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meobizy:
Didn’t this man relocate to the US? Wetin concern am with Nigerian events? He should face his new environment.

No he's still in Nigeria and has been. However, so when someone is out of the country and he can't see wrong he should keep quiet.

It is truly well

Kobojunkie:
1. If being a man means curbing the freedoms of your woman, then you are not a man but a control-obsessed individual. Some women are like that, too. Narcissistic traits are not unique to men.

2. Are you sheeting me right now? The woman was clearly uncomfortable with the boys clinging to her, but you lot said she should endure it for what purpose exactly? Why not get the boy professional mental therapy help instead?

Obviously, what you described was not a one-time thing, and who knows what else the boy could have done to that girl in all of that time. Yuck!

3. Do you know what a right means? If I have the right to say "No," but you reject my right or assert that my right is against you, it implies that what you want is control, the power to overrule my right. That is clearly a problem and a world she should do everything to avoid being dragged into!

4. Her right to say, "No," should not be impacted by whether he allows such or not; that is one of the reasons why I removed that second question I had asked, since a lot of people did not see the obvious here. He cancelled the wedding because she would not allow his sister into her bridal train, clearly indicating he wanted control over her right. A controlling man would, of course, not simply allow such concessions if the situation were reversed.

My point is made, yours is noted, personality defined

Kobojunkie:
He cancelled the marriage because he could not get his own sister into the woman's bridal train? 😏

Anyways, red flag na red flag! They both dodged a bullet there and should count themselves lucky.

Women, please stop marrying controlling men. Your worth to these types of men comes down to whether they can control you or not. And the end is never good as your beings are reduced to near nothing by all of that control. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on that.

I have a few question/view point cos I think your writeup in the last paragraph seem to be pro the bride. While I agree with what were earlier said

1. Marriage is suppose to be a safe space, there is a world where he will insist that his sister won't join and heaven won't come down but been a man starting a new home the person he is more inclined to reason and understand with him is his wife (bride), if not her who he can persuade her to make that sacrifice for him instead of him to deny his sister and it becomes a family thing, a family she's marrying into by the way.
Now there was a case of a lady getting married and her special need cousin who always calls her his wife and likes getting too close wants to come for her wedding. The family is begging her to allow him come cos if he's the only one not coming it will affect him and all that, she's like if he comes he will be trying to do all those stuff. It's a one time thing. Do it and get it over with, that's the last time that person will ever be able to decide anything or request for anything.
2. If it was captured right the groom requested. And she has the right to deny it but you speak of controlling man it's not adding up especially in the light of what I said earlier. There's a world where she's part of them and she's redundant and they sideline her, has she accepted the request yes but she has carried it out her way they will send her to get something while they do their thing and all.
3. You mentioned that if she asks the groom to allow his brother join his grooms men he won't. I want to believe you are a man if not then it's quite clear. I haven't seen a man in the world who would be that petty if there is he's not a man or should not get married. Guys no send o no be big deal

Anyways my submission

cathodekazim:
I used to be worried about this nightmare but not anymore. I teach international students via zoom and Google meets

Baba abeg connect us ooo, I get Cambridge certification and experience in teaching on zoom and Google meet

Umar Bago of Niger state, literal definition of hit the ground running. Man has covered what some people couldn't not do in 4 years in less than a year

illicit:
Suspension

Counselling

Rehabilitation

Mentoring


Remember, they don't belong to the school, they belong to their parents
As schools main job is to teach you subjects not morals per se

Let parents take care of morals at home

Yeah you have very good points, not every is going to work sha but it's very helpful

cocolacec:
Unruly students ahould be sent back home.If they resist call the police to bundke them out of the school premises.

Hmmm very good points, but you no get the power in many circles. Their parents are the high and mighty, when the governors child attends your school, you know the calibre of people that have kids there judges and captains of industries, judges etc

victory36:
what happened to expelling or suspending such students 🙄

Hmmm very good points, but you no get the power in many circles. Their parents are the high and mighty, when the governors child attends your school, you know the calibre of people that have kids there judges and captains of industries, judges etc, how you wan take expel am

waldigit:
To be fair to teachers most of them don't intend to hurt student but out of every 12 there's a judas. So government is right by taking position against corporal purnishment because the repercussions of Judas among teachers is always fatal and lead to irreparable loss. So what the teachers should do is limiting themselves to how they dispense such purnishment. As a teacher I could limit myself to just 2 or 3 stroke on the hand or leg. Any offence they requires more than that should be referred to another form of purnishment like cleaning the toilet, cutting grass or inviting the parents. This last one is usually used in developed country.

