me is my baby mama…. I didn’t realize how foooooolish she was while we were dating…., now she is applying this cheap chemical (caritone) on my 3 years old daughter 😓😓😓

Sending money is not enough. Get involved. Join Telegram and WhatsApp groups about motherhood. Do your research and learn to shop yourself.

Thank God you got to know about caritone, but what about the other things you don't know like "agbo/concortions"??

Some people's kidneys started dying a week after birth due to agbo/herbal medicine and drug abuse by those stubborn "never-ready-to-learn" grannies.

bobo65:
Seriously eh

How are all the bad people in this life still alive while the good ones are dying?

May his soul rest in peace

Ecclesiastes 9:11-12

I also saw something else here on earth: The fastest runner does not always win the race, the strongest soldier does not always win the battle, the wisest does not always have food, the smartest does not always become wealthy, and the talented one does not always receive praise. Time and chance happen to everyone. No one knows what will happen next.

Such a great guy with great impact. May he find true rest. It is well.

BlackRoook:
This is heart-wrenching to read. You're absolutely correct, there's no one-size-fit-all way to this. I guess it's largely down to luck and chance at the end.

May your wife's soul RIP. Take heart, brother.

True, I believe in luck and chance.

Thank you so much, my brother 🙏

babestell:
My condolences on your experience. Its a terrible experience for anyone to go through. I thank God you and the family are in a better place now

Thank you, my sister 🙏

Angelfrost:
When you people are clubbing, and downing insane amounts of alcohol, una nor dey remember to tell us to pray for you...!

Well, God is your strength... May His mercy and healing prevail upon you.

Always insensitive to attribute issues like this to excessive alcohol intake or clubbing. While such activities are known risk factors, genetics and hereditary issues also play major roles in diseases. Some people's "crime" is that they were born into certain families with certain histories and genes. Do not be quick to attribute everything to lifestyle.

He said the suspect confessed to the crime, claiming that he acted alone but under the influence of Indian hemp, methamphetamine (locally known as “Mkpuru-mmiri”), and Action Bitters alcoholic drink, which he consumed earlier.

The op emboldened everything except the most important information. All drug addicts are potential murderers. None should be spared.

Lol

Threats never work. The economy has completely crumbled.

DaddyCoool:
Good write-up. First of all by women "lose value" as time passes and with childbearing, I mean (past a certain age) the older a woman gets the less men are attracted to her until no man even looks at her anymore. A woman that didn't love you when she was single in her twenties could be madly in love with you in her forties and single. As for childbearing, it makes most women's bodies less attractive the more kids they have. Those are just facts.
Also, the more you release inside a woman and she has children for you, the more likely she'd fall for you.
Also, you're inspired to be a better person and achieve more by a woman you love than by a woman who loves you as a "failure"!

Getting people's attention in your twenties has nothing to do with value. The mistake we make is assuming that the world revolves around sex-starved men and attention-seeking women.

I can't speak for all men but attention should really be a major red flag. I mean, why would you want what every other person wants? That can't be value.

The value of a married woman in her 40s or 50s should be seen mainly by her husband. Why would she want to drag attention with social media teenagers who are yet to see or know LIFE?

You may be right about child bearing and how a woman's body becomes less attractive, but that really relates to personal care or hygiene issues. More so, attractiveness to people who have been married for years differ from an outsider's view. Some of the things that irritate you are things they've grown to love. You can't understand, but it is what it is.

Moreover, declining attractiveness in your context applies to men too. Don't be carried away by sugar daddies' moves. We all know why women move close to these men. It has never been about attractiveness, good hygiene, or bedmatics. With the right amount of money, a 70 year old woman with poor hygiene will get the same result.

Your last point? Well, I can agree.

DaddyCoool:
Well, that's perfection of course - loving someone who loves you back. There's even a popular song about how profound that is.
Problem is, that RARELY happens. People usually fall 4 someone who doesn't love them. So the question is: is it better for a man to marry someone he loves or someone he doesn't love, bearing in mind that as time passes and with childbearing, a woman loses some "value" and would love a man just for being there for her.

Love can often be a conscious choice. If you find a woman who loves you deeply, give it time, and you may come to love her in return, even if it’s not to the same extent. No one is truly unlovable. When someone loves you deeply, they are willing to be whatever you need them to be. Too often, we fail to see the bigger picture and are easily influenced by material things and the arbitrary rules others create in their own world. Take, e.g., the irrational mindset some people have about short men, simply because society says unkind things. If we really think about it, apart from those senseless opinions, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being short.

That being said, it's often better for a man to be with a woman who loves him more. Considering the amount of attention women get from men, you'll be doing yourself a disservice by being with a woman you constantly need to convince or compete for against other suitors. This is the reality in the dating world. People wey dey date dey try. It is very easy to get a man to love you than have a woman love you hopelessly. Such women are rare. Rarity ALWAYS gives ultimate and more value.

BTW, I don't agree that a woman loses value due to childbearing. What does value in this context even mean?

When men say women shift their love and attention to the children, this usually only applies to women who were never deeply in love with their men. For a woman truly in love, her partner remains her priority. Any other thing, including children, are secondary.