deluxecad:




Ephesians 5:22-33 (King James Version)

22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.





Very clear instructions, Christ served the church, he showed the church he was worthy to be worshiped. Do u think the church just gave Christ the respect they gave him without his works?? Even with the plenty miracles some still had doubt about him. I say this to say that anyman who fails to love his wife as Christ did will lose his respect. Any man who cheats on his wife deserves no respect from his wife. Cuz Christ did not share his body with the church and the world. When you show a woman love she will worship you automatically without you even asking. Let's be sincere women knot rebel when their husbands start cheating, or neglecting their roles



These are simple. Just follow!

kelvinclint:
.Girls need to be taught to see beyond marriage.
.
An average Nigerian girl, or say African girls in a broader scope wants to grow up, finish school and just get married. Nothing limits a woman as much as this. A man plans his life thus-
.
"grow up, MAKE MONEY,
raise a family".
.
A girl plans hers like-
.
"grow up, finish school, get
married".
.
Girls are not taught to dream
independently, they think
their final destination is in a
man's home. The "better
tomorrow" they are taught to
dream of is a tomorrow
inside their husband's home.
No! It's wrong. You need to
first carve a life for yourself
before you put yourself in
the control of a man.
.
Girls are taught To dream to
be Queens. Meaning they are
taught that no matter how
high they fly they still have
to be under a man, her
king.... When they could
actually be Kings themselves.
.
You might say getting
married doesn't stop you
from winning, but that's false.
Marriage creates a lot of
limitation for women...
Socially, economically, even
psychologically. Women are
home makers. A woman's
primary concern is building a
home. When you finish school
and you get married almost
immediately, childbirth,
domestic duties, etc will limit
your hustle. You are gonna
live your life in the shadow
of your husband. You are
gonna be just another
puppet in the hands of your
husband.
.
Some women even become
housewives, like you live all
your life under the sole
control of a man? From being
under your dad straight to
being under a man.... How do
you live with that?
.
Women need to be taught to
dream. They need to be
taught they are also an
independent being, and they
also need to carve out a life
for themselves.
.
African parents need to stop
putting pressure on their
female children to get
married immediately after
school. Teach them to strive
like they are the ones going
to raise a family on their
own. Boys are brought up to
strive, to create a Kingdom,
why can't women be taught to
be same?
.
Women and men will never
ever be equal if women are
trained to see their ultimate
end in the comfort of
marriage. Take your time,
how can you be just 23 and
you are already feeling ripe
to marry? What have you
achieved? Will you die if you
don't get married quickly?
.
Girls need to focus more on
personal development after
school. Life starts after
school... Try to make a living
for yourself. Girls need to
stop being pressured to
marry too quickly! They are
not men's properties!
.
Y'all need a new mindset
Africans.

postmann:


Hey nancyboy, why ovulating on my thread like a woman in need of sexual attention? Other guys saw the thread, and they reacted without betraying their sanity.
Your lack of spontaneity and creativity leaves you right at the bottom of the male hierarchical order. You can't summon up your wits and argue your case with facts or give me a worthy diss. It is yet another betrayal of your inferior mental power. You keep my thread alive because you're one wussbag with a leaking emotion who forgot to bring a pad along to dry up his emotional leakages. Little wonder your reaction is akin to that of most of the women who posted on the thread.

You must not agree with me, nancyboy; but you must show a sense of class when you disagree by being civil.

Now, I'll have to troll you for months because you're just another biologically compromised, epicene fellow with gender identity misidentification.

postmann:


You need a testosterone and chromosome checkup. I believe the Y in your chromosome is either broken or is in a diminutive letter.

postmann:


NAIRALAND is actually the biggest online "seminar" on the continent. You need an awareness CPR.

You can continue with the delusionary, stale "pettiness" chorus. Even your soul knows how tuneless it sounds.

postmann:


Obviously, the thread is talking about honesty and not women without dents. It is paramount you demonstrate comprehension abilities when reacting to a written submission.



@The boldened: Then you know first hand what to expect and what you're getting into. An individual's sexual past and preference tell a lot about who the individual is.

I ended my submission with a last paragraph saying men usually don't find it difficult revealing their sexual past. So you should have been a real man by curtailing your ovulating emotions and spare me the repetition.