Yes very excellent response. One other matter is there I understand it may not be believed but I've had experience. There was a lady that I gave a few strokes over 30 minutes later she fainted. One was a slap on the back (I rarely beat girls and when I do I prefer their back it's least dramatic and less sexually related eg harassment beating on their buttock) only for me to see her the next day had a dislocate shoulder.

The challenge is that many of these children especially in private schools for the elite, currently teach in one of the best and have home lessons with some from another of the best, one currently one previous (she's through with uni now), I can tell you for free they are unruly and rude. One that I thought from when he was in primary 4, now in SS 3 wanted to beat me the other day literally. Later he spoke about how they treat teachers and hurt them intentionally especially during sport. If they don't like you no matter how good you are or intend to help them you are gone. The problem is that these are the kind of people we would have from schools, their vices are going to be more. Parents dont have time to train them, teachers hands are tied how do we raise good children? In many places your two strokes sef is forbidden.

illicit:
Corporal punishment is not necessary in schools

Agreed, I have but one question. How do you correct unruly students? I have a long comment to give on the matter as well as my experiences with students. Meanwhile let it be on record that I do not agree to corporal punishment leading to injuries or hurt. So please let me hear your suggestions and any other persons

200 million for the shit of a people less than 10 million.

Moh227:



You can't be an expert In everything, he is an accountant and that's why he has advisers.. especially NSA

ECOWAS 15 members country organization declared military exercise on Niger not Tinubu

Tinubu took the mission to the Senate for debate

Sultan of Sokoto, Emir of Kano, former Head of State Abdusalam all went for dialogue but got entertained at the airport and turned back

PS: what will Peter Obi and Atiku do differently in this case



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Well you can defend all you want, he didn't act wisely. Barely two months into becoming the president of a country affected by all manner of vices you were elected or appointed chairman of ECOWAS and yiu accepted. There were presidents in office before you but since they know that you are obsessed with been a leader or making history/name with no plans they gave you the office to a region affected by more problems than Nigeria. You took it, smh. It's unfortunate that we are blinded by fanatism and all manner of things.

SangoOlukosoOba:
I don’t know why people find it difficult to respect the religion of others when they find themselves in locations where they are minorities.

Nigerians would go to UAE, Qatar, Kuwait, Indian, China, and Saudi, and they will 100% comply with religious laws, but back on their continent, they will start claiming rights.

It even extends to law and order. They are more law abiding outside the continent than within.

Initially I wanted to give a banter but let me start with peace. One of our problems as Nigeria is that we don't process things we rush and jump into conclusion. First I am very disappointed in the governor of the state, he should be more sensible, secondly I want you to go reread the thread. Notice the name of the person in question is Usman that's not a Christian name, so a Muslim ALLEGEDLY blasphamed you start saying people should respect other people's religion (something they never do). Be calming down you and all your likes that liked your post without proper mental and literal processing

EmekaStanley:
I hired a lady last week Monday and fired her on Friday same week. I concluded she was not ready yet.

This lady came almost 2 hours late for interview without communicating her reason. If she was going to be late, she should inform the interviewer. Red flag.

I ignored that and decided to proceed with the interview. I decided not to conclude on her based on the interview outcome. I love giving people chances.

I offered her the job, she was excited. She was sent an offer letter which she accepted. On resumption date, this lady came late for work. First day at work. I was like 'Is this 24 year old lady innocently naïve or what?".

On Friday last week, this lady came to work by 10.55am. He work time is 8.00am, and she is an office admin. I was on my seat and sighted her walking in, I had to call her and told her to go back home, and that was it.

By the way, she lives like 15 minutes away from the office, and her route is always against traffic.

I wouldn't know when she resumed from Tuesday to Thursday because I came quite late on those days due to field engagements. When I resumed, I met her sleeping twice. After that, she abandoned her work and stepped out to answer a phone call for almost 1 hour.

My experience with this lady made me understand that a lot of people looking for work are not ready for/to work.

ES

Honestly, see me dey look for work person dey misbehave on one. Na wa ooo

saphiere:
Let he without a sin cast the stone first.

Where the stone let me cast it.

There is a sin unto death and one not unto death. (1 John 5:14-16, Rom. 1) Don't quote/reference scriptures out of context and do not in isolation.

