₦airaland Forum

This Reno looks malnourished even with all the loot he savored from our common wealth when he was in the corridor of power.

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

Your husband is the lazy type. He can't change. You should resort to other means to take care of yourself and your children but don't go selling your body.
You should consider a temporary separation from your husband, go stay with any family member that can accommodate you and your children pending when the lazy drone awakes from his slumber.

But didn't you see the tell tale signs that your man is the lazy type before tieing the knot with him? A lazy man who can't fend for his family is worse than an infidel.

With the subsidy removal, pegging minimum wage at 200k is feasible. Tinubu and his partners in crime have got no excuse not to bulge in this regard.

sapele914:
You only seem to imply about the Federal Government, what of the States & Local Governments, that is the problem with you Nigerians, still living in colonial & military mentality, everything is Federal Government, Yet it is the 3 tiers of government that share money every month?

Federal government is the centre, isn't that right? Are the states and LGs autonomous to fund themselves?

From where does their
allocations come from? The rot at the centre pervades across board. See why i made FG my focal point?

nairalanda1:
Nigeria is spending 96% of our income on servicing debts.

Debts that we have had to take because we are.not earning enough cash.

Nigeria is not and has never been a rich nation.

Otherwise Buhari would be a good leader.

Just so you know, Nigeria is not the only country in the globe servicing external debts. Matter of fact, Nigeria's debt profile is not even one of the highest in the world. Do your findings and the long list of countries who rank way higher than Nigeria on global debt chart but yet are doing way better than Nigeria in all growth indices.

See eh, your debt argument does not hold water because Nigeria did not borrow to pay for petrol subsidy but rather borrowed to invest in public infrastructure, jobs creation, among other key economic areas ; at least that's what the bloody lieing government told us but the impact of these borrowed monies are not significantly felt by the people (Nigerians) who own the economy just because of gross misappropriation and graft practices here and there.

Bro in such I don't have to convince you, you are a Nigerian and has being living in Nigeria your whole life so you know what's up except I am wrong.

nairalanda1:
So, we follow your suggestion and keep the subsidy.

Yes, we would get cheap fuel. But know this, we are borrowing to pay for the same subsidy,plus this year we have spent 7.5 trillion naira already, then government owes NNPC 2.3 trillion naira in subsidy claims, plus we have to keep paying at least 1.2 trillion a month...which may rise if oil prices rise.

At some point, we would run out of money, and if you think it is bad now, imagine when we run out of money to pay things like salaries, government projects, even new refineries self. Because we have to feed the subsidy monster.

(Unless we are ready to get every Nigerian, including the very poor, to pay more in taxes to fund the subsidy).

We got to choose our poision. And for now, subsidy removal is the lesser of the two poisions...and there is a chance it may work somewhat.

Nigeria can never run ou of money. Whoever convinced you that subsidy payment will get this country broke did succeed,selling falsehood to you.

Subsidy removal is not the only major way of cutting down on budgetary wastes.

Let the downsizing start with austerity measure on jumbo salaries earned by political office holders

kingthreat:
Ok let subsidy continue and we get indebted with another trillion of Naira while the fuel marketers who are %0.000005 of the population keep getting richer.

Again you miss the point.

While subsidy removal portends positive implications for our nation, there are things that should have being considered first.

The most weighty factor that should have being considered is putting measures in place to cushion the ripple effect of the subsidy removal on the part of struggling common Nigerians like you and I, of which we constitute the majority in the country.
Those (minority) who belong to the political elite and wealthy elite won't feel the pang of this subsidy removal at all.

Today I have to pay more for less with respect to PMS purchase.

GambaOsaka:
Lol
😂
What is new about what’s happening?
It is expected that people will protest.

Subsidy removal is the best thing that will happen to Nigeria. We know it would be difficult at first, but it will yield fruits eventually.

Patapata, the government will negotiate with Labour and increase minimum wage.

SUBSIDY MUST GO NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Baby talk.

kingthreat:
You all are the ones making things difficult.
Instead of you all to insist on palliatives for subsidy, you want this stupid fraud to continue.

Are you following the developments in Nigeria from another planet? You think palliative measures will hastily be put in place when the new numbskull administration goofed by putting the cart in front of the horse?
Palliatives should have come before the subsidy removal and not the other way round. Got it?

Nvestor02:
Just a week in office Tinubu is making big move. He has met with his enemies and friends just to make sure that Nigeria is great.

[b]He consult people before taking decision. That's shows how democrat he is.

I always know that Tinubu has a lot of to offer and now my hope in him has grown stronger

On Subsidy, No matter what the haters said or do. tinubu will not back down on the decision that will help Nigeria

Nobody needs your explanation, you are just one of many brainwashed Tinubu's stooges. All that matters to you is how you will benefit from this administration even if things are not done right.

Shigishege2:
after your whole region failed woefully you guys now think you are hidding behind NLC. It's still effort in futility

I can bet my brave heart that you are a dependent to someone because if you are truly independent and fend for yourself and have mouths to feed you would not bring in ethnic emotion on this sensitive nationwide crisis.

VeryStingyMan:


I think it's time for this country to prioritize union busting and breaking up trade associations. We can't say we've truly liberalised the market if unions and associations take up the former roles of government and hold the country to ransom.

