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Mehnn, These people are beast-mode brutal.

Lincoln4u:
I left her for 2 years because my course is for 2yrs with lot of clinical placement unpaid , I just finished uni February this year and I waited still I get COS and I applied for her immediately
I submitted a lot like of pictures from pregnancy still the day I left Nigeria

I understand and I believe you....but I'm not the one that needs convincing..it's the entry clearance officer.... and sadly, some Nigerians have made things difficult for others...

You can also add a cover note to explain why you had to leave for the UK without urr kid and you now more than ready to be reunited..
. be original as u can.....u can even add that you are open to DNA test so they know she's urs......a mother shouldn't be hindered from her child because of some bunch of rules

One more advice...don't apply for administrative review...they will make u wait for forever to get a response....make a fresh application when u are ready ..

Lincoln4u:
You don’t know the level of the father involvement in her life, the child in question is 9 years old, she is able to know her right and left. I can boldly tell you she doesn’t recognize her father, that's because he doesn’t care and he has never bn involve in her life
I left Nigeria 2years ago he never went to her to visit her Knowles fully well I’m not around, so how is my move affect a relationship that wasn’t there

Oh...so u've not been around for a while.. ..ahhh !!!!! It will be hard proving the child is better leaving Nigeria with you since someone else has been caring for the kid all this time(a whole 2 years)....

This ur case get K-leg ooo...(Apologies justwise)

The ECO may likely be suspecting child trafficking ... Especially if u ddnt submit any proof enough proof the child is urs beyond a birth certificate and if the sole custody letter has a recent date.

...The success of this type of visa rest largely on making the eco feel 1)the child is urs, (2)the child is better with you in the UK, (3) the place she has been living or the conditions while u were away is no longer convenient.....

Someone with a case similar to yours two years back was able to get the visa approved on medical grounds.... but that was because the child is sickle cell and was able to argue the child is better off in the UK, and that the semi illiterate grand mother who has been caring for the child was not best suited for care in the long run...he added so many supporting documents including the evidence of repeated hospitalization of the kid...

I don't know how u want to argue yours...it's hard .....but not impossible.... Good luck

Lincoln4u:
I’ve seen cases where child visa was refused just because fathers letter was obtained after they submitted sole responsibility

That's what I was trying to tell jústwise..the ECo has deceptively created a catch 22 out of that visa application......claimed sole custody is not enough, and asked for consent letter, which is also grounds for refusal when sole custody is in place..

justwise:
As harsh as the refusal might sound but ECO was really digging in for the child’s welfare , the refusal is well detailed and the more you read it the more you understand more.

I read it.....and I still.maintain the eco was desperate for a refusal because a sole custody document was already enough for the mother to fly without the father consent....this is the standard.....

So bringing up sole responsibility grammar to nullify sole custody judgement of a court that already assessed the welfare of the child is dubious

lexy2014:
that is not what I asked you.

if you say that "they met in person and 9days later got married", what were they doing before they met in person?

is it not stated here?

U keep emphasizing what they did in their short courtship...does it change the fact that they met and married in 9days??

lexy2014:
how is it possible that you dont know when you said that



if you say that "they met in person and 9days later got married", what were they doing before they met in person?

is it not stated here?

.the fact is they ddnt date for long...what they did doesn't matter .... they met and married 9 days later

lexy2014:
it is a simple straightforward question.

from the quote below, what were they doing before they met in person?

I don't know....

What I know....they met in person and 9days later got married

lexy2014:
that is not what I asked you.

I thought you said you did not miss anything?

from the quote below, what were they doing before they met in person?

U have not said what u are driving at...

Did I lie?? Did they not meet for the first time and marry after 9days..

I not get these ur interview question ooo

lexy2014:
before he met her in person, what were they doing?



1 more character needed

I don’t know what u are driving at ... they met online in 2021 met in person in 2021 and married 9days later

lexy2014:
good. so if you did not miss anything, what does the following mean?

It means he met her in person and married her 9 days later ... baba it’s not that deep

lexy2014:
did you miss this part of the story?

Not enough original content
Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.
This will make the forum more interesting for everyone.

I ddnt miss anything....did he not meet her in person and married her 9 days later.... ??

MartinCorridon:
Would he have married an African woman at that age with those stats if benefits e.g. money / green card weren't involved?

Gold digging goes both ways. Let's not mince words.

Gold digging?? Is the grandma rich ?? Y'all should use gold digging in the proper context..

This one is abroad or visa digging....

justwise:
Why did you not get letter of consent from the father of the child to support the visa application?