TheEndless:
Lol…. See format from A.Fonja Mozulem pigs 🐖 🐖🐖🐖🐖🐖

Where were you before last Saturday when this shit was at its peak??

Election don finish now, you lots wanna pretend to be better persons and be like ‘hey let bygones be bygones and let’s go back to ‘loving ourselves’ till the next elections’

Oga things will never be the same again, so this damage control nor go work!

I should be angry but I'm sad, you have so much hate in you and I pity people around you. Next time you want to do anything find out if the person is an afonja mozelem pig. Ask your landlord, your Co tenant, your doctor, the person you want to do business with, the church you attend. Kai I honestly feel sorry for you.

Naturally the bible says answer not a fool according to his folly, then the next verse says answer him so he won't think he's wise in his own eyes (you can even still say I'm a Muslim even though I just quoted a verse of scripture, I understand it's the hate) Jesus saved you but I don't think you accepted his love and salvation. Please don't bother going to church it's a waste of time. Like I said Nigerians suffer from the syndrome of assumption and jumping into conclusions (I'm a minister of the gospel of Jesus BTW if you need to know check my threads and comments via my profile)
I've spent a long time on naira land and can't count the number of post I've reported or people I've reprimanded so that you don't know that I have and you come here that I'm doing damage control speaks volume of who you are. I've been observing the bigotry most of which were by certain persons but were only reported here Eg Dayo Onanuga but when I see someone who is suppose to have sense create a thread like the one that is calling fellow Yoruba omo ale because they have mixed parent I reported and send them a mail unfortunately seun and the mod hasn't pulled it down.

My advice to you is what is captured on the book of James, be quick to hear, the slow to speak, be slow to wrath. I believe it will help you

This is my second thread in a day, haven't even created one in over three years. Anyways humour me (Nigerians tolerance level is low at the point)

To the matter, I think if you ask every Nigerian to give an appraisal of the 2023 Election there would be various divergent opinions and accessments. Some will score them high others will score them low, but we can't neglect the obvious, many may be sentimental others won't be.
As such I was thinking what are the positives and negatives from this elections and what are the remedies and way forward, your opinions are highly welcomed. I think we have very intellectual and reasonable people here and our views can propel Nigeria forward. So whether from INEC, electoral acts or constitution, what is the way forward.

Ps. I saw a thread recently that say fintiri won adamawa and not Binani. Meanwhile Nigerians were happy with the outcome, so how do we check this problems against 2027

These are my personal opinions,
POSITIVES:
1. BVAS: it controlled over voting and time spent for election (except there were not properly configured or set at default)
2. IREV: A good one from INEC to do online monitoring and result checking
3. Voter's register: I was able to vote without my pvc cos my name was found in the register and using my finger print I was accredited, when it didn't work doing gubernatorial election my image worked

NEGATIVES: (and my proffered solutions)
1. Voting buying: stricter measures to checkmate this, especially by having a stiff punishment for whoever is found. As well as proper sensitization from religious and traditional bodies (this one go hard sha, couldn't think of the way to stop it but it can be reduced especially with the actions of EFCC, ICPC, democratic organizations etc)
2. Security: Proper training and arming them to prevent thuggery et al. I think one police per polling unit is not cool, my polling unit had one who didn't even have a baton, I think a JTF can be set up that will involve more military personnel (army, airforce, civil defence etc) presence. How thugs were moving around from polling unit to polling units in Lagos and no one stopped them is fascinating. This will stop thuggery and political violence even cub vote buying to some degree.
What of corrupt officers? Body cam. If the the police officer and the PO are themselves been checked either through body cams and/or cctv he go hard to do anyhow
3. Result manipulations: the immediate uploading of result both to IREV and to the situation rooms of the parties. The parties should also have a structure that can make agents upload polling unit, ward and LGA results online for proper monitoring.
4. PVC and Polling unit change: I had a challenge with collecting my PVC, they kept saying they haven't printed it cos I did transfer since July and my ward is very large and all that, a lot of people especially transfers could not vote because of missing name, double registration (even with that I still saw people with double registration) so a lot of people were disenfranchised. Although I was still able to vote due to voters register. I think the use of pvc should not be rigid since you technically don't need it to vote according to BVAS sha, then people's polling unit should be close to their homes it will cut any how movement with that thugs going around with vehicles no go happen.
5. Underage voting: through bank records, birth certificate or NIN this can be regulated. Thus proper records and a sync (very importantly) be done between NIN, BVN and PVC (I personally think one card should be used for NIN and PVC, even if you collect the card when you are young you can't use it until then)