Also, there's a reason there are no unions in free market economies - they exist to only serve to stagnate the economy.

Senseless post.

NastiLord:
My papa wey beat me, tear my music books that year say make i focus on school wey him dey pay school fees.

I wonder where i for dey now if i had support.

LOL. Funny nigga. Thank your papa, las las.

See why I don't go to church. Everything is superficiall. Today's church has lost touch with genuine divine spirituality.

Birds of a feather.

The boys made a whole nation proud. Up Tinubu.

Jungle justice no good. Criminals are humans not wild animals.

This will be short lived. This I have seen.

This will be short lived. This I have seen.

lhordspy:
Lol. Bro conventional war stopped the day US nuked Hiroshima and Nagasaki. The only thing stopping Russia from Nuking Ukraine is not even US or NATO but they still care about their image in the world. They still want to be in the good book.

But immediately NATO gets involve. The petty war will stop. The nuke game will start.

I beg to differ, Russia as with other nuclear powers has restraint on the use of their nuclear capabilities because they know it won't end well for both the aggressor and defender.
At the time US nuked Japan, nuclear weapon technology was only novel and US at the time was the only country with such capability and as such there was no rules to play by. Today there are restraining rules of engagement by the IAEA and other regulating bodies.
The use of nuke outside these rules is tantamount to war crime and is attracts grave sanctions.
Russia can as well be playing psychological warfare with her perceived enemies.

lhordspy:
Russia is throwing a subtle message at US and NATO. The message is straight and plain.
"You want war, we give you war' ...

Since NATO is trying to encircle Russia, I think it is also wise for Russia to start arming its allies with Nuclear weapons also. The repercussion of this move is that Russia is starting to position its weapon at strategic places too, so that when the nukes start going off, countries like Poland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania which borders Russia; NATO countries who are neighbours of Russia, which the US is using as frontal to wade war against Russia, will be the first to collect.

It is even refreshing and surprising to see Un!ted State, during its reaction to the deployment, referencing the Cuban missile crisis as a period unworthy of repetition. Even using it to preach to Russia. The same Cuban missile crisis started by US after it threatened to nuke Cuba just because of Russia's military base in the Cuba-country near US. Yet US want Russia to accept same thing in Ukraine.

War strategy is a like chess game. Give it to Putin. He is a master of the game.

Bro I pro Russia but in my opinion I don't think Russia can trump NATO and US combined in an all out conventional war. On the other hand Russia has a perceived advantage in a nuclear confrontation.

Chidolalar:
Mine is NOT an opinion but with facts with logical reasoning.
But yours which happens to be d usual shits and nonsensical religious belief is just an imaginary, unreasonable and irrational way of Thinking and talking
And keep your baseless, illogical and unfounded religious beliefs to your fucking self

You win. Now let me be.

Chidolalar:
It is you religious fanatics that always blab and talk illogical and completely unreasonable.
If humans can't question God then God should have existed alone and all to himself bcuz God created humans without their consent and humans didn't tell or ask God to create Dem.
I highly doubts d credibility of God. That is my take here

Keep your skewed opinion to yourself Mr.

Chidolalar:
It is not in your place to question God over mishaps involving humans but it is in your place to give God d glory wen good things happen to pple?
Since u can't question God over mishaps dat happens to pple den u don't have any right to give God d praise or glory wen good tins happens to pple.
U now c why religious belief will make u become blind to reality and completely make u become illogical and unreasonable?

You are just blabbing. What's your fucking point now, God does not exist?

Chidolalar:
And why haven't dat same God saved or rescued millions of pple both past and present in nasty ordeal?
C how religious belief has made u become irrational and illogical

It is not my place to question God over mishaps involving humans.

Taking it easy on my parents, I should had demanded alot more from them thereby making them go the extra mile for me. I want my kids to be aggressively pushful and ambitious.

Workch:
keep this opinion to yourself dude.

You seem uncomfortable with my truth. Relax.

DrAda:
You are right to a large extent but i disagree with the statement that "... glory should not go to men".

If we are truly made in his image, then why shouldn't men be celebrated as well? It's terribly frustrating when one battles to save a life only to learn that 'all glory went to the church aka the family' s pastor'.

It can be demoralising

When God uses a human vessel to bless me, I do well to thank the vessel and appreciate the fact that the vessel was a useful tool in the hands of God. What I will never do is to praise the man.
The praise goes to God. Why do you think people hold Thanksgivings to God after surviving a ghastly auto crash or after surviving a near death experience?
You can't downplay the "God effect" on the affairs of men. We are all tools in his hands.

Workch:
religion has finished you

I am not religious, I don't even go church but I am a witness to the existence of God and his impact on the affairs of men.

Workch:
spare me those things. I have heard enough of it.

You are very stubborn. Your head go cool someday. Congratulations though.

DSS is always unveiling vague criminal schemes, they don't get to give a clear and detailed information about their findings. Speculation at best with zero thorough investigation.

Workch:
lol, no be everything be God. God people

I pity you. I pray you do not come to an odeal that will compel you to accept that "God effect" rules the affairs of men.