Your moral elasticity has been crumbled by the sheer weight of the permissiveness of the 21st century. You're like an unguarded port terminal where no contraband is prohibited since you indirectly call promiscuity pettiness.

My teeth have better delicacy to engage themselves in than take a nibble at your morbid flesh.

postmann:



What do you call pettiness?? The willingness of people to engage in random, multiple sex with different partners they never ended up in marriage with, and keep it a secret from their bonded and covenanted partners?

You're the sign of the age! The permissiveness of the age is a mighty flood, and you've been washed off shore!

sexysegggs:

It's not about inheriting his property. It is about the amount he sold those houses. And still owe those people. As I am typing this I now own my house.


I'm only thinking of another dimension.

perkyendy:
This has been a little amusing to me for some time now, I have seen some guys and ladies using their right hand for their wedding band (Ring) instead of the left hand, please I will like you to tell me if you know the reason please, because I see those people as unserious couples who are not truthful to them selves.

SO, WHY DO MANY COUPLES WEAR THEIR WEDDING RING ON THEIR RIGHT HAND INSTEAD OF LEFT?

shaybebaby:
Two aspects to consider in this sorry mess.
1) your personal happiness
2) the happiness and wellbeing of your child. I'll start with your child first, keep it separate so she doesn't caught up in the brouhaha with the Mrs.

Is your errant wife a good mother? The reason why I ask is that she could be a bad wife but a good parent. It appears that the nature of your job is one that demands working away for extended periods of time so daily care of your child by you may prove difficult.

If you have no issues with her care of your child, then she continues to be the primary care giver and you support your child (maintenance) for her upkeep. The reason? Stability for your child.

2) what to do with your serial cheat of your wife.
It is apparent that she is not committed to the union and as such, you must both be free to pursue future happiness individually. The relationship has run its course, set her free. You cannot hold on to someone who is not invested in your happiness. Let her go, your leave the certainty of an unhappy marriage for the uncertainty of the future but one with the possibility of meeting someone else who is more deserving of your love.

There needs to be no rancour here, relationships end, it will hurt for a while but life moves on.

In the longer term, seek opportunities where you can be physically more present in your child's life. Be on the look out for career moves that can aid that, if possible, arrange breaks from work to coincide with school breaks. Avail yourself of modern technology, Skype, video calls etc as these will help sustain your relationship with your child when you cannot be physically present.

Most of all, goodluck and remember whilst divorce is not great for kids, it is better for them to have two parents happy apart than two who are together and warring. How you handle this will shape your child's views on relationships in the future. Set a good enough example even if it's not an ideal one.

Cockyzy:
@poster: before you buy a horse,you must know how horses function. It seem you been lied to by society and everybody. The fact a creature is clothed in human skin dont make it human(men are the only Human). Those creature called women by Adam(which i disagree) are promiscuous by instinct and nature. There is no good woman,no not one. Marriage is a curse and dishonour put on men by nature. Enjoy the slavery.

MsJackson:
I've been praying and will continue to pray. We did court, but like I said, they were all pretending. never knw until recently. the sisters are all married with kids, they're older to him. It's sooo bad that when I had a miscarriage last year, my hubby told them. not a single word of comfort from them. only my parents in-law love me. but these sisters keep poisoning their minds. I belong to one conception group on fbk, a woman posted that she had a miscarriage, I only comforted her, I never made reference to myself. that same evening, my father inlaw called my hubby to ask him if I posted on fbk for the whole world to see that I had a miscarriage. my hubby defended me because, thank God, I showed him the fbk post before I uploaded it. then my father inlaw admitted that it was one of his daughters Who called him to report me. my father inlaw is not on fbk. Imagine another scenario. Where I was working with my eldest sister in-law, she was always reporting to her hubby abt my activities. I can never talk to a man or wear the trousers my own hubby bought for me to go to work with. All the sisters and parents inlaw will hear. she even told my hubby that men were always dragging me into the toilet at work. WHICH MAN WILL HEAR SUCH? I was paralysed with shock. Why will I be close to such people? simple I LOVE U from my hubby to me gets them angry. they never showed all these traits to me before marriage. Maybe it's because no child. AM I GOD? had I know... #sobs#

FTBOY:
what's there to comprehend? that people living outside africa don't give a flying fvck about marriage and family......and to you it's normal?

FTBOY:
you tried to make sense but ended up sounding foolish..