No specific class: don't know where you put this, they are other suggestions
1. In places like US, people could mail their votes. Plenty essential people couldn't vote cos of work journalists, doctors, nurses, security personnel etc then patients etc couldn't also. A system can be created for them to be able to vote either remotely or online or even in the polling unit they are assigned.
2. Electronic voting, hmmm I know e go hard especially cos of illiterates well I don't think anything is impossible it's the gadget that's the thing. There are smart tables or gadget that can do this, if we can sign on a gadget and it reflects then it's possible. With this the name, the party logo and picture of the candidate can show. All you need to do is tap on it. A pseudo election can be done to get people familiar with it.
3. Very importantly reduce the number of parties. The gap between APC and PDP on the ballot paper almost make people know who you voted for by the positioning of your ballot paper.
4. Live monitoring: in some nations of the world INEC (their own) only organises election the media monitors is, that as voting is happening its reading almost immediately on those news channels. This can only be perfectly done is the electronic voting is done.

Wow, that is a long read, that's my thoughts sha

fman:
seems u guys have trust issues.

Though I don't know much about your tribe... Cos I don't mingle with Yorubas , I always give you guys space:

Hmmm I honestly can't say nor speak for everyone but there are still some who are not part of that stereotype. You may meet them you may never meet them. If I may I would advice not to look at anyone based on their tribe or religion but from the content of their character and actions, if an igala person swindles me that doesn't make all igala people like that.

ElSudani:
Garbage write up. I guess you are oblivious to the type of provocation and tribalism being propagated by Ibos on this website. It didn't start with the elections, it has been going on for year.
The Ibos tried to discredit Tinubu more than they tried to promote Obi, still you are oblivious of this.
Please enough of this hypocrisy.

Kk there are two problems I discover we Nigerians have 1. Assumptions 2. Jumping into conclusions

You saw a post, you haven't taken time to deligently check the writers history or comments (it's non of your business) you assumed and jumped into conclusions I doubt you read through the write up, I've spent over 10 years on NL and I mentioned that I've seen it and it's distestable, it was in small measures now its blown out of proportion. Do you know how many threads or comments I have reported, do you know I personally emailed the mod and seun on this (no you don't and it doesn't concern you)

I am not pro Igbo, pro Yoruba, pro hausa or pro any other tribe I am pro Nigeria and pro peace and very very anti bigotry no matter who is giving it or who is receiving it

Invictuse:
If indeed you are Yoruba then your father must be a bastard. Reason is below, you see several thread about bigotry you condemned those that does not align to your sentiment but feel chose to ignore the thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/7620339/2023-census-simply-walk-adhoc

https://www.nairaland.com/7620335/moving-spare-parts-market-lagos

https://www.nairaland.com/7620291/non-yorubas-lagos-please-resist-being


https://www.nairaland.com/7619631/must-look-unkempt-yoruba-sisi


https://www.nairaland.com/7620291/non-yorubas-lagos-please-resist-being

Thank you very much, keep up the good work. Not even if you insult my ancestry, nothing will make me retaliate. I actually honestly feel sorry for you, you are dealing with so much. Sorry, get well soon. I hope you children don't inherit such negativity nor you affect people with it.

This is the much I can say, you think my father is a bastard, I know my father is not. I'm not one of those insecure people that can be poked with insults, I was properly raised. All the best, but you need to get someone to help you sha

fman:
whether good or bad, holy or unholy: the average Yoruba is a tribalist..
Prejudice and biased towards other tribes

Now we are on the same page and I agree with you

BOYS2MEN:
Oga directly condemn your afonja brothers and sisters no dey beat around the bush......ETHNIC BIGOTS ...is not as if I am even proud to b called a Nigerian....with the likes of yoruBAS and northerners I reject Nigeria with my full chest...infact I'd make sure I pass the message to my generations to come.....

Please borrow me wisdom as one of the three wise men that visited Jesus or king Solomon (I'm not teasing or insulting I mean it, you be like person wey know pass me), how best can I condemn my Yoruba? Just tell me make I do am sharp sharp if it will pacify you.
Meanwhile saying afonja is bigotry by the way, you are crying wolf while you do same and say I should condemn them, so who will condemn you?

DMerciful:
And you don't know the Op and her bigotry in the last elections?