The entry clearance officer was just desperate to refuse the visa...I mean, when did they start using sole responsibility to downplay sole custody judgement ...and further claimed no court can give such judgement ...

Anijay1212:
The guyman sharp wella. Sees opportunity,grabs it with both hands and says bye bye to poverty.
But hey! What would Chioma bring to the table if not billing, more billings and life sapping billings.
🚶🚶🚶🚶🚶

Baba...u na confirmed OG naaa.....
U don sabi Chioma for upper iweka tay tay!!


Wedding with chioma cannot even happen in. 9 days cos family go still use like 1year to arrange list of bride price to exploit the groom..

When they met in Nigeria in 2021, it only took one day for Bright to propose, and nine days later, they were married..

Mr Bright Mr bright,Mr Bright..welldone.... If na Chioma from upper iweka onitcha, you will use 2 years to date her, 2 years to know her family, 1.5 years extra to decide to propose.

But hey! It's all good...twin babies came out of the whole hustle ......

Careful with cough syrups for kids ooo

Only U ..married and unmarried women in the same office......U go dey alright ....but all the same

tutudesz:
Honestly Tinubu is a brave man for removing it immediately, I wish he will take suçh decisions on security and corruption too regardless of political opinions.

There is nothing brave about robbing your citizens of their common wealth when you are not feeling the same pressure they are feeling...driving around 5billion Escalade and 70milion dollar jet, .. giving the money saved to executives, law makers and judiciary to embezzle....

Y'all should stop sugarcoating wick£dness with brave and bold grammar.... That's the same lies y'all painted about buhari until he left then u started confessing .

Wyrax:
Good morning, Nairalanders.

So, I am extremely unhappy, sad, pained, etc. If you check my previous posts, there is this one girl that has been breaking my heart consistently for years with consistent rejections. We had been friends. When I asked her out, she declined, saying she couldn't date me. A year later, she called me, saying she missed me... Then, we got talking again. I asked her for a relationship again, and she declined again. I had a fight with her, and we didn't even talk for over a year, until I just apologized to her for my behaviors. That was 2023. Early this year, she called me, saying that though I had asked her out several times and she had declined, she loved me and would like to be in a relationship with me. I thought about it and gave it a chance. Unfortunately, I got too attached again.
She started a crisis talk. I observed she was testing me for a particular week.

What caused our breakup was the fact that she asked for data, which I didn't have enough money for. She then started saying it's not like she asks for much from me, that ordinary data I couldn't buy. I told her I really didn't have it. She dragged it to the point where she said, "We are still early, and we can break up if I don't care about her." I told her we should end it. I said this because she's been selfish. I actually didn't have the money for the data. She even started saying I should take from my savings if I truly love her. She pushed it to the extent that I had to tell her she does things I can't cope with, and also I am not ready for a relationship.

Now, we've broken up. I've been thinking I've made a mistake. I've begged her, but she's just resisting my plea. I love this girl so much. For more than 5 years now, we've been doing this on and off, and she's been consistently on my mind. How can I completely get over her?

U don't need that girl in your life....she's your kryptonite....and obviously doesn't even dig you that much

ZaraArewa:
It's more of religion to me

Wait....so if the p£nis is sweeting you and you you let out ur ring tone..ur husband will go and report you to shariah police for haram or he will deal with you himself?? I'm Trying to get how m0aning works as an offence in Islam

Tightpussy2024:
Using him for what?

It's simple. You go for who have what you want .he wanted youthfulness and a young lady.she wants a man with money.

You guys will start frowning and complaining of her motives

Using him for money.....it's obvious.. but u are pretending not to see

ZaraArewa:
In the north where i grew up, it's a taboo for a lady/woman to moan while being pleasured by her partner. They see it as haram, saying women are not supposed to show how excited they are.

You women from the south really don't know what Allah has done for you. Thinking of relocating to the south. Because I wish to express myself while being pleasured.

Is this a religious thing or cultural matter??

InvertedHammer:
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Don't judge her without knowing the history of the ancestor she married. Perhaps, she is the saint in the relationship. Will you feel better if it happens that odogwu used his first wife for rituals? It could be a case of a trap that caught a hunter.

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Oga...what are u saying?? R!tual?? Judg£??

As in....what are u saying ??

Tightpussy2024:
Who is using who? A 70 year old targeting a young lady. Why didn't he go for his age mates.

Your love for younger women is justified.its your choice.but it comes with a price. That it's your money they want.

Ned knows his wives are there for money.

Or marry your age range that has money like you

Using her for??