Mike008: Oga from whatever purview you draw your analysis, it doesn't justify the extramarital relationship which evidently the wife had with another man. It is morally unjust, and in some parts of the country, a crime. When I said 'leave', it doesn't juxtapose merely walking out of the marriage. They were legally married, and so they needed to be legally separated, and so a "broken home" is not sufficient leaving to warrant adultery.
This issue needs no sugarcoating, it's an outright evil.
The point is that the man had his fair share of the blame. Was he blind that those kids didn't look like him or their mother? Reports had it that the affair was quite public. He decided to play the ostrich. I never absolved the woman of the blame but that man dug his own grave and there is a lesson there for us all.
How come the state government didn't distribute the palliatives since last year? This Makinde government is a scam but Oyo state people are yet to realize it.
dan761: . Are U a Learner ,Good looking and brilliant enough does not concern Women now ,Na who has the Biggest offer now ..
O ga o, it's still funny how most women reason. It wasn't as if her husband was poor, neither was she. These were people with good jobs. Greed is a serious thing then.
Yuceeluv: I don't hear about this MD's other children and wife/wives.
Or he had none before this affair?
I still wonder what that young woman saw in this one that looks like a fat dead frog. Her ex was good looking and brilliant enough. Maybe there's more than meets the eye about the whole story.
RisenPhoenix1: The simple concept that men raise outside kids by themselves while women force their husbands to raise outside kids just doesn't seem to penetrate female skulls. One is adultery, the other is adultery+fraud.
I am sure the ladies understand the difference between a man having kids outside, and a woman deceiving a man to raise bastards without his knowledge. They are just looking for cold comfort.
It can never teach you how to stop cheating when you're already being given tips on how to get every girl laid.
To be redpilled means to be aware of things- to be above average in smartness. It doesn't have to do with sleeping around or worshipping puccy or maltreating girls.
Shortyy: If you know you won't get revenge from a woman, don't bother hiding your bastard. Because her own revenge would be dangerous
You will only hurt yourself in the end. The world is full of men who don't bother hiding their bastards. But when a woman tries it, it's a different story.
SamJed: yes you read well but how does that send someone behind bars
If someone else molests that girl, especially if it's a family member like in most cases, they could turn it on you and make the little girl claim it was you under duress. Why would a pupil sit on a male teacher's lap? You should watch it.
Shortyy: There is no difference there Mr man! Just that the woman has no way of hiding hers, while the man does!
The bolded is the difference.
Another difference is that the man who has been deceived would have wasted his time, emotions and resources on another man's child. The deceived woman is spared such pain. So you see, there's a whole world of difference.
[quote author=spectator101 post=97700128][/quote]The married men should be more streetwise. I've seen many men drop their guard after marriage at their own detriment.
Mike008: This woman is a traitor. The ideal thing was to at least leave your husband first, before bearing kids for another man. The extent of this evil is simply intolerable. You were sleeping with your boss, as if that was not enough, You bore a child for him, as if that was not enough, You bore another child for him, as if that was not enough evil, You pretended the out-of-wedlock children were for your husband.
No man who has loved and sacrificed for any woman can survive this kind of betrayal. Its simply impossible for him to move on. There are too many complexities. The adultery part is survivable, but the kids part isn't.
Look at the bolded. I keep saying we have to be careful in heaping all the blame on the wife. No be dis life again?
Do you know whether the wife tried many times to leave the man and he kept holding on to her? A pastor neighbour of ours years ago kept tolerating an abusive relationship to the point of begging his wayward wife repeatedly not to leave all because he didn't want a broken home.
If you know what a lot of people you see forming Rambo and Cynthia Rostock tolerate behind closed doors, you would stop taking most of the comments here seriously. To me that man dug his own grave.
At the end of the day, all the people here baying for this woman's blood will see nothing happen to her.
That's the way life is. David impregnated Abner's wife, come kill Abner join. At the end of the day their son, Solomon went on to do well.
The main lesson here is that people, both men and women, should be careful with trusting others no matter how close or loving they appear. And people should listen to advice and warnings from elders. I am sure Mr. Thomas's people would have warned him about that girl and he just refused to listen. His own instincts must have kicked in at some point also with the man ignoring it. There must have been signs, many. For example, those kids do not resemble him or his wife at alllll.
He dug his own grave. The woman has since continued with her life. Right now, she is sleeping with other men, it's like a game to them now as you can see a few girls here saying things like "now the men are angry because it happened to one of them."
What does that tell you as a man? To them it's a game. Given a second chance, women would still do this kind of thing again. You as a man should watch and watch your own girlfriend/ wife closely instead of wasting your energy vilifying the woman on nairaland. Maybe something similar is already going on under your roof.
Godada: I get your point. When you compare other men in the list, FFK has no business been there. Obasanjo based on his antecedents should also feature there. We are talking about men like our forefathers who had several wives and ruled their houses with a iron Fist. Okonkwo of the fabled things fall apart is a sterling example. When you even compare FFK with Okonkwo or even Buhari or Adeboye or Oyedepo or Pete Edochie.....you realise that he can only be deemed as surplus and unnecessary. These are men of principles, not swayed easily by the beauty of a woman. If you create a list of playboys. Then he should make the list as number one.
Besides the true strength of these aforementioned men here lies in the fear and respect their womenfolk have in high esteem for their men. For FFK, his women do not respect him. Philandering isn't the watch word. It's control our forefathers have over their families, that's the buzzword here.
The name of FFK should be replaced with that of OBJ.
I still don't know why his women don't respect him. What can be behind that? There is the leaked video where he was almost begging his wife to let him have peace.
popizaino: The nice part of Accra is very small the rest is what rvp2018 of blessed e-memory described as slumpolis. In a minute you're seeing a very beautiful building next to it will be a shanty creating an unbalanced,unattractive haphazardly looking city.
Saddamochieng00: He's so desperate that he logs out and roams this thread 24/7 no wonder he knew about my project yet we never see him down there. Most of the time he also uses his aderr moniker to snoop on what we doing here. Very shameless fella.
So many mention!! This is desperate, Oga. Your head is messed big time. You turned oba to something else.
Shma2020: Stupid chimpanzee. Kibera has less than 700,000 slum dwellers. Don't peddle lies. Watch this video and I hope it will help enlighten your chimp brain.