Unfortunately I didn't but the other lady has shown me and I have responded to both parties. Actually I follow threads and posts not persons I can't boast of remembering anyone's moniker here. I see a post that makes sense I follow, I like,

fman:
☝️☝️and you just reacted....
Cos I told you the bitter truth...
No matter how much you try to paint it...
Tribalism runs in your bloodline. Simple and short.

Lolx hahahahahaha it's funny how people like to justify themselves when they are wrong. You are speaking from the place of being pained.

I addressed a general problem, you reacted by saying a assertive statement which is borderline bigotry that it runs in my bloodline, the question what runs in yours is inquisitive to know what runs in yours. If like the other person that spoke and has not said what he should say earlier. Simple "I agree with you but it's Yoruba people that stated it" instead you dished out what you were served hate, that will lead to more hate. Please desist from such

BOYS2MEN:
How I wish to send a slap is possible through these forum....u for collect packs of slaps....

I could give you my email address or current residential address which one would you prefer?

You come to a faceless forum, not knowing who you talk to and dish out insults. I clap for you, you truly wise

DMerciful:
Are you new here?

Being here for about if not over 10 years why do you ask

fman:
like I told you previously, and I will still repeat myself:
Tribalism runs in your bloodline!
Wetin Igbo people do una?

Well if you must know, maybe
1. Well I THINK the average Yoruba person has a biase towards Igbo, I don't know why probably marriage things or business prowess I don't know
2. Some people have bitter experiences with igbos, I hear a few but that them not me
3. Not all Yorubas hate igbos, some inter married, some in your assertions don't forget that
Finally, Well if it runs in my bloodline (amongst Yorubas) its not in my blood. There's no one or tribe I hate or detest, even the ones people have reservations for.

There is no tribe that has exclusive good characters cos it's not tribe dependant it's people dependant. There's are good and bad Yoruba, Igbo, hausa, there are good and bad "Muslims" or "Christians". It would be an error on my part (which is what you are tending towards) to assume everyone in one religion or tribe is bad cos I meet many bad ones.

IyaebeTheGreat:
That playmaker boy ignited something in me, even threatened me with so many vile things, so I just have to prove to him and his guys that created new Monika's on my case that I can fight and defend myself to the very end. Nairaland thought me how to defend myself and I'm glad I learned. Many people already disappointed in me, I know them all. I'll always come around.

Please don't justify your action as a means of defending yourself (by the way this is not an attack or a reaction). If you learnt a negative attitude here don't think it will end here you will carry it into every part of your life and believe people are out to attack you so you attack or defend yourself, a harmless statement can become a war cry to you on that. I learnt that I should not let someone's bad action make me act in a disgraceful manner I was raised better so even if you are keeping malice with me or forming for me I'll still greet you

IyaebeTheGreat:
Because they are toxic and arrogant in that comment justifies this post of mine, but you were silent when obidients were attacking me endlessly for nothing but preaching peace initially, you waited for my vengeance before responding and you biasedly did that

Sincerely for someone who started this thread for peace sake such words are contrary to what you preach, either you apologise or be quiet about it, your message has gone out. If someone is toxic can your becoming toxic make them non toxic, preach love and not hate, even when you are hated. Please just let it go, many might banter you, bear it you don't need to do an eye for an eye

mariahAngel:
You see that second part? There were many more like them on the front page.
You're reaping the fruits of the seeds of hate you sowed.



See below. 👇🏼

Hmmm, noted and sadly I can see why you responded the way you did. It's unfortunate that'll why I don't just post things and I'm not active on any other social platform except WhatsApp and nairaland. I sincerely apologise for this, but forgiveness is what our lord and master demand of us.

He is our practical example
1 Peter 2:21-23 KJV
For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps: [22] Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: [23] Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:
Matthew 5:44-45 KJV
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; [45] That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

incandescentena:
Pro this, Pro that .....bullsh!t.....op just trying to exonerate himsel

Lolx hahahahahaha exonerate myself from what? Will you come beat me in my house? Or there's a benefit that you give to me that I won't get?

I stand by what I believe, your opinion is inconsequential, I won't shift ground cos you are having a contrary opinion.

But for the sake of reasoning with you, prove everyman what manner or sort he is. Go and check my profile and see if there is ever any thread of bigotry or I'm forked tongued.

I can generally ASSUME that you are Igbo and a christian, I will speak to you based on the later cause I am unapologetically one, is Jesus proud of me as a Christian based on this. The Lord allowed contradictions of men and didn't revile back, that is what is expected sir/ma